*Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[jaguarr]

You and your friends are wrong... sort of. She doesn't want to be with you... and she's letting you know by pushing you away (despite her claims to the contrary).

She thinks you're an okay guy, but in her heart (and other places) you just don't 'do it' for her... although because she knows you're a decent guy and probably just what girls like her 'should be looking for' she's frustrated by this fact. She doesn't like admitting it to herself, so she denies it. It's easier just to avoid the issue... hence her ambivalence toward you.

She doesn't want to say no because deep down she thinks it reflects poorly on her... because she can't really come up with a reason why she's not more interested in you as there's really nothing tangible wrong with you and she knows it.

Chemistry's a ***** sometimes. :(

My advice. Stop calling/texting her. Don't ask her to do stuff. She's not really interested in you, so she won't be calling you, and the whole thing will just sort of... fall away.

Sorry it's not more positive, but speaking from the girl's perspective, I'd say this is overwhelmingly this is most likely what's going on.

Best advice I can give you guys: When a girl really likes you, if you make advances (call her, ask her out, etc.)... she'll accept readily (to the extent of changing existing plans if she can to be with you)... and she'll be as much interested in talking to you as you are her.

Daisy's right. It's not you, it's her. Move on.

jag

[Ahura Mazda]

Anyways regarding the above, if the girl really likes you she will eventually call you asking to see you. I have that with my ex right now. When we were sort of together, I would call and it would take quite a bit of effort to get a hold of her. I all of a sudden stoppe calling and now she calls me to say she misses me and when I will come to see her. Girls can and will call when they like you enough.

So its not all gloom as there is a bit of hope but the best strategy for you is to stop trying to get a hold of her.

[Superman79]

Not just faith in females, but also faith in himself if he's met too many flakes. He may feel he's a boring, uninteresting person if girls keep flaking on him.


Meh, I always blame it on the girl. :D

[jaguarr]

I was in a similar situation once but the weird thing was, the girl would initiate a lot of the phone calls and e-mails, we would set up a simple lunch date or dinner, then all of a sudden out of nowhere, she'd do something to get out of it. Most frustrating experience of my life. Nothing pisses me off more than a flake.

There is only one thing to do with a girl that likes to play games like that. PIITB. Roughly. :up:

jag

[Erzengel]

Daisy's right. It's not you, it's her. Move on.

jag
If I had a nickel for every time you said "Move on" in the past few days, I'd have $.10. :up:

[Superman79]

There is only one thing to do with a girl that likes to play games like that. PIITB. Roughly. :up:

jag

Sans lubrication :up:

[jaguarr]

Anyways regarding the above, if the girl really likes you she will eventually call you asking to see you. I have that with my ex right now. When we were sort of together, I would call and it would take quite a bit of effort to get a hold of her. I all of a sudden stoppe calling and now she calls me to say she misses me and when I will come to see her. Girls can and will call when they like you enough.

So its not all gloom as there is a bit of hope but the best strategy for you is to stop trying to get a hold of her.

That's because before, she knew she had you on a string. When you broke it off, she didn't have that anymore, so she started trying to get you back. Some people just like to have "things", even if they don't really want them. They just want to know they can have them. And that attitude very much includes other people with many of those types. People who do this sort of thing (because there are plenty of people from both sexes that do it) are a big, giant waste of time.

jag

[Gilpesh]

That chick sounds like my senior prom date.

The one that woke up halfway through?

Seriously, you need to work on that dosage problem.

[jaguarr]

If I had a nickel for every time you said "Move on" in the past few days, I'd have $.10. :up:

Awesome. Buy yourself a gumball. :up:

jag

[Superman79]

Awesome. Buy yourself a gumball. :up:

jag


gumballs!?!? Where!?!?! :wow:

[Erzengel]

I hate overthinking, not necessarily a need for advice, but I was thinking of getting flowers for V Day, but she works in a ICU. Like how quarantined is it there? :huh:

[jaguarr]

gumballs!?!? Where!?!?! :wow:

There's machines in the front lobby with them, dude. They also have those little superheroes and dinosaurs that get huge when you put them in water and the fake tattoos. Maybe if you'd use the front door instead of sneaking through the back all the time you'd know that. :huh:

jag

[Stotch]

That's because before, she knew she had you on a string. When you broke it off, she didn't have that anymore, so she started trying to get you back. Some people just like to have "things", even if they don't really want them. They just want to know they can have them. And that attitude very much includes other people with many of those types. People who do this sort of thing (because there are plenty of people from both sexes that do it) are a big, giant waste of time.

jag

Anyways regarding the above, if the girl really likes you she will eventually call you asking to see you. I have that with my ex right now. When we were sort of together, I would call and it would take quite a bit of effort to get a hold of her. I all of a sudden stoppe calling and now she calls me to say she misses me and when I will come to see her. Girls can and will call when they like you enough.

So its not all gloom as there is a bit of hope but the best strategy for you is to stop trying to get a hold of her.

....I need to start hanging out here more often :up:


Meh, I always blame it on the girl. :D

I used to have a major problem with blaming myself for everything(still do, at times), but i've just recently learned it's not always me. I try to say "UGH, if only I said *this* or *that*!" as least as possible nowadays.

[jaguarr]

I hate overthinking, not necessarily a need for advice, but I was thinking of getting flowers for V Day, but she works in a ICU. Like how quarantined is it there? :huh:

Call her supervisor and ask so you don't make a faux pau. :up:

jag

[Superman79]

I hate overthinking, not necessarily a need for advice, but I was thinking of getting flowers for V Day, but she works in a ICU. Like how quarantined is it there? :huh:

You should be ok, they'd likely keep them at a nurses station or front desk, which really could score you more points as it lets her flaunt to her co-workers what a loving guy you are for bringing her said flowers...

[Erzengel]

I don't think she likes her supervisor. I have one of her friends e-mail, I can ask her. :up:

[jaguarr]

I used to have a major problem with blaming myself for everything(still do, at times), but i've just recently learned it's not always me. I try to say "UGH, if only I said *this* or *that*!" as least as possible nowadays.

Don't own other people's B.S. or baggage. If they do something ****ty, it's because they are ****ty, not you.

jag

[Erzengel]

You should be ok, they'd likely keep them at a nurses station or front desk, which really could score you more points as it lets her flaunt to her co-workers what a loving guy you are for bringing her said flowers...
That's part of the reason why I'm doing it. Also to remind any would be "murses" that she ready got a boy toy. :o

[amazingfantasy15]

I hate overthinking, not necessarily a need for advice, but I was thinking of getting flowers for V Day, but she works in a ICU. Like how quarantined is it there? :huh:

Most of the patients probably have flowers in thier room. Doubt it'd be a problem.

[Stotch]

Don't own other people's B.S. or baggage. If they do something ****ty, it's because they are ****ty, not you.

jag

It's a little tough when you've grown used to doing that for years, but I'm doing much better than 3 years ago :up:

It's just a shame, really. The majority of girls I have met have been like this. And I don't want to completely blame it on the area I live in, but Southern California is known for it's superficialism.

[Superman79]

That's part of the reason why I'm doing it. Also to remind any would be "murses" that she ready gut a boy toy. :o

I like where your head is at. :up:

There's machines in the front lobby with them, dude. They also have those little superheroes and dinosaurs that get huge when you put them in water and the fake tattoos. Maybe if you'd use the front door instead of sneaking through the back all the time you'd know that. :huh:

jag

Sorry, you know me, I always try to sneak it in the back door...:csad::oldrazz:

[Superman79]

It's a little tough when you've grown used to doing that for years, but I'm doing much better than 3 years ago :up:

It's just a shame, really. The majority of girls I have met have been like this. And I don't want to completely blame it on the area I live in, but Southern California is known for it's superficialism.


Aw man...blame away.

[jaguarr]

It's a little tough when you've grown used to doing that for years, but I'm doing much better than 3 years ago :up:

It's just a shame, really. The majority of girls I have met have been like this. And I don't want to completely blame it on the area I live in, but Southern California is known for it's superficialism.

Dude, SoCal is INFESTED with snotty little princesses who either think they are God's gift to the universe and they can do no wrong or they just completely get off on making everyone around them feel like crap so they can keep their own self-esteem up. Don't ever give up your self-esteem for someone just because they think they're better than you. Especially a girl who's just looking to play games with your emotions. :up:

jag

[Stotch]

Aw man...blame away.

I come from the desert, where people appreciate things a bit more since there isn't really a lot to do and the weather is crap.

When I moved over here 9 years ago, everything was completely different. In an area where 80% of the population looks like a model on the cover of GQ magazine, their standards tend to be a bit higher than the people in the desert. Beautiful girls who saw themselves as beautiful expected beautiful men and absolutely nothing less.
The streets are flooded with trendy and fake people who solely care about how a person looks and what his talents are rather than personality.
"I don't really care if he's an ass, if he's hot nothing else matters, lolz".

And then you got the flakes who seem really interested in you at first, but easily get bored and move onto something else if you don't juggle flaming swords for them long enough.

I'm not saying So Cal is the only place with these people, I know there are these sorts all over the world. It's just that So Cal has a fairly large amount.

/blame

[Superman79]

I'm not saying So Cal is the only place with these people, I know there are these sorts all over the world. It's just that So Cal has a fairly large amount.

/blame

See, you hit it right on the head. Give it time, you'll find someone decent...if nothing else, c'mon out to the midwest, the girls here are much more down to earth.

[Stotch]

Dude, SoCal is INFESTED with snotty little princesses who either think they are God's gift to the universe and they can do no wrong or they just completely get off on making everyone around them feel like crap so they can keep their own self-esteem up. Don't ever give up your self-esteem for someone just because they think they're better than you. Especially a girl who's just looking to play games with your emotions. :up:

jag

Thanks :yay: :up: It's really tough finding someone here who can think deeper than a puddle of water. And even though i've become a bitter hermit, I'm barely 21, so who knows...

