*Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[Erzengel]

Why would you go elsewhere? So you can ignore their advice too?

[Cunning Stunts]

Why would you go elsewhere? So you can ignore their advice too?

Next stop: Hannah Montana forums:ninja:.

[Superman79]

If that's how you feel, then you should be checking out those blind dating websites. Seriously, it's hard o build a serious relationship with someone you barely know. It's possible, but it takes a long time. I mean this isn't like the movies where people can fall madly in love with each other as soon as they see each other.

:shock WHAT!?!?!? Life isn't like the movies!?!?!?! I'm crushed :csad:

You know, reading these last few pages....your sig fits you really damn well. :funny:

hahahhahahaha...:pal:

[SpideyVille]

You know, reading these last few pages....your sig fits you really damn well. :funny:

:hehe:

Why would you go elsewhere? So you can ignore their advice too?

Honestly, I think it's better that he just does that. I used to be the same way where i'd ask friends for advice, but ignore what they said if it wasn't what i wanted to hear. Honestly, I wish I never did that, but that was the only way that i learned that I was wrong to do this.

[Angel_Faerie]

I went for a walk today and left everything behind me. I barely thought about anything at all. Just let my feet walk and the music on my iPod play. Sometimes thoughts of him crept in, and I cried a little. But right now is the best I've felt since Friday, even though I'm still feeling a bit gloomy.

[Cunning Stunts]

I went for a walk today and left everything behind me. I barely thought about anything at all. Just let my feet walk and the music on my iPod play. Sometimes thoughts of him crept in, and I cried a little. But right now is the best I've felt since Friday, even though I'm still feeling a bit gloomy.

That's the way to do it. That's what it took me a few times back in high school.

[CrypticOne]

There is this girl that wants to get with me. She is very beautiful and everything. Only thing is that she lives in New Mexico, she wants a long distance relationship. I met her once before. Last year, when me and my family went camping.

I'm just wondering, do long distance relationships work? Anyone have any experience in these things? I heard that they don't work. Just looking for some advice.

[The Joker_1000]

Why would you go elsewhere? So you can ignore their advice too?


Wait, out of all the people who possibly ignore advice on here you chose to say something to me? I'm done with this thread, I'm not even going to waste my time.

[Cunning Stunts]

There is this girl that wants to get with me. She is very beautiful and everything. Only thing is that she lives in New Mexico, she wants a long distance relationship. I met her once before. Last year, when me and my family went camping.

I'm just wondering, do long distance relationships work? Anyone have any experience in these things? I heard that they don't work. Just looking for some advice.

Technically they could, but they'd talk a lot of resistance to temptation, and patience toward not seeing her over a long period of time.

And while I'm at it, trust in her that she won't go off and bang somebody while you're away.

So, in theory, yes, they could work. However, I've never been a huge fan.

[SpideyVille]

I went for a walk today and left everything behind me. I barely thought about anything at all. Just let my feet walk and the music on my iPod play. Sometimes thoughts of him crept in, and I cried a little. But right now is the best I've felt since Friday, even though I'm still feeling a bit gloomy.

That's great Angel :up:

Just keep it up and stay strong, and soon things will start feeling so much better.

[Cunning Stunts]

Wait, out of all the people who possibly ignore advice on here you chose to say something to me? I'm done with this thread, I'm not even going to waste my time.

You chose to keep going.

And keep asking.

And then keep ignoring.

Yes, we chose you.

[Crook]

There is this girl that wants to get with me. She is very beautiful and everything. Only thing is that she lives in New Mexico, she wants a long distance relationship. I met her once before. Last year, when me and my family went camping.

I'm just wondering, do long distance relationships work? Anyone have any experience in these things? I heard that they don't work. Just looking for some advice.
No, they don't work. At all. Only slight exception is if you get to meet up on a regular basis (I'm talking every week or something).

Even then it's on shaky ground. It's just very hard to build an intimate and physical relationship from long distances.

[CrypticOne]

No, they don't work. At all. Only slight exception is if you get to meet up on a regular basis (I'm talking every week or something).

Even then it's on shaky ground. It's just very hard to build an intimate and physical relationship from long distances.

Alright, thanks man. I'll keep that in mind. Just needed some advice.

[Crook]

Alright, thanks man. I'll keep that in mind. Just needed some advice.
I forgot to mention there's also the case of whether this is "once in a blue moon" type of situation. Like you're not much of a dater, but this one seems like the real deal. Or say, the girl is just THAT beautiful and alluring.

