"Dateless" Attractive Women

[Erzengel]

Group Hug everybody !!! :heart: :up:

What would happen if everyone intermingled and we ended up as one human race/one colour? But to dream in technicolour ... :yay:

Well scientists say that blondes will be breeded out in a few hundred years so.....

I like to keep more blondes as well as red heads out there. :csad:

[Colossal Spoons]

I'd go for triplefive.

You know if she was into Asians and I was into Asians.

And if she didn't have a bf, and I didn't have a gf.

:o :heart:

.....I thought triplefive was a gay man? If not, I've been mistaken since Holly had him/her as a judge in the Survivor fashion game. :csad:

[triplefive]

So Triple 5 -- what do you and your friends see as a the key to your attention/affections? Just curious about that. Obviously the foot rubs are over-rated ...
i can't speak for all of my friends, and i can't definitively say what attracts me to somebody... probably at the basic level, charm and the ability to make me laugh non-stop. even when i'm trying not to laugh.
on a deeper level, i'm impressed by well-educated, well-spoken people.
CR.

I'm white and asian, my gf is white, black and hispanic.

Before her, I dated mostly white girls. Now I have a thing for girls who are mixed. :up:
I'm Chinese, my boyfriend is 3/4 Lebanese and 1/4 Italian. I've dated a couple black guys, lots of the whitest of the white, and one mixed Japanese... but none of these before i was 18 because i've been with the same person since, so they don't really count.
Well scientists say that blondes will be breeded out in a few hundred years so.....

I like to keep more blondes as well as red heads out there. :csad:
stupid boring dominant genetic traits :cmad:

[triplefive]

.....I thought triplefive was a gay man? If not, I've been mistaken since Holly had him/her as a judge in the Survivor fashion game. :csad:
i was hoping nobody would notice... way to blow my cover :cmad:

[kainedamo]

I'm very much against it. It's just wrong to be mingling like that.


Why? That's just stupid. It's not like blacks or asians are a different species from whites.

[Erzengel]

.....I thought triplefive was a gay man? If not, I've been mistaken since Holly had him/her as a judge in the Survivor fashion game. :csad:

No you are thinking of that other judge, I forgot his name.

[Erzengel]

Why? That's just stupid. It's not like blacks or asians are a different species from whites.

*waves hand in front of him*

This is not the thread you are looking for.

[triplefive]

Why? That's just stupid. It's not like blacks or asians are a different species from whites.
OMG.

[vibeke_T]

CR.

I'm white and asian, my gf is white, black and hispanic.

Before her, I dated mostly white girls. Now I have a thing for girls who are mixed. :up:

yay!!!

[kainedamo]

*waves hand in front of him*

This is not the thread you are looking for.


Yeah? Well, you're not the thread I'm looking for!!! :cmad:

[vibeke_T]

this thread is super large

[Canadian Rider]

Why Thank you Vibe ... oh sorry :wow: ... The Thread is Super large ... my bad ... I thought you were saying something else ... :o

[Colossal Spoons]

Why? That's just stupid. It's not like blacks or asians are a different species from whites.

I lost my last g/f to the "other side". I'm bitter.

[Canadian Rider]

i can't speak for all of my friends, and i can't definitively say what attracts me to somebody... probably at the basic level, charm and the ability to make me laugh non-stop. even when i'm trying not to laugh.
on a deeper level, i'm impressed by well-educated, well-spoken people.

I'm Chinese, my boyfriend is 3/4 Lebanese and 1/4 Italian. I've dated a couple black guys, lots of the whitest of the white, and one mixed Japanese... but none of these before i was 18 because i've been with the same person since, so they don't really count.

stupid boring dominant genetic traits :cmad:

Thanks Triplefive. I guess I have always heard humour is a plus. Mine is not always so good as per the Vibe remark ... hehehe

[terry78]

I lost my last g/f to the "other side". I'm bitter.
You know they treat them better than we do. We're just in it for the sex according to the stigma, totally unlike every other race of men out there. :whatever:

[AndThePickles]

I guess this is one of those situations when being friends actually works out in the end.

What exactly would be a way to a woman's heart? Being that according to old studies, the way to a man's heart is to his stomach.

Chocolate, compliments, and quality conversation :up::oldrazz:

[vibeke_T]

Also....no one has presented any remedies to this situation

[kainedamo]

I lost my last g/f to the "other side". I'm bitter.


That makes it even more stupid! You coulda said "gangbangers killed my whole family", which would make your prejudice at least understandable. But your excuse is pathetic. What age are you? Incredibly immature attitude. You need to take a look at yourself. Sort it out, man.

[Canadian Rider]

uhm ... I thought it was supposed to be ... "Once you have had black you never go back?" Sorry.

Curious though. Did you lose her to a white guy/black guy or a guy who treated her better/worse? :huh:

[triplefive]

Also....no one has presented any remedies to this situation
yes we have

if you're an attractive girl, don't wait around for someone to hit on you; be proactive.

[AndThePickles]

That makes it even more stupid! You coulda said "gangbangers killed my whole family", which would make your prejudice at least understandable. But your excuse is pathetic. What age are you? Incredibly immature attitude. You need to take a look at yourself. Sort it out, man.

Hahahaha. Don't you know when you're bein messed with?? Colossal Spoons is black and I'm white, he is OBVIOUSLY all for interracial dating.

[triplefive]

Hahahaha. Don't you know when you're bein messed with?? Colossal Spoons is black and I'm white, he is OBVIOUSLY all for interracial dating.
aww, i was waiting to see where the conversation would go :D

[Canadian Rider]

I think the ladies are saying the men need to approach them and the men are saying that the ladies should approach them?

How about when all the attractive/unattractive people see other attractive/unattractive people that are interesting they buy the other person's comics that day and see what happens!

Comics are the common denominator of the SHH are they not?:huh:

[AndThePickles]

yes we have

if you're an attractive girl, don't wait around for someone to hit on you; be proactive.

Or even an unattractive girl! If you want something, go for it! :yay:

[Colossal Spoons]

Chocolate, compliments, and quality conversation :up::oldrazz:

You forgot "telepathy" :up:

[terry78]

http://www.chilinet.dk/gfx/uploads/save-the-last-dancejpeg.jpg
http://www.deepdiscountdvd.com/images/covers/coveri/MCA020428.jpeg
http://z.about.com/d/movies/1/0/W/V/8/askdust03020608.jpg
http://msnbcmedia.msn.com/j/ap/fra10509131048.widec.jpg

Ebony...and Ivory....

You know Seal couldn't go long without tapping Klum.:o

[triplefive]

Or even an unattractive girl! If you want something, go for it! :yay:
oh, yeah, no, i didn't mean to imply that

i just meant all these 'attractive' girls shouldn't sit around complaining about how they're too pretty to be approached

just approach a guy, if you're that pretty and they're not gay, or in a relationship (and perhaps even if they are :whatever:) there's almost no way a guy would turn you away.