[jaguarr]

Thanks :yay: :up: It's really tough finding someone here who can think deeper than a puddle of water. And even though i've become a bitter hermit, I'm barely 21, so who knows...

I have friends in SoCal and the single ones all talk about what an emotional wasteland it is and that they never meet anyone worth a damn. It's not just you.

jag

[Stotch]

I have friends in SoCal and the single ones all talk about what an emotional wasteland it is and that they never meet anyone worth a damn. It's not just you.

jag

Good thing i'm not alone, 'cause it's extremely rare to meet someone I can relate to with this.


And thanks, superman. Your suggestion will be on the table :up:

[Daisy]

I hate overthinking, not necessarily a need for advice, but I was thinking of getting flowers for V Day, but she works in a ICU. Like how quarantined is it there?
Patients get flowers... so... :huh:

There's machines in the front lobby with them, dude. They also have those little superheroes and dinosaurs that get huge when you put them in water and the fake tattoos. Maybe if you'd use the front door instead of sneaking through the back all the time you'd know that. :huh:

jagThey cost at least $.25 these days. :(

Call her supervisor and ask so you don't make a faux pau. :up:

jag
That would work to be sure.

You should be ok, they'd likely keep them at a nurses station or front desk, which really could score you more points as it lets her flaunt to her co-workers what a loving guy you are for bringing her said flowers...

Also, patients get flowers themselves. Anyone with a big problem with them would be isolated anyway.

Most of the patients probably have flowers in thier room. Doubt it'd be a problem.
Yeah, that's what I was thinking. :o

I have friends in SoCal and the single ones all talk about what an emotional wasteland it is and that they never meet anyone worth a damn. It's not just you.

jag

I'm not disagreeing with any of what you said, but I've seen an awful lot of guys talk trash about how some large percentage of girls are 'such and such' a way... to find that part of the problem was they guy... he was as shallow as the girls he couldn't find satisfaction with because he was picking them based on 'hotness'.

I mean, the comment: "Beautiful girls who saw themselves as beautiful expected beautiful men and absolutely nothing less." strikes me as someone who just might have something like that going. :o

It may not be the case, it's hard to tell from a messageboard, but it's always something to consider. I don't think it's really good to go to extremes either way. "It's always me." or "It's always something/one else." Both can make for a lot of unhappiness. :(

[Erzengel]

Patients get flowers... so... :huh:
I'm pretty sure it's okay just wanted to be 100% sure and I like bouncing ideas off people. :) Thanks to everyone btw.

[Daisy]

I'm pretty sure it's okay just wanted to be 100% sure and I like bouncing ideas off people. :) Thanks to everyone btw.

Come on Erz... man up. Make a decision for yourself. :p

Somehow, I think I'm going to end up reprimanded for that... again. :o

[jaguarr]

They cost at least $.25 these days. :(

Those thieving, greedy bastards! :cmad:



I'm not disagreeing with any of what you said, but I've seen an awful lot of guys talk trash about how some large percentage of girls are 'such and such' a way... to find that part of the problem was they guy... he was as shallow as the girls he couldn't find satisfaction with because he was picking them based on 'hotness'.

I mean, the comment: "Beautiful girls who saw themselves as beautiful expected beautiful men and absolutely nothing less." strikes me as someone who just might have something like that going. :o

It may not be the case, it's hard to tell from a messageboard, but it's always something to consider. I don't think it's really good to go to extremes either way. "It's always me." or "It's always something/one else." Both can make for a lot of unhappiness. :(

If he were any place else but Southern California, I'd probably agree with you 185.7%. But SoCal is like Bizarro World and all bets and normal logic are off.

jag

[Erzengel]

Come on Erz... man up. Make a decision for yourself. :p

Somehow, I think I'm going to end up reprimanded for that... again. :o
I made a decision 30 minutes ago, they were out of salmon and I chose the beef stew instead. :huh:

[Daisy]

I made a decision 30 minutes ago, they were out of salmon and I chose the beef stew instead. :huh:

Okay. :)

[Daisy]

Those thieving, greedy bastards! :cmad:




If he were any place else but Southern California, I'd probably agree with you 185.7%. But SoCal is like Bizarro World and all bets and normal logic are off.

jag

Oh, I realize there's a smaller pool of nice girls to choose from, but if he isn't even looking for them because he's focused on all the lovelies... :(

[jaguarr]

Oh, I realize there's a smaller pool of nice girls to choose from, but if he isn't even looking for them because he's focused on all the lovelies... :(

It's really difficult to find normal women in SoCal. Such a huge percentage of them are trying to be "beautiful" and trendy and part of "the scene". It's a really weird culture. I'm sure there are things he could be doing to improve his chances, but I definitely understand at least where part of his frustration is coming from.

jag

[Scarlet spidey]

You are making me squirm, because it's stuff like that ^ that made me self doubt myself when I dated. We would go out and have fun but trying to get that next date or outing was a b'tch and the girl would rarely try and initiate a meeting.

My first reaction is she is pushing you away maybe not intentionally. I'm curious how often you guys talk and when you do talk, who calls who?
It's generally me making contact with her.
You and your friends are wrong... sort of. She doesn't want to be with you... and she's letting you know by pushing you away (despite her claims to the contrary).

She thinks you're an okay guy, but in her heart (and other places) you just don't 'do it' for her... although because she knows you're a decent guy and probably just what girls like her 'should be looking for' she's frustrated by this fact. She doesn't like admitting it to herself, so she denies it. It's easier just to avoid the issue... hence her ambivalence toward you.

She doesn't want to say no because deep down she thinks it reflects poorly on her... because she can't really come up with a reason why she's not more interested in you as there's really nothing tangible wrong with you and she knows it.

Chemistry's a ***** sometimes. :(

My advice. Stop calling/texting her. Don't ask her to do stuff. She's not really interested in you, so she won't be calling you, and the whole thing will just sort of... fall away.

Sorry it's not more positive, but speaking from the girl's perspective, I'd say this is overwhelmingly this is most likely what's going on.

Best advice I can give you guys: When a girl really likes you, if you make advances (call her, ask her out, etc.)... she'll accept readily (to the extent of changing existing plans if she can to be with you)... and she'll be as much interested in talking to you as you are her.
Thanks, I was kind of fishing for a girl's perspective on this, since most people I have asked are guys.
Sounds a bit grim, but this probably is what's going on.
Although I should explain why she was hesitant, or at least the reason she gave me.. Back in July I became her brother's boss. I stopped being his boss in September, but we stayed friends, sort of. And they generally have a rule against dating each other's friends. But she made the exception for me. Not like it really matters all that much, it seems.
Daisy's right. It's not you, it's her. Move on.

jag
Thanks. :\
Anyways regarding the above, if the girl really likes you she will eventually call you asking to see you. I have that with my ex right now. When we were sort of together, I would call and it would take quite a bit of effort to get a hold of her. I all of a sudden stoppe calling and now she calls me to say she misses me and when I will come to see her. Girls can and will call when they like you enough.

So its not all gloom as there is a bit of hope but the best strategy for you is to stop trying to get a hold of her.I guess I could try that. Though it almost feels rude.:(

Thank you for the help, guys.:)

[turtlefocker]

I've never been to Southern California... can't be that different than everywhere else.

[Superman79]

I've never been to Southern California... can't be that different than everywhere else.

Yeah, it really is. Like jag said: Bizarro World...

[Ghostvirus]

Yeah, but you're working for the Dems, thus I assume you're a Democrat and believe in most of their stances, anyone working with you there is likely also a Democrat and thus holds the same stances...BOOM...something in common, and unlikely to be as volatile as you fear.

Trust me, I've met many of the girls I've dated at political functions...trust me it works.

The only problem I could see is I am more independent. I just am choosing Democrat because I right now. The Republicans piss me off, so there is a chance that I could end up on the other side of the fence issue wise.

[Erzengel]

Why don't you worry about that when it happens. :huh:

For right now, just see how it goes first.

[Superman79]

The only problem I could see is I am more independent. I just am choosing Democrat because I right now. The Republicans piss me off, so there is a chance that I could end up on the other side of the fence issue wise.

Why don't you worry about that when it happens. :huh:

For right now, just see how it goes first.

I'm gonna have to go with Erz here...try it, if you like it then buy it. Get what I'm saying her brother?

BTW- Telly Savalez Erz?? Where the hell did that come from?

[Erzengel]

Part of Daisy and I hosting the next Survivor.

It's the theme. Click on the sig. :)

[turtlefocker]

I'm going with Obama becuase I don't want a female president... back to the topic at hand.. .

[Daisy]

Part of Daisy and I hosting the next Survivor.

It's the theme. Click on the sig. :)
:heart:

[Superman79]

Part of Daisy and I hosting the next Survivor.

It's the theme. Click on the sig. :)

LOL!! I love it!

Ok, time for some advice for the S-man.
As some of you know I hooked up with this girl Saturday after a party. Yesterday our mutual friend who introduced us gave me her number and said she wanted me to call (presumably to try and do 'something' this weekend). Well at this same party I met and got a number from the other great looking girl. Well, I gave her a call yesterday, and she'd like to do something this weekend.

The issue is this: I have something going on for work Friday night, and plans for the SuperBowl on Sunday (that apparently involve some cute co-worker of a good friend of mines who wants to meet me...go figure), So neither of those days will work.

Basically, I'm overthinking this, but do I go out on Saturday with the girl I already hooked up with (which means virutally guranteed sex) or the other girl I met (who I admit is a '9' to the other girl's 7.5-8) and take my chances on what I get.

** Caveat here...I'm not just in it for the sex, it just happens to be that both girls have great personalities and girl #1 is great in bed. And my weekends are so damn busy, that I just don't want to lose connection or favor with either until I know which one meshes with me the most on all levels involved.

