"Dateless" Attractive Women

[PyroChamber]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.

[samurai black]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.

Yeah, i think it's more of a men THEY LIKE aren't asking them out enough. It's sort of like when kids say there's nothing to eat in the house, but the fridge is full of stuff, just not junk food or stuff they want to eat.

[Erzengel]

Do you know a lot of women who go to the bars or clubs by themselves? It's cause a lot of them go with other firends. They travel in packs. It's not easy as a guy to walk into the lion's den to ask a girl out/buy them a drink/get a number.

Then if a woman is very attractive that could also be very intimidating for men as well.

It's always a bs reason.

[KenK]

I was at my detist back in February, and telling her about how I was taking my girlfriend out for Valentine's Day, and she was lamenting 'cause she didn't have anyone to share it with. And I was like, WHAT?!?! See, what you have to understand is that my dentist is hot as hell! She's a bit on the skinny side for me, but other than that, nice eyes, sexy lips, good teeth(She's a dentist, no excuse for anything but), how could she not have anyone?

[terry78]

Attractive women never, ever go out by themselves. They know they'll get pounced on. If I hear one more girl say, "guys never hit on me," she gets an open handed slap in the mouth. :o Every girl, from the hideous to the hottest, gets hit on because men are desparate to get sex. I've seen females that look like straight gargoyles get attention.

The only way to really do a litmus test is to try and hit up a girl at a place other than a party scene, like at a store such as a Borders or something. The fact that she's looking at books is already an icebreaker.

[KormanRogers]

Do you know a lot of women who go to the bars or clubs by themselves? It's cause a lot of them go with other firends. They travel in packs. It's not easy as a guy to walk into the lion's den to ask a girl out/buy them a drink/get a number.

Then if a woman is very attractive that could also be very intimidating for men as well.

It's always a bs reason.

Yea I have been down that road.

Oh and Im new here.

[vibeke_T]

Attractive women never, ever go out by themselves. They know they'll get pounced on. If I hear one more girl say, "guys never hit on me," she gets an open handed slap in the mouth. :o Every girl, from the hideous to the hottest, gets hit on because men are desparate to get sex. I've seen females that look like straight gargoyles get attention.

The only way to really do a litmus test is to try and hit up a girl at a place other than a party scene, like at a store such as a Borders or something. The fact that she's looking at books is already an icebreaker.


no one hits on me!

[vibeke_T]

Yea I have been down that road.

Oh and Im new here.


welcome

[terry78]

no one hits on me!
*smack* =P

You got skills though. They're intimidated by your moves.

[triplefive]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.
It's all about quality, not quantity :up:

[PyroChamber]

Every girl, from the hideous to the hottest, gets hit on because men are desparate to get sex. I've seen females that look like straight gargoyles get attention.Meanwhile, men who are either average or below sometimes get no female attention at all.

[chamber-music]

I belive everyones attractive to somebody. I mean I've seen guys and girls who are ugly as sin but they still have a partner.

[November Rain]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.

realistically it would be a combination of both.

[KormanRogers]

Women are a strange bunch to figure out. Just when u think you figured them out, they do a switch-roo.

[vibeke_T]

*smack* =P

You got skills though. They're intimidated by your moves.

maybe

[SoulManX]

no one hits on me!

Helloooo Nurse!

[vibeke_T]

ha thanks

[SoulManX]

Some of those Attractive women are not to bright...

To find one with some brains and likes comics, basketball, movies, etc. That is a real gem.

[terry78]

ha thanks
I know the waiter or waitress was trying to get those digits when you went out last night for your birthday.

[vibeke_T]

I know the waiter or waitress was trying to get those digits when you went out last night for your birthday.

lmao NO they werent...i was ogling the owner

[terry78]

Some of those Attractive women are not to bright...

To find one with some brains and likes comics, basketball, movies, etc. That is a real gem.
But are you sacrificing attractiveness for brains, or vice versa? There are people that have both. I think we immediately assume if they're into geeky stuff, they're butt ugly, which ain't the case.

[SoulManX]

lmao NO they werent...i was ogling the owner

Smart move.....

[vibeke_T]

Some of those Attractive women are not to bright...

To find one with some brains and likes comics, basketball, movies, etc. That is a real gem.


not so much a fan of basketball even though it is the negro sport of choice

[terry78]

lmao NO they werent...i was ogling the owner
And his name was Caleb, wasn't it?

See ya'll later, need to get back to actually doing work as opposed to pretending.

[SoulManX]

But are you sacrificing attractiveness for brains, or vice versa? There are people that have both. I think we immediately assume if they're into geeky stuff, they're butt ugly, which ain't the case.

I date very nice looking women...great in the sack...yet a sack of marbles for brains. The convo with these ladies makes my head hurt.

[SoulManX]

not so much a fan of basketball even though it is the negro sport of choice

Spend a night with the Knight. Watching college b-ball you will love it...

[vibeke_T]

And his name was Caleb, wasn't it?

See ya'll later, need to get back to actually doing work as opposed to pretending.


nah man.

[vibeke_T]

Spend a night with the Knight. Watching college b-ball you will love it...
haha

[SoulManX]

haha

haha good or bad :ninja:

[PyroChamber]

But are you sacrificing attractiveness for brains, or vice versa? There are people that have both. I think we immediately assume if they're into geeky stuff, they're butt ugly, which ain't the case.That's true, but they really are hard to find though. The only attractive geeky woman I know of is Blair Butler.

[vibeke_T]

not bad

[SoulManX]

not bad

:word:Nice...

[kane9321]

I've dated some nice lookin women,but sad to say most of them were dumb as rocks:(

[Morg]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.


Hell I have asked alot of beautiful woman out for a date and even asked a model once and she said yes! :woot:

[Kyalesyin]

I never used to get hit on. You know why?

I asked a guy once, and he said "you're too pretty love. You wouldn't be interested."

Worse than being called a moose if you ask me.

[thewhitequeen]

I think what women mean, is that while drunk idiots will stumble up and try to shove their tongue down her throat, men rarely walk up to beautiful women with flowers and champagin and tell her she the most amazing creature on earth and will she please acompany them to a romantic dinner on the beach.

Besides, alot of girls don't know whena guy is hitting on them in a non club/bar scene. Yano, don't fully consider the cute guy who talks to them every day in class as someone hitting on them.

[Sensi]

The dateless attractive lady is the one that wants your heart.

[triplefive]

I think what women mean, is that while drunk idiots will stumble up and try to shove their tongue down her throat, men rarely walk up to beautiful women with flowers and champagin and tell her she the most amazing creature on earth and will she please acompany them to a romantic dinner on the beach.
I don't give guys who hit on me at the bar the time of day. Granted, I've had a boyfriend almost the entire time I've been going to bars.

I'd run away from a guy who walked up to me with flowers and champagne and spewed off "romantic" ramblings if I didn't know him.
Besides, alot of girls don't know whena guy is hitting on them in a non club/bar scene. Yano, don't fully consider the cute guy who talks to them every day in class as someone hitting on them.I would think that the cute guy talking to me every day in class was hitting on me if we weren't already friends.

There was this guy in one of my classes who pretty much stared at me all class, and then finally towards the end of the year, during the class break he walked up to me and asked, "Are you Japanese?" I still can't tell if that was supposed to be a pickup line or not. Either way, I acted like a ***** and he never tried to speak to me again. Still stared though. :shrug: Anyway.

[SoulManX]

I don't give guys who hit on me at the bar the time of day. Granted, I've had a boyfriend almost the entire time I've been going to bars.

I'd run away from a guy who walked up to me with flowers and champagne and spewed off "romantic" ramblings if I didn't know him.
I would think that the cute guy talking to me every day in class was hitting on me if we weren't already friends.

There was this guy in one of my classes who pretty much stared at me all class, and then finally towards the end of the year, during the class break he walked up to me and asked, "Are you Japanese?" I still can't tell if that was supposed to be a pickup line or not. Either way, I acted like a ***** and he never tried to speak to me again. Still stared though. :shrug: Anyway.

So the question is when is the right to step to a lady?

[thewhitequeen]

I don't give guys who hit on me at the bar the time of day. Granted, I've had a boyfriend almost the entire time I've been going to bars.

Yeah me either. They're skeezy


I'd run away from a guy who walked up to me with flowers and champagne and spewed off "romantic" ramblings if I didn't know him.
I would think that the cute guy talking to me every day in class was hitting on me if we weren't already friends.

I guess I was just fantasising for a second. Also, I deffinatly get guys who talk to me in class alot. I'm not stunning or anything so I think I look approachable. Now that I think about it, I think that guys level of comfort hitting on girls has more to do with how funny or relaxed girls are oppose to how attractive they are.

[triplefive]

So the question is when is the right to step to a lady?
Definitely.

Most of the girls I know wouldn't even talk to a random guy who walked up to them at a bar unless he was a friend of a friend at the very least -- unless they were feeling a particular way and wanted a random hookup that night.

The assumption we work on is that guys at bars only want one thing anyway. And unless the girl is also looking for that one thing...

[thewhitequeen]

Definitely.

Most of the girls I know wouldn't even talk to a random guy who walked up to them at a bar unless he was a friend of a friend at the very least -- unless they were feeling a particular way and wanted a random hookup that night.

The assumption we work on is that guys at bars only want one thing anyway. And unless the girl is also looking for that one thing...

Truth. Most guys don't realize that the real world isn't like "The Real World"

[Kyalesyin]

I hate it when people can't see a wedding ring you know... when I didn't wear one, I hardly got noticed in a club. I just got a night of hassle-free dancing. Since I've been married, I've had them all over me. What is it with guys and married girls?

[SoulManX]

I hate it when people can't see a wedding ring you know... when I didn't wear one, I hardly got noticed in a club. I just got a night of hassle-free dancing. Since I've been married, I've had them all over me. What is it with guys and married girls?