[vibeke_T]

Why Thank you Vibe ... oh sorry :wow: ... The Thread is Super large ... my bad ... I thought you were saying something else ... :o



:wow:

[Immortalfire]

Any dateless, attractive women could go to Pizza Hut and hook up with a swinger like Catman.

[vibeke_T]

http://www.chilinet.dk/gfx/uploads/save-the-last-dancejpeg.jpg
http://www.deepdiscountdvd.com/images/covers/coveri/MCA020428.jpeg
http://z.about.com/d/movies/1/0/W/V/8/askdust03020608.jpg
http://msnbcmedia.msn.com/j/ap/fra10509131048.widec.jpg

Ebony...and Ivory....

You know Seal couldn't go long without tapping Klum.:o

ok...first off...i hate HATE HATE save the last dance...and that ***** ugly...who wants him anyway! and...on seal and klum...at least we know she isnt shallow and that seal is probably the prince of manners

[triplefive]

i thought the guy in save the last dance was fairly attractive

[Canadian Rider]

So Vibe. Do you have a BF? Not to intrude but I am curious what someone has to do to "win" your affections? :yay:

[vibeke_T]

Actually...I've been single my entire, sad life (I'm only 23). Never been on any dates...and guys generally dont seem interested in me.

[AndThePickles]

Aw, I like Sean Patrick Thomas! He's just very short lol.

[terry78]

Aw, I like Sean Patrick Thomas! He's just very short lol.
Short guys compensate. Betta recognize.

[terry78]

Actually...I've been single my entire, sad life (I'm only 23). Never been on any dates...and guys generally dont seem interested in me.
The guys you don't like are interested. The ones named Caleb and sporting irish accents are the ones you're trying to get with.:oldrazz:

[vibeke_T]

The guys you don't like are interested. The ones named Caleb and sporting irish accents are the ones you're trying to get with.:oldrazz:


hahaha! what?!!! that is NOT true!!!

[AndThePickles]

Actually...I've been single my entire, sad life (I'm only 23). Never been on any dates...and guys generally dont seem interested in me.

Do you have super high expectations? Just wondering, because if Sean Patrick Thomas is ugly to you then you obviously haven't seen some of the guys I have :oldrazz:

[Paradoxium]

So I am bored. To address the original poster:

Sure, some guys are intimidated by attractive girls. But these guys are not what attractive girls are attracted to anyways. There is nothing wrong with having standards either. So you are right… somewhat.

Having conversed with older (30-40s) and established men who are well off (some own their own business), very happy, healthy (workout regularly) and decent looking, I learned a few interesting things. I mention this group, because they have no problem attracting women. They are not players, just guys who attract a lot of women.

5 turn-offs (brutally honest) even if she is physically attractive:


They are usually not interested in women 29+, some even as low as 27. This has to do with fertility, it depreciates after 27. Between 30-35 is strictly sex, nothing long term. Anything over 35+ is dismissed.

They also are not interested in career women with high paying jobs, such as managers, lawyers and physicians. They point out the high divorce rates with career women. They themselves already have money and an abundance of assets, so finding a partner who makes a lot of money means spit.

They are not interested in women with masculine traits; overly bossy, pushy and controlling (emphasis on the last one). They prefer feminine women, and ones who accept who they are, meaning the woman does not try to "change" him.

The moment the women tries to pressure him into marriage, he dumps her on the spot.

They hate feminists. Period.

There you go. These guys do get flack from women for their 'expectations', and you can argue about this day and night. But they do not give a damn, because they can afford to be this picky and women continue to flock to them like wild geese (it has gotten to the point where they do not even have to make an effort to pursue).

[kainedamo]

Hahahaha. Don't you know when you're bein messed with?? Colossal Spoons is black and I'm white, he is OBVIOUSLY all for interracial dating.

:(

I was gonna post this aswell...

http://i143.photobucket.com/albums/r123/kainedamo/Untitled-2.gif?t=1165956797

[terry78]

^In other words, a girl that they can take care of is what they prefer.

[vibeke_T]

Do you have super high expectations? Just wondering, because if Sean Patrick Thomas is ugly to you then you obviously haven't seen some of the guys I have :oldrazz:

Haha! The only thing I expect is that they can read and write SOME sort of language that does not include a sole knowledge base concerning EBONICS. Also, that they are not jerks...and dont do drugs...and at least wash once a day.

[Erzengel]

http://z.about.com/d/movies/1/0/W/V/8/askdust03020608.jpg



I have that tie. :up:

[triplefive]

I have that tie. :up:
oh my god we are soulmates

wait, i meant to quote it before you edited.

[Colossal Spoons]

Heh, was just messin with ya Kaine. Props to you for defending interacial dating though you don't get down with black women :up:

[terry78]

Heh, was just messin with ya Kaine. Props to you for defending interacial dating though you don't get down with black women :up:
Once he tries it, he'll be hooked like a coke fiend though.

[vibeke_T]

is kaine a female?

[Colossal Spoons]

oh my god we are soulmates

wait, i meant to quote it before you edited.

I'm still in shock that you're a woman. Random, I know but I like ot share my epiphanies :O

[Canadian Rider]

So if a guy comes up to you Vibe and says " Hello. I saw you from across the room and wanted to come up and introduce myself."

Your response? :yay:

[Colossal Spoons]

is kaine a female?

So much gender confusion. We're gonna have to take it back tothe old days of AOL chat rooms w/ "A/S/L/P" :p

[kainedamo]

I am male.

Man, I need a good opportunity to use this pic...

http://i143.photobucket.com/albums/r123/kainedamo/Untitled-2.gif?t=1165956797

[Erzengel]

oh my god we are soulmates

wait, i meant to quote it before you edited.

I didn't edit it. :huh:

And next time I'm on a break, I'm looking you up. :heart:

And I sweat Idina Menzel. :heart: x 2

[Canadian Rider]

Nice.

I always wanted to know how to say "tall white guy with 'peninsula head' hairline carrying 40 extra pounds but funny and kind"

Course now I can advertise my "Super Large" Thread ... hehehe :woot:

[Paradoxium]

^In other words, a girl that they can take care of is what they prefer.Kinda. I am sure feminine women can take care of themselves, I know a few like that. These guys say they are not interested in dating a women with a mental phallus.

[Canadian Rider]

So Vibe. Have you been looking or throwing out the "I'm not interested" looks?

You seem articulate and funny ... I am surprised that someone hasn't been after you ...

[triplefive]

I'm still in shock that you're a woman. Random, I know but I like ot share my epiphanies :O
http://www.superherohype.com/forums/showpost.php?p=10614952&postcount=34462
I didn't edit it. :huh:

And next time I'm on a break, I'm looking you up. :heart:

And I sweat Idina Menzel. :heart: x 2
either you're lying or i just made it up in my head
i've never seen her perform........... :heartbreak:

[AndThePickles]

triplefive, you're very pretty :)

[vibeke_T]

So if a guy comes up to you Vibe and says " Hello. I saw you from across the room and wanted to come up and introduce myself."