:waitsforlecturefromdaisy:

Any suggestions??

[Erzengel]

Lunch with the 9, Dinner with the 7.5-8.

[Superman79]

Lunch with the 9, Dinner with the 7.5-8.

That would work, but I have an event from 9am-1pm...I guess I could always see if she'd settle for a late lunch...

[Gilpesh]

Any suggestions??

I think the word starts with M and ends in énage à trois.

[Erzengel]

And late dinner. Although, you are putting the lunch thing on more of a meet and greet type situation and not a, let's see how the night progresses type date.

Yeah I know you said it wasn't about sex, but still. Also lunch limits the things you can do. But I still think it let's you meet up with both, kinda like best situation all around. :up:

[Daisy]

Lunch with the 9, Dinner with the 7.5-8.

2 pm: Lunch with 9
8 pm: Dinner with 7.5-8

[Superman79]

And late dinner. Although, you are putting the lunch thing on more of a meet and greet type situation and not a, let's see how the night progresses type date.

Yeah I know you said it wasn't about sex, but still. Also lunch limits the things you can do. But I still think it let's you meet up with both, kinda like best situation all around. :up:

2 pm: Lunch with 9
8 pm: Dinner with 7.5-8

Good call guys, thanks...I suppose doing the late lunch/dinner plan would allow for the best of both, and I keep the connections up for later, more timely use. Though part of me will always wonder where a night with 9 would go...

[Erzengel]

There's always other Saturday Nights.

[Daisy]

Next weekend... switch it up.

[Superman79]

Good points guys...I'm just trying to have my cake and eat it too... that an patience isn't one of my virtues so I was trying to get it both ways...oh well.
It's settled, late lunch, followed with a late dinner and drinks. :up:

[WalterKovacs]

You're saying you dunno how to kiss?
no, thats not it, its just the only time i really hooked up with a girl it was her idea.

[Erzengel]

Kid, the only thing I can say is that practice makes perfect. Don't worry about messing up because there will be other opportunities. Just use each time to hone your technique. See what does work and what doesn't work.

[PyroChamber]

If you're attracted to someone, the two of you talk and things like that yet you're not quite sure if they're genuine with your or not; is there any true signs to let you know that they're playing with you and aren't interested but like leading you on?

[tzarinna]

Everyones watching the game, come back tomorrow.

[CyberFaust]

....i need some advice

what the frack do i do now?

[tzarinna]

What's the problem?

[Superman79]

....i need some advice

what the frack do i do now?

Ray...What did you DO!?!?!

: petervenkman:

If you're attracted to someone, the two of you talk and things like that yet you're not quite sure if they're genuine with your or not; is there any true signs to let you know that they're playing with you and aren't interested but like leading you on?

You don't know until you actually try asking them out. There are signs you can look for to show interest, but if shes screwing with you, it'll be tough to tell what she's faking. Just ask her out. What have you got to lose??

[Daisy]

Ray...What did you DO!?!?!

:petervenkman:



You don't know until you actually try asking them out. There are signs you can look for to show interest, but if shes screwing with you, it'll be tough to tell what she's faking. Just ask her out. What have you got to lose??

Oooorrrr... she may not be screwing with him at all, just not interested in him. She may just be a nice person, and this guy is misinterpreting that as 'interest'.

I know it's something we rarely see here on SHH!, but it's still possible. :rolleyes:

[Superman79]

Oooorrrr... she may not be screwing with him at all, just not interested in him. She may just be a nice person, and this guy is misinterpreting that as 'interest'.

I know it's something we rarely see here on SHH!, but it's still possible. :rolleyes:


Oh, very very true...I'd need more details. In my defense, I was posting with my post Superbowl hangover/food coma.

[Daisy]

Oh... so you're saying you were in full cro-magnon form?

[Superman79]

Oh... so you're saying you were in full cro-magnon form?


Indeed. "Ugh, Superman79 invent wheel! Ugh. Bottle opener suck!!" ;)

[Erzengel]

Next week is the big week for Ghostrider87.

Will he give whatsherface flowers and a card before or after class?

[Super_Ludacris]

Next week is the big week for Ghostrider87.

Will he give whatsherface flowers and a card before or after class?

Is he still on that? From December? I told him how to deal with that

[Erzengel]

We will all have to wait and see.

[Super_Ludacris]

Not this ****ing long you dont. Come on duke, seal that. He New Englandin' his swag right now....

[Superman79]

Next week is the big week for Ghostrider87.

Will he give whatsherface flowers and a card before or after class?

I await his further adventures with bated breath. :p

[DV8]

Not this ****ing long you dont. Come on duke, seal that. He New Englandin' his swag right now....


heh . . . the only thing that will remain sealed is the pack of unused condoms :O

[DV8]

I think I found GR87's craigslist ad :wow:

http://milwaukee.craigslist.org/m4w/564043254.html

[Badger]

Is he still on that? From December? I told him how to deal with that

Well he is hitting the gym and become quite ripped. I believe it's part of his master plan.

[SLVRSR4]

I'm interested in dating a girl who is a pituitary dwarf I'm 6"2 and she's about 4"4. Anyone date someone with this large of a height gap? I'm not even sure what sort of advice I'd get from typing this but some is better than none?:o

[Badger]

Well, that's a large height gap. Ultimately it doesn't matter, go for it and you will figure it out as you go. I don't think there is stock advice for this, other than be prepared to get alot of looks. Not that that should matter.

[SLVRSR4]

Well, that's a large height gap. Ultimately it doesn't matter, go for it and you will figure it out as you go. I don't think there is stock advice for this, other than be prepared to get alot of looks. Not that that should matter.

I'm more worried about the fact that she looks a lot younger than she is. She's 17, I'm 18, but she looks like she's 14. Subconsciously I feel like a pedophile.

[Badger]

But you're not. :up:

[SLVRSR4]

I just have to remember not to do something tacky with Valentine's day so close.

[Erzengel]

GR87 what's the word?

[Monster]

I have a relationship problem,

I like this girl.

She's not like all the rest....








(She's a blow up doll) :(

[Monster]

Jokes.

Sorry.

Had to be done.

[Stotch]

I have a relationship problem,

I like this girl.

She's not like all the rest....








(She's a blow up doll) :(

Even blow up dolls don't last forever.

[Monster]

haha!

[amazingfantasy15]

GR87 what's the word?

Yeah, Thursday is the day, wonder if he's found out her name yet.

[Superman79]

Yeah, Thursday is the day, wonder if he's found out her name yet.


I just wonder what he got her...Russel Stovers chocolates...or the classic Whitmans Sampler :D

[turtlefocker]

god i hate valentines day,

[DV8]

Jokes.

Sorry.

Had to be done.

you call that a joke? :confused:

[DV8]

I just wonder what he got her...Russel Stovers chocolates...or the classic Whitmans Sampler :D

Lol! I wonder if he'll be sporting his bulging pecs and biceps . . . I bet he delivers the chocolates in his grey Hanes wifebeater . . .

[Superman79]

Well, today is "D-Day" for GR87...

How did it go man???

[Erzengel]

Probably awkward on her part.

[Superman79]

I really feel kinda bad for her... :csad:

[Monster]

Especially if mine's a blow up doll.

[Immortalfire]

Well, today is "D-Day" for GR87...

How did it go man???

I too await the news.

[Superman79]

I too await the news.

Here's the news...

we're all very wrongly wrong. :oldrazz:

[Daisy]

He's such a tease. :(

He always tells us his big plans... but doesn't ever come back and tell us the result.

[Immortalfire]

Here's the news...

we're all very wrongly wrong. :oldrazz:

And he will prove us wrong.

[amazingfantasy15]

I'm sure we'll have to wait until tomorrow, since he'll be "busy" all night with her. What woman could resist basically a total stranger giving her such a great Valentine's Day gift.

[Superman79]

C'mon GR87...Don't leave us hanging...did your girts inspire your gal-pal to immediately want to carry your babies???

[Daisy]

Man how I had build-up that leads to nothing.

It's like... um... what's the woman's equivalent to blue balls? :huh:

[Erzengel]

Blue holes?

[Daisy]

Somehow it just doesn't have the same cache'. :(

[jaguarr]

Man how I had build-up that leads to nothing.

It's like... um... what's the woman's equivalent to blue balls? :huh:

Blue lips? :huh:

jag

[DV8]

anyword from GR87 yet?

[DV8]

that's it . . . I'm sending him a PM!! :cmad:

[Gilpesh]

that's it . . . I'm sending him a PM!! :cmad:

Whoa... don't go all GR87 over GR87.

[amazingfantasy15]

Whoa... don't go all GR87 over GR87.

But we need to know what happened, plus at least we know his (user)name.

[DV8]

I haven't even gotten around to it yet . . . and AF15 is right :O

here . . . I'll do it now . . . GR87 behaves for me . . .

[tzarinna]

http://www.meetup.com/ have a go.

[Ghostvirus]

^I am giving that a go now. If anything it will be cool to start a group with people of the same interests.:up:

[tzarinna]

:yay: Let me know how it goes. :)

[Ghostvirus]

Oh, they f-ing charge after you sign up.:down: I hate sites like that. They get you in, then say oh by the way you need to pay like 30 bucks to do anything. LAMETASTIC.:down:

[tzarinna]

Really, I had no idea? That does suck.

[Ghostvirus]

Tell me about it. No wonder myspace is so popular. Its free!

[Metamorpho1977]

Free at last, free at last, thank God I'm free at last.
The Russian is gone, got her sorry commie pinko ass deported.

[tzarinna]

Tell me about it. No wonder myspace is so popular. Its free!

Well, apparently there's My Adult Space, I think it may be a bit on the skanky side. The guy that told me gave me that impression. Ugh.