In which case, I'd feel it out before making a quick decision. :up:

[Cunning Stunts]

In which case, I'd feel it up before making a quick decision. :up:

Corrected:yay:.

[Erzengel]

You just stick out Joker. Especially with your constant repetitious posts about the same thing. Yes this last one was about a different girl but you still chose to do the same thing.

[Superman79]

I went for a walk today and left everything behind me. I barely thought about anything at all. Just let my feet walk and the music on my iPod play. Sometimes thoughts of him crept in, and I cried a little. But right now is the best I've felt since Friday, even though I'm still feeling a bit gloomy.

stay strong :up:

This too shall pass...

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

There is this girl that wants to get with me. She is very beautiful and everything. Only thing is that she lives in New Mexico, she wants a long distance relationship. I met her once before. Last year, when me and my family went camping.

I'm just wondering, do long distance relationships work? Anyone have any experience in these things? I heard that they don't work. Just looking for some advice.

long distance relationships can work, if you put in the effort.

my best friend is in a long distance relationship currently, and they have been together for over a year. she lives in ohio, he lived in california, now in indiana. their relationship is great. personally, i hope he marries this girl. she's amazing, and they are a great couple.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

double post, sorry.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I don't need advice, I just want to vent.

I recently moved to Tennessee from California. Before I left, a girl that I worked with seemed excited that I was going to Tennessee, because she was going to be leaving for college to go to NC State. Just before I left, she told me UT (University of Tennessee) was an option too, and she seemed excited to go there because she'd be closer to me.

I did kind of like this girl, but she had a boyfriend. I had just gotten out of a really ugly situation involving a girl who had a boyfriend, and I didn't want to go through that again. Also, when I first met her, she was 17. She's now 18, but being a 17 year old with a boyfriend, I just never made any advances because I felt I wasn't supposed to like her, and I just held back my feelings.

For Christmas, we had a secret Santa program, but outside of that, I got something for her and another friend as well, because I was leaving, and those 2 meant something to me. She got me something in return. She was the only person to come out to my going away dinner, other than my best friend and his girlfriend. And when I made my move, her and I kept in constant contact, moreso than with any of my other friends, and in our conversation was constant talk about her moving out into my area for school.

I really began to fall for her, because I started to realize what I already knew, but didn't allow myself to admit - that she was a truly special girl, and that I really wanted a relationship with her. I told her that I liked her, and that I wish she didn't have a boyfriend, and she said that perhaps things might work out one day.

I recently asked her to come out to go to school where I am at, because UT and NC fell through. She was going to go to Utah and Wisconsin. She said she'd look into the school, but also said her boyfriend got into the same schools she did, and that she wasn't going to be coming out here, and that her and I would never happen. She said things would be different if she didn't have a boyfriend, but things aren't different and they aren't going to happen. So instead of having her come out here to go to school, she's going to move off somewhere where I'll probably never even see her again, let alone have a relationship with her.

I'm venting it because, well, this hurts like it's never hurt before. I've not gotten the girl before, and I've gotten over it. But this girl isn't just another girl. I've come to realize how special a girl she really is, and the idea of finding someone else other that her just isn't what I want. I know I have to accept reality and move on, because I can't change anything, but I've never met a girl like her before and I know that I won't again. She really is someone special, and it hurts that I'll never be with her. I wish I could change things, but at the same time, she's with somebody and if she's happy, then I don't want to ask her to give that up. I did that once before with another girl, and looking back on it, I realize how much that girl -didn't- mean to me. This girl is too important to me for me to do that to her. I don't know if he's a good guy or not, I've never met him. But I trust her judgment, and I want to respect her relationship with him. I just feel that I may have messed things up with her, because after asking her to come here, and telling her it was because I wanted a relationship with her, I later sent her a message apologizing to her. I told her how I felt about her, how special of a girl she is to me, and how much she means to me. I also told her that I was sorry if anything I did crossed the lines of our friendship or of her relationship with her boyfriend, and that I still wanted her and I to be friends. I haven't heard back from her yet, and I'm afraid I ruined things beyond repair.

[Erzengel]

No offense dude, but you were talking about a 6 year age difference and while that may not mean much a little later. You were trying to date a high schooler.