Your response? :yay:

I would ask if something was wrong with his sight

[vibeke_T]

So Vibe. Have you been looking or throwing out the "I'm not interested" looks?

You seem articulate and funny ... I am surprised that someone hasn't been after you ...


I have no idea what sort of looks I throw out...I'm just myself at all times and if that seems to be an impenetrable fortress...than so be it...a real man would find his way around that

[vibeke_T]

So much gender confusion. We're gonna have to take it back tothe old days of AOL chat rooms w/ "A/S/L/P" :p

haha its true!

[Crazy Venom]

I have no idea what sort of looks I throw out...I'm just myself at all times and if that seems to be an impenetrable fortress...than so be it...a real man would find his way around that

i perfer to find my way "through":woot:

[triplefive]

triplefive, you're very pretty :)
thanks :yay:
I would ask if something was wrong with his sightI have no idea what sort of looks I throw out...I'm just myself at all times and if that seems to be an impenetrable fortress...than so be it...a real man would find his way around that
1) self-depreciation is only okay if you're joking
2) don't expect so much... i don't expect my boyfriend to understand what goes on in my head without me telling him about it.

[Erzengel]

So if a guy comes up to you Vibe and says " Hello. I saw you from across the room and wanted to come up and introduce myself."

Your response? :yay:

I feel what works best is buying a beautiful woman a drink and after catching her eye across the bar as she looks to see who sent it, give her a warm smile, and mouth the words, "You're dead." :heart:

[kainedamo]

I would ask if something was wrong with his sight

Now that is a very off putting attitude.

[vibeke_T]

i perfer to find my way "through":woot:
haha

[Superman79]

wow...this thread has certainly been getting some attention

[vibeke_T]

thanks :yay:

1) self-depreciation is only okay if you're joking
2) don't expect so much... i don't expect my boyfriend to understand what goes on in my head without me telling him about it.



1) I never joke about myself
2) I have nothing to say about this

[Canadian Rider]

Let me just say Vibe that funny intelligent women are attractive.

I don't know what you look like, but I know you are funny and intelligent.

As I said way back ... I think that we put huge pressure on women, who put even greater pressure on themselves to look and act a certain way.

I think you're cool (for what that is worth ...) :yay:

[Crazy Venom]

wow...this thread has certainly been getting some attention

dude, your still alive man..... what's up!!!

[vibeke_T]

wow...this thread has certainly been getting some attention



Yes Pale Face :oldrazz:

[Superman79]

thanks :yay:

1) self-depreciation is only okay if you're joking
2) don't expect so much... i don't expect my boyfriend to understand what goes on in my head without me telling him about it.

1) :woot: :woot: :woot: :up:

2) Ain't that the truth (with ANY woman)

[Crazy Venom]

2) don't expect so much... i don't expect my boyfriend to understand what goes on in my head without me telling him about it.

every girl does that.... my fiance is queen of bottling up emotion and expecting me to figure out what the matter is....

[triplefive]

honestly, if i tell someone i think they're good-looking and they come off with something about how they don't think they are... i'd probably just walk away from the situation.

we all know over-confidence is a killer, but i have better things to do with my time than convince someone that i think they're hot

[Superman79]

dude, your still alive man..... what's up!!!

yeah, I'm alive. Now the question is...who were you? I don't recognize the new handle

[Superman79]

Yes Pale Face :oldrazz:

oh SNAP!! :oldrazz:

[Crazy Venom]

yeah, I'm alive. Now the question is...who were you? I don't recognize the new handle

I can't say my old name on here..... bad medacine..... I'll PM you

[vibeke_T]

Let me just say Vibe that funny intelligent women are attractive.

I don't know what you look like, but I know you are funny and intelligent.

As I said way back ... I think that we put huge pressure on women, who put even greater pressure on themselves to look and act a certain way.

I think you're cool (for what that is worth ...) :yay:
Well thank you :woot: I've always been prone to individuality.

I look like this:
http://www.bet.com/Assets/BET/Published/image/jpeg/47d573f7-15c8-e56a-e478-b951c84bacae-tyra_banks_judge_bb.jpg


jk...here i am:

http://myspace-015.vo.llnwd.net/00441/51/04/441764015_l.jpg

[triplefive]

every girl does that.... my fiance is queen of bottling up emotion and expecting me to figure out what the matter is....
then clearly not "every girl" does it because you're quoting me as saying that i don't do that.

[Colossal Spoons]

thanks :yay:

1) self-depreciation is only okay if you're joking
2) don't expect so much... i don't expect my boyfriend to understand what goes on in my head without me telling him about it.

:eek: See, things like this are what made me doubt your womanhood.

[Canadian Rider]

Sister! You are some kind of hot! :wow:

K ... I don't know where you live, but here in the T-dot you would have to beat the boys off. :heart:

:yay:

[terry78]

Sister! You are some kind of hot! :wow:

K ... I don't know where you live, but here in the T-dot you would have to beat the boys off. :heart:

:yay:
...with a stick. :o

[vibeke_T]

:eek: See, things like this are what made me doubt your womanhood.


haha thats messed up

[vibeke_T]

Sister! You are some kind of hot! :wow:

K ... I don't know where you live, but here in the T-dot you would have to beat the boys off. :heart:

:yay:

sometimes I recon its my city thats the problem...
Ok...I guess I recall getting hit on once...by a convict...working on beautifying our streets

[vibeke_T]

...with a stick. :o
switch

[Superman79]

haha thats messed up

not really...women are supposed to be storms of swirling emotion and zaniness. And of course, all women beleive we men are like meteorologists...which we are not, so to see a woman that doesn't assume we men read minds is a little shocking :oldrazz: :o :woot:

[terry78]

switch
Actually the way he worded it was kinda wrong. Re-read it.

[Canadian Rider]

a large pointy one ... especially if you tell them you think they have a super large thread ... hehehe .... :woot:

I hear that about telling a woman she is hot though T5 ... why do woman do that? It's like they don't believe us ... :cmad:

Oh well. Maybe you can help me understand that too you youngin's! :yay:

[Erzengel]

then clearly not "every girl" does it because you're quoting me as saying that i don't do that.
Sometimes I think it would be cool if I was a mind reader, but then I'd probably get mad for actually reading your minds. :csad:

[Canadian Rider]

Thanks T-78 ... beat the boys off with a stick. Boys, men and here in Toronto a number of women too!

[kainedamo]

honestly, if i tell someone i think they're good-looking and they come off with something about how they don't think they are... i'd probably just walk away from the situation.

we all know over-confidence is a killer, but i have better things to do with my time than convince someone that i think they're hot

My first girlfriend was like that. The girl just wouldn't accept a compliment. It was frustrating, and it really put me off. I'd tell her she's pretty, and she'd mope and say she wasn't. Stupid girl.

