Do any of you man boobed dudes or ladies intend to be (or are) Stay-at-home-parents??

[Odin's Lapdog]

I just wandered what percentage of this generation intend to give up full employment to become full time parents.

I just find it strange like people like my mother back in the day with a bachelor and master degree ended up packing it all in to become a full time mother.

although times were slightly different back then, i'm wondering if men and women alike nowadays would be willing to do the same?

any full time parents on the hype? if so, how is it like, is it as rewarding as people think it is and at what age of your kids (if ever) would you consider gong back to full time employment.

personally i'm not family orientated at this moment so i can't see myself giving up a career.

saying this, i'm not sure i could see myself being with a partner who was 100% devoted to being a housewife, it just doesn't sit right, something about it makes me feel as though a piece of their lives are being sacrificed in order to raise the children and this could manifester as resentment towards them later in life and what child really needs that on their shoulders.

:o

thoughts are welcome even from non-milk producing boobyless men.

[Erzengel]

If my girlfriend becomes a certain type of nurse and is making a lot of money I have no problems staying home and watching the kids.

Just buy me some exercise equipment so I can stay at home.

[Odin's Lapdog]

1. you're born on the same day as Jay Z

2. Would you consider it if she didn't make the given position or would that not be applicable financially

3. you=under ze thumb :(

j/k

[Darthphere]

If I could i would. :(

[Spider-Face]

i was born on the same day and year as tila tequila and the big bopper was also born on the same date but earlier.

[Erzengel]

Well if we both needed to work to make a comfortable living than we'd have to alternate. She'd work nights and I'd work during the day.

But I am not one of those guys that needs to be the bread winner.

[Odin's Lapdog]

But I am not one of those guys that needs to be the bread winner.did she tell you to say that?

:p

i kid but still, you would have to keep your mind limber some how, how would you cope?

[Odin's Lapdog]

If I could i would. :(
what's stopping you then when the time comes?


also another question...

if finances were not an issue, would having two full time parents be anymore beneficial than just the one?

[Erzengel]

Guess watching stories and Maury on tv.

Video games and the computer.

The only thing that would bother me is the fact of gift giving during birthdays, anniversaries and christmas.

[Darthphere]

what's stopping you then when the time comes?


also another question...

if finances were not an issue, would having two full time parents be anymore beneficial than just the one?


Well im working on a law degree, lets just say, im not going to spend all that money on purpose.

[Calvin]

I'm actually banking on the idea of letting my wife pursue a career while I mooch.

[Danalys]

the title makes me think of man boobed ladies.

[Odin's Lapdog]

the title makes me think of man boobed ladies.
some men actually do have larger bust sizes than some females, it's quite worrying when you end up as that kinda couple...

[Odin's Lapdog]

I'm actually banking on the idea of letting my wife pursue a career while I mooch.
that's the thing, for some reason, being a stay at home dad is kinda considered taking it easy and relaxing, i'm sure most housewives wouldn't paint such a pretty picture of it.

[Calvin]

that's the thing, for some reason, being a stay at home dad is kinda considered taking it easy and relaxing, i'm sure most housewives wouldn't paint such a pretty picture of it.
Yeah, but the thing that stresses me about work is pressure, you have to perform, etc. You don't really have the same kind of pressure, even if it might be as much actual work, with your kids. Especially not if you raise them in a relaxed environment.

[Ahura Mazda]

Well considering the girls I date the chances of me staying home are close to nil whereas for her, it would be her choice.

[Immortalfire]

What do man-boobs have to do with stay at home parents :confused:

[Odin's Lapdog]

although there's the whole housekeeping aspect.

work stress and home stress are very different but perhaps until experience, weighing one up as being less stressful than another may not be the best method.

also as for the relaxed environment, that really doesn't come into account until you can start reasoning as an adult with your children which again occurs at different ages for you kids but say you get landed with a couple of toddlers in one swoop, then initially for the first few years, you're going to be fairly bummed out trying to fit in all your daily chores and so forth.

don't you think so?

[Odin's Lapdog]

What do man-boobs have to do with stay at home parents :confused:
man boobs, breast milk, go with the flow...

