Need a female opinion.

[Chris Wallace]

Ladies who frequent these boards may understand my dilemma & possibly offer some helpful advice.
Here's the situation; my wife's birthday is May 3rd, which falls on a Thursday this year. She has to work that day-she already knows this-but she's off the rest of the weekend. As you may know, there's a certain movie that opens on May 4th which, if you know anything about me, I've no desire to miss its opening day. My wife does not want to see the film b/c it represents a species that has been a constant source of fear for her since childhood. At the same time, she basically wants me to spend the entire weekend with her.
1-how do I avoid the couch? I'm willing to compromise here.
2-am I wrong for wanting to do something to please myself on what is essentially her weekend?
3-What would YOU have me do?

[04nbod]

well there aren't any spiders in spiderman- except the first one of course. i think she should compromise and give you an afternoon to see it while she does something else- alone time is healthy too

[Chris Wallace]

In her eyes, there are spiders in all of them b/c he wears one on his chest & another on his back. But your reply has merit.

[Galact-Gal]

Tell her if she doesn't object to you going to the movie you will devote yourself to her utterly for the rest of the weekend! And not mention the movie (once you've seen it) until the weekend is over.

[Dew k. Mosi]

Tell her to get some therapy because that is a SERIOUS phobia there.

[logansoldcigar]

she is your wife.


you shouldnt even need to ask the question, cos the movie can wait

[04nbod]

In her eyes, there are spiders in all of them b/c he wears one on his chest & another on his back. But your reply has merit.

wow and i thought i was arachnapobic. the outline of a spider scares her.:wow:

[Chris Wallace]

Tell her to get some therapy because that is a SERIOUS phobia there.
I'm gonna PM the response to that one.

[Dew k. Mosi]

I'm gonna PM the response to that one.
it wasn't an insult. It was a legitimate suggestion. I live with an insane person, and this is how it starts. Irrational phobias that extend to massive degrees. If Spider-Man had a spider head or something I could see being freaked out. But the spider on his uniform is a stylized shape. To have a fear of that is way problematic. I'm a scared of tornados, terrified of them, have nightmares of them, but I can watch Twister.

[Erzengel]

Midnight showing.

[Immortalfire]

Midnight showing. That's what I do.

But if you can't, see the movie on Friday, take Mrs. Wallace out on Saturday.

[Ben Urich]

EDIT Double post.

[Ben Urich]

Why do you have to see it on opening weekend? It's the same movie no matter when you see it.

[Chris Wallace]

it wasn't an insult. It was a legitimate suggestion. I live with an insane person, and this is how it starts. Irrational phobias that extend to massive degrees. If Spider-Man had a spider head or something I could see being freaked out. But the spider on his uniform is a stylized shape. To have a fear of that is way problematic. I'm a scared of tornados, terrified of them, have nightmares of them, but I can watch Twister.
I didn't take it as one.

[Sensi]

she is your wife.


you shouldnt even need to ask the question, cos the movie can wait

Wow! I am impressed.

[Superman79]

Question, just as a pragmatist...

many theatres, with big movies like this, have a sneak preview the weekend before or the Tuesday before the actual release...

could you not keep an eye out for tix...see it early...then spend your romantic weekend???

[Chris Wallace]

That's what I do.

But if you can't, see the movie on Friday, take Mrs. Wallace out on Saturday.
I've offered that; she hasn't really answered.

[kingman]

To me it sounds like she would like to go away for a 3 day weekend somewhere but you're too interested in seeing a movie that will be still there when you get back... so what you miss the opening night, it's not going to disappear on you

[Chris Wallace]

Question, just as a pragmatist...

many theatres, with big movies like this, have a sneak preview the weekend before or the Tuesday before the actual release...

could you not keep an eye out for tix...see it early...then spend your romantic weekend???
Now there's something I haven't thought of.

[Lurk]

Though her reasoning for skipping the movie is rather ridiculous, I would respect her opinion and spend Friday with her. She shouldn't (nor should you, I'd think) have a problem with you seeing it the next day.