See it quite different I get hit on by married older women from my job. Been down that road before don't want to do that again.

[DV8]

I would think that the cute guy talking to me every day in class was hitting on me if we weren't already friends.

if you are a fairly attractive woman, and a heterosexual male is talking to you; whether anybody on these boards wants to admit it or not, he'd rather be hitting it than be 'friends' . . . . carrying on a regular conversation is the best pick-up line, afterall . . . but a lot of guys don't know when to switch off the 'friendly talk' for the real 'game' (which is 'player-talk' for all you squares :D)


There was this guy in one of my classes who pretty much stared at me all class, and then finally towards the end of the year, during the class break he walked up to me and asked, "Are you Japanese?" I still can't tell if that was supposed to be a pickup line or not. Either way, I acted like a ***** and he never tried to speak to me again. Still stared though. :shrug: Anyway.

that guy was a dumb-@$$ . . . he didn't care if you were japanese or not . . . he just didn't know how to approach you . . . you came to the right thread :up:

[Chris Wallace]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.
A woman I once dated said that men by & large didn't approach her, & when they did they usually said something stupid/diesrespectful. Later that same day, while we were walking down the street, a guy stuck his head out of a car (passenger side) window & yelled something about her anatomy, which he apparently thought had escaped her attention & needed to be pointed out to her.

[samurai black]

I think what women mean, is that while drunk idiots will stumble up and try to shove their tongue down her throat, men rarely walk up to beautiful women with flowers and champagin and tell her she the most amazing creature on earth and will she please acompany them to a romantic dinner on the beach.

Besides, alot of girls don't know whena guy is hitting on them in a non club/bar scene. Yano, don't fully consider the cute guy who talks to them every day in class as someone hitting on them.

I think that when it's the club/bar scene many women put on their "sharon stone" persona and try to act as stuck up as possible and forget that they are regular human beings just like the men they tend to try and put down. They become extremeley picky and snobbish and most times miss out on great guys. Before i was married, i met plenty of attractive women in the club/bar scene. But it does take someone with a strong personality to overcome that. And in class, it's not the sharon stone persona but "martha stewart"(pre-jail) persona so it's not the real them either. I would say the best chance men have at being able to talk to the "dateless" attractive woman is somewhere neutral, like at a supermarket, or the dry cleaners, car wash, the park (dog walking). A place where she isn't suspecting a request

[thewhitequeen]

I think that when it's the club/bar scene many women put on their "sharon stone" persona and try to act as stuck up as possible and forget that they are regular human beings just like the men they tend to try and put down. They become extremeley picky and snobbish and most times miss out on great guys. Before i was married, i met plenty of attractive women in the club/bar scene. But it does take someone with a strong personality to overcome that. And in class, it's not the sharon stone persona but "martha stewart"(pre-jail) persona so it's not the real them either. I would say the best chance men have at being able to talk to the "dateless" attractive woman is somewhere neutral, like at a supermarket, or the dry cleaners, car wash, the park (dog walking). A place where she isn't suspecting a request

In clubs I have on my "please don't rape me" persona. By and large, though, I'd say I'm pretty normal in class. I only take on my martha stewart persona when I wanna do something special for my honey honey.

[thewhitequeen]

I think that when it's the club/bar scene many women put on their "sharon stone" persona and try to act as stuck up as possible and forget that they are regular human beings just like the men they tend to try and put down. They become extremeley picky and snobbish and most times miss out on great guys. Before i was married, i met plenty of attractive women in the club/bar scene. But it does take someone with a strong personality to overcome that. And in class, it's not the sharon stone persona but "martha stewart"(pre-jail) persona so it's not the real them either. I would say the best chance men have at being able to talk to the "dateless" attractive woman is somewhere neutral, like at a supermarket, or the dry cleaners, car wash, the park (dog walking). A place where she isn't suspecting a request

In clubs I have on my "please don't rape me" persona. By and large, though, I'd say I'm pretty normal in class. I only take on my martha stewart persona when I wanna do something special for my honey honey.

[Chris Wallace]

I think that when it's the club/bar scene many women put on their "sharon stone" persona and try to act as stuck up as possible and forget that they are regular human beings just like the men they tend to try and put down. They become extremeley picky and snobbish and most times miss out on great guys. Before i was married, i met plenty of attractive women in the club/bar scene. But it does take someone with a strong personality to overcome that. And in class, it's not the sharon stone persona but "martha stewart"(pre-jail) persona so it's not the real them either. I would say the best chance men have at being able to talk to the "dateless" attractive woman is somewhere neutral, like at a supermarket, or the dry cleaners, car wash, the park (dog walking). A place where she isn't suspecting a request
I met my first wife in a club. I think that's the worst place to start a relationship b/c a lot of the time, they're on the prowl just like you. I met my wife on the train.

[twylight]

I've seen females that look like straight gargoyles get attention.


That's the last time I go with you to the club. :o

[GunBlade]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.
Yes I know a couple. Drop dead gorgeous but never been in a relationship.

[danielisthor]

*smack* =P

You got skills though. They're intimidated by your moves.


I'm intimidated by the fact she's a Nubian Goddess. :csad:

[SoulManX]

I'm intimidated by the fact she's a Nubian Goddess. :csad:

Im not:yay:

[Babs Gordon]

Whether I talk to a guy or give out a number has to do with how intriguing they are. Looks aren't as important as being really friendly, genuine, confident and interesting. They do factor in though, no human being can deny that.

[Erzengel]

I set up an elaborate distraction to seperate the woman from the rest of her female herd. Than when it's time is right I slowly stalk the girl until it's the time to pounce. :up:

[zanos]

I don't give guys who hit on me at the bar the time of day. Granted, I've had a boyfriend almost the entire time I've been going to bars.

I'd run away from a guy who walked up to me with flowers and champagne and spewed off "romantic" ramblings if I didn't know him.
I would think that the cute guy talking to me every day in class was hitting on me if we weren't already friends.

There was this guy in one of my classes who pretty much stared at me all class, and then finally towards the end of the year, during the class break he walked up to me and asked, "Are you Japanese?" I still can't tell if that was supposed to be a pickup line or not. Either way, I acted like a ***** and he never tried to speak to me again. Still stared though. :shrug: Anyway.


I didn't mean to stare. I just really needed to know if you were japanese or not.

[GunBlade]

Physically attractive doesn't mean people are all over them.

Neither does it mean person who is considered unfortunate looking can't find a date. I know guys that have minds and personalities I find very attractive but physically, they're not my type.

Basically, it all comes down to the individual. Whether they're willing to overlook the physical for more important things is up to them.

[terry78]

That's the last time I go with you to the club. :o
Quit stalking me. Besides, I don't do the club scene...I was just there for a hooker anyway.

[kainedamo]

I think that when it's the club/bar scene many women put on their "sharon stone" persona and try to act as stuck up as possible and forget that they are regular human beings just like the men they tend to try and put down. They become extremeley picky and snobbish and most times miss out on great guys. Before i was married, i met plenty of attractive women in the club/bar scene. But it does take someone with a strong personality to overcome that. And in class, it's not the sharon stone persona but "martha stewart"(pre-jail) persona so it's not the real them either. I would say the best chance men have at being able to talk to the "dateless" attractive woman is somewhere neutral, like at a supermarket, or the dry cleaners, car wash, the park (dog walking). A place where she isn't suspecting a request

I completely agree with you. It is IMPOSSIBLE to pick up girls in clubs. I've lost count of the amount of girls who said they had a boyfriend. And then, sometimes, you look over and see a total douche hit on them and he scores. And I'm like, just because he has floppy hair and doesn't have acne he's better than me??

[kainedamo]

Whether I talk to a guy or give out a number has to do with how intriguing they are. Looks aren't as important as being really friendly, genuine, confident and interesting. They do factor in though, no human being can deny that.


It's my experience that guys that are extremely confident when it comes to talking to girls they don't know are smarmy and fake. Like Andy Train, a guy that was my arch nemesis for awhile. He was my arch nemesis, 'cause he was a complete ******* and yet nearly everyone else thought he was fantastic - especially girls. Most people literally worshipped the ground he walked on, but there was a few people that could see right through him. He's smarmy and fake.

[Asteroid-Man]

please, I can pick up any biatch

[SoulManX]

please, I can pick up any biatch

Way to go Casnova:o

[britrogue]

I'm attractive, and I'm single. I wouldn't say that nobody ever hits on me, but unfortunately, I really have no interest in guys who just come up to me and go "God, your tits are huge!"
Nobody ever comes up to me anymore and just "talks" to me, like I'm a human being. I just get shouted remarks about the size of my chest and publically asked "Fancy a shag?" by total strangers. It really gets me down. The problem is, most guys aren't gentlemen anymore. I don't expect all the door opening crap, but to be spoken to with a little bit of class would be nice.

[twylight]

Quit stalking me. Besides, I don't do the club scene...I was just there for a hooker anyway.

You're the one who called me a gargoyle. :oldrazz:

[SoulManX]

I'm attractive, and I'm single. I wouldn't say that nobody ever hits on me, but unfortunately, I really have no interest in guys who just come up to me and go "God, your tits are huge!"
Nobody ever comes up to me anymore and just "talks" to me, like I'm a human being. I just get shouted remarks about the size of my chest and publically asked "Fancy a shag?" by total strangers. It really gets me down. The problem is, most guys aren't gentlemen anymore. I don't expect all the door opening crap, but to be spoken to with a little bit of class would be nice.

Yes my gender can be down right rude....for that Im sorry it happens to you.:csad:

[Fried Gold]

LOL The only reason anyone goes to nightclub is to get AIDS, not to find a meaningful relationship.