Free at last, free at last, thank God I'm free at last.
The Russian is gone, got her sorry commie pinko ass deported.

Congrats. Now enjoy your freedom and take a break from trying to get your willy wet.

[Metamorpho1977]

what are you doing later, Tzarinna?

[tzarinna]

Breaking balls! :mad:
You want to get on the fast track? :cmad:














:rolleyes:

[Metamorpho1977]

Breaking balls! :mad:
You want to get on the fast track? :cmad:













:rolleyes:

sure, let's go

[Ghostvirus]

Well, apparently there's My Adult Space, I think it may be a bit on the skanky side. The guy that told me gave me that impression. Ugh.

The dude gave the skanky vibe, or he told you it is a little skanky?

what are you doing later, Tzarinna?

She isn't Russian, so you probably wouldn't be into her.:o

[tzarinna]

The dude gave the skanky vibe, or he told you it is a little skanky?

He stated something about it having very "adult" content.


She isn't Russian, so you probably wouldn't be into her.:o
[/quote]

Stop telling my secrets. :mad:

[Metamorpho1977]

No more Russians for me. Only good wholesome American girls for me. The rest of the world can have their skanks.

[Ghostvirus]

He stated something about it having very "adult" content.

Stop telling my secrets. :mad:

Not all adult content is skanky.:cwink:

Well if you hold your secrets that sacredly. Perhaps you are Russion.:cmad::o

[tzarinna]

This is true, but it is MySpace.

and :ninja:

[Ghostvirus]

I have a myspace account, but I really don't get on it that much. Simply because I am terrified I am going to be baited, & end up on dateline in a crotchless Jack Sparrow costume. Trying to explain that I thought the booty I was hunting for was legal.

[tzarinna]

I don't like the format and it takes forever to load.

[Ghostvirus]

That too. Some of the pages are so pimped out, that it slows my computer down. Some people really over do it.

[Superman79]

So. All quiet on the GR87 / relationship front huh guys??

[Daisy]

Blue lips? :huh:

jag

Perfect. :heart:

[Retro]

Ok i've got a nice sized problem here....
Ok there's this chick i like.
Alot.
Met her in my church group and we're kinda friends now.
I want to presue her in a b/f-g/f kinda way, but there's a small age gap.
See i'm 19 and as of tomorrow she'll be 15.
Now keep in mind that when we first met and got to know each other she comes off as a 20year old chick!!!!
Hell, the girl is more mature then me in some ways!
I want to make my feelings known, but i know her parents wouldn't just a cow...they'd have cattle!!!!
I think she's into me, cause every week i bust her stareing at me, and when i catch her she quickly looks away.
What should i do!!!!

[Superman79]

Ok i've got a nice sized problem here....
Ok there's this chick i like.
Alot.
Met her in my church group and we're kinda friends now.
I want to presue her in a b/f-g/f kinda way, but there's a small age gap.
See i'm 19 and as of tomorrow she'll be 15.
Now keep in mind that when we first met and got to know each other she comes off as a 20year old chick!!!!
Hell, the girl is more mature then me in some ways!
I want to make my feelings known, but i know her parents wouldn't just a cow...they'd have cattle!!!!
I think she's into me, cause every week i bust her stareing at me, and when i catch her she quickly looks away.
What should i do!!!!

Ok, I'm gonna have to step in here:

Sexual intercourse by an adult(age 18 and over) with a person below a statutorily designated age.
The criminal offense of statutory rape is committed when an adult sexually penetrates a person who, under the law, is incapable of consenting to sex. Minors and physically and mentally incapacitated persons are deemed incapable of consenting to sex under rape statutes in all states. These persons are considered deserving of special protection because they are especially vulnerable due to their youth or condition.
Most legislatures include statutory rape provisions in statutes that punish a number of different types of sexual assault. Statutory rape is different from other types of rape in that force and lack of consent are not necessary for conviction. A defendant may be convicted of statutory rape even if the complainant explicitly consented to the sexual contact and no force was used by the actor. By contrast, other rape generally occurs when a person overcomes another person by force and without the person's consent.
The actor's age is an important factor in statutory rape where the offense is based on the victim's age. Furthermore, a defendant may not argue that he was mistaken as to the minor's age or incapacity. Most rape statutes specify that a rape occurs when the complainant is under a certain age and the perpetrator is over a certain age. In Minnesota, for example, criminal sexual conduct in the first degree is defined as sexual contact with a person under thirteen years of age by a person who is more than thirty-six months older than the victim. The offense also is committed if the complainant is between thirteen and sixteen years old and the actor is more than forty-eight months older than the complainant (Minn. Stat. Ann. § 609.342 [West 1996]).

Traditionally, the statutorily designated age for a 'minor' is 18 (though for some reason age of consent in Iowa is 16).



Basically, what I'm trying to say is, no matter how old she acts, and even if you pull out the "I promise it wouldn't get physical" arguement....

NO! Bad Retro!! :o



I'm sorry dude, I feel for ya but there is nothing you can do about this, other than walk away and find a girl your own age, otherwise you may end up spending time talking to this guy:

http://i214.photobucket.com/albums/cc309/toylion/ToCatchaPredator.jpg

[DV8]

I don't like the format and it takes forever to load.

that's not what she said . . . da-dumm-csssshh!!! :O

[DV8]

don't do it, Retro . . . totally BLOWS, and I kind of hear you . . . but no matter how old she acts, she's off limits til she's 17 1/2, homie . . . wait if you think it's worth it, but I wouldn't hold my breath . . .

[DV8]

So. All quiet on the GR87 / relationship front huh guys??

heh . . . I sent him a PM . . . he must be so enthralled w/ lovemaking that he's forgotten to make it back here and share his joy . . . :o

[Retro]

Ok this is one of the reasons that's stood in my way.
EVERYBODY! assumes i'd sleep with her!
At this point in my life.....that's the LAST thing i want to do!
Cause i know my luck.....all the protection in the world...i'd STILL knock her up with triplets!!!
I've been in an age-gap relationship before (i was 18 she was 16) and nothing sexual happened.
Jail scared me too damn much to let it!!
I'm sorry, i may have urges, but being Bubba's ***** in the slammer as the result just ain't my cup of tea.
So no, sex is something that for a few years, ain't on the radar.
Now making out......that's another story!

[Erzengel]

Cause we all know the willpower of teenagers is so strong. LOL.

She's what a Freshman, Sophomore at best? You should be what a Freshman/Sophomore in College?

Date girls closer to your age.

[amazingfantasy15]

Ok i've got a nice sized problem here....
Ok there's this chick i like.
Alot.
Met her in my church group and we're kinda friends now.
I want to presue her in a b/f-g/f kinda way, but there's a small age gap.
See i'm 19 and as of tomorrow she'll be 15.
Now keep in mind that when we first met and got to know each other she comes off as a 20year old chick!!!!
Hell, the girl is more mature then me in some ways!
I want to make my feelings known, but i know her parents wouldn't just a cow...they'd have cattle!!!!
I think she's into me, cause every week i bust her stareing at me, and when i catch her she quickly looks away.
What should i do!!!!

That's probably too large of an age gap, 19 and 15? Aren't you in college? She's probably what a Sophmore in high school? Do you really want a high school girl for a girlfriend, if she was a senior I could see it, but a sophmore? I don't know seems like too big of a gap to me.

[Retro]

LOL.
Finding chick my age, who aren't total freaks who look at me as if i'm a freak in my town, is like trying to find a needle in deep space!
And i'm not doing the online thing!!!!

[DV8]

Ok this is one of the reasons that's stood in my way.
EVERYBODY! assumes i'd sleep with her!
At this point in my life.....that's the LAST thing i want to do!
Cause i know my luck.....all the protection in the world...i'd STILL knock her up with triplets!!!
I've been in an age-gap relationship before (i was 18 she was 16) and nothing sexual happened.
Jail scared me too damn much to let it!!
I'm sorry, i may have urges, but being Bubba's ***** in the slammer as the result just ain't my cup of tea.
So no, sex is something that for a few years, ain't on the radar.
Now making out......that's another story!

ok, well . . . it's a natural assumption . . . like I said, though . . . wait if you think she's worth it (which she might be for all I know) :up: follow your heart bro, just like GR87 . . . cuz lord knows he doesn't follow his head :O

[StrainedEyes]

LOL.
Finding chick my age, who aren't total freaks who look at me as if i'm a freak in my town, is like trying to find a needle in deep space!
And i'm not doing the online thing!!!!

Stop being a freak and maybe girls your age won't think you're one.

Stop cradle robbing too! Jailbait Jailbait.

[amazingfantasy15]

LOL.
Finding chick my age, who aren't total freaks who look at me as if i'm a freak in my town, is like trying to find a needle in deep space!
And i'm not doing the online thing!!!!

Really, you can't find a normal girl your age in your town? You're forced to go crusin' by the high schools to find girls. Do you go to college? I find it very hard to believe that you can't find a girl you like in college. The problem with high school girls is you keep getting older, they stay the same age and this isn't the movies where you get cooler, you just get creepier, to both the girls your age and those high school girls.

[DV8]

Really, you can't find a normal girl your age in your town? You're forced to go crusin' by the high schools to find girls. Do you go to college? I find it very hard to believe that you can't find a girl you like in college. The problem with high school girls is you keep getting older, they stay the same age and this isn't the movies where you get cooler, you just get creepier.

Lol! it's funny cuz it's true . . . except McConaghy (or whoever you spell that shet) really did get cooler :(

[amazingfantasy15]

Lol! it's funny cuz it's true . . . except McConaghy (or whoever you spell that shet) really did get cooler :(

Yeah, cause it was a movie, not real life.

[DV8]

Yeah, cause it was a movie, not real life.