[Calvin]

although there's the whole housekeeping aspect.
Well see, that's what the kids are for. By relaxed environment, I meant relaxed for me.

[Odin's Lapdog]

Well considering the girls I date the chances of me staying home are close to nil whereas for her, it would be her choice.
how come, are they attracted to the lifestyle you lead?

if the choice was yours to stay at home for the duration of let's say, one of your children's childhood years (first four years of life), would you?

[Odin's Lapdog]

Well see, that's what the kids are for. By relaxed environment, I meant relaxed for me.
toddlers aren't going to hoover on your behalf:p

isn't it impossible to be relaxed around toddlers?

you're skipping all the messy parts of parenting and going straight to the good easy part :mad::p

[Daisy]

IF I end up having kids...

I'd stay at home the first two or three years, then either work or get involved with volunteer projects on a part-time basis. I would do that because I think it's important for kids to learn to socialize with other kids and be comfortable around other people at an early age... whether it's day-care, a babysitter or some sort of pre-school.

[Odin's Lapdog]

is that the first three years full stop, or the first three years of each child's life which could cumatively mean something like seven years or so?

[Daisy]

Two to three years for each child... which would be 4-9 years total ( 2-3 kids). That's provided I don't get lucky and have twins the first go-round... that would be ideal! One pregancy - no only child! :D I'd stop at 2 kids then.

[Odin's Lapdog]

only children rule, look at batman, spidey and superman...

only children are superheroes in the making


actually, now that i think about it, lots of heroes seem to be only children, interesting....

[Ahura Mazda]

how come, are they attracted to the lifestyle you lead?

if the choice was yours to stay at home for the duration of let's say, one of your children's childhood years (first four years of life), would you?



Well I would say that my lifestyle has to be an aspect they take into consideration. in any case, the way I was brought up I generallly end up paying for every meal so I guess that in itself leads me to believe that it would be unlikely that I would find it acceptable for myself while my wife worked.

With regard my child, I would get a nanny first of all if I could afford it unless the mother objected. Whether I would stay home is doubtful for me but who knows. I could envisage not working as my career motivations are mostly financial.

[AndThePickles]

I'm not having kids, but if I was I would never want to be a stay at home mother. I would feel like I had wasted all of my years of schooling.

I also wouldn't feel like I was doing my share financially. Yeah, I understand that children are a big responsibility, but I would not want to just drop my career and become dependent on my husband for the rest of my life.

My roommate's goal in life is to become a housewife after her future husband becomes a doctor. I just don't understand.

[Odin's Lapdog]

pickles, what about if you and your partner took turns in raising your children if you fell pregnant more than one, that way each could do their share without feeling like they are being a burden on the other....


as for being a housewife professionally, my mother believes it makes the kids more rounded, personally i think she's just brought up four of the strangest humans alive but to each their own :o

[AndThePickles]

pickles, what about if you and your partner took turns in raising your children if you fell pregnant more than one, that way each could do their share without feeling like they are being a burden on the other....


as for being a housewife professionally, my mother believes it makes the kids more rounded, personally i think she's just brought up four of the strangest humans alive but to each their own :o

That'd be a much better option.

[DBella]

I would LOVE to be a stay-at-home Mom! I'd rather raise my own children than have a stranger do it. I don't have to give up working totally as I can still work from home.

[Odin's Lapdog]

what about taking the full breadwinning responsibility, you wouldn't feel like you were missing out on anything?

[redmarvel]

If I or my husband could afford to give up the salary of either one of us, one of us would stay at home... unfortunatly our bills are such that this is not an option.

(I can't believe what the dry cleaners charge to get my super-hero suits cleaned.)

[Daisy]

only children rule, look at batman, spidey and superman...

only children are superheroes in the making


actually, now that i think about it, lots of heroes seem to be only children, interesting....

First - that's 'fiction'. :p Most, not all, but most only children I know are kinda... um, how do I put this nicely... 'different'. :o

Second - they tend to be only children because they're orphaned - NOT something I want happening... see why only children are bad for parents? :D

Third - as if I'd want an Emo kid like Batman? :rolleyes: :D

[Erzengel]

But he'd be really smart and apply himself.

So what if he had a contingency plan to take you down if you ever turned evil?