And not even the whole you're 24 she's 17 now 18 you and her are at different stages in your life.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

No offense dude, but you were talking about a 6 year age difference and while that may not mean much a little later. You were trying to date a high schooler.

And not even the whole you're 24 she's 17 now 18 you and her are at different stages in your life.

I've thought about the age difference... my parents are 5 years apart in age, so 6 isn't that big of a leap for me in terms of what's "acceptable" or what not. A very good friend of mine is also in a relationship with a very similar age difference, and they aren't having any problems - at least not in regards to that. They are merely going through the typical things that any relationship goes through. But what they have is very strong, and it's going on about 2 years or so now I believe.

As far as the different stages of life, that may be true, but it's not like I'm ready to settle down and start a family right now while she's gonna be going to school getting her education. I might be looking for a serious relationship, but I'm looking for something that in the future COULD become a wife and kids, not something that now is going to become that. I'm looking for a girlfriend right now, not a family.

While it wasn't in context of a relationship between the 2 of us, her and I have had this conversation, and neither of us are ready for the whole "settling down" thing yet, in terms of starting a family. She's going to school, I am contemplating going back next semester. She wants to leave home to go to school because she wants to get away from her family and live her own life. I just packed up and left and went out on my own, leaving my family behind. I don't deny that there are differences in our mentalities, but we aren't so far different that a relationship would be a waste of time.

[Erzengel]

Yeah but 6 years at 30 and 24 are different than 24 and 18.

I wasn't saying you wanted to settle down, but I just assumed you were already out of college while she was STILL in high school. That different type of stages. You already finished high school, you spent 6 years out of high school, in college and just having real life experiences.

And honestly the way you are talking now and the stuff you told her, comes off as exceedingly "needy" and I'm not surprised she hasn't called you back.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

well because she is in a relationship, it's good that you respect that. you may not want to hear this, but it may be best to let her go. if you two are meant to be, even if only temporarily, then you will find each other again. you may be falling for her, but there are so many other girls who may be just as if not better than her, (no offense to her) and i'm sure you know that. it's hard for you to imagine because currently she is the only one you know like that. but give it time and look at your options. unfortunately she isn't an option for you.

i'm sorry if this is making the pain worse but you have to believe that what is meant to be will be. hope this helps! :heart:

[Superman79]

There is much truth in Erz's statement. With the age difference and how you are in fact at varied points in life, there is a good chance it might have imploded...or not. No one can say for sure, but the odds with that kind of age difference at this time (maybe it'd be different had she been 24 and you 30, etc.) it would have ended in flames.

That aside, I think we all have that elusive "White Whale" that has romantically escaped us at some point in our lives. That girl that we never had, but we think it would have been life altering if she HAD been ours. Such is the fate of any man to have that one 'perfect/special/one-in-a-million' girl that just slipped through our grasp leaving with our "if onlys" and "what might have beens".

Now addressing it was smart. At least you got it off your chest and won't have to wonder what she would have said/done. As for fixing it...yeah, it may be beyond fixing, but then torturing yourself by being a close friend would likely be worse (trust me I've been there). Essentially, now there is nothing more you can do but try to move on and find a new girl. Will the new one(s) ever be her? No. But if that were the case, she wouldn't be your White Whale, now would she?

[Gilpesh]

but we aren't so far different that a relationship would be a waste of time.

Cause it is not like she's packing up and running away to school with her boyfriend and leaving you in the dust... oh wait.

But this not wanting wife and kids with this girl definitely and she not wanting wife and kids with you... that's the kicker. Why ruin what she has going on because you think at one time in the future there is a slight possibility that maybe you could if things worked out and you figured it out that you would settle with her.

[Superman79]

well because she is in a relationship, it's good that you respect that. you may not want to hear this, but it may be best to let her go. if you two are meant to be, even if only temporarily, then you will find each other again. you may be falling for her, but there are so many other girls who may be just as if not better than her, (no offense to her) and i'm sure you know that. it's hard for you to imagine because currently she is the only one you know like that. but give it time and look at your options. unfortunately she isn't an option for you.

i'm sorry if this is making the pain worse but you have to believe that what is meant to be will be. hope this helps! :heart:

My, you are quite the little romantic aren't you? :woot:

Though you're right, one day God, fate, or whatever higher power you believe in will eventually point you in the right direction when it comes to love...emphasis on "the right direction" as you still have to make it work out on your own.