I know . . . it was a joke :o now if you fight dragons and shet in real life, now we're talking :hehe:

[Erzengel]

LOL.
Finding chick my age, who aren't total freaks who look at me as if i'm a freak in my town, is like trying to find a needle in deep space!
And i'm not doing the online thing!!!!
You're asking for a lot of trouble.

Even if it was socially acceptable, you 2 are at different stages in your lives. Can you honestly say you can relate to a 15 year old girl's problems?

[Superman79]

Ok this is one of the reasons that's stood in my way.
EVERYBODY! assumes i'd sleep with her!
At this point in my life.....that's the LAST thing i want to do!
Cause i know my luck.....all the protection in the world...i'd STILL knock her up with triplets!!!
I've been in an age-gap relationship before (i was 18 she was 16) and nothing sexual happened.
Jail scared me too damn much to let it!!
I'm sorry, i may have urges, but being Bubba's ***** in the slammer as the result just ain't my cup of tea.
So no, sex is something that for a few years, ain't on the radar.
Now making out......that's another story!

Not really. Erz and DV8 pretty much covered it, but having gone to law school, I'm gonna tell you right now, even making out can get you in trouble...all it takes is her parents reporting you, and even claiming that anything MIGHT have happened and you WILL be investigated, and it WILL cause you serious problems. As for no sex, in many cases for statutory rape the legal definition of sex includes ALL manner of stimulation including fondling, groping (sexual assualt), and the stuff in between those things and sex. Even if its consensual under the law you are held liable and that will mess your life up big.

Seriously man, it sucks, but walk away

[Superman79]

Really, you can't find a normal girl your age in your town? You're forced to go crusin' by the high schools to find girls. Do you go to college? I find it very hard to believe that you can't find a girl you like in college.

QFT. :o

[StrainedEyes]

I like that he found her at his church group. Jesus would be proud.

[Immortalfire]

A beautiful girl took my order at Chick-fil-a last night :heart:

[Superman79]

A beautiful girl took my order at Chick-fil-a last night :heart:


Did she ask you if you wanted anything to drink?? If she did it means she wants to jump your bones!! :woot:

[Immortalfire]

Did she ask you if you wanted anything to drink?? If she did it means she wants to jump your bones!! :woot:

Yup, she asked what to drink, and I said Dr. Pepper.. I swear I saw fireworks. :word:

[Daisy]

She gave him complimentary 'dipping sauce'.

She wants him BAD! :wow:

[jaguarr]

She gave him complimentary 'dipping sauce'.

She wants him BAD! :wow:

If she only gave him Ranch then she's just stringing him along and has no intentions of loving him. She may just be using him for his awesome muscles.

jag

[The Original Bamfer]

If she only gave him Ranch then she's just stringing him along and has no intentions of loving him. She may just be using him for his awesome muscles.

jag

But, but, but... This cute girl at Burger King always gives me Ranch. :csad:

[jaguarr]

But, but, but... This cute girl at Burger King always gives me Ranch. :csad:

Well, now you know what you mean to her, son.

jag

[Superman79]

But, but, but... This cute girl at Burger King always gives me Ranch. :csad:

Denial ain't just a river in Egypt. :hehe:

[Immortalfire]

Well, now you know what you mean to her, son.

jag

Let us weep for Bamfer's loss :csad:

[The Original Bamfer]

Let us weep for Bamfer's loss :csad:

It's okay. I still have my ranch dressing. :csad:

[Daisy]

If she only gave him Ranch then she's just stringing him along and has no intentions of loving him. She may just be using him for his awesome muscles.

jag
It was BBQ... hot stuff. :o

[DV8]

I heard girls at Chik-fil-a that serve the sweet and sour like to bone for hours :cool:

[Erzengel]

Honestly, where do most of you eat fast food that even remotely has attractive workers? :huh:

[DV8]

Honestly, where do most of you eat fast food that even remotely has attractive workers? :huh:

Lol! Seriously . . . I have to at least go to Charcoal Grill to see any kind of tail in food service :(

[Erzengel]

Unless you are under what 17? Even then, jailbait works at those smoothie, or ice cream places. Over 17, they are smart enough to work at some of the theme restaurants, getting tips on their looks. :huh:

[Superman79]

Honestly, where do most of you eat fast food that even remotely has attractive workers? :huh:

Um...Culvers? :huh:

[Erzengel]

Maybe I should narrow it down to places of civilization. :o

[Immortalfire]

Honestly, where do most of you eat fast food that even remotely has attractive workers? :huh:

Athens, having a college campus has no shortage of hotties at Chick-fil-a. Don't know about other places because I don't go.

[DV8]

heh . . . every Culvers I go to is manned by uber-fatties :down

[Superman79]

heh . . . every Culvers I go to is manned by uber-fatties :down

I don't go for the girls...I go for the burgers...and the frozen custard...

[DV8]

I don't go for the girls...I go for the burgers...and the frozen custard...

heh . . . I know (at least I hope so); just sayin :O

[Superman79]

heh . . . I know (at least I hope so); just sayin :O

fair enough...but seriously, peanut butter and hot fudge sundae FTW :D

[DV8]

^heh . . . and cheese curds!!! I'm from Wisconsin :(

[Daisy]

Unless you are under what 17? Even then, jailbait works at those smoothie, or ice cream places. Over 17, they are smart enough to work at some of the theme restaurants, getting tips on their looks. :huh:

And coffee shops.

[Ghostvirus]

Ok i've got a nice sized problem here....
Ok there's this chick i like.
Alot.
Met her in my church group and we're kinda friends now.
I want to presue her in a b/f-g/f kinda way, but there's a small age gap.
See i'm 19 and as of tomorrow she'll be 15.
Now keep in mind that when we first met and got to know each other she comes off as a 20year old chick!!!!
Hell, the girl is more mature then me in some ways!
I want to make my feelings known, but i know her parents wouldn't just a cow...they'd have cattle!!!!
I think she's into me, cause every week i bust her stareing at me, and when i catch her she quickly looks away.
What should i do!!!!

Ok this is one of the reasons that's stood in my way.
EVERYBODY! assumes i'd sleep with her!
At this point in my life.....that's the LAST thing i want to do!
Cause i know my luck.....all the protection in the world...i'd STILL knock her up with triplets!!!
I've been in an age-gap relationship before (i was 18 she was 16) and nothing sexual happened.
Jail scared me too damn much to let it!!
I'm sorry, i may have urges, but being Bubba's ***** in the slammer as the result just ain't my cup of tea.
So no, sex is something that for a few years, ain't on the radar.
Now making out......that's another story!

LOL.
Finding chick my age, who aren't total freaks who look at me as if i'm a freak in my town, is like trying to find a needle in deep space!
And i'm not doing the online thing!!!!

How small of a town do you live in? It can't be that small if you are going to college there. Why do people think you are a freak?

[Daisy]

Because he lusts after under-age girls? :huh:

[amazingfantasy15]

Because he lusts after under-age girls? :huh:

But they're mature for their age...

[Superman79]

http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa231/FrankTheTank1236/Demotivational%20Posters/predator.jpg

[Immortalfire]

http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa231/FrankTheTank1236/Demotivational%20Posters/predator.jpg

:funny:

[SLVRSR4]

heh . . . every Culvers I go to is manned by uber-fatties :down
I was asked to prom by one of these abominations:csad:

[DV8]

I was asked to prom by one of these abominations:csad:

LOL!! :abom: you should have said YES!! you could have had all the nacho cheese sauce your little heart desired :(

[Ash J. Williams]

This girl I've got my eyes on: I think she's interested in another guy.

[SLVRSR4]

LOL!! :abom: you should have said YES!! you could have had all the nacho cheese sauce your little heart desired :(

I'm loving the smilie, but that's about it:oldrazz:

[Monster]

This girl I've got my eyes on: I think she's interested in another guy.

Talk to her about it.

[Superman79]

This girl I've got my eyes on: I think she's interested in another guy.

Have you asked her out yet?? She might be entertaining herself until you show interest.

Of course, no matter what, the best way to find out if you have a chance is to just ask her out.

[Daisy]

This girl I've got my eyes on: I think she's interested in another guy.
Ask her out. You won't know until you try.

Talk to her about it.

No. Under no circumstances do you ask a girl you are interested in if she's interested in another guy! :huh: NEVER! NEVER EVER! I mean it... NEVER!

Simply, ask her out. If she likes you, she'll say yes.

Have you asked her out yet?? She might be entertaining herself until you show interest.

Of course, no matter what, the best way to find out if you have a chance is to just ask her out.

She might not even have him on her radar. He needs to ask her out, then he'll know. :up:

[Superman79]

Ask her out. You won't know until you try.



No. Under no circumstances do you ask a girl you are interested in if she's interested in another guy! :huh: NEVER! NEVER EVER! I mean it... NEVER!

Simply, ask her out. If she likes you, she'll say yes.



She might not even have him on her radar. He needs to ask her out, then he'll know. :up:

That's what I said...:up:

as far as not on the radar goes...I was trying to avoid the negative and keep him in a positive mindset :csad:

[Ghostvirus]

Well the situation with me & the Pharmacygirl is officially over. Last time I went in to get a scription. I didn't see, but as I was leaving I ran into her. She said hello, I said hello, & ran out the door. Didn't stop to chat or nothing.

Today I went in she completely ignored me. I don't blame her at all. This isn't the first time I have been completely retarded. Still it doesn't suck any less. I was really hoping to at least cultivate a friendship, but it appears that my a-hole of a brain can't even do that. I just wish I could stop acting so f-ing retarded around woman. I keep coming off like a jackass.

Anyway. It really sucks that this thing is officially over. I am not feeling so good right now, so I am just going to get wasted. Never the less I appreciate everybodies help, & I hope that this thread has helped other people as well.