[Odin's Lapdog]

If I or my husband could afford to give up the salary of either one of us, one of us would stay at home... unfortunatly our bills are such that this is not an option.

(I can't believe what the dry cleaners charge to get my super-hero suits cleaned.)
satan used to work for dry cleaners but he quit due to moral issues with the managment.

[Odin's Lapdog]

But he'd be really smart and apply himself.

So what if he had a contingency plan to take you down if you ever turned evil?
only if daisy was first of all a goner....

[DBella]

what about taking the full breadwinning responsibility, you wouldn't feel like you were missing out on anything?
I can have two full-time jobs at home. Taking care of my children and doing a job where I'll get paid. There are quite a few of those. Or I can be a full-time tutor at home. I'd rather miss out on a 9-5 job than missing out on watching my children grow and the activities they'll be involved in. I can always go back to a full-time job outside of the home when they're old enough, like maybe 10.

[Odin's Lapdog]

First - that's 'fiction'. :p Most, not all, but most only children I know are kinda... um, how do I put this nicely... 'different'. :o

Second - they tend to be only children because they're orphaned - NOT something I want happening... see why only children are bad for parents? :D

Third - as if I'd want an Emo kid like Batman? :rolleyes: :D
only children are crazy money grabbing mofos, especially if their parents are divorced, complete psychos.....

to be fair and this sounds sucky but if i unfortunately had a child, i would die in a second if it helped them learn values and become a better person who devotes their lives to helping others. I mean what else does a parent wish for their kids :o:o

[Odin's Lapdog]

I can have two full-time jobs at home. Taking care of my children and doing a job where I'll get paid. There are quite a few of those. Or I can be a full-time tutor at home. I'd rather miss out on a 9-5 job than missing out on watching my children grow and the activities they'll be involved in. I can always go back to a full-time job outside of the home when they're old enough, like maybe 10.
sorry but the question really was for pickles, sorry for the confusion but i'm too lazy to put quotes up all the time :o:o

thanks for the info anywho.

[DBella]

sorry but the question really was for pickles, sorry for the confusion but i'm too lazy to put quotes up all the time :o:o

thanks for the info anywho.
I thought that was a general question. :o

[Erzengel]

sorry but the question really was for pickles, sorry for the confusion but i'm too lazy to put quotes up all the time :o:o

thanks for the info anywho.

It's an extra click. :confused:

[Odin's Lapdog]

je sais mon ami, je sais....

[Ahura Mazda]

Alors fais le

[Daisy]

only children are crazy money grabbing mofos, especially if their parents are divorced, complete psychos.....

to be fair and this sounds sucky but if i unfortunately had a child, i would die in a second if it helped them learn values and become a better person who devotes their lives to helping others. I mean what else does a parent wish for their kids :o:o
Well, I like to think I would able to teach my children values and help them become a good people who recognize the value in helping others without dying.

I mean, my parents managed it with me, and to be honest, I'd never have nominated either of them for a 'parent-of-the-year' award.

[Ahura Mazda]

I can have two full-time jobs at home. Taking care of my children and doing a job where I'll get paid. There are quite a few of those. Or I can be a full-time tutor at home. I'd rather miss out on a 9-5 job than missing out on watching my children grow and the activities they'll be involved in. I can always go back to a full-time job outside of the home when they're old enough, like maybe 10.


Well you deserve a guy who at least makes it so it is your choice whether you even need to work or not.

[Odin's Lapdog]

your parents are alive and they never raised a superhero (although they were close)

who knows what their death may have done for you Nut when you were younger....


oh my, i'm using an example of a member's parents dying when they are younger as a means of giving someone a compliment, is nothing sacred?


:o

[Odin's Lapdog]

Alors fais le
i have no idea what you just said and i find it hilarious...

:):):)

[tzarinna]

I can barely manage my own life. I give props to any women who works and takes care of a family. Even if they are married it still can seem like they are single parents. The husbands don't have too much in put(viewed from most of my freinds) and the kids tend to run to mom for everything due to this, and of course the husban runs to the wife for many things. I don't know how we out live men. Seems like a lot of stress.