[Fried Gold]

Yes my gender can be down right rude....for that Im sorry it happens to you.:csad:http://secretunicornsforum.com/forum/images/smiles/kidsthesedays.jpg

[Childlike Wild]

I would say the best chance men have at being able to talk to the "dateless" attractive woman is somewhere neutral, like at a supermarket...
A guy came up to me in the grocery store last Saturday night. (Yes, I was shopping on Saturday. It's an exciting non-single life I lead.) I'm staring at the boxes of tissues, and he asks me first what music I'm listening to (iPod), and then if I've met anyone in a grocery store.

I said no, and the answer remains no. I'm not your grocery store whore, guy.


PS: It's the quality of the men doing the asking. It's not a turn-on to see them looking at you like you have "SEX" written on your forehead.

[kainedamo]

I'm attractive, and I'm single. I wouldn't say that nobody ever hits on me, but unfortunately, I really have no interest in guys who just come up to me and go "God, your tits are huge!"
Nobody ever comes up to me anymore and just "talks" to me, like I'm a human being. I just get shouted remarks about the size of my chest and publically asked "Fancy a shag?" by total strangers. It really gets me down. The problem is, most guys aren't gentlemen anymore. I don't expect all the door opening crap, but to be spoken to with a little bit of class would be nice.

Christ, where do you live??

Actually, I think you'd get jerks like that anywhere :(

But I think guys like that are a minority. They're just rude pigs that are insecure about themselves so they have to be *******s to get some laughs from their buddies.

[SoulManX]

Christ, where do you live??

Actually, I think you'd get jerks like that anywhere :(

But I think guys like that are a minority. They're just rude pigs that are insecure about themselves so they have to be *******s to get some laughs from their buddies.

One bad apple...:o

[November Rain]

I'm attractive, and I'm single. I wouldn't say that nobody ever hits on me, but unfortunately, I really have no interest in guys who just come up to me and go "God, your tits are huge!"
Nobody ever comes up to me anymore and just "talks" to me, like I'm a human being. I just get shouted remarks about the size of my chest and publically asked "Fancy a shag?" by total strangers. It really gets me down. The problem is, most guys aren't gentlemen anymore. I don't expect all the door opening crap, but to be spoken to with a little bit of class would be nice.Generally I find that if you approach men and set the tone for the conversation, you don't get this problem or even when you catch these previously over spoken men on a one-on-one where they aren't trying to impress their friends with male bravado they can be fairly different.

also no one likes to hear this but do you think the way you dress perhaps may have something to do with it? Do you wear clothes out that significantly point out your cleavage more than other garments?

It's not really an issue if you do, but if some men who genuinely like you see you reacting to other men whatever thier method of approach is, they are less likely to try. Nobody wants to go up and talk with a moodypants.

you are ultimately in control of what type of response you get out of people and you have the power to change it. When you go out, you have a right to enjoy it and feel just as sexy as everyone else, don't be forced into a pidgeon hole by loud mouthed men who are only looking for a reaction.

[kainedamo]

I don't think it's very fair how, when it comes to the dating game, women are far more superior than men.

Men do all the "hunting". Girls can have their pick. Men HAVE to come across as interesting, charming, and confident all in the first conversation he has with the woman. If he can't do that, the woman instantly considers him not good enough to give him even the time of day. Women can afford to be picky (often TOO picky, which oddly enough means they end up with a-holes) and men cannot afford to be picky at all.

A good example of women being what I consider too picky is here in this thread from a couple of examples the women have given.

Girls, you have to understand this. It takes balls - massive, massive balls - to approach a girl. Any girl. If she's attractive, then his cajones must be insanely large. And 9 out of 10 times, you shoot us down. Shattering our confidence for another year, until we work up our balls big enough to ask someone else out.

[Fried Gold]

I don't think it's very fair how, when it comes to the dating game, women are far more superior than men.

Men do all the "hunting". Girls can have their pick. Men HAVE to come across as interesting, charming, and confident all in the first conversation he has with the woman. If he can't do that, the woman instantly considers him not good enough to give him even the time of day. Women can afford to be picky (often TOO picky, which oddly enough means they end up with a-holes) and men cannot afford to be picky at all.

A good example of women being what I consider too picky is here in this thread from a couple of examples the women have given.

Girls, you have to understand this. It takes balls - massive, massive balls - to approach a girl. Any girl. If she's attractive, then his cajones must be insanely large. And 9 out of 10 times, you shoot us down. Shattering our confidence for another year, until we work up our balls big enough to ask someone else out.Agreed.

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[November Rain]

I don't think it's very fair how, when it comes to the dating game, women are far more superior than men.

Men do all the "hunting". Girls can have their pick. Men HAVE to come across as interesting, charming, and confident all in the first conversation he has with the woman. If he can't do that, the woman instantly considers him not good enough to give him even the time of day. Women can afford to be picky (often TOO picky, which oddly enough means they end up with a-holes) and men cannot afford to be picky at all.

A good example of women being what I consider too picky is here in this thread from a couple of examples the women have given.

Girls, you have to understand this. It takes balls - massive, massive balls - to approach a girl. Any girl. If she's attractive, then his cajones must be insanely large. And 9 out of 10 times, you shoot us down. Shattering our confidence for another year, until we work up our balls big enough to ask someone else out.you've never been approached by a woman, have you?

[kainedamo]

Generally I find that if you approach men and set the tone for the conversation, you don't get this problem or even when you catch these previously over spoken men on a one-on-one where they aren't trying to impress their friends with male bravado they can be fairly different.

This is a situation where I don't think the girl is being too picky. If a guy is coming off with "fancy a shag" type comments or shouting from their car "your tits are huge", these guys are jerks. Plain and simple. I don't care how nice they are one on one, they're still jerks. What kind of immature ******* is so insecure he has to yell out rude comments at women?

also no one likes to hear this but do you think the way you dress perhaps may have something to do with it? Do you wear clothes out that significantly point out your cleavage more than other garments?

I do think the way you dress does attract certain kinds of men. I do think very revealing clothing can scare off nice guys. But ya can be classy and sexy at the same time.

It's not really an issue if you do, but if some men who genuinely like you see you reacting to other men whatever thier method of approach is, they are less likely to try. Nobody wants to go up and talk with a moodypants.

you are ultimately in control of what type of response you get out of people and you have the power to change it. When you go out, you have a right to enjoy it and feel just as sexy as everyone else, don't be forced into a pidgeon hole by loud mouthed men who are only looking for a reaction.

I don't think the fault lies at the girl if guys are rude ***** at all. They're gonna be rude ***** no matter what. I have several female friends, all of which have told me of stories of rude ***** yelling sexual stuff from their cars. And none of my female friends dress revealingly that often.

[SoulManX]

I don't think it's very fair how, when it comes to the dating game, women are far more superior than men.

Men do all the "hunting". Girls can have their pick. Men HAVE to come across as interesting, charming, and confident all in the first conversation he has with the woman. If he can't do that, the woman instantly considers him not good enough to give him even the time of day. Women can afford to be picky (often TOO picky, which oddly enough means they end up with a-holes) and men cannot afford to be picky at all.

A good example of women being what I consider too picky is here in this thread from a couple of examples the women have given.

Girls, you have to understand this. It takes balls - massive, massive balls - to approach a girl. Any girl. If she's attractive, then his cajones must be insanely large. And 9 out of 10 times, you shoot us down. Shattering our confidence for another year, until we work up our balls big enough to ask someone else out.

Well put ol Chap....

[kainedamo]

you've never been approached by a woman, have you?


One time, I thought a really hot girl was hitting on me. She was asking my name, asking what interests I had, that type of thing. Then she says "my friend thinks you're really cute. Do you wanna talk to him?". Him?? HIM??? And she points to some dude.

[SoulManX]

One time, I thought a really hot girl was hitting on me. She was asking my name, asking what interests I had, that type of thing. Then she says "my friend thinks you're really cute. Do you wanna talk to him?". Him?? HIM??? And she points to some dude.

http://img416.imageshack.us/img416/9402/dvdkissofdeath01it6.jpg (http://imageshack.us)

[kainedamo]

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I've been hit on by several gay guys. Never been hit on by any women.

Does that say something about the attitude of women in this day and age?

[britrogue]

Generally I find that if you approach men and set the tone for the conversation, you don't get this problem or even when you catch these previously over spoken men on a one-on-one where they aren't trying to impress their friends with male bravado they can be fairly different.

also no one likes to hear this but do you think the way you dress perhaps may have something to do with it? Do you wear clothes out that significantly point out your cleavage more than other garments?

It's not really an issue if you do, but if some men who genuinely like you see you reacting to other men whatever thier method of approach is, they are less likely to try. Nobody wants to go up and talk with a moodypants.

you are ultimately in control of what type of response you get out of people and you have the power to change it. When you go out, you have a right to enjoy it and feel just as sexy as everyone else, don't be forced into a pidgeon hole by loud mouthed men who are only looking for a reaction.

I never react to it. It just makes me very unhappy, and I usually go home if it happens too much. Last time I went out, I went out wearing black trousers and a red t-shirt. Sometimes I get it when walking down the road in my work uniform.
Should I respond then? Maybe ask them very politely why they are talking to me like this?

[kainedamo]

I never react to it. It just makes me very unhappy, and I usually go home if it happens too much. Last time I went out, I went out wearing black trousers and a red t-shirt. Sometimes I get it when walking down the road in my work uniform.
Should I respond then? Maybe ask them very politely why they are talking to me like this?


It depends. If they're doing it from a passing car, you can only ignore them. But if you're somwhere where you can talk to them face to face, say in a cinema or a restaurant, I'd talk to them. And I wouldn't do it politely. I'd go over to them, get in their face, and confront them all scary like.

What you could also do is have a guy friend with you, and have him talk to them.

[Calvin]

I've been hit on by several gay guys. Never been hit on by any women.

Does that say something about the attitude of women in this day and age?
Just that they're smarter?

[SoulManX]

I've been hit on by several gay guys. Never been hit on by any women.