[Halcohol]

Here's my objective male opinion: f*** the movie. She's your wife, man. It's her birthday. The movie can wait.

[Lurk]

Has she specifically said anything about spending the weekend together? Like, she wants special alone time or something? Cuz if so, you're kinda screwed. If she hasn't answered about the midnight showing, I doubt she liked the suggestion.

[Erzengel]

I've offered that; she hasn't really answered.

She doesn't want to see Spiderman 3, you do.

She works on May 3rd.

Take off May 4th.

Go see the midnight showing of Spiderman 3, come home, go to bed and then spend the whole day with her. :huh:

[Matt]

I agree with Erzengel and Immortalfire. Midnight showing.


Or come up with some Three's Company-esque song and dance number where she thinks you're there but you really aren't so you and your friends try to hide the truth in some wacky manner.

[Lurk]

She may want him in bed with her. A lot of people don't want to compromise on their birthdays.

[Superman79]

Now there's something I haven't thought of.

just tossin it out there :D betcha you

if that doesn't work, as much as I sympathize, I'd have to say you might have to sacrifice and just spend the weekend with her and see the movie Monday night...:(

[BRUTAL]

two words... drug her :woot:

[Erzengel]

Roofie her dinner then.

Go see a movie.

She will wake up with no recollection and a sore ass. :up:

[kingman]

She may want him in bed with her. A lot of people don't want to compromise on their birthdays.

Agreed. Last thing she would like to hear when she got home from work on her birthday is that her Husband is going to see a movie

[Matt]

She may want him in bed with her. A lot of people don't want to compromise on their birthdays.

If thats the case he needs to suck it up and spend the time with his wife. The movie will be there monday.

[Matt]

ok, I got it Chris. Your wife will surely not want you with her ALL weekend. She must have friends...arrange for them to take her out friday night, then the rest of the weekend is yours.

[Chris Wallace]

To me it sounds like she would like to go away for a 3 day weekend somewhere but you're too interested in seeing a movie that will be still there when you get back... so what you miss the opening night, it's not going to disappear on you
See, if it were about something like a getaway-if she had any actual plans whatsoever-I'd go & be happy. As far as I know we're gonna go out for a few hours & spend the rest of the weekend pretty much in the house. She has no clue what she want to do; only what she doesn't.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to trivialize my marriage & I do value spending time with my wife. I just don't think that asking for 3 hours (counting travel time) for myself while devoting the remaining 69 to her is unreasonable.

[Superman79]

See, if it were about something like a getaway-if she had any actual plans whatsoever-I'd go & be happy. As far as I know we're gonna go out for a few hours & spend the rest of the weekend pretty much in the house. She has no clue what she want to do; only what she doesn't.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to trivialize my marriage & I do value spending time with my wife. I just don't think that asking for 3 hours (counting travel time) for myself while devoting the remaining 69 to her is unreasonable.


heehee...

[FooYu]

Well if you;re gonna be spending the rest of the week with her, the least she can do is let you see the film (more preferably come with you) say you'll look after her and you won't let any spiders hurt her :whatever: .
A man has got to put his foot down (you wear the trousers) , you been waiting for this film for a while, just explain your love for the film (say you lover her more of course).

[Erzengel]

See, if it were about something like a getaway-if she had any actual plans whatsoever-I'd go & be happy. As far as I know we're gonna go out for a few hours & spend the rest of the weekend pretty much in the house. She has no clue what she want to do; only what she doesn't.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to trivialize my marriage & I do value spending time with my wife. I just don't think that asking for 3 hours (counting travel time) for myself while devoting the remaining 69 to her is unreasonable.

This sounds awfully like,

Man: What do you wanna do?
Woman: I don't know. What do you wanna do?
Repeat.

Take control and plan the weekend yourself, don't wait around for her to choose something. Unless there is something she really wants to do, make it your show and just take her on a long weekend.

[Chris Wallace]

heehee...
Welcome to "Out Of Context Theater".

[Superman79]

Welcome to "Out Of Context Theater".


well you said it WAS her birthday, and she wanted quality time...