[amazingfantasy15]

Well the situation with me & the Pharmacygirl is officially over. Last time I went in to get a scription. I didn't see, but as I was leaving I ran into her. She said hello, I said hello, & ran out the door. Didn't stop to chat or nothing.

Today I went in she completely ignored me. I don't blame her at all. This isn't the first time I have been completely retarded. Still it doesn't suck any less. I was really hoping to at least cultivate a friendship, but it appears that my a-hole of a brain can't even do that. I just wish I could stop acting so f-ing retarded around woman. I keep coming off like a jackass.

Anyway. It really sucks that this thing is officially over. I am not feeling so good right now, so I am just going to get wasted. Never the less I appreciate everybodies help, & I hope that this thread has helped other people as well.

Good that you're finally admitting it's over. Now go out and get drunk at one of those college bars, those college girls are sure to be out on a Thursday night. Just be sure to take a glance at that left ring finger as soon as possible, make sure there isn't anything there, if there is, walk away.

[Erzengel]

It never ever really started GV. And you were just using the "friend" angle to stay close to her even if your brain was saying just friends.

You are better off. Walk it off. :up:

[Daisy]

It never ever really started GV. And you were just using the "friend" angle to stay close to her even if your brain was saying just friends.

You are better off. Walk it off. :up:

I should have figured you'd say it. :o


Do you think anyone will ever actually listen to our advice? :csad:

[Erzengel]

If we can help one person Daisy, it would be worth it. :up:

[DV8]

when they DO listen, they don't really even listen to it correctly though :( they always muck it up somehow :down

[Daisy]

I have yet to see someone listen. :huh:

[GoldenAgeHero]

you should visit more often then?

[Superman79]

I have yet to see someone listen. :huh:

I listened Daisy and Erz about my date situation...and it went smashingly :up:

[amazingfantasy15]

I have yet to see someone listen. :huh:

Well, we have yet to hear back from GR87, maybe he did listen and learned the girl's name and had a date or two with her before Valetine's Day and gave her her presents in private not just before or after class.

[Superman79]

Well, we have yet to hear back from GR87, maybe he did listen and learned the girl's name and had a date or two with her before Valetine's Day and gave her her presents in private not just before or after class.


Yeah, and maybe Erz will be made an admin, the sun will set in the east, Dubya and Michael Moore will become best buddies, and Sophia Bush will show up at my door tomorrow night wanting to have my babies...:whatever::whatever:

[Daisy]

I listened about my date situation...and it went smashingly :up:
Was that here or there?

I thought it was there? :huh:


That is a fabulous testimonial though. The only thing that would have been better is if it said: "I listed to Erz and Daisy about my date situation..." Then we could put it in our sigs as a reminder to people. :o

[Immortalfire]

Yeah, and maybe Erz will be made an admin, the sun will set in the east, Dubya and Michael Moore will become best buddies, and Sophia Bush will show up at my door tomorrow night wanting to have my babies...:whatever::whatever:
Let's see if those things will happen..
http://web.ics.purdue.edu/~ssanty/cgi-bin/eightball.cgi

[Daisy]

Interesting:

I got these answers:
http://i258.photobucket.com/albums/hh252/Daisy8s/sunset.png

http://i258.photobucket.com/albums/hh252/Daisy8s/WandMM.png

http://i258.photobucket.com/albums/hh252/Daisy8s/SophiaBushSmo.png

http://i258.photobucket.com/albums/hh252/Daisy8s/Erzadmin.png

8 Ball has spoken... make it so. :o

[Superman79]

Was that here or there?

I thought it was there? :huh:


That is a fabulous testimonial though. The only thing that would have been better is if it said: "I listed to Erz and Daisy about my date situation..." Then we could put it in our sigs as a reminder to people. :o

Edited for testimony :D

And yeah, it was here...the thread was slow so I tossed it out here.

[Erzengel]

I'll be an Admin?

Then I will have the 501st eliminate the rest of the moderators. :up:

[Superman79]

Interesting:

I got these answers:




http://i258.photobucket.com/albums/hh252/Daisy8s/SophiaBushSmo.png



8 Ball has spoken... make it so. :o

Stupid 8-Ball :cmad:

[Daisy]

Careful... the 8-ball can sense negativity and will adjust your fate accordingly. :o

[Scarlet spidey]

I'm in a weird situation now.:o

[Erzengel]

*sigh*

Gee, what is your weird situation? :huh:

[Scarlet spidey]

*sigh*

Gee, what is your weird situation? :huh:Don't take that tone with me, mister.

[DV8]

I'm in a weird situation now.:o

*sigh*

Gee, what is your weird situation? :huh:

hahaha, is there some trouble with Fred and Wilma's paradise in Bedrock?

[Erzengel]

Don't take that tone with me, mister.

It's like when you are busing leveling up in a video game and your girl sits next you with a heavy sigh, subtlely asking for your attention, and you have to pause your game in order to feign interest. :csad:

[WorthyStevens]

It's like when you are busing leveling up in a video game and your girl sits next you with a heavy sigh, subtlely asking for your attention, and you have to pause your game in order to feign interest. :csad:

That's why I had mine put down. :csad:

[Scarlet spidey]

hahaha, is there some trouble with Fred and Wilma's paradise in Bedrock?
I really don't see a resemblance.:huh:

It's like when you are busing leveling up in a video game and your girl sits next you with a heavy sigh, subtlely asking for your attention, and you have to pause your game in order to feign interest. :csad:
No, it's more like I kinda offhandedly mentioned to this gal I know that I'd date her, and thought nothing of it, mostly because I feel she's way out of my league. The next day I get a message from her on Facebook asking if I wanna hang out with her soon. (To which I obviously said yes:p) but now I'm nervous. I feel like I'll blow it for some reason.
Meh.
Weird situation in my opinion.

[SpideyVille]

I really don't see a resemblance.:huh:


No, it's more like I kinda offhandedly mentioned to this gal I know that I'd date her, and thought nothing of it, mostly because I feel she's way out of my league. The next day I get a message from her on Facebook asking if I wanna hang out with her soon. (To which I obviously said yes:p) but now I'm nervous. I feel like I'll blow it for some reason.
Meh.
Weird situation in my opinion.

This reminds of this one time where i was chatting on aim with the girl i liked and she randomly said we'd never date (which was weird cause she though i liked someone else), but then like a week or two later she invited me to go hang out. I was so confident that things would go great but when I met her at her house, she ended up bringing some guy friend of hers and her cousin. She winded up not talking to me for most of the time and i ended up getting so nervous and shy because i didn't know the other two people she brought with her, that i just kept to myself. So it ended up pretty bad :csad:. She ended up telling me the next week that she never wants to hang out with me again because i was so boring that one time, but then she felt bad when she found out i liked her.
So the lesson here is don't be nervous about it and don't act like it's something big cause it might not be. Just think of it like you're hanging out with you're usual friends, and if it's clear she's leading you on, then you can try to make a move.

[Gilpesh]

So the lesson here is...

Don't hang out with ****s and think you like them.

[DV8]

edit

[DV8]

It's like when you are busing leveling up in a video game and your girl sits next you with a heavy sigh, subtlely asking for your attention, and you have to pause your game in order to feign interest. :csad:

No, it's more like I kinda offhandedly mentioned to this gal I know that I'd date her, and thought nothing of it, mostly because I feel she's way out of my league. The next day I get a message from her on Facebook asking if I wanna hang out with her soon. (To which I obviously said yes:p) but now I'm nervous. I feel like I'll blow it for some reason.
Meh.
Weird situation in my opinion.

haha, you did it again but forgot the *kicks ground sheepishly* at the end :hehe:

[spideyboy_1111]

I have a question, im about to get into a relationship with my first boyfriend... which sounds great and all and im excited. problem is i liked this other guy for a year, we got really close and he hurt me, yet we made up and became good friends... we both still really care for eachother he just kept some stuff from me. Anywho this guy who hurt me, is Colt, Colt and i still talk, but he has a bf and as close as we are part of me still has strong feelings... any way i like this new guy John alot too... but part of me is afraid i wont have those "fairy tale man of my dreams" feelings about him like i had for Colt. and that scares me a little bit

[DV8]

^we always want what we can't have; it's like a primal thrill; also, I think it has something to do with the people who treat you badly in a relationship that you KNOW will hurt you not only give you a greater thrill, but they attack your own insecurities . . .

you feel if the nice guy you speak of (subconsciously) 'accepts' you, there must be something wrong with him; and it starts to get too comfortable . . . you have to be happy with yourself first, dude . . .

[spideyboy_1111]

^we always want what we can't have; it's like a primal thrill; also, I think it has something to do with the people who treat you badly in a relationship that you KNOW will hurt you not only give you a greater thrill, but they attack your own insecurities . . .

you feel if the nice guy you speak of (subconsciously) 'accepts' you, there must be something wrong with him; and it starts to get too comfortable . . . you have to be happy with yourself first, dude . . .

i am for the most part... i just have really high expectations when it comes to love. and i'm afraid of feeling that i might not feel the way i did about Colt with any other guy again. That kinda scares me

[DV8]

i am for the most part... i just have really high expectations when it comes to love. and i'm afraid of feeling that i might not feel the way i did about Colt with any other guy again. That kinda scares me

I hear you man . . . but you have to try and not compare the two; that's not fair to the new guy . . .

also, a lot of us have been in those relationships where no matter how much you love that person, you have to look out for what's best for you; to stay w/ Colt would have only made it worse in the longrun . . .

it's also tough being friends after that . . . those feelings will always kind of be floating around underneath . . .

[Ash J. Williams]

Talk to her about it.
Yeah, I guess I should. I was going to about a week ago, but she was holding hands and hanging around this one guy. I dunno what their deal is.
Have you asked her out yet?? She might be entertaining herself until you show interest.

Of course, no matter what, the best way to find out if you have a chance is to just ask her out.
See above.