Does that say something about the attitude of women in this day and age?

I have no answer:ninja:

[November Rain]

This is a situation where I don't think the girl is being too picky. If a guy is coming off with "fancy a shag" type comments or shouting from their car "your tits are huge", these guys are jerks. Plain and simple. I don't care how nice they are one on one, they're still jerks. What kind of immature ******* is so insecure he has to yell out rude comments at women?but what normally happens in a situation like this is that people who are on the receiving end merely take it and it obviously affects them otherwise they wouldnt mention it later on. If someoene is disrespecting you, go up to them and make an issue of it, or happily disrespect them back instead of being mad the victim.


I don't think the fault lies at the girl if guys are rude ***** at all. They're gonna be rude ***** no matter what. I have several female friends, all of which have told me of stories of rude ***** yelling sexual stuff from their cars. And none of my female friends dress revealingly that often.anyone that is in a predicament that bothers them where they are in a reoccuring situation that they can easily get out of is partly to blame for it.

It doesn't take any effort to cut someone down to size, the majority of men i would say are far less secure than women. As you've brought up (although kinda inaccurate), a knockback can leave a bloke unsettled for a given period of time.

any loud mouthed man that has been properly put in his placed and openly laughed at by a group of women will think twice before letting his yapper go.

my sister doesn't take crap from anyone or anything and she's gorgeous. She knows how to play the game because she knows how to manipulate the players involved. Once mastered, life becomes simple.

The same thing can be related to anyone who has ever been bullied and managed to get themselves out of that situation, for the rest of their days they'll never get bullied again because they know now not to take **** from anyone.

[kainedamo]

I have been hit on by one girl. Just the one.

When I was at a house party, at Vicki's friends house. There was this girl that came in, Vicki didn't know her. She was sitting next to me and starts talking to me. This girl wasn't attractive. She was big, frumpy, with ugly piercings all over her ears, and she was fat. She was also very obnoxious. So she's talking to me, and she's just being an annoying *****. She keeps saying stuff like "I'm a genuine rock chick!! I listen to rock music!! Alot of girls pretend to like rock, but I'm genuine!!" And I just kept rolling my eyes... or thinking about rolling my eyes. Without asking me if I wanted to see it, she rolled up her top to show me a tattoo on her back.

Her attitude was what put me off the most. I politely listened to her for as long as I could bear it, and then I went to the toilet. When I came back, I sat somewhere else. This actually pissed her off, and she came over to start annoying me. She actually got angry that I didn't fancy her! Thankfully, she left later that night.

And the thing about this is... if it were reversed... if I arrived at a house party and sat next to a girl and tried to talk to her, she'd decide in my first sentence if I'm worth her time, and she'd make an excuse or just turn her back to me. I gave that girl a chance to talk, at least.

I think you can all see how jaded from knockbacks I've become.

[Fried Gold]

I never react to it. It just makes me very unhappy, and I usually go home if it happens too much. Last time I went out, I went out wearing black trousers and a red t-shirt. Sometimes I get it when walking down the road in my work uniform.
Should I respond then? Maybe ask them very politely why they are talking to me like this?Personally, I can't see what the issue is. Sure, these guys are obnoxious and rude, but they are taking time out of their own day to admire what you have. I think some people would kill for that. I can't help but feel that any sort of rise from yourself would only exacerbate things.

[SoulManX]

I have been hit on by one girl. Just the one.

When I was at a house party, at Vicki's friends house. There was this girl that came in, Vicki didn't know her. She was sitting next to me and starts talking to me. This girl wasn't attractive. She was big, frumpy, with ugly piercings all over her ears, and she was fat. She was also very obnoxious. So she's talking to me, and she's just being an annoying *****. She keeps saying stuff like "I'm a genuine rock chick!! I listen to rock music!! Alot of girls pretend to like rock, but I'm genuine!!" And I just kept rolling my eyes... or thinking about rolling my eyes. Without asking me if I wanted to see it, she rolled up her top to show me a tattoo on her back.

Her attitude was what put me off the most. I politely listened to her for as long as I could bear it, and then I went to the toilet. When I came back, I sat somewhere else. This actually pissed her off, and she came over to start annoying me. She actually got angry that I didn't fancy her! Thankfully, she left later that night.


maybe she was horny?

[SoulManX]

Personally, I can't see what the issue is. Sure, these guys are obnoxious and rude, but they are taking time out of their own day to admire what you have. I think some people would kill for that. I can't help but feel that storming over for a harsh word would only exacerbate things.

Tact can be your best friend....

[November Rain]

I never react to it. It just makes me very unhappy, and I usually go home if it happens too much. Last time I went out, I went out wearing black trousers and a red t-shirt. Sometimes I get it when walking down the road in my work uniform.
Should I respond then? Maybe ask them very politely why they are talking to me like this?Well that's the reason why then...

you've played the victim and let them win.

You don't react to it if it doesn't bother you. If it does, comfront them, there is no reason why they should put a spoiler on your night.

just a very sharp 'EXCUSE ME, DO YOU MIND?' while maintaining very intense aggressive eye contact will put any man in their place.

what would you do/say if you hear a man making comments about your (hyptothetical) teenage daughter? Something very similar i imagine.

Just stand up for yourself, it's very liberating.

[Calvin]

Personally, I can't see what the issue is. Sure, these guys are obnoxious and rude, but they are taking time out of their own day to admire what you have. I think some people would kill for that.
I can't help but feel that people who frequently complain about getting hit on are only doing so as a way to clamor for even more attention.

[Fried Gold]

Tact can be your best friend....http://img527.imageshack.us/img527/7170/2l8di55mp4.jpg

[SoulManX]

http://img527.imageshack.us/img527/7170/2l8di55mp4.jpg

FG u rock:up:

[Daisy]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.

I think you're just angry because they won't go out with you. :oldrazz:

Seriously though, it is a problem.

If an attractive woman goes to a bar or club alone the general thought is "she's looking to get laid", so she doesn't.

And in lots of places men don't approach them... period. Someone used the bookstore example. Yes, it lends itself to an opening - talking about the books she's browsing at, but I can say from experience, not a lot of men approach an attractive woman browsing in the physics section.

And so what if it's a matter of the the few men that do approach are men they don't like? Are they supposed to go out with a guy just because he approaches her. Considering some of the 'prize-winning' specimins that have approached me (think Deuce Bigelo with a mullet and dressed in diarrhea-colored naugahide - one must give the guy an A+ in the self-esteem category though :woot: ), I'd say not.

[britrogue]

Personally, I can't see what the issue is. Sure, these guys are obnoxious and rude, but they are taking time out of their own day to admire what you have. I think some people would kill for that. I can't help but feel that any sort of rise from yourself would only exacerbate things.

But it's disrespectful. It embarasses me because it's publically making other people look as well. If I'm dressed up I can deal with it, but I really get upset when all I'm doing is wandering about in my work uniform, and basically getting spoken to like a cheap ****.

[Fried Gold]

But it's disrespectful. It embarasses me because it's publically making other people look as well. If I'm dressed up I can deal with it, but I really get upset when all I'm doing is wandering about in my work uniform, and basically getting spoken to like a cheap ****.I understand and sympathise, but dudes like that thrive on reaction. Would you really want to stop and have a conversation with them about it?

[Ronny Shade]

This is a situation where I don't think the girl is being too picky. If a guy is coming off with "fancy a shag" type comments or shouting from their car "your tits are huge", these guys are jerks. Plain and simple. I don't care how nice they are one on one, they're still jerks. What kind of immature ******* is so insecure he has to yell out rude comments at women?
What's so rude about saying "your tits are huge?" It's a compliment:huh:

[Halcohol]

That's almost sig-worthy, Ronny.

[terry78]

What's so rude about saying "your tits are huge?" It's a compliment:huh:
You're all right, Ronny. You are all right.:woot:

I guess if a girl came up to one of us and said, "your package is huge" we'd be beaming for days.

[Lackey]

When I approach a girl, I usually just whip it out and say "Hey babe, you want to sit on this?"

I don't got time for games. :o

[Calvin]

But it's disrespectful. It embarasses me because it's publically making other people look as well. If I'm dressed up I can deal with it, but I really get upset when all I'm doing is wandering about in my work uniform, and basically getting spoken to like a cheap ****.
Admit it, you secretly love it.

[Lackey]

You're all right, Ronny. You are all right.:woot:

I guess if a girl came up to one of us and said, "your package is huge" we'd be beaming for days.


don't let them fool you, women beam for days too even when they are crudely complimented

[terry78]

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[terry78]

If you're looking to get some ass, you go to the club on the weekend(or weeknight if you're feeling random). But you hit the Barnes and Noble during the week if you want some ass, but you want to discuss the works of Nitzeche in post-coitus.

[samurai black]

If you're looking to get some ass, you go to the club on the weekend(or weeknight if you're feeling random). But you hit the Barnes and Noble during the week if you want some ass, but you want to discuss the works of Nitzeche in post-coitus.

*Stroking Goatee*
"Ah yes, bookstore girls. I remember those days........."

[Angry Sentinel]

It's funny, but you can almost see the problem just by reading the differences between the guys and girls here. Most of the guys are talking about the difficulty of meeting a woman. The confidence it takes, the suaveness to remain calm although part of you just wants her to tear your clothes off. Where as all the woman are talking about all the losers that come up to them and how brash their comments are. Guys, listen to the ladies, no more "rest your tits here" and "where can I stick it". Find all the confidence you can and be as calm as possible. Ladies listen to the men, when they approach, be open and laugh at the bad joke (even if its about your tits), recognize that he's stuttering and ogling because you are just that fine. Lead him towards your brain (show him you have one) and see if he responds.

I think we have to do more to understand and then help each other before the healing (sexual or otherwise) begins...

[Erzengel]

When I approach a girl, I usually just whip it out and say "Hey babe, you want to sit on this?"