:csad: sorry ...:csad:

[Chris Wallace]

This sounds awfully like,

Man: What do you wanna do?
Woman: I don't know. What do you wanna do?
Repeat.

I expect you to have removed all recorders and listening devices from my home by the time I get there.

[Erzengel]

Also I'm sure your wife is a "reasonable" woman.

It's not like you are leaving her in the hospital room as she gives birth to your kid as you sneak off to see Spiderman 3.

Secondly, in Spiderman 2, I don't even remember seeing any type of spider. Don't tell me even the symbol on his chest upsets her? Is it THAT tramatic for her to watch?

[Chris Wallace]

well you said it WAS her birthday, and she wanted quality time...



:csad: sorry ...:csad:
You never realize something sounds dirty until after you say it. Like last night I was explaining the Negro Baseball Leagues to my kid;
"We weren't allowed to play with them, so we were forced to play with each other."

[Chris Wallace]

Don't tell me even the symbol on his chest upsets her? Is it THAT tramatic for her to watch?
Read back through the thread.

[Kaboom]

wait didnt you say shes working on her birthday which happens to be the same day the movie comes out?

cant you just go see the movie while shes working?

[Lurk]

Though it doesn't matter much since it's her birthday, does she know how ridiculous her phobia is? And I don't mean a general fear of spiders.

Would either of you have a problem with you seeing the movie on Saturday after she's had an "official" birthday?

[Chris Wallace]

wait didnt you say shes working on her birthday which happens to be the same day the movie comes out?

cant you just go see the movie while shes working?
Actually her b-day is the 3rd, which is why she wants the 4th to be hers.

[Superman79]

You never realize something sounds dirty until after you say it. Like last night I was explaining the Negro Baseball Leagues to my kid;
"We weren't allowed to play with them, so we were forced to play with each other."

yeah...it happens to me all the time. of course I hang out with people who will giggle at anything...go figure :D

[Kaboom]

im pretty sure there will be a spidey 3 playing may 4 at 12:01 a.m.

[Wilhelm-Scream]

If you're more worried about seeing a movie on a particular day, that's going to be in theaters for months, that you're going to eventually own on DVD and memorize, that you could literally go and watch every single day if you wanted to......than showing your girlfriend you love her on her special day, then you suck.

That said, if she honestly doesn't want to see it because she's afraid of spiders, she is retarded and you should dump her ass post haste.

[Lord Valumart]

ideas

1. make her think your doing something for her, like book her into a spa or something(women like that, right?)
2. midnight showing, then the lovey crap after
3. explain the entire situation to her and tell her you've booked her into the afformentioned spa so that she is at her best possible best for the fun romantic weekend ahead and that you'll have been geeked out to max levels

thats all i've got:huh:

[Dew k. Mosi]

Wear a Spidey costume to bed and make the best love to her ever. Then she will have a new connection with spiders and it won't be fear.

[KormanRogers]

If you're more worried about seeing a movie on a particular day, that's going to be in theaters for months, that you're going to eventually own on DVD and memorize, that you could literally go and watch every single day if you wanted to......than showing your girlfriend you love her on her special day, then you suck.

That said, if she honestly doesn't want to see it because she's afraid of spiders, she is retarded and you should dump her ass post haste.

Dude it's his wife not his g/f.:trans:

[jaguarr]

See, if it were about something like a getaway-if she had any actual plans whatsoever-I'd go & be happy. As far as I know we're gonna go out for a few hours & spend the rest of the weekend pretty much in the house. She has no clue what she want to do; only what she doesn't.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to trivialize my marriage & I do value spending time with my wife. I just don't think that asking for 3 hours (counting travel time) for myself while devoting the remaining 69 to her is unreasonable.