I know of only a few stay at home moms and their husbands make very good money. Only one ever complained about not being able to handle rasing her kid, was quite depressed. She had a nursing degree, married a corporate lawyer, so they could afford to hire someone to come in and help with the house work.I couldn't find too much sympathy for her since I had women friends with 3 kids and were working full time, married too.

Every now and then I get that maternal desire. Just provide the seed and I'll raise it own my own, it comes and goes.

[Ahura Mazda]

Every now and then I got that paternal desire. Just provide the seed and I'll raise it own my own, it comes and goes.


Paternal or maternal?

[Odin's Lapdog]

I can barely manage my own life. I give props to any women who works and takes care of a family. Even if they are married it still can seem like they are single parents. The husbands don't have too much in put(viewed from most of my freinds) and the kids tend to run to mom for everything due to this, and of course the husban runs to the wife for many things. I don't know how we out live men. Seems like a lot of stress.

I know of only a few stay at home moms and their husbands make very good money. Only one ever complained about not being able to handle rasing her kid, was quite depressed. She had a nursing degree, married a corporate lawyer, so they could afford to hire someone to come in and help with the house work.I couldn't find too much sympathy for her since I had women friends with 3 kids and were working full time, married too.

Every now and then I got that paternal desire. Just provide the seed and I'll raise it own my own, it comes and goes. *he/she senses tingling*

[tzarinna]

I had parental in my head. I'm really tired.

[Odin's Lapdog]

hmmmm.....

*leaves boner cam runnning, just in case*

[tzarinna]

I'm going to go take a nap now.
I'll be back later when I can better communicate my thoughts.

[DBella]

Well you deserve a guy who at least makes it so it is your choice whether you even need to work or not.
Sometimes I get less than what I deserve. :(

[Daisy]

your parents are alive and they never raised a superhero (although they were close)

who knows what their death may have done for you Nut when you were younger....


oh my, i'm using an example of a member's parents dying when they are younger as a means of giving someone a compliment, is nothing sacred?


:o

How do you know they didn't. You don't know my nightime activities. ;)

[Erzengel]

How do you know they didn't. You don't know my nightime activities. ;)
I do.
http://www.grizzmornings.com/dominatrix.jpg

[Odin's Lapdog]

How do you know they didn't. You don't know my nightime activities. ;)
you have the wrong type of emotional scars to carry off being a superhero.

:doom:

[MakeMineMarvel]

Well, I think we first need to examine the reason that people are employed in the first place. I don't know too many people that just like to get up at 6 in the morning and go for a drive with everyone else. I don't know too many people that just love to be with their co-workers more than their loved ones. I don't know too many people that just love the atmosphere of the office more than the atmosphere of their home. I don't know too many people that like eating at a time when they may not be hungry because it's their "lunch hour."

So why do people do it? For a paycheck. If you had a billion dollars would you go sit in your cube tomorrow? I doubt it. So what do people do? They spend 8 + hours a day chasing a dollar bill. Many of us don't have a choice in the matter because we are stuck in the "employee" realm of income options. The book, "The Two-Income Trap" details the fact that the average family's expendable income is almost exactly the same as it was over 30 years ago. Why? Because 30 years ago, most homes were single income homes but they didn't have to pay for babysitters, day-care, gas for a second car, lunch for an additional working spouse and so on. Those costs typically offset the income generated by farming a second spouse out for a paycheck.

I said screw that and my wife agreed. We've been working our way out of the "employee" income realm over the last year plus and she is currently staying home with our 3 month old with no intention of working for another person the rest of her life. I'll be able to leave my current day job shortly and we'll both be stay-at-home parents. I didn't get married to leave my wife for 8 hours a day to fulfill someone else's dreams.

[Odin's Lapdog]

some people actually do enjoy what they do for a living ya know...

:(:(

you make work sound really bad.

[Mr.Webs]

If my wife had a stable enough job...sure, I'd love to.:up:

[Daisy]

you have the wrong type of emotional scars to carry off being a superhero.