I don't got time for games. :o

My way is the same however my line is "What are we going to do about this"?
:up:

[enterthemadness]

Attractive women intimidate me.

Just had to get that off my mind and possible chest.

[Fried Gold]

If you're looking to get some ass, you go to the club on the weekend(or weeknight if you're feeling random)Correct. Presumably, as all those would go to clubs in the first place, are homosexuals.

[Ronny Shade]

You're all right, Ronny. You are all right.:woot:

I guess if a girl came up to one of us and said, "your package is huge" we'd be beaming for days.
Wouldn't we all.

Was that "you're all right" like "you're an al'right guy" or was it like "You are completely 100% correct"?

"both" is also an acceptable answer.

[terry78]

Wouldn't we all.

Was that "you're all right" like "you're an al'right guy" or was it like "You are completely 100% correct"?

"both" is also an acceptable answer.
Remember that episode of the Simpsons where the rich Texan gives his greyhound to Marge and she's like, "won't you miss her companionship?" and he starts chuckling for a full minute and then says, "lady, you're all right." That's how I meant it.:o

[Ronny Shade]

That's what I thought. :up:

[SoulManX]

It's funny, but you can almost see the problem just by reading the differences between the guys and girls here. Most of the guys are talking about the difficulty of meeting a woman. The confidence it takes, the suaveness to remain calm although part of you just wants her to tear your clothes off. Where as all the woman are talking about all the losers that come up to them and how brash their comments are. Guys, listen to the ladies, no more "rest your tits here" and "where can I stick it". Find all the confidence you can and be as calm as possible. Ladies listen to the men, when they approach, be open and laugh at the bad joke (even if its about your tits), recognize that he's stuttering and ogling because you are just that fine. Lead him towards your brain (show him you have one) and see if he responds.

I think we have to do more to understand and then help each other before the healing (sexual or otherwise) begins...

That was almost Dr. Phil like:o

[Angry Sentinel]

*reaches over and slaps Oprah on the butt*

Thanks for getting me my job girlie

[SoulManX]

*reaches over and slaps Oprah on the butt*

Thanks for getting me my job girlie

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[Mr. Smash'n Bash]

LOL The only reason anyone goes to nightclub is to get AIDS, not to find a meaningful relationship.


I go for the cheap shots. :csad:

[Asteroid-Man]

anyone ever see ******* mountain?

[terry78]

anyone ever see ******* mountain?
Is it a porno?

Edit - Never mind, you mean the thing on Mencia?

[SoulManX]

anyone ever see ******* mountain?

:huh:

[Mr. Smash'n Bash]

So what I get out of this thread is women keep saying that the guys who approach them are *******s, and the men keep saying the women don't even give the men much of a chance to get their foot in the door.

That and I'm an alcoholic since I see that most of the guys here go to bars/clubs to try to pick up women while I go to get plastered and stumble back to my place or a friends. :csad: :o

[SoulManX]

So what I get out of this thread is women keep saying that the guys who approach them are *******s, and the men keep saying the women don't even give the men much of a chance to get their foot in the door.

That and I'm an alcoholic since I see that most of the guys here go to bars/clubs to try to pick up women while I go to get plastered and stumble back to my place or a friends. :csad: :o

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[Mr. Smash'n Bash]

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Well at least I get the satisfaction of not having to go through the pointless motions of trying to get a date/score. :o

[SoulManX]

Well at least I get the satisfaction of not having to go through the pointless motions of trying to get a date/score. :o

Good point:o

[terry78]

Don't be hatin', Smash and Bash. We're all just squirrels trying to bust a nut. :o

[thewhitequeen]

Admit it, you secretly love it.

Not really no. Honestly, it that sort of mentality that men who rape women use.

[SoulManX]

Not really no. Honestly, it that sort of mentality that men who rape women use.

:csad:

[thewhitequeen]

:csad:

Ha, I didn't mean Calvin was gonna bust out his rape machine, but rather that people should be aware of the growing "she secretly likes it" mentality about unwanted attention, date rape, ect.

[SoulManX]

Ha, I didn't mean Calvin was gonna bust out his rape machine, but rather that people should be aware of the growing "she secretly likes it" mentality about unwanted attention, date rape, ect.

No it made me think about the date i had last night. She was a former UT cheerleader that got rape by a basketball player.:csad:

[thewhitequeen]

No it made me think about the date i had last night. She was a former UT cheerleader that got rape by a basketball player.:csad:

Oh man. :csad::csad:. It sucks how much that happens. It can really damage women permenently if they don't seek help about it. Alot of women don't even report it to the police because they're embarressed and blame themselves. Even if they don't blame themselves alot of women won't go to the police or tell anyone. It's wicked sad

[SoulManX]

Oh man. :csad::csad:. It sucks how much that happens. It can really damage women permenently if they don't seek help about it. Alot of women don't even report it to the police because they're embarressed and blame themselves. Even if they don't blame themselves alot of women won't go to the police or tell anyone. It's wicked sad

Oh it get worse she got knocked up from it and lost the baby...she said she got over it...but still I feel bad:csad:

[Deep Thinkin'!]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.

I'm one of those "attractive women" that do not get approached. And it's true (for some of us), a lot of men just won't make a move. In practically all of my relationships, I've had to make the first move.

I'm not shy in the least if a guy talks to me, and I'm not shy about approaching.

I talked to one friends about this one day and she said I was one of those women in which men "check out" but never "ask out" because I intimidate.

[heypapajinx]

i do get hit on by a lot of old men, drunks, and homeless.
i guess you're right, i just should just stop b*tching, lower my standards, and let one of them ol boys take me out.:oldrazz:

[Fried Gold]

i do get hit on by a lot of old men, drunks, and homeless.
i guess you're right, i just should just stop b*tching, lower my standards, and let one of them ol boys take me out.:oldrazz:That's the spirit.

[heypapajinx]

That's the spirit.
if there was an icon that flipped you the bird i would have just posted it.

[Fried Gold]

if there was an icon that flipped you the bird i would have just posted it.http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v241/J_beezy/232challenger.jpg

[heypapajinx]

^^^
i think that might have just been the sexiest post i've ever seen
*pouncelates kitty v. plastic lions picture*

[Crowforge]

Attractive women won't look me in the eye

[britrogue]

What's so rude about saying "your tits are huge?" It's a compliment:huh:

Because for one thing, it's ALL I ever hear. I don't really want to go out with a guy knowing that he's only dating me because of the size of my chest. It's not something you should say to a total stranger, and to be honest, it's offensive.

[britrogue]

Not really no. Honestly, it that sort of mentality that men who rape women use.

Hear hear thewhitequeen and well said. :woot:
No, I do NOT secretly love it. And I don't think I'm in the worng to expect to be treated with a little more dignity. If I was actually going out with a guy and he wanted to talk about my chest, then that's fine. I consider my private parts to be just that, and I don't want to keep getting tactless and rude comments about them from strangers.

[heypapajinx]

When I approach a girl, I usually just whip it out and say "Hey babe, you want to sit on this?"

I don't got time for games. :o
so it was YOU that time in the movie theater... and this whole time i thought i'd been hit on by Pee Wee Herman!!!

[Fried Gold]

Hear hear thewhitequeen and well said. :woot:
No, I do NOT secretly love it. And I don't think I'm in the worng to expect to be treated with a little more dignity. If I was actually going out with a guy and he wanted to talk about my chest, then that's fine. I consider my private parts to be just that, and I don't want to keep getting tactless and rude comments about them from strangers.My point though, is that whilst it may be crude, crass, arrogant, rude and abrasive, I think given the choice, people would rather have those sorts of comments flung at them as opposed to being called fat, bald, short, etc...

I learnt a long time ago that the minute you expect anything from anyone, you're only going to end up disappointed.

[heypapajinx]

My point though, is that whilst it may be crude, crass, arrogant, rude and abrasive, I think given the choice, people would rather have those sorts of comments flung at them as opposed to being called fat, bald, short, etc...
hmmmm... thats an interesting conclusion.
i hear girls talk about how they don't want to be objectified all the time, but then there is this rather "portly" girl i work with that wen't totally ga-ga when this guy told her "nice cleavage" after she wore a low cut shirt.
now she wears it ALL THE TIME.
i think it just depends on the woman, some want that attentnion, some genuinely don't appreciate it.

but honestly, i don't think men care which one you are, they're going to objectify no matter what.http://i38.photobucket.com/albums/e109/heypapajinx/piggie.png

[britrogue]

I do agree with both of the above opinions, and obviously, I would be far more upset if I was on the receiving end of a more derogatroy comment.
But I think that that is what it truly boils down to. All my life, the guys I have been with have seen me as nothing more than an object, and I guess I just want to be treated like a human being for once.

[Fried Gold]

I do agree with both of the above opinions, and obviously, I would be far more upset if I was on the receiving end of a more derogatroy comment.
But I think that that is what it truly boils down to. All my life, the guys I have been with have seen me as nothing more than an object, and I guess I just want to be treated like a human being for once.POST NUDEZ!!11!!ONE11!

[heypapajinx]

I do agree with both of the above opinions, and obviously, I would be far more upset if I was on the receiving end of a more derogatroy comment.
But I think that that is what it truly boils down to. All my life, the guys I have been with have seen me as nothing more than an object, and I guess I just want to be treated like a human being for once.
well then i agree.
i think a woman who does not want to be objectified and genuinely projects that in her dress and demeanor should be resepcted, as in your case. but unfortunately, that will never happen:csad:

now the ones i CAN'T be sympathetic for are those who dress like the hoe brigade and then complain about how much "unwanted attention" they got. it's like, if you dress with all the goodies hanging out, you can't have discretion over WHICH guys look at you.