I think you're missing the bigger picture here, Galileo. Her indifference about what she wants to do for her birthday is a big, giant hit that what she really wants is for you to plan a fabulous weekend for her to help her celebrate her birthday. She's hoping if she makes you block out the time and then doesn't plan anything specific out for the two of you to do that maybe you'll take the initiative to plan a memorable birthday for her, whether that's a romantic weekend or a surprise party with friends or whatever. If I'm right, you've got bigger things to worry about than seeing Spider-Man 3 on opening day. But....consider working a half day on Friday and going to see it before she gets off work or maybe seeing it on Sunday evening after the birthday hubbub has died down. Or on Monday. Or on Tuesday. Or on Wednesday. Or on any day after that because she's kicked you to the couch for not doing something special for her birthday. :)

Good luck!
jag

[jaguarr]

Wear a Spidey costume to bed and make the best love to her ever. Then she will have a new connection with spiders and it won't be fear.

Yessss....behavior modification through eroticizing the object of her fears. :up:

jag

[Immortalfire]

Wear a Spidey costume to bed and make the best love to her ever. Then she will have a new connection with spiders and it won't be fear. LoL

[Dew k. Mosi]

Yessss....behavior modification through eroticizing the object of her fears. :up:

jag
it works

[Strange]

Really a year from now, how much of a deal would it have been to you to have watched Spiderman 3 on opening day? A year from now when you have seen it over a hundred times already. But a year from now when your wife still remembers you not planning anything special for her birthday and taking off to see Spiderman.

[USMC]

Dude, she's your wife. The one person on the planet that YOU should not ever think twice about bending over backwards for.

Stop being such a pussy fanboy over a movie.:whatever:

[jaguarr]

it works

I know. ;)

jag

[Mr. Thing]

Dude, she's your wife. The one person on the planet that YOU should not ever think twice about bending over backwards for.

Stop being such a pussy fanboy over a movie.:whatever:

Exactly.

You'll see the next day or something. Is it really that big a deal to see it on opening night?

[Lackey]

She needs to get the time off of work for her birthday. I'm sure she has enough vacation time to take that one day off.
If she took that day off, problem solved.

[Immortalfire]

A long lost friend of ours might accuse some of you of being "untrue fans"....oh wait, you're seeing the movie anyway. You're already an untrue fan.



:hyper:

[USMC]

She needs to get the time off of work for her birthday. I'm sure she has enough vacation time to take that one day off.
If she took that day off, problem solved.


But that's the point, Lackey... there should be no problem. She's his wife. It's her birthday. End of story. CW is the one making it into a problem because he wants to behave like a 14 year old.

There should be no question or debate. Any man worth his salt wouldn't even make a case for something so completely pointless and stupid as to going to see a movie over the feelings of his wife on her birthday of all days.

He's just creating drama where there shouldn't be any.

[Chris Wallace]

Wear a Spidey costume to bed and make the best love to her ever. Then she will have a new connection with spiders and it won't be fear.
Gotta answer that one in a PM, too.
Oddly enough, she WILL play my Spidey video games. Though I often wonder whenever she makes a mistake and gets hit or killed, if she's doing it on purpose.

[Chris Wallace]

But that's the point, Lackey... there should be no problem. She's his wife. It's her birthday. End of story. CW is the one making it into a problem because he wants to behave like a 14 year old.

There should be no question or debate. Any man worth his salt wouldn't even make a case for something so completely pointless and stupid as to going to see a movie over the feelings of his wife on her birthday of all days.

He's just creating drama where there shouldn't be any.
Again, it's not ON her birthday but the day after. And it's not about whether I want to spend time with her or if I'm putting a movie before her feelings. It's about 2 hours out of a 3-day weekend.
And by all rights, if I give her 72 hours in May then shouldn't I get the same in June?

[Lackey]

But that's the point, Lackey... there should be no problem. She's his wife. It's her birthday. End of story. CW is the one making it into a problem because he wants to behave like a 14 year old.

There should be no question or debate. Any man worth his salt wouldn't even make a case for something so completely pointless and stupid as to going to see a movie over the feelings of his wife on her birthday of all days.

He's just creating drama where there shouldn't be any.


Poor guy is stuck with a woman who doesn't like Spider-Man...that sucks, cut the guy some slack.
She's obviously a ***** since she won't allow him to go see it and wants the entire weekend, not just her birthday.
She's also stingy and/or a workaholic since she won't take the day off of work for her birthday.
Why does she get to act like she's 14 years old and he doesn't just because she's a woman?