[Crook]

Leaving love in the hands of God/Fate/Chuck Norris...in ANY way shape or form is not smart imo. :o

[Superman79]

Just a thought from a movie I saw last weekend that seems to apply to the more serious cases around here...I thought it apropos:

"There is a story about the Greek Gods; they were bored so they invented human beings, but they were still bored so they invented love, then they weren't bored any longer. So they decided to try love for themselves. And finally, they invented laughter, so they could stand it..."

[Superman79]

Leaving love in the hands of God/Fate/Chuck Norris...in ANY way shape or form is not smart imo. :o

I didn't mean sit around and wait for something to fall in your lap, but live your life, keep your eyes open and you'd be surprised with how often serendipity intervenes...that is, only if you are willing to act on said intervention.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

im not saying leaving it up to god. fate will only take you so far. i'm just saying there are better opportunities you will get in life. if she was single then the opportunity is much easier, obviously. finding love is full of obstacles, but obstacles that imo do not test your morals. because in this case, if Nell did try to do something, that would have been wrong. so because the situation is the way that it is, if there is anytime for these two, it's just not now.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Cause it is not like she's packing up and running away to school with her boyfriend and leaving you in the dust... oh wait.

But this not wanting wife and kids with this girl definitely and she not wanting wife and kids with you... that's the kicker. Why ruin what she has going on because you think at one time in the future there is a slight possibility that maybe you could if things worked out and you figured it out that you would settle with her.

I didn't say I didn't want kids with her, and she didn't want kids with me. When we talked, we both agreed that we don't want kids RIGHT NOW, at this very moment. But we both do want kids, and in a seemingly similar time period.

With our previous talks, it didn't sound like her boyfriend was much of an obstacle. I always told her how special she was, and she told me how special I was. I told her that I was looking forward to her coming out to the area for school, she said the same. She never said that her and I would never be together, only that this moment in time (her still being in California) was not that time. We constantly flirted. In the conversation when she told me she wasn't coming to UT, she talked about moving out here -regardless- of her school situation because I said such nice things to her and treated her so well.

Now, either at one point she did consider moving out here to be with me, and things changed when her boyfriend got into the same schools as her... or I took the things that we said to each other out of context and made assumptions. Either way, I did feel that if she came out here to the area to go to school, that there was a real possibility of the 2 of us starting something together. When she told me her boyfriend was going to the same school as her, I backed off. I told her that I did want her to come out here, but I also let her know that I wasn't going to force the issue, and that I did still want to be friends (which is the truth).

I do somewhat agree with Erz. I wonder if the things that I said to her came off as too "needy", and that I drove her off. That's the last thing that I wanted to do, unfortunately for me, I'm the type that talks about my feelings - I'm a sensitive guy - and it's gotten me into trouble before because I say things when I just need to let them go. I'm just the type that needs to let people know how I feel about them when I care about them, and as you can tell from my 2 posts in this thread, I over-explain things a lot, so I can see how I came off as more "needy" than I intended to or even felt.

[Crook]

I didn't mean sit around and wait for something to fall in your lap, but live your life, keep your eyes open and you'd be surprised with how often serendipity intervenes...that is, only if you are willing to act on said intervention.
I kinda just see it as living your life and snatching all the opportunities. No reason for me to believe there was any intervention. :oldrazz:

because in this case, if Nell did try to do something, that would have been wrong. so because the situation is the way that it is, if there is anytime for these two, it's just not now.
Eh, I guess I just don't believe in fate at all. If there's a shot between the both of them, it's because of luck. :o

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

im not saying leaving it up to god. fate will only take you so far. i'm just saying there are better opportunities you will get in life. if she was single then the opportunity is much easier, obviously. finding love is full of obstacles, but obstacles that imo do not test your morals. because in this case, if Nell did try to do something, that would have been wrong. so because the situation is the way that it is, if there is anytime for these two, it's just not now.

I think her and I have both agreed that it wasn't "now"... even she never ruled out the possibility of the future. But, life evolves and changes, and in my eyes, so did our situation. It did seem, from my point of view, that she was leaning more and more towards the time being now - so when she told me her choices of schools she was originally supposed to come to were out of the question, I wanted to see if there was a way I could still bring her out here. So I asked her to come to school out here, and she said she would look into it. Things went from there, and they didn't work in my favor.