[Kyalesyin]

well then i agree.
i think a woman who does not want to be objectified and genuinely projects that in her dress and demeanor should be resepcted, as in your case. but unfortunately, that will never happen:csad:

now the ones i CAN'T be sympathetic for are those who dress like the hoe brigade and then complain about how much "unwanted attention" they got. it's like, if you dress with all the goodies hanging out, you can't have discretion over WHICH guys look at you.

Amen. I get "Flash some flesh!" yelled at me from cars. Why? Because I cover up pretty much completly. It really annoys me when guys assume that I'm covering up to 'try and be different and get some attention'. Seems we can't win.

[heypapajinx]

Amen. I get "Flash some flesh!" yelled at me from cars. Why? Because I cover up pretty much completly. It really annoys me when guys assume that I'm covering up to 'try and be different and get some attention'. Seems we can't win.
that is of course until women rule the world. you DO realize that one day all of America is going to be Wonder Womans Island right?:cwink::woot:

i'm pretty much excited. i've always wanted bullet proof bracelets.

[Kyalesyin]

that is of course until women rule the world. you DO realize that one day all of America is going to be Wonder Womans Island right?:cwink::woot:

i'm pretty much excited. i've always wanted bullet proof bracelets.

Women will never rule the world. We're smart enough to leave the tough jobs to the men and enjoy ourselves while they sweat. Saying that, bulletproof bracelets could be good.

[Angry Sentinel]

Edit...i hear girls talk about how they don't want to be objectified all the time, but then there is this rather "portly" girl i work with that wen't totally ga-ga when this guy told her "nice cleavage" after she wore a low cut shirt.
now she wears it ALL THE TIME.

but honestly, i don't think men care which one you are, they're going to objectify no matter what.http://i38.photobucket.com/albums/e109/heypapajinx/piggie.png


If I was actually going out with a guy and he wanted to talk about my chest, then that's fine. I consider my private parts to be just that, and I don't want to keep getting tactless and rude comments about them from strangers.
Are you all reading what you are writing... you're not so much complaining about the comments, you are complaining about the guys giving the comments. Strangers, and guys you are NOT attracted to(the reason why that girl was gushing and not complaining is because she thought said dude was 'totally' hot). With the guy being a stranger, I could understand your problem. But here is the conundrum, how does a guy know if you are attracted to him or not, most guys feel they have to throw it out there just to find out. If you make the crude cat call and she responds positively then you immediately know it's on. If you do this and she responds negatively then you immediately know it's not. Either way the guy gets a response immediately as to where he stands... It may suck but it does simplify things a bit.

Simply truth ladies, the rude comments work more than you want to admit it, and they seem to be at least tolerated as long as the young lady is attracted to the guy.

[Kyalesyin]

I threw a drink in a guys face the last time he made a comment about my body to me before asking my name. I was interesting in talking to him. He looked like an inteligent guy. The only thing the comments serve to do is entirely put us off the conversation.

I don't appreciate being asked if my chest is natural or if I've had a reduction.

[SoulManX]

http://img156.imageshack.us/img156/9307/ythelastman1800x600ww4.jpg (http://imageshack.us)

[Babs Gordon]

I know guys objectify women. Women want to be admired but not reduced to a skeevy remark. If it happens, deal with it I suppose.. whether with a drink in the face or the cold shoulder it doesn't matter. But you can't expect it not to happen. Just wait for the sensible ones that internalize their sketchy thoughts. ;)

[Kyalesyin]

I know guys objectify women. Women want to be admired but not reduced to a skeevy remark. If it happens, deal with it I suppose.. whether with a drink in the face or the cold shoulder it doesn't matter. But you can't expect it not to happen. Just wait for the sensible ones that internalize their sketchy thoughts. ;)

Sensible... male...

I haven't heard of this species. Can you mail me one in a jar for study?

Most often, they see me dancing with a girl and think 'wow, two at once. If they're gay, they must want to do me!'

[SoulManX]

Sensible... male...

I haven't heard of this species. Can you mail me one in a jar for study?

Most often, they see me dancing with a girl and think 'wow, two at once. If they're gay, they must want to do me!'

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_12_12.gifHmmm...

[Fried Gold]

I know guys objectify women. Women want to be admired but not reduced to a skeevy remark. If it happens, deal with it I suppose.. whether with a drink in the face or the cold shoulder it doesn't matter. But you can't expect it not to happen. Just wait for the sensible ones that internalize their sketchy thoughts. ;)Thing is though, due to the overwhelming ammount of seemingly intelligent ladies hanging off the arms of complete tossers, the majority of the sensible ones have pretty much given up. I know I have.

[AndThePickles]

Sensible... male...

I haven't heard of this species. Can you mail me one in a jar for study?

Most often, they see me dancing with a girl and think 'wow, two at once. If they're gay, they must want to do me!'

Hahaha you made my sig with that one! :woot:

[Kyalesyin]

Hahaha you made my sig with that one! :woot:

Thanks! I'm honoured!

It is true though. Look in the back of any mens magazine-

'Real lesbians need you to help them come.' you read the letters page in most of the softcore porn manazines and it'll say 'this lesbian couple took me home one time. Turns out all they really needed was me!' I love my sociology class.

Yeah. They actually think us gay girls just need to find the right guy.

[Fried Gold]

Thanks! I'm honoured!

It is true though. Look in the back of any mens magazine-

'Real lesbians need you to help them come.' you read the letters page in most of the softcore porn manazines and it'll say 'this lesbian couple took me home one time. Turns out all they really needed was me!' I love my sociology class.

Yeah. They actually think us gay girls just need to find the right guy.I think it's because we all saw Chasing Amy.

[AndThePickles]

It is sadly a common opinion. Most men I've encountered are like "Lesbians, hot! I want to have a threesome with them!"

[Kyalesyin]

It is sadly a common opinion. Most men I've encountered are like "Lesbians, hot! I want to have a threesome with them!"

Yup. As it is, I tend to just look at them, laugh and walk away. I save the 'drink in the face' thing for the really obnoxious ones.

Kind of winds me up when people look at my woman and say 'what has she got that I haven't?'

My response is often 'Clean teeth' or 'Less flab' if I can't think of anything really cutting.

[SoulManX]

I think it's because we all saw Chasing Amy.

http://img182.imageshack.us/img182/5698/chasingrptim2.jpg (http://imageshack.us)

Damn you Mr. Smith:cmad:

[LadyVader]

I know guys objectify women. Women want to be admired but not reduced to a skeevy remark. If it happens, deal with it I suppose.. whether with a drink in the face or the cold shoulder it doesn't matter. But you can't expect it not to happen. Just wait for the sensible ones that internalize their sketchy thoughts. ;)

Man, I wish I could get objectified. Beats the hell out of being rejectified. :whatever:

[Angry Sentinel]

just do what Kyalesyin does, dance with other women and act like a lesbian. Sounds like you'll have hounds all over you...

[Kyalesyin]

I think it's because we all saw Chasing Amy.

I have not seen this film... Maybe thats why I can't understand mens thoughts that all lesbians are desperately cockhungry...

[SoulManX]

Man, I wish I could get objectified. Beats the hell out of being rejectified. :whatever:


And may I ask why you can't?

[Kyalesyin]

just do what Kyalesyin does, dance with other women and act like a lesbian. Sounds like you'll have hounds all over you...

The only problem is that I wouldn't touch any of them with someone else's barge pole, even if I was straight. Spare tyre much?

[LadyVader]

And may I ask why you can't?

I haven't seen many overweight sci-fi geeks on the cover of Maxim. :whatever:

[britrogue]

Are you all reading what you are writing... you're not so much complaining about the comments, you are complaining about the guys giving the comments. Strangers, and guys you are NOT attracted to(the reason why that girl was gushing and not complaining is because she thought said dude was 'totally' hot). With the guy being a stranger, I could understand your problem. But here is the conundrum, how does a guy know if you are attracted to him or not, most guys feel they have to throw it out there just to find out. If you make the crude cat call and she responds positively then you immediately know it's on. If you do this and she responds negatively then you immediately know it's not. Either way the guy gets a response immediately as to where he stands... It may suck but it does simplify things a bit.

Simply truth ladies, the rude comments work more than you want to admit it, and they seem to be at least tolerated as long as the young lady is attracted to the guy.

I don't agree with this at all. I met a guy a few months ago who came over to me and admired the top that I was wearing. No doubt he was probably drawn to something else, but at least he had the tact and sense to be a little more pleasant about it. I am a really friendly and nice person, and I love to chat to people. I don't cut people down because I think they're unattractive etc....
My point is, if a guy were to come over to me and just start a normal conversation, then I would respond. Seriously.

[Angry Sentinel]

The only problem is that I wouldn't touch any of them with someone else's barge pole, even if I was straight. Spare tyre much? I'm just tryin to help ladyVader, she asked for objectivity not compatability.

I think most of us suffer from the jailhouse syndrome... there's plenty of sex available, just not the sex you want.

[Kyalesyin]

I'm just tryin to help ladyVader, she asked for objectivity not compatability.

I think most of us suffer from the jailhouse syndrome... there's plenty of sex available, just not the sex you want.

Good point there... not that I mind. People being picky slows the growth of the population.

[LadyVader]

I am beyond help. :) But thanks. ;)

[Kyalesyin]

I am beyond help. :) But thanks. ;)

Pick on a shy girl. They have lower expectations.

[Angry Sentinel]

I don't agree with this at all. I met a guy a few months ago who came over to me and admired the top that I was wearing. No doubt he was probably drawn to something else, but at least he had the tact and sense to be a little more pleasant about it. I am a really friendly and nice person, and I love to chat to people. I don't cut people down because I think they're unattractive etc....
My point is, if a guy were to come over to me and just start a normal conversation, then I would respond. Seriously. Please don't misunderstand, I agree with you. I understand what you want, but you have to understand that most guys aren't willing to work that 'hard' (not that I consider it hard work). Especially if they think they can simplify the equation. Where as you all want about 15 different things we generally want about 3(1 on a non emo night). They see plenty of guys using cat calls and get what they want. So they decide, at least I will either get it or I won't.