[triplefive]

not really...women are supposed to be storms of swirling emotion and zaniness. And of course, all women beleive we men are like meteorologists...which we are not, so to see a woman that doesn't assume we men read minds is a little shocking :oldrazz: :o :woot:
you might find it worse to have a woman who just talks everything out. i just don't shut up. :o

[terry78]

you might find it worse to have a woman who just talks everything out. i just don't shut up. :o
Damn right.

[Canadian Rider]

I'd rather know what a woman is thinking than guessing ... and being wrong ... AHNNN!! Next answer !!! D'oh! :woot:

[Crazy Venom]

then clearly not "every girl" does it because you're quoting me as saying that i don't do that.

I'm sure you have at some point.....

[triplefive]

I'm sure you have at some point.....
sure, you know me so well.

[kainedamo]

every girl does that.... my fiance is queen of bottling up emotion and expecting me to figure out what the matter is....


No offense, but your fiance sounds lame.

I hate girls that seem annoyed at you (like my first girlfriend) and won't explain whats going on. I don't like huffy girls in general. I don't like girls that walk away from difficult conversations instead of talking it out.

[Crazy Venom]

My first girlfriend was like that. The girl just wouldn't accept a compliment. It was frustrating, and it really put me off. I'd tell her she's pretty, and she'd mope and say she wasn't. Stupid girl.

that's probably because she was looking for more renforcement to your claim that's she pretty.........

[Erzengel]

No offense, but your fiance sounds lame.

I hate girls that seem annoyed at you (like my first girlfriend) and won't explain whats going on. I don't like huffy girls in general. I don't like girls that walk away from difficult conversations instead of talking it out.
You know if you want women to act more like men, maybe you are dating the wrong gender. :huh:

[Canadian Rider]

oh oh ... now listen kids ... behave now ... no fighting! :yay:

It is always good to assume a women you have never met in person or spoken to in person has done something just because she is a woman ?? :whatever:

[Crazy Venom]

No offense, but your fiance sounds lame.

I hate girls that seem annoyed at you (like my first girlfriend) and won't explain whats going on. I don't like huffy girls in general. I don't like girls that walk away from difficult conversations instead of talking it out.


every girl I ever dated was like that... untill you rag on them for being silent about their feelings

[vibeke_T]

Damn right.


I second that notion!!!!

Women should keep stuff on a NEED TO KNOW basis only...keep what you can handle to yourself and if you need intervention, spill the beans

[Canadian Rider]

Vibe ... so if at least two guys say you're hot ... (noted previously) would you argue that point?

If you were in a great relationship and wanted to share something with your significant other -- why wouldn't you? I always wonder why women don't share certain things.

Thanks sister! :yay:

[kainedamo]

You know if you want women to act more like men, maybe you are dating the wrong gender. :huh:

That is my dilemma. Sometimes I wish girls were more man like in attitude, but men don't turn me on so I can't turn to them. I love women too much to abandon them :(

[vibeke_T]

Vibe ... so if at least two guys say you're hot ... (noted previously) would you argue that point?

If you were in a great relationship and wanted to share something with your significant other -- why wouldn't you? I always wonder why women don't share certain things.

Thanks sister! :yay:


It depends...I dont share a lot...whereas I've been around women in my family, who IMO, share too much. My dad is reserved...I'm like my father.

And I dont think drugs and incarceration validate anything they may say about me being attractive -- crack and prison would make any female (or male) seem attractive.

[Erzengel]

That is my dilemma. Sometimes I wish girls were more man like in attitude, but men don't turn me on so I can't turn to them. I love women too much to abandon them :(

:huh:

No words. I wouldn't change any of those crazy girls. :o

[Canadian Rider]

Wow you are so nice ... hey wait ... is that a Super Large Thread in your pants!!! ewwwww!!! :wow:

I too love the ladies too much. So lovely and warm. Snuggly. Ahhh. :woot: :heart:

[vibeke_T]

That is my dilemma. Sometimes I wish girls were more man like in attitude, but men don't turn me on so I can't turn to them. I love women too much to abandon them :(
I think I'm more like men in attitude at times

[vibeke_T]

Wow you are so nice ... hey wait ... is that a Super Large Thread in your pants!!! ewwwww!!! :wow:

I too love the ladies too much. So lovely and warm. Snuggly. Ahhh. :woot: :heart:



haha super large

[Canadian Rider]

It depends...I dont share a lot...whereas I've been around women in my family, who IMO, share too much. My dad is reserved...I'm like my father.

And I dont think drugs and incarceration validate anything they may say about me being attractive -- crack and prison would make any female (or male) seem attractive.

To reiterate ... why do women put themselves down? Seriously?

Vibe ... repeat after me ... I am Hot ... I am Hot ... it is okay. Really.

And while I may be 35, white and married, that does not mean that I am incarcerated or on crack. I indicated that based on the photo you provided you are a very lovely young woman. To use the vernacular of the day ... "Sista so hot, she makes my heart go BOOM!" :woot:

[vibeke_T]

To reiterate ... why do women put themselves down? Seriously?

Vibe ... repeat after me ... I am Hot ... I am Hot ... it is okay. Really.

And while I may be 35, white and married, that does not mean that I am incarcerated or on crack. I indicated that based on the photo you provided you are a very lovely young woman. To use the vernacular of the day ... "Sista so hot, she makes my heart go BOOM!" :woot:


hahah thanks! may the sun shine on Canada today

[kainedamo]

Yeah Vib T, you're quite pretty. And you've got nice curves.

[Canadian Rider]

It did indeed sister with your lovely smile.

I have to go run "round up the monkies" for dinner.

Have a great night and revel in your hotness! :woot:

[vibeke_T]

It did indeed sister with your lovely smile.

I have to go run "round up the monkies" for dinner.

Have a great night and revel in your hotness! :woot:
awww you have kids?! do they love comics too? thats cute!

[vibeke_T]

Yeah Vib T, you're quite pretty. And you've got nice curves.

thanks :yay: :woot: :ninja:

[Paradoxium]

kainedamo, you are an odd fellow. I get guys not liking manly (in attitude) women, you want just exactly that. Who cares if a girl is all huffy and pissed about some trivial matter? Some girls love playing those stupid mind games to "test you" (which I find not only annoying, but offensive). Just ignore it or call out on her BS. If she persists, warn her or next her. Improve yourself and find a better woman.

You should give Europe (i.e. France, West Germany), Russia and Asia (eastern coast) a visit to see the different types of women there. They are less uptight and clique'ish than the average North American woman :D :hyper:

[vibeke_T]

german women are manly looking

[triplefive]

german women are manly looking
yeah, that heidi klum is a real dog.

[vibeke_T]

she's okay looking...Claudia Schiffer is ugly

[Colossal Spoons]

You should give Europe (i.e. France, West Germany), Russia and Asia (eastern coast) a visit to see the different types of women there. They are less uptight and clique'ish than the average North American woman :D :hyper:

Oh really?