I did the whole trying to break up a girl with her boyfriend. The last girl that I liked was in a relationship. I didn't think it was any good, felt I was the better man, and I tried to break them up. The stories are on these forums somewhere. But I realize looking back that what I had for that girl wasn't love, it was lust.

I won't say that I'm in love with this current girl, but it's definitely not an issue of lust. I know what I did last time, and I care for her too much to do what I did last time, so as much as it sucks, I know the only thing I can do is just let her go, and hope that I find something just as good, either in someone else, or in her somewhere down the line. Like I've stated, I just hope that I didn't destroy a friendship with my actions.

[Cunning Stunts]

Eh, I guess I just don't believe in fate at all. If there's a shot between the both of them, it's because of luck. :o

Eh, I don't believe in either. If there's a shot between both of them, it's because of...















































Boobies:dry:.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

^^ haha if you say so! Well Nell good luck with your situation, i hope everything works out in the best for you.

[PyroChamber]

Leaving love in the hands of God/Fate/Chuck Norris...in ANY way shape or form is not smart imo. :oThat's true sometimes. You can go for years without finding love, but then when someone finally does want to be with you it may be someone you're not even attracted to or even like.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Thanks. I'm going to give it a few days, and try talking to her again, just like normal, without mentioning anything about her coming out here, or my feelings for her, or anything like that.

Honestly, the best way for me to get over this IS to move on with her like it never happened. I have been friends with her for awhile, and I am sincere when I say I do want to be her friend even if we can't be together. It's really not an all or nothing thing with her.

It is kind of tough right now, because even she has told me not to wait around for her, because I can find somebody else. I don't doubt that I can - the problem is like I've stated, finding someone else doesn't mean I find someone as good as her. So it's tough right now, but I know eventually I'll find something else and be able to move on.

But it will honestly be harder for me if she wasn't in my life at all. Even today, I was wanting to talk to her, just as normal, just like friends, without any kind of further intent behind it, and I couldn't, because right now I know I just need to let this lay a bit.

[Erzengel]

I think you are trying to compensate and "settle" for just being friends. NEVER settle.

Secondly, I have to go back to the age thing. Her and her boyfriend are both 18? Maybe he's 19 or 20? And here you are the 24 year old, trying to express your intentions?

I mean you keep saying, I'm okay with just being friends with her, but until you get over her, it's not going to work, and honestly, if I was her boyfriend and I found out you liked her, I wouldn't want you even talking to her.

I say cut your losses and stop talking to her. Even if she gets past your feelings, I don't think you could really get past yours. You will still like her especially if she's the main girl in your life.

[Superman79]

I say cut your losses and stop talking to her. Even if she gets past your feelings, I don't think you could really get past yours. You will still like her especially if she's the main girl in your life.

Seconded. I've been part of that kind of thing first hand. You think you can settle for friends and in the end it just ends up tearing your heart out and making you bitter...

[LexCorp]

Anyone here ever had accidental nudity?

You know - when your roommate see more than they needed to because it's 3:30 in the morning and you both rush to the toilet naked......

Anyone had that happen?

[Erzengel]

No, I usually put on pants. And I'm hoping your roommate is either female, have your own room or you have an explanation on why you sleep naked with your roommate in the same room?

[Superman79]

Anyone here ever had accidental nudity?

You know - when your roommate see more than they needed to because it's 3:30 in the morning and you both rush to the toilet naked......

Anyone had that happen?

Is that supposed to be a relationship question?? Because frankly I am most there...

[amazingfantasy15]

I didn't say I didn't want kids with her, and she didn't want kids with me. When we talked, we both agreed that we don't want kids RIGHT NOW, at this very moment. But we both do want kids, and in a seemingly similar time period.

With our previous talks, it didn't sound like her boyfriend was much of an obstacle. I always told her how special she was, and she told me how special I was. I told her that I was looking forward to her coming out to the area for school, she said the same. She never said that her and I would never be together, only that this moment in time (her still being in California) was not that time. We constantly flirted. In the conversation when she told me she wasn't coming to UT, she talked about moving out here -regardless- of her school situation because I said such nice things to her and treated her so well.

Now, either at one point she did consider moving out here to be with me, and things changed when her boyfriend got into the same schools as her... or I took the things that we said to each other out of context and made assumptions. Either way, I did feel that if she came out here to the area to go to school, that there was a real possibility of the 2 of us starting something together. When she told me her boyfriend was going to the same school as her, I backed off. I told her that I did want her to come out here, but I also let her know that I wasn't going to force the issue, and that I did still want to be friends (which is the truth).