But you're right, he should just not go see the movie. If it were me, I'd make it a point to tell her that I'm skipping the movie completely for the entire weekend and then make her feel guilty about it for the rest of the month.
If the guilt trip didn't work, I'd find a spider egg sack and hide it in her closet as payment for her bad karma. :yay:

[USMC]

Again, it's not ON her birthday but the day after.

Semantics. Her actual birthday is ruined by having to work.

And it's not about whether I want to spend time with her or if I'm putting a movie before her feelings.

Ya, it is, and by making it an issue, you kinda are...

It's about 2 hours out of a 3-day weekend.

Yeah, HER 3-day weekend. You're making excuses. Don't get me wrong, I'm a guy, I understand it's our way of getting our own way. But you know that's exactly what you're doing, or you wouldn't be questioning if it were the right thing or not.

And by all rights, if I give her 72 hours in May then shouldn't I get the same in June?

If she's as good a wife as you are (can be) a husband, then Yes.

[USMC]

Poor guy is stuck with a woman who doesn't like Spider-Man...that sucks, cut the guy some slack.

Hey, I'm not disagreeing with the suckiness of the situation. My guy can't stand movies with effects and superheroes, yet he skipped work with me, drove to LA at 9am for Spider-Man 1's premiere, and stayed with me in the hot sun for 8 hours without complaining at all. Cause he knew how happy it'd make me. The reward? We got to meet the stars of the movie and got tickets into the premiere. I just think that's how partners should treat each other.

She's obviously a ***** since she won't allow him to go see it and wants the entire weekend, not just her birthday.
She's also stingy and/or a workaholic since she won't take the day off of work for her birthday.
Why does she get to act like she's 14 years old and he doesn't just because she's a woman?

That's not the point. Women are irrational by definition, that's just the way it is. The sooner her man figures that out, the better. She's asking for his time, he should give it to her, no questions asked. It's just better for him in the long run. Ya gotta look at the bigger picture here.

But you're right, he should just not go see the movie. If it were me, I'd make it a point to tell her that I'm skipping the movie completely for the entire weekend and then make her feel guilty about it for the rest of the month.

Well, that's the kinda person you are, I guess. Guilting someone you suppossedly love is pretty pathetic, IMO. But that's just me.

[Chris Wallace]

Semantics. Her actual birthday is ruined by having to work.



Ya, it is, and by making it an issue, you kinda are...



Yeah, HER 3-day weekend. You're making excuses. Don't get me wrong, I'm a guy, I understand it's our way of getting our own way. But you know that's exactly what you're doing, or you wouldn't be questioning if it were the right thing or not.



If she's as good a wife as you are (can be) a husband, then Yes.
Maybe. Your point is well seen.
On the upside, I've got 4 months to figure it out.

[Fran]

Chris, this is just my opinion.

It's Spider-Man 3.

You must see it opening day. It'll be fantastic.

[USMC]

Maybe. Your point is well seen.
On the upside, I've got 4 months to figure it out.

Well, maybe you can work at her until then? You could get out the calendar, right now. Pick a weekend, 3 days at least, any weekend other than May 4th. PLAN NOW to take her away that weekend, somewhere completely awesome and somewhere you've never been before. Not just dinner or some stupid crap like that. Make it all about HER... everything. Plan this now, spend some dough. Make her the priority.

Then see if she's more willing to compromise for the Spidey weekend. But you gotta give to her fisrt. And don't come off later on that you only did that kind of a weekend so that you could have May 4th for yourself. This doesn't have to be an "either her/or me" kind of situation. Just play your cards right (like you said, you have 4 months), and you BOTH could get what you want.

Good luck!:woot:

[Chris Wallace]

Maybe you've already figured this out, USMC, but I'm trying to do 2 things here:
1-get what I want
2-not be an *********.
If I have to sacrifice 1 to get 2 then so be it, but ideally both should be feasible.

[USMC]

Maybe you've already figured this out, USMC, but I'm trying to do 2 things here:
1-get what I want
2-not be an *********.
If I have to sacrifice 1 to get 2 then so be it, but ideally both should be feasible.