[Superman79]

german women are manly looking

a-bwah..HUH????? :huh:

[Canadian Rider]

hey there ... kids are fed and watered.

Thanks Vibe - my kids love comics and they are learning to read because of them so that rocks.

So you will note that others have commented on your "hotness" and "curvyness". Let us not speak of your self depricating ways again!

Be hot and enjoy it! :woot:

[vibeke_T]

ha yes! my outlook has changed

[vibeke_T]

a-bwah..HUH????? :huh:

yes.

[terry78]

And all it took was the entire thread to verify it. ;)

[Canadian Rider]

Well my work here is done!

Any other ladies need confirmation of their Hotness?

I really do think that attractiveness is in the heart of the beholder. How someone thinks of themselves is important I think as how others view us. If we think we are hot, we become hot/attractive.

In any event, the physical is not everything. What was attractive Vibe was your humour and intellect. Interesting! :woot:

[Superman79]

^ there are actually a lot of hot ladies on the Hype

[vibeke_T]

^ there are actually a lot of hot ladies on the Hype

Are they hiding?!!!



and I'm really funny and intellectual? :woot: :ninja:

[Canadian Rider]

I think all women are unique and hot in their own right. The interesting thing for me is how many don't think they are hot ... but actually are. The guys posting in the Hottest women thread are currently debating the thin vs. curvy, big butt vs. slim. It is interesting the variety of women in there that are attractive but each person has a preference.

I love 'em all, especially my wife! :woot:

[Canadian Rider]

Are they hiding?!!!



and I'm really funny and intellectual? :woot: :ninja:

Is that your Super Large Thread or are you happy to see me !

Very funny. The comments you come up with are witty and funny. Especially the various comebacks etc.

Love Tank ... boy I will never live that down ... :woot:

[Superman79]

Are they hiding?!!!



and I'm really funny and intellectual? :woot: :ninja:

No, they're around

And yes you are funny and intiellectual from what I've seen...of course what do I know, I'm 'albino' :oldrazz::cwink::woot:

[AndThePickles]

Yay, glad you're feeling better about yourself vibeke! Trust me honey, I know how hard self-confidence can be, but keep it up! :)

[Canadian Rider]

AndThePickles ... you seem very wise ... I sense an interesting life story there.

Who is your avatar. I keep hurting my neck to figure it out. Is that you? :yay:

[vibeke_T]

Is that your Super Large Thread or are you happy to see me !

Very funny. The comments you come up with are witty and funny. Especially the various comebacks etc.

Love Tank ... boy I will never live that down ... :woot:


haha! you started that :woot:

[vibeke_T]

No, they're around

And yes you are funny and intiellectual from what I've seen...of course what do I know, I'm 'albino' :oldrazz::cwink::woot:


at least you're one cute albino :meow:

[Canadian Rider]

yes well ... between that and my super giant thread I better get some action ... :wow:

One thing that I am curious about Vibe and if it is too personal that is cool ... but if we all are saying you are hot ... why did you doubt it in the first place?

My wife is hot but doubts it too ... just curious?? :yay:

[vibeke_T]

yes well ... between that and my super giant thread I better get some action ... :wow:

One thing that I am curious about Vibe and if it is too personal that is cool ... but if we all are saying you are hot ... why did you doubt it in the first place?

My wife is hot but doubts it too ... just curious?? :yay:


I suppose it seems unlikely...I, personally, dont like the look of my face -- the rest of me I dont mind -- and I dont think I can compare to beautiful celebrities or anything. Also...I seem like invisible to guys or whatever...so that has an impact on how I feel about my physical self. I do not doubt my intellectual ability, however.

[Canadian Rider]

Thanks. I guess that we all have things we don't like. I can't imagine that you are invisible to guys. Perhaps the very first few posts said it all ...

"Attractive girls make men uncomfortable -- they are not confident enough to approach them."

Maybe you have more superstar good looks than you thought? :yay:

[vibeke_T]

hahaha...one can hope!!!

[Paradoxium]

german women are manly looking
Not from my experience. But they are definitely tall.

Oh really?
What do you have to lose to try :D

I think all women are unique and hot in their own right. The interesting thing for me is how many don't think they are hot ... but actually are. The guys posting in the Hottest women thread are currently debating the thin vs. curvy, big butt vs. slim. It is interesting the variety of women in there that are attractive but each person has a preference.

I love 'em all, especially my wife! :woot:
kind of like the PS3 vs. Wii (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z1hwb5yGZZQ)

[Canadian Rider]

you need not ... you are "hot" as testified by the various brothers of the Hype thread!

Go forth - we dub thee Princess Vibe, the princess of Hotness and attractiveness, Duchess of cool.

[vibeke_T]

hahaha thanks!!! my fave title "Duchess of cool"

[Superman79]

at least you're one cute albino :meow:

aww...{blush} don't play with my ego like that :csad::oldrazz::woot:

[vibeke_T]

aww...{blush} don't play with my ego like that :csad::oldrazz::woot:



its what i do best :o

[AndThePickles]

AndThePickles ... you seem very wise ... I sense an interesting life story there.

Who is your avatar. I keep hurting my neck to figure it out. Is that you? :yay:

Heh, thanks :yay:

I actually wish I knew who my avatar was! I wanted a classic pin-up girl avatar, and this lady was one of the people who came up when I googled "pin-up girls" haha.

[AndThePickles]

What do you have to lose to try :D


His girlfriend? :p Seriously though, I'm sure that other countries have completely different outlooks than American women. Our country is SO obsessed with what is "hot" and it has resulted in a lot of insecure people.

[Canadian Rider]

Cool. We have been affirming Vibe and instilling the "I am Hot Mantra."

I am curious about how people use other images for their avatars. Some use photos and other use pictures. We seem to prefer some "invisibilty."

You seem pretty confident and happy/well adjusted. Do ladies here not use their photos? I noticed most guys don't. Just curious as I am new to the board. :yay:

[AndThePickles]

I try to stay confident, but of course I too have my own insecurities to squash just like anyone else :)
No, most ladies here do not post their own pictures due to the large amount of immature males on this board. It ends up causing too much trouble.

[Crooklyn]

Cool. We have been affirming Vibe and instilling the "I am Hot Mantra."

I am curious about how people use other images for their avatars. Some use photos and other use pictures. We seem to prefer some "invisibilty."
I reeeaaaalllly think you're looking into something that doesn't exist. :o


No, most ladies here do not post their own pictures due to the large amount of immature males on this board. It ends up causing too much trouble.
Actually I'd say more than half of the female members here HAVE posted their pics.

[Canadian Rider]

understood. I see that you and Cs are an item. It is nice to see that people still "gush" about each other. Man do I feel old lately. I posted something to compliment somebody and she pm'd me ... I responded back to say hello and she said ... and I quote ... Ewww ... you're 35 and married .