I do somewhat agree with Erz. I wonder if the things that I said to her came off as too "needy", and that I drove her off. That's the last thing that I wanted to do, unfortunately for me, I'm the type that talks about my feelings - I'm a sensitive guy - and it's gotten me into trouble before because I say things when I just need to let them go. I'm just the type that needs to let people know how I feel about them when I care about them, and as you can tell from my 2 posts in this thread, I over-explain things a lot, so I can see how I came off as more "needy" than I intended to or even felt.

A lot of this post clearly points out the biggest obstacle in your path with this girl, being in different points in your life. She's in high school and doesn't know what she wants and things can change on a dime. Trying to pressure her (even a little) into attending college by you is a serious no-no. Choosing a college is a very important decision and frankly trying to get her to choose someplace close to you is very selfish. Try to maybe keep in contact via email, let her make the effort though.

I think another big factor is you being in a new city, you may have new friends there and everything, however, the idea of having someone familar close by probably made you feel really good, especially someone you have feelings for. This whole issue is probably more than just a girl issue, but a bit of homesickness as well

[amazingfantasy15]

I went for a walk today and left everything behind me. I barely thought about anything at all. Just let my feet walk and the music on my iPod play. Sometimes thoughts of him crept in, and I cried a little. But right now is the best I've felt since Friday, even though I'm still feeling a bit gloomy.

Good job, you're taking the first steps to getting over him. Keep up with the distractions, don't sit around the house dwelling on him.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

A lot of this post clearly points out the biggest obstacle in your path with this girl, being in different points in your life. She's in high school and doesn't know what she wants and things can change on a dime. Trying to pressure her (even a little) into attending college by you is a serious no-no. Choosing a college is a very important decision and frankly trying to get her to choose someplace close to you is very selfish. Try to maybe keep in contact via email, let her make the effort though.

I think another big factor is you being in a new city, you may have new friends there and everything, however, the idea of having someone familar close by probably made you feel really good, especially someone you have feelings for. This whole issue is probably more than just a girl issue, but a bit of homesickness as well

perhaps. things may have been completely different if there wasn't already a prospect of her coming to my area for school from the beginning anyways. Like I said, originally, it was NC State, and then she became excited to let me know that she'd be even closer to me when she talked about going to UT. UT fell through, and she hadn't heard anything from NC, but she did get into 2 other schools. Wanting her to come out here, I did mention the college in my city, and I did want her to come here, no doubt. She had already mentioned coming out here anyways because I always treated her so good. Unfortunately for me, it seems that I took that comment out of context. But when she had said that, I did feel that things were different, and that I needed to ask her to come out here.

When she mentioned that her and her boyfriend were going to the same school, while I did reveal my feelings to her, it was also done in a way to back off and just let her go. I never knew how serious or not it was with her boyfriend, but knowing that they'd be going to the same schools together, I knew that it was time to bow out and give up my hopes of her coming out here. It does hurt, and you may be right, it might be more than just the girl, as it is other things too.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I think you are trying to compensate and "settle" for just being friends. NEVER settle.

Secondly, I have to go back to the age thing. Her and her boyfriend are both 18? Maybe he's 19 or 20? And here you are the 24 year old, trying to express your intentions?

I mean you keep saying, I'm okay with just being friends with her, but until you get over her, it's not going to work, and honestly, if I was her boyfriend and I found out you liked her, I wouldn't want you even talking to her.

I say cut your losses and stop talking to her. Even if she gets past your feelings, I don't think you could really get past yours. You will still like her especially if she's the main girl in your life.

Thanks, but no offense, there's a reason why I said I just needed to vent, and I don't need advice. I know her... as you so frequently point out, I'm 24, I know myself. I know better than anyone what I can and can't handle.

I don't feel that I'm "settling" - one of my biggest concerns in even telling her how I felt was that I was going to drive her away as a friend as well. That's one thing I didn't want, ever. When I was able to tell her things over the course of our conversations, and she responded to them, I felt that I could tell her anything, and she'd be understanding. Well, I had a moment of weakness when she said she was going somewhere else, and perhaps I said more than I should have said, or needed to say. But that doesn't mean I'm "settling" to keep her around as a friend.