What I'm saying is, stop complaining about the guys giving you the cat calls, at least they are being honest about what they want and you can eliminate them right away if that's not what you want. You need to recognize that a lot of decent guys don't want to do all the work nowadays. A decent guy wants your permission. Start looking around the room for the guy who wants your permission, this guy will probably be looking for the same thing as you.

[britrogue]

You mean, try and grab someone's eye?

[LadyVader]

Pick on a shy girl. They have lower expectations.

Shyer then me? Inconceivable! :)

[AndThePickles]

Well LadyVader, perhaps that is a main part of the problem. Confidence is sexy, and people can tell when you are confident in yourself!

[Kyalesyin]

Shyer then me? Inconceivable! :)

Depends on the location too. Steve, a long term friend of mine, met his girl at an anime convention. She was there with a friend, but was totally over her head, so he offered to help her out. She took him back to her place and we haven't heard him complain yet.

[Fried Gold]

What I'm saying is, stop complaining about the guys giving you the cat calls.What on earth is a cat call?

[Fried Gold]

She took him back to her place and we haven't heard him complain yet.That's because she cut out his tongue.

[Kyalesyin]

That's because she cut out his tongue.

Oh no, I've talked to him since then. He just hasn't been moaning. At me. I can't say for any other situation.

[SoulManX]

What on earth is a cat call?

Are the tactless things men say...like "Hey baby those jeans are so tight I need to squeeze in them."

Hi.

I can tell you're really fed up, and it's completely understandable, considering how much girls and women are subjected to unwanted scrutiny and verbal harassment on the street. When guys try to solicit your attention (even though you're clearly not interested) or to elicit behavior ("Come on, baby. Lemme see you smile..."), it is a way to feel in control, to feel powerful. There is no right or wrong way to deal with the situation, but knowing what it's about might help you to know how you want to respond.
Some women refuse to give catcallers any power. They just ignore them--they don't have time to talk to strange people on the street and do not want their serenity disturbed. Some feel better when they can muster a quick comeback or snappy reply, but as you point out, guys often react in anger and a confrontation could ensue. Some women react differently, depending on their level of energy and tolerance.
It's not easy to figure out, but you have to find what works best for you. One thing you might do is to direct that energy into some anti-catcalling activity. Some women have gotten so fed up with catcalls that they've started to organize to help stop it. The New York City-based The Street Harassment Project (http://www.streetharassmentproject.org/), for example, has made it its mission to "work against omnipresent harassment on the street and in other public places." The activists create and host workshops for groups of high school and college students and community groups in an effort to raise awareness. They perform street theater around the city to encourage people to think about the topic, collect harassment stories, and even hand out cards that look like a sexual advertisements, but have statements against verbal harassment printed on the back.
If you live in New York, you might want to check them out and see if participating in a few activities helps. But even if you don't live in the Big Apple, the website includes plenty of helpful links to other organizations doing similar work--one may be in your area. Of course, you can always practice your comebacks with gURL's street hassle game (http://www.gurl.com/play/games/pages/0,,628084,00.html)!
I hope you will find the right way for you to deal with catcalls when the situation arises. And I'm sure it will...

[SoulManX]

I haven't seen many overweight sci-fi geeks on the cover of Maxim. :whatever:

First up beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

Where one guys sees a fat girl, another may see his Princess Leia...:yay:

[Kyalesyin]

First up beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

Where one guys sees a fat girl, another may see his Princess Leia...:yay:

I always thought she'd look better with a few more pounds. Women need HIPS!

[Angry Sentinel]

You mean, try and grab someone's eye? Yes, that could be the first step. But more importantly, actually survey the room. Of course the morons will be evident and going out of there way to get your attention, but what about the rest of them. Look in your peripheral vision, lots of guys are looking without trying to look. Some won't make eye contact unless you make him. Most women assume these males are weak and lame, but sometimes guys lay back waiting to make a move but never get up the guts because of bad past experiences. He may walk over and blow you away with what he has to say.

The bottom line is the attention you want is always there (especially if you are attractive) but you have to work a little differently or harder for it.

[AndThePickles]

Don't forget that some women are basically asking for guys to "catcall" them by what they wear.......don't go out wearing skin tight clothes that show your boobs almost to the nipple and get mad when a man comments on your breasts.

[Erzengel]

I never have trouble picking up attractive women.

http://www.telinject.co.za/images/rifles_large_01.jpg

[Kyalesyin]

I never have trouble picking up attractive women.

http://www.telinject.co.za/images/rifles_large_01.jpg

Ok if you like them quiet and unresponsive. Means you gotta wait if you like 'em fighting back.

[Angry Sentinel]

Are the tactless things men say...like "Hey baby those jeans are so tight I need to squeeze in them."

Thanks for getting that one for me, I was reading another forum.

Sorry for using the slang terminology Fried Gold.

[SoulManX]

I always thought she'd look better with a few more pounds. Women need HIPS!

Amen sister...preach on...

http://img469.imageshack.us/img469/9503/cpa0081lak9.jpg (http://imageshack.us)

[Kyalesyin]

Amen sister...preach on...

http://img469.imageshack.us/img469/9503/cpa0081lak9.jpg (http://imageshack.us)

I will keep preaching the 'weigh more!' until the day I die. A woman is at her best when she's 5'7 and wearing a uk 14-16. None of the skinny iffits for me!

Ok, sure, weight should be proportional to size, and really short girls look better whisper thin, but if you're tall, do it well!

[Erzengel]

Ok if you like them quiet and unresponsive. Means you gotta wait if you like 'em fighting back.

I call it foreplay. :o

[SoulManX]

I call it foreplay. :o

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_12_6.gif

[Babs Gordon]

Good point there... not that I mind. People being picky slows the growth of the population.

May the world, then, be pickier :) :up:

[Erzengel]

^
Agreed, who really wants to settle? :huh:

[Babs Gordon]

With things like the interweb people should be picky. There's all kinds of means to find the right one. No need to settle anymore.

[LadyVader]

Some people still need to settle.

[Erzengel]

Must like Star Wars. :up: LOL

[AndThePickles]

With things like the interweb people should be picky. There's all kinds of means to find the right one. No need to settle anymore.

Agreed, I don't think you should ever have to settle. Be realistic, yes. But don't be with someone you don't like.

[Fried Gold]

I agree with the concept of more people being picky. The promiscuity (is that a word?) of the youth of today is frankly appalling. There's nothing with settling, as by it's very definition, it dictates that you are comfortable, which is not a bad place to be.

[SoulManX]

Some people still need to settle.

Not really with so many dating services the world is your oyster.

http://img485.imageshack.us/img485/8264/oystersol8.jpg (http://imageshack.us)

[Fried Gold]

With things like the interweb people should be picky. There's all kinds of means to find the right one. No need to settle anymore.I think the cyberinternetweb is a marvelous tool for those who find themselves struggling within the dating 'scene'. It allows otherwise closed individuals to be frank and honest, which they find liberating. Hopefully they can carry that confidence accross to the 'real' world.

[LadyVader]

Dating services don't really help me when nobody in my country shares my interests.

[AndThePickles]

Remember that a significant other doesn't need to share ALL of your interests.

[Erzengel]

Well you are on a spaceship. :huh:

[Fried Gold]

Remember that a significant other doesn't need to share ALL of your interests.If any.

[Erzengel]

Not essential but it does make it easier.

[AndThePickles]

I think that it's nice to date someone who may have VERY different interests from yours, because you may even find new hobbies. My boyfriend got me into wrestling and comics :up:

[SoulManX]

Dating services don't really help me when nobody in my country shares my interests.

I love sci-fi.

[Fried Gold]

I think that My boyfriend got me into wrestlingI'm sorry.

[LadyVader]

:)
Sure, i blame outside factors cause it's the easy thing to do, but trust me. It's me. I'm special. I have the power to repell the opposite sex. :) And it's ok. Could be worse I guess. It's like I always say, I may not be in love but I have love in my life.

[Erzengel]

I think that it's nice to date someone who may have VERY different interests from yours, because you may even find new hobbies. My boyfriend got me into wrestling and comics :up:

So what did you get Spoons into?

[SoulManX]

I'm sorry.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_1_1.gif

[AndThePickles]

So what did you get Spoons into?

Harry Potter! :woot:

[SoulManX]

:)
Sure, i blame outside factors cause it's the easy thing to do, but trust me. It's me. I'm special. I have the power to repell the opposite sex. :) And it's ok. Could be worse I guess. It's like I always say, I may not be in love but I have love in my life.

http://img104.imageshack.us/img104/9803/sw2obi2fk0.jpg (http://imageshack.us)"The force is strong with this one"

[AndThePickles]

:)
Sure, i blame outside factors cause it's the easy thing to do, but trust me. It's me. I'm special. I have the power to repell the opposite sex. :) And it's ok. Could be worse I guess. It's like I always say, I may not be in love but I have love in my life.

This is EXACTLY why you are having problems. If you think that all you do is repell the opposite sex, then that's what's gonna happen.

[SoulManX]

This is EXACTLY why you are having problems. If you think that all you do is repell the opposite sex, then that's what's gonna happen.

Agreed.

[LadyVader]

Tell me something I don't know.
Before anybody can like me I have to like myself. And I'm a long way from that. :rolleyes:

[Angry Sentinel]

:)
Sure, i blame outside factors cause it's the easy thing to do, but trust me. It's me. I'm special. I have the power to repell the opposite sex. :) And it's ok. Could be worse I guess. It's like I always say, I may not be in love but I have love in my life. If you are so sure of this, then ask yourself what specifically would you say it is that is so powerfully repelling? Once you ask yourself this, then figure out do you have the power to change it... do you want to change it.