Crushing. Just crushing. Anyhow. I turn 36 tomorrow and I hope that I don't fall completely apart after. Ouch ... :whatever:

[Canadian Rider]

I reeeaaaalllly think you're looking into something that doesn't exist. :o
Just an observation.

Actually I'd say more than half of the female members here HAVE posted their pics.
But they don't use them as avatars. I guess that surprises me. Like I said, still learning about the SHH board. thanks for your input though ... :yay:

[vibeke_T]

Oh...happy future birthday! my birthday was earlier this month. December babies UNITE!

the way I view my avatar...hmmm...Its a character called Prodigy! Very hot!! A cool black chick, that I would like to align myself with...fictively speaking!

[Crooklyn]

But they don't use them as avatars. I guess that surprises me. Like I said, still learning about the SHH board. thanks for your input though ... :yay:
Not many people use their pics as avatars. Not even on someting like AIM.

[AndThePickles]

Who is the woman in your avatar Crooklyn?

[Canadian Rider]

Cool. There is/was a character in Batman that I really liked. She was very cool, but they didn't use her a lot. She was a black character with a shaved head and stood her own pretty well. Thanks for the wishes.

I guess we each relate to different characters that we can associate ourselves with. Maybe that is why celebrities are so popular? People think they are special?

I have always enjoyed the comics I have read like GR, Batman and Green Lantern. I guess I aspired to be like them in confronting evil. Not that I do that but I guess trying to be a decent guy in today's day and age is a challenge enough. I was reading somewhere that when you get to 300 posts you can get an avatar. I am wondering what I would do for mine. Happy birthday to you, I hope it went well. It always sucks to be so close to Christmas since you get lot's of combo gifts. That happen to you much?

[Crooklyn]

Who is the woman in your avatar Crooklyn?
I CLEARLY labeled it. She has no name. :o

[Canadian Rider]

:yay: Not many people use their pics as avatars. Not even on someting like AIM.

I use mine on Yahoo mostly. I made one that kind of looks like ghost rider, but mostly I use my picture. Most of my friends use their picture too.

I guess that is what I expected here, but I don't have a ton of experience with boards or Yahoo either. I don't have all the time I used to with two kids to "wrangle."

The times that I do chat with somebody a picture seems more personal and I guess that is why I asked. It is interesting though how many people meet and chat on the net and fall in love without seeing each other. Just supports my idea that we should not judge the book by its cover. A nice cover is a bonus but is shouldn't be the be-all and end-all. This is where I get laughed out of this thread ... old man syndrome. :yay:

[AndThePickles]

I CLEARLY labeled it. She has no name. :o

Oh yes, clearly :oldrazz: Just wanted to see a larger picture of her; she looks really pretty.

[Crooklyn]

:yay:

I use mine on Yahoo mostly. I made one that kind of looks like ghost rider, but mostly I use my picture. Most of my friends use their picture too.

I guess that is what I expected here, but I don't have a ton of experience with boards or Yahoo either. I don't have all the time I used to with two kids to "wrangle."
Well if they're your personal friends, then it's alright for them to use their own pics. But the thing is, the internet ISN'T personal, so I'd guess that'd be a way of explaining why peoples' avatars aren't of themselves.

It is interesting though how many people meet and chat on the net and fall in love without seeing each other. Just supports my idea that we should not judge the book by its cover. A nice cover is a bonus but is shouldn't be the be-all and end-all.
While true, that works vice-versa. Incredible personalities make great friends, but incredible personalities with great looks make good mating partners. ;)

[vibeke_T]

Cool. There is/was a character in Batman that I really liked. She was very cool, but they didn't use her a lot. She was a black character with a shaved head and stood her own pretty well. Thanks for the wishes.

I guess we each relate to different characters that we can associate ourselves with. Maybe that is why celebrities are so popular? People think they are special?

I have always enjoyed the comics I have read like GR, Batman and Green Lantern. I guess I aspired to be like them in confronting evil. Not that I do that but I guess trying to be a decent guy in today's day and age is a challenge enough. I was reading somewhere that when you get to 300 posts you can get an avatar. I am wondering what I would do for mine. Happy birthday to you, I hope it went well. It always sucks to be so close to Christmas since you get lot's of combo gifts. That happen to you much?

well...i get distinct gifts...though birthday is always smaller than christmas...this year im not getting any presents...im moving to another country for a moment haha...so all the money they would spend on my gifts they are just giving to me instead

[Canadian Rider]

Wow. Moving is pretty cool. Where are you moving to? For a moment sounds mysterious ... :yay:

[Canadian Rider]

Well if they're your personal friends, then it's alright for them to use their own pics. But the thing is, the internet ISN'T personal, so I'd guess that'd be a way of explaining why peoples' avatars aren't of themselves.

True enough.

While true, that works vice-versa. Incredible personalities make great friends, but incredible personalities with great looks make good mating partners. ;)

This is also true. Luckily for me my wife who is Hot looked past my looks into the character of the man. Whoo ... that was a close one ... :woot:

[Crooklyn]

Oh yes, clearly :oldrazz: Just wanted to see a larger picture of her; she looks really pretty.
http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m98/Rccarlton/37107_1160716952.jpg

Click here for more. (http://boards.ign.com/babes/b5123/132510759/p1/?31)

[vibeke_T]

Wow. Moving is pretty cool. Where are you moving to? For a moment sounds mysterious ... :yay:
London. for four months.

[Canadian Rider]

Wow. That is an awesome town. I trust you will enjoy it. Hopefully the british lads will appreciate the Duchess of Cool ...

[FRUITY]

London. for four months.
Lucky. :up: :csad: What for?

[vibeke_T]

Lucky. :up: :csad: What for?


school? :D

[vibeke_T]

Wow. That is an awesome town. I trust you will enjoy it. Hopefully the british lads will appreciate the Duchess of Cool ...


haha...i suppose we'll see!!!

[Golgo-13]

Yeah, i'm a December baby too. (despite what my profile says) December 03, 74'

[Canadian Rider]

Happy Birthday to you too then Golgo13 :woot:

Do you find that the older you have gotten the easier it has become to talk to attractive women? (Trying to keep something of the thread alive ... hehehe) :yay:

[FRUITY]

school? :D
:cmad: *envy* lol. From what I've heard the cost of living there is pretty expensive, but the experience going there would definitely be worth it.
Again. Lucky :up:.



P.S: I much preffer money anyway than some of the gifts I usually get. :oldrazz:

[Canadian Rider]

I hear that.

Cash works. then you can save it and buy something that you otherwise wouldn't get .. a true gift for yourself ... :woot:

[vibeke_T]

Yeah, i'm a December baby too. (despite what my profile says) December 03, 74'


happy birthday

[vibeke_T]

:cmad: *envy* lol. From what I've heard the cost of living there is pretty expensive, but the experience going there would definitely be worth it.
Again. Lucky :up:.



P.S: I much preffer money anyway than some of the gifts I usually get. :oldrazz:

i'm gonna lose a bunch of weight because i'll be living off of crackers!