:doom:

You don't know the 1/2 of my scars. :(

[Odin's Lapdog]

If my wife had a stable enough job...sure, I'd love to.:up:
does she work at the moment

[Odin's Lapdog]

You don't know the 1/2 of my scars. :(
it's ok, it'll be alright

:)

*hugs*


alright i'll ammend my statment to say you're too self concious to go out in lycra

:p

[Mr.Webs]

does she work at the moment Um, it was hypothetical. A sixteen year old generally doesn't have a wife.:confused:

[Odin's Lapdog]

*gasp*

[Mr.Webs]

*gasp* Gasp?

[MakeMineMarvel]

some people actually do enjoy what they do for a living ya know...

:(:(

you make work sound really bad.
I didn't say people didn't enjoy what they do, what I said was if someone had enough money to where they could actually control their calendar and spend their Monday-Friday the way they chose instead of doing what a boss was telling them, I don't know too many people would prefer to be at work 40 hours per week over freedom. Be realistic - if they stopped paying you to do what you do, would you still go there? If not, then you don't love it, you're there for a paycheck.

I also never said work was bad. Anything worthwhile takes work. But who are you working for? I heard a successful person once say, the work you do will allow someone to live the ultimate lifestyle - that person will either be your boss or you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not bashing jobs. I'm just pro-freedom. We need doctors and salespeople and engineers and so on, but being able to be present for my daughter to raise her as we see fit is more important to us than something mundane like customer relationship management systems or data entry or selling a car to someone.

[Odin's Lapdog]

I didn't say people didn't enjoy what they do, what I said was if someone had enough money to where they could actually control their calendar and spend their Monday-Friday the way they chose instead of doing what a boss was telling them, I don't know too many people would prefer to be at work 40 hours per week over freedom. Be realistic - if they stopped paying you to do what you do, would you still go there? If not, then you don't love it, you're there for a paycheck.

I also never said work was bad. Anything worthwhile takes work. But who are you working for? I heard a successful person once say, the work you do will allow someone to live the ultimate lifestyle - that person will either be your boss or you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not bashing jobs. I'm just pro-freedom. We need doctors and salespeople and engineers and so on, but being able to be present for my daughter to raise her as we see fit is more important to us than something mundane like customer relationship management systems or data entry or selling a car to someone.they don't pay me much at all to do what i do but i've chosen to do it and i don't mind what i'm doing, infact i'm quite eager to do my job and i've been known to work over the hours free of charge and even come in on the weekend to get things done with no hassle. i'm not saying i love it but i do enjoy it to some extent.

what you are talking mostly about is working for other people which i can understand cause at the moment what i'm doing is for my benefit as well as for others in the long run so i don't mind if it helps improving skills that i will lead later on in life at some point, that's fine.


true life is for the living and even though you may wish to take an active role as a parent, it's easy to fall off the wagon and have it take over. consider being an i.t. consultant and you spent 6 years away from work looking after your kids, you're practically out of the loop by the time you wanna get back to the workforce (that is if you do wanna).

even though companies do treat lots of their members like small cogs, there is a desire in people to want to fit in that wants their input into something to be appreciated and have work valued, not to mention if people are spending lots of time and money on education, they want to get the best out of it.


i am young though, perhaps i'm naiive about things.

[Odin's Lapdog]

Gasp?
it was just the way you said my wife as if you were married. that's all...

took me by suprise. i expect most old hypers to be older than me for some reason, doesn't really make sense.

[Mr.Webs]

Yeah...joined when I was twelve. Man...four years.:cool: Pretty awesome, huh?

[Odin's Lapdog]

where's your comedy bar gone?

[Mr.Webs]

It just kind of died. The people who enjoyed it left, and I didn't see a reason to continue it really. If people wanted it back, I would love to start it back up again, but...

[MakeMineMarvel]

they don't pay me much at all to do what i do but i've chosen to do it and i don't mind what i'm doing, infact i'm quite eager to do my job and i've been known to work over the hours free of charge and even come in on the weekend to get things done with no hassle. i'm not saying i love it but i do enjoy it to some extent.

what you are talking mostly about is working for other people which i can understand cause at the moment what i'm doing is for my benefit as well as for others in the long run so i don't mind if it helps improving skills that i will lead later on in life at some point, that's fine.


true life is for the living and even though you may wish to take an active role as a parent, it's easy to fall off the wagon and have it take over. consider being an i.t. consultant and you spent 6 years away from work looking after your kids, you're practically out of the loop by the time you wanna get back to the workforce (that is if you do wanna).

even though companies do treat lots of their members like small cogs, there is a desire in people to want to fit in that wants their input into something to be appreciated and have work valued, not to mention if people are spending lots of time and money on education, they want to get the best out of it.


i am young though, perhaps i'm naiive about things.
You're missing the point and the original question. If you had a billion dollars in the bank - would you go do what you do for the amount of hours you do it or would you go do other things that you would enjoy more?