If the answer is no (to changing), then you may need to consider what exactly you will need from a man, and still have him accept you the way you are.

Edit... take your own advice, it's better.

[britrogue]

I will keep preaching the 'weigh more!' until the day I die. A woman is at her best when she's 5'7 and wearing a uk 14-16.

I'm 5ft 8 and a UK 12. Is that ok? :huh:

[terry78]

As trite as it is, I'm more apt to be interested in the girl that makes me work for it as opposed to the one that will let me take her to the bedroom for a big gulp and a cheeseburger. If you can get it so easy, it loses any and all meaning.

[Chris Wallace]

As trite as it is, I'm more apt to be interested in the girl that makes me work for it as opposed to the one that will let me take her to the bedroom for a big gulp and a cheeseburger. If you can get it so easy, it loses any and all meaning.
Not just that, but also:
Say you're trying to put a collar on a dog. If he's not accustomed to just anybody collaring him, he's gonna resist. If a woman doesn't hesitate to give it up to you, odds are, she doesn't hesitate to give it up period.

[Angry Sentinel]

Not just that, but also:
Say you're trying to put a collar on a dog. If he's not accustomed to just anybody collaring him, he's gonna resist. If a woman doesn't hesitate to give it up to you, odds are, she doesn't hesitate to give it up period.
And... if you haven't made me work to be interested in anything other than your sex, then sex will be the only thing sustaining my interest. Once I grow bored with it (reguardless of how good it is), I'm gone.

[SoulManX]

As trite as it is, I'm more apt to be interested in the girl that makes me work for it as opposed to the one that will let me take her to the bedroom for a big gulp and a cheeseburger. If you can get it so easy, it loses any and all meaning.

http://img503.imageshack.us/img503/7634/insptruelovepreviewez0.jpg (http://imageshack.us)

[PyroChamber]

I think that it's nice to date someone who may have VERY different interests from yours, because you may even find new hobbies. My boyfriend got me into wrestling and comics :up:That's cool, rare but still cool. Why can't all women share a man's interest like that? Not everything we like is stupid, if someone doesn't like comic books then damn it something is wrong with THEM.

[terry78]

That's cool, rare but still cool. Why can't all women share a man's interest like that? Not everything we like is stupid, if someone doesn't like comic books then damn it something is wrong with THEM.
Because if a girl is into wrestling or a guy is into something like...soap operas or whatever, they're immediately viewed as outside the norm. And people don't like to be outside the norm. On purpose, anyway.

[AndThePickles]

I dunno, a lot of women only like stereotypically girly things. I think for some it is underexposure- ie, if they tried it they'd like it.

However, most females I know have tried "manly" things and hated it. I don't get it. I guess I'm an odd one out because I've always liked things such as videogames, and I enjoy a lot of the stuff that my boyfriend has introduced me to. But on the flipside, I still love lots of "girly" activities.

[Lackey]

girly activities like nude pillow fights during all-girl slumber parties? :huh:

[Erzengel]

As trite as it is, I'm more apt to be interested in the girl that makes me work for it as opposed to the one that will let me take her to the bedroom for a big gulp and a cheeseburger. If you can get it so easy, it loses any and all meaning.

I always hated "dating games" but I've had more success by being indifferent, and playing hard to get more than anything. :csad: :up:

[Lackey]

maybe you just got better looking and it's not your dating tactics :huh:

[Erzengel]

Maybe. I haven't tested it as of late. :huh:

[Babs Gordon]

I got into comics because of my then-boyfriend too. As soon as I got over the whole "God you leave them around everywhere" thing and picked one up and read it... I was hooked. The end.

[Outsiderzedge]

Thats a sad story.

[kainedamo]

I got into comics because of my then-boyfriend too. As soon as I got over the whole "God you leave them around everywhere" thing and picked one up and read it... I was hooked. The end.


So what was wrong with him?

[kainedamo]

Dating services don't really help me when nobody in my country shares my interests.

I have the exact same problem anytime I attempt to find girls with my interests on the net. I'm lucky if I can find sites with people even FROM my country, nevermind girls with my interests.

[AndThePickles]

I wouldn't recommend looking for "love on the internet" as your first option.

[Erzengel]

I usually go for attraction off the bat and just hope we may share a few of the same interests. I met a girl who actually disliked Star Wars. But it was the distance that broke us up. She did get me a talking Boba Fett once. :up:

With the internet, you can be more picky.

[Daisy]

If you're young and in school or work at a company that has a lot of young people that still go out and do stuff, it's easy to dismiss internet dating. You have a sort of 'built-in' social life.

By the time you hit your late 20s and into your 30s and have moved to new jobs away from your college friends... if you're still single, it's very hard to meet new people, whether for dating or just for friendship.

I met the group of women I pal around with at a club for singles that gets together and does activities (hiking, biking, horseback riding, museum tours, cooking classes, etc.).

I've also done internet dating - as have all of my friends (all single and in their 30s), and in our experience it's a 'you get what you pay for' kind of thing. Those that have tried free dating sites said they should have known better. Results with match.com were mixed and all of us have had good results with e-harmony. You still have to approach as simply meeting people and not expect you're going to be meeting your 'soul mate' straight out of the box, but it's still a decent way to meet up.

[BRUTAL]

I turned an online friend into a feck-buddy

[Erzengel]

If you're young and in school or work at a company that has a lot of young people that still go out and do stuff, it's easy to dismiss internet dating. You have a sort of 'built-in' social life.

By the time you hit your late 20s and into your 30s and have moved to new jobs away from your college friends... if you're still single, it's very hard to meet new people, whether for dating or just for friendship.

I met the group of women I pal around with at a club for singles that gets together and does activities (hiking, biking, horseback riding, museum tours, cooking classes, etc.).

I've also done internet dating - as have all of my friends (all single and in their 30s), and in our experience it's a 'you get what you pay for' kind of thing. Those that have tried free dating sites said they should have known better. Results with match.com were mixed and all of us have had good results with e-harmony. You still have to approach as simply meeting people and not expect you're going to be meeting your 'soul mate' straight out of the box, but it's still a decent way to meet up.

I was part of a pen pal site back in college and I spent like 2 years e-mailing, IMing each other and after a while, we were both single and decided to take the next step.

We broke up but we still keep in touch every now and then.

[kainedamo]

Are you all reading what you are writing... you're not so much complaining about the comments, you are complaining about the guys giving the comments. Strangers, and guys you are NOT attracted to(the reason why that girl was gushing and not complaining is because she thought said dude was 'totally' hot). With the guy being a stranger, I could understand your problem. But here is the conundrum, how does a guy know if you are attracted to him or not, most guys feel they have to throw it out there just to find out. If you make the crude cat call and she responds positively then you immediately know it's on. If you do this and she responds negatively then you immediately know it's not. Either way the guy gets a response immediately as to where he stands... It may suck but it does simplify things a bit.

Simply truth ladies, the rude comments work more than you want to admit it, and they seem to be at least tolerated as long as the young lady is attracted to the guy.


Wrong. Any guy that comes off with "I love your tits" as their first comment is a dick. Plain and simple. If the girl is attracted to him, just makes her stupid. ALL guys that cat call are *******s.

[kainedamo]

I threw a drink in a guys face the last time he made a comment about my body to me before asking my name. I was interesting in talking to him. He looked like an inteligent guy. The only thing the comments serve to do is entirely put us off the conversation.

I don't appreciate being asked if my chest is natural or if I've had a reduction.


Yeah, see? You've got the right idea. Guys like that are sleazeballs. I can't believe there are people in this thread sticking up for them.

[Angry Sentinel]

Wrong. Any guy that comes off with "I love your tits" as their first comment is a dick. Plain and simple. If the girl is attracted to him, just makes her stupid. ALL guys that cat call are *******s.
Yeah, see? You've got the right idea. Guys like that are sleazeballs. I can't believe there are people in this thread sticking up for them.
You must have missed the rest of what I wrote...

What I'm saying is, stop complaining about the guys giving you the cat calls, at least they are being honest about what they want and you can eliminate them right away if that's not what you want.

I was in no way trying to say that those guys aren't F***s, just honest F***s. You should, at the very least, appreciate their honesty, they've made it easy on you and them. If you want to be treated like crap and have a screw then you can take them up on there offers... if not, move on. At least there's no DECEPTION, unlike with the wolves in sheeps clothing.

[kainedamo]

Well yes, I see what you mean. No chance of being tricked by them, 'cause they make it so obvious they're morons.

[terry78]

^But they still get booty at the end of the day, which isn't exactly karma coming back to them.

[Deep Thinkin'!]

I've discovered that if I dress more casually, men notice me more. Apparently, when I dress stylishly, I'm "the object not to be touched at an art display".

[Childlike Wild]

The guys doing the cat calling are usually in moving vehicles. They're being *******s, not looking for pussy. :huh:

The inappropriate comments in bars is another thing. They're actually looking to get laid, and not evening pretending to be nice about it. Which, like someone's said, is fine if the girl is also only looking to get laid.

[triplefive]

The guys doing the cat calling are usually in moving vehicles. They're being *******s, not looking for pussy. :huh:

The inappropriate comments in bars is another thing. They're actually looking to get laid, and not evening pretending to be nice about it. Which, like someone's said, is fine if the girl is also only looking to get laid.
i DON'T understand cat calls/honking from vehicles

1) you're driving at least 60km/h (um, we'll call that like, 35mph) so you can't probably see me
2) it's not like you're getting my name, or if i'm acknowledging you at all


so really, where do they get off doing it, you know?

[AndThePickles]

Eh, they just do it for fun. I remember in high school when my best friend and I would go to the beach for vacation we'd make a game out of counting how many honks and whistles we got.

[Calvin]

Instinct would be my guess.

[terry78]

Why do guys and girls do anything stupid when they get together? We don't cat call and flirt too much when we're alone, but get us in a group of three or more, we get brave.