Yeah, you're right.
Ask her out. You won't know until you try.



No. Under no circumstances do you ask a girl you are interested in if she's interested in another guy! :huh: NEVER! NEVER EVER! I mean it... NEVER!

Simply, ask her out. If she likes you, she'll say yes.



She might not even have him on her radar. He needs to ask her out, then he'll know. :up:
OK, but you're contradicting yourself here.

[DV8]

Yeah, I guess I should. I was going to about a week ago, but she was holding hands and hanging around this one guy. I dunno what their deal is.

See above.

Yeah, you're right.

yeah, I hear what you're saying, you see her hanging out with this dude and you're kinda like wtf? you have to go and see what the deal is; cuz in her eyes, if you don't care either you don't really like her or you don't have the balls to say it . . . that's a roundabout way of how it works, I guess . . .

OK, but you're contradicting yourself here.

she was being sarcastic dude hahaha, at least I think she was :O

[Ash J. Williams]

yeah, I hear what you're saying, you see her hanging out with this dude and you're kinda like wtf? you have to go and see what the deal is; cuz in her eyes, if you don't care either you don't really like her or you don't have the balls to say it . . . that's a roundabout way of how it works, I guess . . .
Assuming she knows I am interested in her.
she was being sarcastic dude hahaha, at least I think she was :O
Oh, all right.

[Daisy]

OK, but you're contradicting yourself here.

No, I'm not. You can ask a girl out without talking about whether or not she's interested in another guy. Hell, you can ask a girl out without talking about whether or not she's interested in you.

It's simple.

"Hi [girl]! So, I was wondering if you'd be interested in going to [this activity] with me on [Date/Day of the week]?"

See, no 'talking about it'.

The best piece of advice most people here need is to stop THINKING and TALKING about the people you like and whether or not they like you back, just DO SOMETHING! Don't think. Don't talk. ACT!

[Erzengel]

I really don't see a resemblance.:huh:


No, it's more like I kinda offhandedly mentioned to this gal I know that I'd date her, and thought nothing of it, mostly because I feel she's way out of my league. The next day I get a message from her on Facebook asking if I wanna hang out with her soon. (To which I obviously said yes:p) but now I'm nervous. I feel like I'll blow it for some reason.
Meh.
Weird situation in my opinion.
It's mistake putting this girl above you. (i.e. out of my league)

It's not weird, it's normal. Just don't over think it and play things as they come along.

[Erzengel]

I have a question, im about to get into a relationship with my first boyfriend... which sounds great and all and im excited. problem is i liked this other guy for a year, we got really close and he hurt me, yet we made up and became good friends... we both still really care for eachother he just kept some stuff from me. Anywho this guy who hurt me, is Colt, Colt and i still talk, but he has a bf and as close as we are part of me still has strong feelings... any way i like this new guy John alot too... but part of me is afraid i wont have those "fairy tale man of my dreams" feelings about him like i had for Colt. and that scares me a little bit
Don't pine for one and f' the other. Neither really deserve to be a "booby prize", pick one. Life is all about choices but you also shouldn't have to settle.

[Daisy]

yeah, I hear what you're saying, you see her hanging out with this dude and you're kinda like wtf? you have to go and see what the deal is; cuz in her eyes, if you don't care either you don't really like her or you don't have the balls to say it . . . that's a roundabout way of how it works, I guess . . .


NO, NO, NO! *beat head against wall* :csad:

She has no reason to be 'exclusive' or to date just this guy (initially). She doesn't even know this guy is interested in her. She may have simply gone out with this guy because a) he asked and b) he was good enough.

Ask her out. If she says yes... go out. If you have a good time, ask her to go out again. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat as necessary. You might even find out she asks during this. If she's into you, she'll stop seeing other people and "voila!" you have a girlfriend! If she continues to see other guys at the same time (which she has every right to do... so do you - girls anyway), after a little while you could bring it up that you'd like to be exclusive, but that's down the line.... way down the line since you haven't even asked the girl out.

You don't start dating someone by "talking about the relationship". There's no real 'relationship' at this point. If you go in starting about exclusivity you're putting the cart before the horse and have a good chance of scaring that person away because you're way to serious from the start.

[spideyboy_1111]

Don't pine for one and f' the other. Neither really deserve to be a "booby prize", pick one. Life is all about choices but you also shouldn't have to settle.

well one i technically cant pick

[Erzengel]

Yeah, you can if you try and pursue him even if he has a boyfriend. While your former bf may have hurt you, there's a closeness and comfortness there. The new bf is a little unknown as of this moment and I think that's what scares you. You can choose to remain with your current or actively try and pursue the former.

Honestly, I think you are still carrying a torch for the former and I think you shouldn't talk to him as much for the moment and try and focus on the current.

[spideyboy_1111]

Yeah, you can if you try and pursue him even if he has a boyfriend. While your former bf may have hurt you, there's a closeness and comfortness there. The new bf is a little unknown as of this moment and I think that's what scares you. You can choose to remain with your current or actively try and pursue the former.

colt and i never dated.. he lives in chicago i live in los angeles... we just talked and became very close over a year.... went to visit him in chicago.. he stood me up, because he freaks out.. came back from chicago he admitted he had a bf and didnt know what to do... yadda yadda... anywho he likes his bf... just wants me to be a great friend... yet whenever we mention us he gives the deathining blow "well i can't predict the future" so ... in the mean time im trying to not think about him and think about john and want to date john, i just fear i wont have that same "spark" or magic i felt with colt

[Daisy]

i am for the most part... i just have really high expectations when it comes to love. and i'm afraid of feeling that i might not feel the way i did about Colt with any other guy again. That kinda scares me

If you continue to hold this idealized image of Colt in your mind, you won't feel that way about other guys. You'll be too hung up on this unrealistic idea of Colt to enjoy your time with them.

There are lots guys out there who are gonna make you feel wonderful and you'll feel wonderful about. Forget about Colt and allow yourself to enjoy all the other guys out there who are going to come your way.

[spideyboy_1111]

If you continue to hold this idealized image of Colt in your mind, you won't feel that way about other guys. You'll be too hung up on this unrealistic idea of Colt to enjoy your time with them.

There are lots guys out there who are gonna make you feel wonderful and you'll feel wonderful about. Forget about Colt and allow yourself to enjoy all the other guys out there who are going to come your way.

i know, and thats what i want.. i just am deeply afraid that if i don't feel that spark ill be settling.. and that ideology scares me. im really a basket case and have alot of past guy issues i need worked out...

[Daisy]

colt and i never dated.. he lives in chicago i live in los angeles... we just talked and became very close over a year.... went to visit him in chicago.. he stood me up, because he freaks out.. came back from chicago he admitted he had a bf and didnt know what to do... yadda yadda... anywho he likes his bf... just wants me to be a great friend... yet whenever we mention us he gives the deathining blow "well i can't predict the future" so ... in the mean time im trying to not think about him and think about john and want to date john, i just fear i wont have that same "spark" or magic i felt with colt

Colt is insecure and trying to keep you around as a 'just-in-case". He knows you're attracted to him and he keeps you hanging because it makes him feel good/safe. Forget about him.

You might not have that 'spark' with John. You won't know 'til you try, but even if you don't with John, you might with Steve or Coty or Dale or Marcus or Peter or Galen or Doug or... you get my point. You will, at some point (maybe not right this moment), with someone other than Colt feel that spark. I can guarantee it 100 percent.

[Daisy]

It's mistake putting this girl above you. (i.e. out of my league)

It's not weird, it's normal. Just don't over think it and play things as they come along.

:up:

[spideyboy_1111]

Colt is insecure and trying to keep you around as a 'just-in-case". He knows you're attracted to him and he keeps you hanging because it makes him feel good/safe. Forget about him.

You might not have that 'spark' with John. You won't know 'til you try, but even if you don't with John, you might with Steve or Coty or Dale or Marcus or Peter or Galen or Doug or... you get my point. You will, at some point (maybe not right this moment), with someone other than Colt feel that spark. I can guarantee it 100 percent.

lets hope...

ive been on a long journey... and im a huge romantic just never gotten to let that out on anyone... been in all kinds of sorts of relationships.. none real to the point we were boyfriends.. lots of lies, lots of leading on, lots of "i just want to be friends", and people always tell me you can't look for love. And it's not that i look for it all the time but im anti-social in a huge city, with friends who are to broke to go out so if i don't put myself out there in some form no one will know i exist, and i'm an only child and so use to being on myself that past few years ive just hated in... and i just really want someone to share my life with and i've just ran into alot of bad luck. im cute, im smart, and i like to have fun. LA's just a rough city if your not an abercombie model

[Superman79]

lets hope...

ive been on a long journey... and im a huge romantic just never gotten to let that out on anyone... been in all kinds of sorts of relationships.. none real to the point we were boyfriends.. lots of lies, lots of leading on, lots of "i just want to be friends", and people always tell me you can't look for love. And it's not that i look for it all the time but im anti-social in a huge city, with friends who are to broke to go out so if i don't put myself out there in some form no one will know i exist, and i'm an only child and so use to being on myself that past few years ive just hated in... and i just really want someone to share my life with and i've just ran into alot of bad luck. im cute, im smart, and i like to have fun. LA's just a rough city if your not an abercombie model

Dude, it'll happen when it happens. But as Erz and Co. have been saying, don't limit yourself by being afraid that this new guy won't be as good as the old one. Thats the kind of fear that will leave you paralyzed from finding a person you're supposed to be with. Try it, and if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't...if it does, then great.

Other thing is, LA is rough no matter what your orientation...they operate on a different level (and not a good one mind you)...:csad:

[Superman79]

I really don't see a resemblance.:huh:


No, it's more like I kinda offhandedly mentioned to this gal I know that I'd date her, and thought nothing of it, mostly because I feel she's way out of my league. The next day I get a message from her on Facebook asking if I wanna hang out with her soon. (To which I obviously said yes:p) but now I'm nervous. I feel like I'll blow it for some reason.
Meh.
Weird situation in my opinion.