[Erzengel]

You were hoping that telling her, your feelings would sway her didn't you? :huh:

[Erzengel]

Thanks, but no offense, there's a reason why I said I just needed to vent, and I don't need advice. I know her... as you so frequently point out, I'm 24, I know myself. I know better than anyone what I can and can't handle.

I don't feel that I'm "settling" - one of my biggest concerns in even telling her how I felt was that I was going to drive her away as a friend as well. That's one thing I didn't want, ever. When I was able to tell her things over the course of our conversations, and she responded to them, I felt that I could tell her anything, and she'd be understanding. Well, I had a moment of weakness when she said she was going somewhere else, and perhaps I said more than I should have said, or needed to say. But that doesn't mean I'm "settling" to keep her around as a friend.

Would you rather be her boyfriend or friend?

I'm guessing it's the former.

That's settling.

[Superman79]

White Wale :csad:

[Erzengel]

And I know you're not looking for advice Nell, but you are telling a story most of us know fairly well.

A girl/woman who we just have such a connection with.

She either has a boyfriend or is not interested.

But she wants to remain friends, and you think you are okay with that.

But you never are.

[jaguarr]

White Wale :csad:

Well there's no need to be insulting! :cmad:

Seriously, falling in love with people who are already in relationships is a bad idea, regardless of how close or far away they live or what the age differences may be.

jag

[a cupcake mess]

my problem is, the only types i attract are total creeps who are either way too old, married, or not at all what I'm looking for. ughlol.

[Gilpesh]

Thanks, but no offense, there's a reason why I said I just needed to vent, and I don't need advice.

You don't need advice because you already know that everyone is going to say, "It's not going to happen. Don't try."

[Superman79]

my problem is, the only types i attract are total creeps who are either way too old, married, or not at all what I'm looking for. ughlol.

Maybe you need to change where you hang out...

[Erzengel]

my problem is, the only types i attract are total creeps who are either way too old, married, or not at all what I'm looking for. ughlol.
Some people seem to only attract those sorts but they eventually find the diamond in the rough.

[a cupcake mess]

I hope so. It's kind of depressing!! I thought I'd be a Mrs by now.

[Superman79]

I hope so. It's kind of depressing!! I thought I'd be a Mrs by now.

What is with everyone thinking about getting married so young? You said you are 23 right?? There is nothing wrong with not being married by that age...it takes time to find the right one.

[Erzengel]

Trying going out of your normal circles.

[jaguarr]

I was a freak magnet in my younger years. It had it's pros and cons. I didn't meet my wife until I was 33, though, and we got married when I was 35. She was more than worth the wait. :up:

jag

[Superman79]

I was a freak magnet in my younger years. It had it's pros and cons. I didn't meet my wife until I was 33, though, and we got married when I was 35. She was more than worth the wait. :up:

jag

Wait, now are you talking the "peanut butter in the bedroom/hanging formt eh chandeliers sex" type freak, or the "how the hell did she get teeth that big in ahead so small/shhot me now she collects unicorns" kind of freak?? :huh:

[a cupcake mess]

What is with everyone thinking about getting married so young? You said you are 23 right?? There is nothing wrong with not being married by that age...it takes time to find the right one.

Yeah, it's just that when I was younger, I thought I would have been settled by then? Weird. I know. haha. I know it'll happen later in life!! Just kinda sucks waiting around for the "perfect one" to pop up!

[jaguarr]

Wait, now are you talking the "peanut butter in the bedroom/hanging formt eh chandeliers sex" type freak, or the "how the hell did she get teeth that big in ahead so small/shhot me now she collects unicorns" kind of freak?? :huh:

Most of them were of the freak in the bedroom (and anywhere else you could have sex) variety, BUT....a lot of those also turned out to be "psycho let's play head games/stalk you/accuse you of stalking me/cheat on you/demonstrate wide-ranging emotional unstability" types as well. :eek:

jag

[Superman79]

Most of them were of the freak in the bedroom (and anywhere else you could have sex) variety, BUT....a lot of those also turned out to be "psycho let's play head games/stalk you/accuse you of stalking me/cheat on you/demonstrate wide-ranging emotional unstability" types as well. :eek:

jag

bummer. Too bad it wasn't all just about the sex.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Yeah, it's just that when I was younger, I thought I would have been settled by then? Weird. I know. haha. I know it'll happen later in life!! Just kinda sucks waiting around for the "perfect one" to pop up!

aww well don't look at it as waiting around, look at it as setting up your life. i mean whatever the current school or job you're in will set up possibilities of many guys that may be right. obviously that'll play a big factor, so if you're not wanting to wait, and what is currently around you isn't good, then think about find new places to go/work etc. sorry you probably thought of this. but just don't look at it as waiting because i'm sure at the same time you're makin money for your future anyway.