[FRUITY]

Yeah, i'm a December baby too. (despite what my profile says) December 03, 74'
Happy Birthday!
i'm gonna lose a bunch of weight because i'll be living off of crackers!
And tea and crumpets.:oldrazz:

[Canadian Rider]

Watch the chocolate though sister ... they use cream and it has like a bajillion calories ... been there ... eaten that!

[FRUITY]

I hear that.

Cash works. then you can save it and buy something that you otherwise wouldn't get .. a true gift for yourself ... :woot:
:up: I told everyone before my 11th b-day to never buy me gifts anymore, just the cash. :oldrazz: Somehow some people insisted on buying me ugly scarves/cheap mugs/picture frames.

[vibeke_T]

Watch the chocolate though sister ... they use cream and it has like a bajillion calories ... been there ... eaten that!


haha! fortunutely im not too much of a chocolate fan

[Canadian Rider]

They have different sweets over there. I have been to Ireland and they import the sweets from Britain. You can get some of them here in Canada, but they are wicked. They taste much better than ours, but again are more sugary and deadly calorie wise.

All the best on your studies. Enjoy a great time in a great city!

[vibeke_T]

though I'm partial to vanilla ;)

[terry78]

though I'm partial to vanilla ;)
:wow:

[Canadian Rider]

Gulp. First Super Giant Thread ... now Vanilla ... I'm blushing ... lol

[vibeke_T]

Gulp. First Super Giant Thread ... now Vanilla ... I'm blushing ... lol
hehe :meow:

[Superman79]

Holy crap! when did this post go from dating to Skinimax style talk?? :wow:

:D haha

[vibeke_T]

Holy crap! when did this post go from dating to Skinimax style talk?? :wow:

:D haha

well, what can I say? :o

[Canadian Rider]

It's almost midnight ... gulp.

[vibeke_T]

you'd better get some sleep! unless you're a house-husband

[Erzengel]

I would love to be a house husband.

As long as the wife would buy me some exercise equipment, to keep in shape. :up:

[Canadian Rider]

Nope ... hard working sales guy. house Husband sounds good. Question - how do I get an avatar>? Thanks!

[vibeke_T]

I would love to be a house husband.

As long as the wife would buy me some exercise equipment, to keep in shape. :up:


bwahahahaha!!!!

[terry78]

Nope ... hard working sales guy. house Husband sounds good. Question - how do I get an avatar>? Thanks!
The user control panel gives the option to make or use one that's already pre-selected. Don't know if you need a certain amount of posts or what.

[Erzengel]

bwahahahaha!!!!

Instead of watching stories, I'd be playing video games. :up:

[terry78]

Instead of watching stories, I'd be playing video games. :up:
Quit acting like you don't know Passions is the best soap over, girlfriend.

[vibeke_T]

Instead of watching stories, I'd be playing video games. :up:

that sounds fitting for you...games the male version of soaps

[Erzengel]

Nope ... hard working sales guy. house Husband sounds good. Question - how do I get an avatar>? Thanks!

To get a 50 x 50 Avatar you need at least 300 posts.

Then either make your own avatar, have someone make one for you and either host it on like photo host page or upload it from your computer.

After 3,000 Posts you get a 75 x 75 Avatar.

And after 6,000 Posts you get a 100 x 100 Avatar.

[Canadian Rider]

Thanks Erzengel. I will check it out!

[Erzengel]

Quit acting like you don't know Passions is the best soap over, girlfriend.

I only know of 2 soap stars, Susan Lucci and that girl who was on that Dancing with the Stars who had that slamming body.

Okay maybe I only know one soap star.

Oh, is Passions the one where it does the who fantasy, magic type episodes? :huh:

[triplefive]

I try to stay confident, but of course I too have my own insecurities to squash just like anyone else :)
No, most ladies here do not post their own pictures due to the large amount of immature males on this board. It ends up causing too much trouble.
me too! i'm totally okay with myself, but i still look in the mirror every day and go, "ugh this, and this, and this"... nobody's perfect, but it's just a matter of accepting it and embracing it



i posted in the photo album thread just because i just wanted to preempt the is-she-a-he discussion that seemed to be coming, but i have like 5 gigs of pictures on my computer that i'm totally not posting here. i've had myself in my last two avatars too. i figure i'm not cool enough here for anyone to get all weird with my pictures... but i'm really not about to open myself up for that completely either.

superman79 has access to a lot of really awful pictures of me because we have eachother on facebook, which is also how i know he's not that pasty!

[Erzengel]

Send all pics to Erzengel@shh.com.

Kthanx.

[triplefive]

nowai


also, yes, i watched passions in high school and it had like, witchcraft in it

i also remember someone getting fish guts dumped on them, and they kept repeating it over and over again.

[vibeke_T]

dude passions is the bomb! i remember when it first came on

[Superman79]

superman79 has access to a lot of really awful pictures of me because we have eachother on facebook, which is also how i know he's not that pasty!

Nah, I don't think your pics are so bad...now mine on the other hand: :wow::csad:

[Paradoxium]

His girlfriend? :p Seriously though, I'm sure that other countries have completely different outlooks than American women. Our country is SO obsessed with what is "hot" and it has resulted in a lot of insecure people.

I find that in the West (US/UK/Canada), a lot of people dictate life through other people's eyes. To please others, placating in the excess or whatever you want to call it. While this type of action is normal (solidarity), us men are guilty and conditioned into overdoing it. Not just towards women, but to others such as families and employers. For whatever reason, it seems to make these people - who serve to please - ironically "feel empowered". When it is the opposite, if you take a step back. This is the root of insecurity in the west. All this leads to a rather hollow life.

Just look back, maybe mommy and daddy told you to be an engineer but your first love is music. You do what mommy and daddy said, and you feel empowered having met the approval of others. Internally you are not satisfied.

I guess the only way out of this rut is to not give a damn, and go your own way to please yourself instead. But you will need to develop a thick skin to do this.

[kainedamo]

me too! i'm totally okay with myself, but i still look in the mirror every day and go, "ugh this, and this, and this"... nobody's perfect, but it's just a matter of accepting it and embracing it



i posted in the photo album thread just because i just wanted to preempt the is-she-a-he discussion that seemed to be coming, but i have like 5 gigs of pictures on my computer that i'm totally not posting here. i've had myself in my last two avatars too. i figure i'm not cool enough here for anyone to get all weird with my pictures... but i'm really not about to open myself up for that completely either.

superman79 has access to a lot of really awful pictures of me because we have eachother on facebook, which is also how i know he's not that pasty!


I know what you mean. I have posted pictures of myself and the guys here do nothing but hit on me and make crude comments about my hot ass.

[Golgo-13]

Do you find that the older you have gotten the easier it has become to talk to attractive women? (Trying to keep something of the thread alive ... hehehe) :yay:

Thanks to you and everyone for wishing me a happy B-day!

And yeah, the older you get the less intimdated you are by attractive woman, and anything else that you may deem as intimidating.....