Dude...just relax and enjoy spending time with her. Don't go into it thinking "gee I hope she becomes my g/f"...go in to it thinking "ok, we're gonna go and have some fun" doing whatever. Remember, no girl is out of your league (except maybe the rich celebrity type- and thats just because you never get to meet them). YOU make her out of your league by putting her on a pedestal. Like in 40 Year Old Vrigin: "You can't put the p***y on a pedestal, like the Greek Goddess Pussilia."

Basically, what I'm saying is relax, play it cool, have some fun and let things happen as they may. Best of luck :up:

Assuming she knows I am interested in her.


She may not, and frankly I recommend NEVER assuming a girl knows your feelings. Just ask her out, its the only way she's gonna know you're interested. If it pans out to a relationship, great, if not, then at the very least you have likely made a friend (and female friends are good too, as they have MORE female friends to introduce you to ;))



She has no reason to be 'exclusive' or to date just this guy (initially). She doesn't even know this guy is interested in her. She may have simply gone out with this guy because a) he asked and b) he was good enough.

Ask her out. If she says yes... go out. If you have a good time, ask her to go out again. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat as necessary. You might even find out she asks during this. If she's into you, she'll stop seeing other people and "voila!" you have a girlfriend! If she continues to see other guys at the same time (which she has every right to do... so do you - girls anyway), after a little while you could bring it up that you'd like to be exclusive, but that's down the line.... way down the line since you haven't even asked the girl out.

You don't start dating someone by "talking about the relationship". There's no real 'relationship' at this point. If you go in starting about exclusivity you're putting the cart before the horse and have a good chance of scaring that person away because you're way to serious from the start.

QFT

[spideyboy_1111]

Dude, it'll happen when it happens. But as Erz and Co. have been saying, don't limit yourself by being afraid that this new guy won't be as good as the old one. Thats the kind of fear that will leave you paralyzed from finding a person you're supposed to be with. Try it, and if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't...if it does, then great.

Other thing is, LA is rough no matter what your orientation...they operate on a different level (and not a good one mind you)...:csad:

ya found that out the hard way... its such a hookup city.. and im so over that

[Damien Rage]

lets hope...

ive been on a long journey... and im a huge romantic just never gotten to let that out on anyone... been in all kinds of sorts of relationships.. none real to the point we were boyfriends.. lots of lies, lots of leading on, lots of "i just want to be friends", and people always tell me you can't look for love. And it's not that i look for it all the time but im anti-social in a huge city, with friends who are to broke to go out so if i don't put myself out there in some form no one will know i exist, and i'm an only child and so use to being on myself that past few years ive just hated in... and i just really want someone to share my life with and i've just ran into alot of bad luck. im cute, im smart, and i like to have fun. LA's just a rough city if your not an abercombie model

LMAO...Orlando is the same. I hate it.

I'm from Jersey. I miss the gay scene there. I could go out even by myself(anywhere) NJ, NYC, some places in PA) and have a great time. Meet people (not hook up). Just random people. Strike a conversation, make friends, run into friends who happend to go to same place... Good times.

In Orlando the mo's have an attitude. So I rarely go out. Well kinda. I go out but with my friends (who are mostly straight). I have a great time. We go down town, bar hop, concerts, party at friends house. It's great.

[Erzengel]

Where ya from in Jersey?

[Superman79]

ya found that out the hard way... its such a hookup city.. and im so over that

Ever consider moving? I mean even San Fran. and San Diego (which is German for 'Whales Vagina') are better places.

[spideyboy_1111]

LMAO...Orlando is the same. I hate it.

I'm from Jersey. I miss the gay scene there. I could go out even by myself(anywhere) NJ, NYC, some places in PA) and have a great time. Meet people (not hook up). Just random people. Strike a conversation, make friends, run into friends who happend to go to same place... Good times.

In Orlando the mo's have an attitude. So I rarely go out. Well kinda. I go out but with my friends (who are mostly straight). I have a great time. We go down town, bar hop, concerts, party at friends house. It's great.

i've heard jersey is pretty decent...

here in LA i'll admit when im with friends it's not bad, it's when you try to go at it yourself. when your with friends you can shut out the annoying people.

i went through a rough phase though where i had a hard time wanting friends i wasnt attracted to... and that created a whole bunch of problems, i had a hard time simply just wanting a friend.. with no attraction at all.

[spideyboy_1111]

Ever consider moving? I mean even San Fran. and San Diego (which is German for 'Whales Vagina') are better places.

san fran i do love.. but im sooo incredibly scared of earthquakes.. i cant move anyway right now due to school.. but in the future sure, i wanna have kids some day and totally not raising them in LA. I have a thing for hot wholesome midwest guys ... there my guilty pleasure. I do love san diego as well.. and seriously.. it's german for whale vag? thats gross but no wonder my lesbian cousin always takes her girlfriends there

[Damien Rage]

Where ya from in Jersey?

South and North:
Was born in Philly, lived in Merchantville till I was 3, Meford till I was 9, Mountain Lakes till I was 12, Denville till I was 24 (then I left and went to Mass) and moved to Fl in 99.

[Damien Rage]

I have a thing for hot wholesome midwest guys ... there my guilty pleasure.

mmmmm...cowboys...:oldrazz:

I have a wide array of tastes...but I am happily dating a guy from VA. Someone I have known/liked for 4 years. We are taking thing slow(ish) and not rushing into anything (really) stupid so we don't destroy the friendship we have had...just want to build apon it.

Sigh...it's like a dream come true =)

[Superman79]

san fran i do love.. but im sooo incredibly scared of earthquakes.. i cant move anyway right now due to school.. but in the future sure, i wanna have kids some day and totally not raising them in LA. I have a thing for hot wholesome midwest guys ... there my guilty pleasure. I do love san diego as well.. and seriously.. it's german for whale vag? thats gross but no wonder my lesbian cousin always takes her girlfriends there

Ok, you totally missed the Ron Burgandy reference...:p

[spideyboy_1111]

mmmmm...cowboys...:oldrazz:

I have a wide array of tastes...but I am happily dating a guy from VA. Someone I have known/liked for 4 years. We are taking thing slow(ish) and not rushing into anything (really) stupid so we don't destroy the friendship we have had...just want to build apon it.

Sigh...it's like a dream come true =)

lucky bastard...

na cowboys i dont care for.. i like "the boy next door" wholesome all american pie kinda guy...

but alas my fantasy boys never happen...

-Nick, lives in LA talked to him online a year before i moved to LA, met him in person 2 years after i had moved here. we've been friends well over a year use to be "cuddle buds" had sex onces, he looks like james marsden with a little bit of spanish in him great guy, and great friend.. but just wanted to stay friends

-Raff or "Ralf" dated, but he slept with an older guy and wasnt safe, so was afraid of messing with me till he got tested... but decided to whip it out to a friend on a cam with me in front of him... totally broke down crying haha, anyway he moved to SLC

-Paul, first guy i ever slept with, just wanted to be friends and now acts 2 faced with me and currently has the hots for Nick

-_____ totally forget his name.. but hurt me real bad so i guess i must have blocked it out. we dated for a while, nothing official though, just spent alot of time together... he initiated alot of things, but blamed them on me... then stopped hanging out with me and said crap like "i fondled him in his sleep" yeah :whatever: he'd grab my hand and seriously place it in places.

-Micheal, talked for a year online/phone sent each other gifts, lives in PA. Fell for him hard. He found out he was dying of bone marrow cancer, helped him through it. Year later after a few failed attempts of meeting up he admits his pics hes been showing me werent him... was devastated (to this day still hasnt showed me his real pics)

-Colt, interned here in LA, lives in chicago and works for WGN (produces the news), hes hot as hell easily the hottest guy who's ever been attracted to me, hes sweet, caring, gets me, we totally click 100% but is too afraid of trying to make us work do to distance. Tried meeting him in Chicago over x-mas break but totally stood me up (was with friends thank god) find out later he was on a trip with friends in LA (where i live) with his boyfriend of 5months... was devastated again.. but he apologized and just feared hurting me alot. we made up and are still good friends, but a part of me is always going to love the guy.

-and now theres john who i have a first date with... hes tall, scottish, dark hair, accent, really sweet. could be a great thing for me... i just hope im attracted in person. pics lie soo much and i totally don't want to come off shallow, but it still has to feel right. sooo im nervous as hell but want to give it a shot

[spideyboy_1111]

Ok, you totally missed the Ron Burgandy reference...:p

im slow... its 7:30 am

[Damien Rage]

a spanish James Marsden? dios mio...que guapo :wow: :oldrazz: :woot:

[Damien Rage]

omg wow...dam spideyboy...I checked out your myspace. niiice

[spideyboy_1111]

a spanish James Marsden? dios mio...que guapo

Nick
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v643/spideyboy_1111/Boys/l_2a0a8c2e3e30d1c30a63e0b91046ed84.jpg
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v643/spideyboy_1111/Boys/l_a5b77a2aa064d09aac2011ed9babf2fc.jpg

Colt
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v643/spideyboy_1111/Boys/la7.jpg
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v643/spideyboy_1111/Boys/l_91edd6ecd4628228924318c237aaeba7.jpg
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v643/spideyboy_1111/Boys/l_d781a495e53963509d772843d7a35811.jpg

John
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v643/spideyboy_1111/Boys/l_5dc411ddbdcc73bfcf3fa3c3d95f36c4.jpg


can u see why colt is hard to just kinda get over? lol

[spideyboy_1111]

omg wow...dam spideyboy...I checked out your myspace. niiice

*blushes*