Anything's feasible with a woman, you just have to play to their emotions. :)

Although she may already know that you might do that and play to your ego and the whole thing will backfire and you'll end up going to the movies on May 4th to see Steel Magnolias 2!!! :wow:

[jaguarr]

Maybe you've already figured this out, USMC, but I'm trying to do 2 things here:
1-get what I want
2-not be an *********.
If I have to sacrifice 1 to get 2 then so be it, but ideally both should be feasible.

Since you may not have seen my earlier post, if you don't take the hint that she wants you to do something special for her birthday you will automatically become your second option in her eyes.

jag

[Matt]

Maybe you've already figured this out, USMC, but I'm trying to do 2 things here:
1-get what I want
2-not be an *********.
If I have to sacrifice 1 to get 2 then so be it, but ideally both should be feasible.

Chris, why don't you take my advice and arrange for her to spend friday night with her friends? A girls night type-thing. I mean, she must have someone other than you who will want to see her during her birthday weekend.

[Chris Wallace]

I am neither taking nor dismissing your suggestion right now, Matt. It's presently under consideration like all the other serious replies are.

[tzarinna]

Seems like you've gotten plenty of advice.
The fact that you're celebrating for the entire weekend seems awesome to me. :huh: I'll just repeat what some have already said,take off early to see it.

[Lackey]

Well, that's the kinda person you are, I guess. Guilting someone you suppossedly love is pretty pathetic, IMO. But that's just me.


guilt gets you a bj. gratitude gets you a hug :yay:

[Matt]

I am neither taking nor dismissing your suggestion right now, Matt. It's presently under consideration like all the other serious replies are.

Another suggestion...you wake up, say you have to "Arrange something". Make reservations at a romantic restraunt via phone, stop somewhere and pick up her present, then catch a matinee. Since women take 3 hours to shop, she will see nothing wrong with the time you are gone and think it all went to making arrangements for her celebration that night.

[USMC]

guilt gets you a bj. gratitude gets you a hug :yay:

I've heard that...:o

[USMC]

Another suggestion...you wake up, say you have to "Arrange something". Make reservations at a romantic restraunt via phone, stop somewhere and pick up her present, then catch a matinee. Since women take 3 hours to shop, she will see nothing wrong with the time you are gone and think it all went to making arrangements for her celebration that night.


And in the end, it will come out that you did go see it on the 4th after all, then you'll not only be an asswhole, you'll also be an inconsiderate liar. :)

[kingman]

Again, it's not ON her birthday but the day after. And it's not about whether I want to spend time with her or if I'm putting a movie before her feelings. It's about 2 hours out of a 3-day weekend.
And by all rights, if I give her 72 hours in May then shouldn't I get the same in June?

For Christ sake just grow up... you are a grown man who is married and your wife shouldn't be having any trouble because you are supposed to put her before anything else, especially since she can't celebrate her birthday due to work commitments etc. Ask yourself one thing..

Is this movie so important to my life that I need to neglect my wife on a day that she has chosen to celebrate her birthday?

If the answer is yes then you have one major problem on your hands. Although either way if she lets you go see it or not she will now feel that you wanted the movie over her... if you take her away she'll feel that you don't want to be with her but in some cinema watching Spider-man 3... you have cast the seed of doubt now and there is nothing you can do to fix it

[kainedamo]

Build a puppet version of yourself. Then sneak off to watch Spidey 3. She won't suspect a thing.

[kainedamo]

Wait hang on a second...

Can she not just take the day off work? Seriously, its months away, she can give them plenty of notice. Surely she can take one day off of work.

[kingman]

Wait hang on a second...

Can she not just take the day off work? Seriously, its months away, she can give them plenty of notice. Surely she can take one day off of work.

Maybe she's planning to work that particular day so she can have the 3-day weekend, allowing her to do a small something on her birthday night

[kainedamo]

Maybe she's planning to work that particular day so she can have the 3-day weekend, allowing her to do a small something on her birthday night

So, so selfish.