You're not married and don't have a family, so the understanding of the desire to want to spend as much time as possible with your wife or newborn is lost on you right now. But even as a single guy, what is better - surfing, travelling, playing video games, etc. or working for someone else?

The point is this, if you have the income to where you don't have to go to work, who cares about being out of the loop? If you have the income, who cares about developing things like programming skills? You won't need them later in life if you have no need to use them to acquire a paycheck.

You're a human being - do you think you should be treated like a small cog?

[jaguarr]

You're missing the point and the original question. If you had a billion dollars in the bank - would you go do what you do for the amount of hours you do it or would you go do other things that you would enjoy more?

You're not married and don't have a family, so the understanding of the desire to want to spend as much time as possible with your wife or newborn is lost on you right now. But even as a single guy, what is better - surfing, travelling, playing video games, etc. or working for someone else?

The point is this, if you have the income to where you don't have to go to work, who cares about being out of the loop? If you have the income, who cares about developing things like programming skills? You won't need them later in life if you have no need to use them to acquire a paycheck.

You're a human being - do you think you should be treated like a small cog?

:up:

If I were independently wealthy, I'd definitely devote my time to my wife and family and pursue the things that I truly love doing like my music and writing rather that the things I do today to pay the bills.

P.S. - Congrats on the birth of your daughter, MMM. Just noticed that in your sig. :up:

jag

[Odin's Lapdog]

You're missing the point and the original question. If you had a billion dollars in the bank - would you go do what you do for the amount of hours you do it or would you go do other things that you would enjoy more?

You're not married and don't have a family, so the understanding of the desire to want to spend as much time as possible with your wife or newborn is lost on you right now. But even as a single guy, what is better - surfing, travelling, playing video games, etc. or working for someone else?

The point is this, if you have the income to where you don't have to go to work, who cares about being out of the loop? If you have the income, who cares about developing things like programming skills? You won't need them later in life if you have no need to use them to acquire a paycheck.

You're a human being - do you think you should be treated like a small cog?well if i had a million dollars in the bank and i enjoyed what i was doing for a living, i don't see why i would stop taking part in it. At the very most i would reduce my hours but i wouldn't see myself stopping work. I don't even think i would want to set up my own business to run or anything like that. Working is what makes past times more enjoyable because they form a path of escapism, if there's no relief or stress to escape from, then you take it all for granted and tend not to value your time as much (this is a general comment and not regarded directly towards the paternal leave situation as such). I wouldn't want to work all the time but i certainly wouldn't want to use it all for recreation, i feel the need to be productive towards something beyond myself.

true i'm not married and i'm single. saying that i'm not particularly an adventure thrill junkie either. the free time i have at the moment is enough and i have a hard time filling it as it stands. I guess my philosophy on enjoyment is to limit one's time doing it in order to enjoy it more when you actually get the chance to do so.

there are plenty of people who have worked to get their welath and are still working today trying to push the boundaries of their field and accumulate larger portions of market share and so forth, the world doesn't get anywhere with people simply becoming complacent once they've accumulated what they believe is sufficient. Not everyone works solely as a means to get buy.

being part of a cog no matter how small is important. I don't look down on the road sweepers and bin men, nor do i envy the multi-billionnaire tycoons of this world, we're all one and the same playing a part of a whole so things can tick.

i'm dreading reaching retirement age at this point, i'll work as long as i can physically and mentally keep at it.

[Clobberin' Time]

I'm a 'stay at home' parent, my Mrs is finishing her degree whilst I raise our son. I love every minute of it too.

[user123456789]

Just buy me some exercise equipment so I can stay at home.
werd.