..it's why you see alot of older guys with younger HOT girls. It's not that these woman only like older guys and are not interested in guys their age, it's just that the older guys aren't afraid to approach these hotties....

[Golgo-13]

http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m98/Rccarlton/37107_1160716952.jpg

Click here for more. (http://boards.ign.com/babes/b5123/132510759/p1/?31)

Btw...who is this?

[Fried Gold]

Post noodz, plz.

[AndThePickles]

nowai


also, yes, i watched passions in high school and it had like, witchcraft in it

i also remember someone getting fish guts dumped on them, and they kept repeating it over and over again.

Hmm. lol I never got into soaps, the boyfriend has seen more of them than I have! :woot:

[triplefive]

Hmm. lol I never got into soaps, the boyfriend has seen more of them than I have! :woot:
MINE TOO! :dry:

[Canadian Rider]

Victor Newman -- Y and R -- Best line ever.

"You are all upset. Why don't you go sit down and have a hot cup of tea or something ..." Priceless.

[vibeke_T]

Post noodz, plz.


you're fired.

[Canadian Rider]

I see what you ladies mean about the immature men. Yikes.

How is the Duchess of Cool doing tonight? :yay:

[FRUITY]

MINE TOO! :dry:
Where did all of you find your men? :dry:

[vibeke_T]

yes let's hear it

[heypapajinx]

yes let's hear it
yeah!
make with the info!:cmad:

[OverMyHead]

Btw...who is this?

One of the Hype Posters, I believe.

[heypapajinx]

One of the Hype Posters, I believe.
haha!
i would be verys suprised if that were true:whatever:

[AndThePickles]

Where did all of you find your men? :dry:

Met my man at college, through my social club :up:

[triplefive]

Where did all of you find your men? :dry:
i met mine at university, where he was an orientation week coordinator... and then i saw him at a few parties and talked to him.

actually that's a lie, the second time i could probably just barely see/speak/function but i spent the entire time massaging his arm because "he must have been tired from pumping the keg". yeah. not one of my finer moments. wouldn't think that it would lead to a four year-long (and running) relationship.


but to answer this as fruity intended, i picked him up a gay bar :P

[Kyalesyin]

Where did all of you find your men? :dry:

I met my woman online, although we got together properly at a Stone Sour concert.

[The_Dark_Knight]

http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m98/Rccarlton/37107_1160716952.jpg

Click here for more. (http://boards.ign.com/babes/b5123/132510759/p1/?31)


Oh my god...:wow:

Shes perfect!!!

[Anita18]

I find that in the West (US/UK/Canada), a lot of people dictate life through other people's eyes. To please others, placating in the excess or whatever you want to call it. While this type of action is normal (solidarity), us men are guilty and conditioned into overdoing it. Not just towards women, but to others such as families and employers. For whatever reason, it seems to make these people - who serve to please - ironically "feel empowered". When it is the opposite, if you take a step back. This is the root of insecurity in the west. All this leads to a rather hollow life.

Just look back, maybe mommy and daddy told you to be an engineer but your first love is music. You do what mommy and daddy said, and you feel empowered having met the approval of others. Internally you are not satisfied.

I guess the only way out of this rut is to not give a damn, and go your own way to please yourself instead. But you will need to develop a thick skin to do this.
Can I get an amen? (AMEN! Alrighty.)

I guess even though I try to stay out of that, I still find myself subject to it. That or I seem to be wanting to do too many things at once, and then end up doing crap for all of them. Like, I want to go to grad school but that involves studying for/taking the GRE, but I just discovered comics and I want to DRAW but I also can't give up skating since I like it too much (not to mention I need the strength training since I'm losing weight, especially muscle mass. I hate working out and I'm apparently not eating enough either). Oh, did I mention I have a full-time job too? *cry* Never enough hours in the day....

I don't think I'm hideous, but I never get attention from guys. I think there's a pretty logical answer to that though - I never go out. I like staying in and doing my own thing, but I'm apparently into such random things that I never "belong" in any one group either. Oh well.

[heypapajinx]

Met my man at college, through my social club :up:
:cmad:all the guys i meet at college say "hey, i like your tattoos" then i start talking and they say "you're weird" and shake their heads and walk away.

stoopids. they don't know whaty they're missing.:o

[DOG LIPS]

:cmad:all the guys i meet at college say "hey, i like your tattoos" then i start talking and they say "you're weird" and shake their heads and walk away.

stoopids. they don't know whaty they're missing.:o
I'd like to know what they are missing. Come over.

[heypapajinx]

I'd like to know what they are missing. Come over.
or what?
you'll ban me?:cmad:
either way i spend the night tied up in the back seat of a car... i'll take my chances.


:woot:

[Crowforge]

:cmad:all the guys i meet at college say "hey, i like your tattoos" then i start talking and they say "you're weird" and shake their heads and walk away.

stoopids. they don't know whaty they're missing.:o
So now I must see your tattoos...

[SWAT]

When I first see a hot chick I think: "I'm Horny"... Ahem, then I think: "She got to have a boyfriend"

[Angry Sentinel]

^ I'm surprised this hadn't come up before. I've heard a lot of guys say that before. I even remember thinking it a couple of times. This may explain why 'hawt' women's attention get relegated to a rude comment. If most guys are figuring that they already have someone, then wouldn't it stand to reason that mostly jerks would approach the girl.

[Avangarde]

I often find myself just friends with hot women, its normally through work. After working with them I get to know them better and I end up becoming really good friends with them but I never have a relationship with any of them. I'm quite happy like this as well, believe it or not but they are capable of an intelligent conversation.

[Calvin]

I often find myself just friends with hot women, its normally through work. After working with them I get to know them better and I end up becoming really good friends with them but I never have a relationship with any of them. I'm quite happy like this as well, believe it or not but they are capable of an intelligent conversation.
You can't have a conversation with them while dating?

[GoldenAgeHero]

when i find a girl im attracted i really don't have the guts to talk to her. and i walys say to myself maybe shes already taken or maybe she won't like me, i certainly don't have a car nor a job, so why should a girl think im good enough for her?.........

[Calvin]

when i find a girl im attracted i really don't have the guts to talk to her. and i walys say to myself maybe shes already taken or maybe she won't like me, i certainly don't have a car nor a job, so why should a girl think im good enough for her?.........
Cars and jobs don't really factor much into attraction these days. Maybe if you're in the south, I dunno.

I don't get why the "she must have a boyfriend" thing should be that much of a discouragement. I've stolen from, and been stolen from. It doesn't take a lot for a girl to switch from one guy to another.

[terry78]

^That right there is why you don't get anywhere. Maybe they'll walk away if you say you have no car or a job, maybe not. May as well jump into the fray instead of just standing on the sidelines. I go up to girls I feel won't give me the time of day all the time, but I also work in the sales industry so that mentality is pretty much embedded. :o

[Honey Vibe]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.
...But you don't do that. Right?