[AndThePickles]

Ladies who frequent these boards may understand my dilemma & possibly offer some helpful advice.
Here's the situation; my wife's birthday is May 3rd, which falls on a Thursday this year. She has to work that day-she already knows this-but she's off the rest of the weekend. As you may know, there's a certain movie that opens on May 4th which, if you know anything about me, I've no desire to miss its opening day. My wife does not want to see the film b/c it represents a species that has been a constant source of fear for her since childhood. At the same time, she basically wants me to spend the entire weekend with her.
1-how do I avoid the couch? I'm willing to compromise here.
2-am I wrong for wanting to do something to please myself on what is essentially her weekend?
3-What would YOU have me do?

Have you talked to her about this? Does she know how important seeing the movie on opening night is? The movie is only a couple hours long and you would have the rest of the weekend with her.
I don't think you're in the wrong here......does she honestly need an ENTIRE WEEKEND to celebrate her birthday?
I also don't quite understand her reasons for being afraid of Spiderman, that seems rather silly.

[fangrl06]

Okay, if my boyfriend had a problem seeing Spider-man and his birthday fell on the day it came out, I would go see the mid-night show of it the day before, and then spend the entire weekend with him.

[Sean Adisano]

Okay, if my boyfriend had a problem seeing Spider-man and his birthday fell on the day it came out, I would go see the mid-night show of it the day before, and then spend the entire weekend with him.

you always have a good plan :up:

[fangrl06]

you always have a good plan :up:
Thanks Sean!:oldrazz:

[kainedamo]

Yeah... dude, just see the midnight show.

[logansoldcigar]

Wow! I am impressed.

strikes me as common sense.

were it me, i would nab her passport,pack her some of her favorite clobber in a suitcase (leave plenty of space for buying new stuff) meet her from work on the third, and take her away for the weekend, returning on the Sunday.
and living in europe, i have a massive selection of places to choose from, a romantic weekend in paris or Rome, shopping in Milan, the general cleanliness and crispness of scandinavia (ive been to oslo..the air is incredibly clean there), places like New York for a shopping trip.


but thats me. Like i say, the movie can wait.

[heypapajinx]

honestly, BIRTH-DAY implies a day.
not an entire weekend.
i think it's kind of silly that she wants the whole weekend to be hers.
but what do i know, maybe that's why i'm single.

[Fried Gold]

Ladies who frequent these boards may understand my dilemma & possibly offer some helpful advice.
Here's the situation; my wife's birthday is May 3rd, which falls on a Thursday this year. She has to work that day-she already knows this-but she's off the rest of the weekend. As you may know, there's a certain movie that opens on May 4th which, if you know anything about me, I've no desire to miss its opening day. My wife does not want to see the film b/c it represents a species that has been a constant source of fear for her since childhood. At the same time, she basically wants me to spend the entire weekend with her.
1-how do I avoid the couch? I'm willing to compromise here.
2-am I wrong for wanting to do something to please myself on what is essentially her weekend?
3-What would YOU have me do?I think you should prove that you aren't a dick, by spending time with your spouse and watching the film another day.

Male perspective.

[Chris Wallace]

Another suggestion...you wake up, say you have to "Arrange something". Make reservations at a romantic restraunt via phone, stop somewhere and pick up her present, then catch a matinee. Since women take 3 hours to shop, she will see nothing wrong with the time you are gone and think it all went to making arrangements for her celebration that night.
Subterfuge never works. Unless it's for her benefit & not mine. And if I lie to her to get my way, I fail my second objective.

[kainedamo]

Why can't you see a midnight showing?

[Chris Wallace]

Have you talked to her about this? Does she know how important seeing the movie on opening night is? The movie is only a couple hours long and you would have the rest of the weekend with her.
I don't think you're in the wrong here......does she honestly need an ENTIRE WEEKEND to celebrate her birthday?
I also don't quite understand her reasons for being afraid of Spiderman, that seems rather silly.
We have talked, but this week in particular she's not gonna be too receptive to anything I say if you get my meaning.
As it stands I think the midnight show is my best bet. And it's not Spidey himself that she has a problem with, but rather that little black thing on the front of his costume & the red thing on the back of it.