[a cupcake mess]

true true. you available for weekly sessions?



haha jk.

[omid17]

I was a freak magnet in my younger years. It had it's pros and cons. I didn't meet my wife until I was 33, though, and we got married when I was 35. She was more than worth the wait. :up:

jag
:up:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

true true. you available for weekly sessions?



haha jk.

lol hey i'll be around here! feel free to contact me anytime!

[Cunning Stunts]

true true. you available for weekly sessions?



haha jk.

This isn't the hook-up thread, this is the Advice Thread:bow:.

[Superman79]

Don't make me slap you Stunts.

[SpideyVille]

This isn't the hook-up thread, this is the Advice Thread:bow:.

Imagine if there was a hook-up thread :wow:

[Cunning Stunts]

Don't make me slap you Stunts.

You wouldn't dare slap a Cunning Stunt.

[Cunning Stunts]

Imagine if there was a hook-up thread :wow:

:pal:

The world would cease to exist:csad:.

[Superman79]

You wouldn't dare slap a Cunning Stunt.

Oh, I caught the joke a long time ago...and my answer to that is that some chicks like it rough :p

[Remy LeBeau X3]

This isn't the hook-up thread, this is the Advice Thread:bow:.

what? who's tryin to hook up?

[Cunning Stunts]

what? who's tryin to hook up?

I was inferring that a cupcake mess is sweet talking you.

[SpideyVille]

I was inferring that a cupcake mess is sweet talking you.

Aren't they both girls :huh:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

I was inferring that a cupcake mess is sweet talking you.

what? she was? i took it as she was asking me to be her unofficial counselor. well i'm flattered then! i've never been sweet talked by another girl online before, but i'm always up for it :cwink:

jk lol :heart:

[Superman79]

whoa :eek:

[Cunning Stunts]

Aren't they both girls :huh:

what? she was? i took it as she was asking me to be her unofficial counselor. well i'm flattered then! i've never been sweet talked by another girl online before, but i'm always up for it :cwink:

jk lol :heart:

LMAO.

I made a boo-boo.

Ignore me.

Pics plz:up:.

[SpideyVille]

LMAO.

I made a boo-boo.

Ignore me.

Pics plz:up:.

:pal:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

http://a493.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/125/l_550dccf9a0303f122e20e2244c58e184.jpg

let's put a cupcakes mess on left and we'll have a little preview!

[Cunning Stunts]

http://a493.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/125/l_550dccf9a0303f122e20e2244c58e184.jpg

let's put a cupcakes mess on left and we'll have a little preview!

Hahahah, let me guess, cheer camp?

[omid17]

looks like it

[Cunning Stunts]

looks like it

Been there, done that, didn't get laid:o.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

haha i know its so obvious!

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Been there, done that, didn't get laid:o.

huh?

[Cunning Stunts]

huh?

It's pretty undeniable that cheer camp has its reputation as providing... "Experience" for guys. The guys on my cheer team all got a bit of action the year before I joined, but the year I went, the guys were told not to leave their dorm hall.

Plus, I was dating someone at the time (and a straight-edge virgin:dry:).

[Remy LeBeau X3]

It's pretty undeniable that cheer camp has its reputation as providing... "Experience" for guys. The guys on my cheer team all got a bit of action the year before I joined, but the year I went, the guys were told not to leave their dorm hall.

Plus, I was dating someone at the time (and a straight-edge virgin:dry:).

wow umm not exactly what we did at camp, but there was always stories. sorry about your luck! but i or none of my friends ever did that lol.

[Cunning Stunts]

wow umm not exactly what we did at camp, but there was always stories. sorry about your luck! but i or none of my friends ever did that lol.

Haha, I'm not concerned with it. I was waiting at that point anyway.

I was like, the only one to wait on all the teams I cheered for.

I was surrounded by tramps:word:.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Haha, I'm not concerned with it. I was waiting at that point anyway.

I was like, the only one to wait on all the teams I cheered for.

I was surrounded by tramps:word:.

haha well, i know it was worth it

[Cunning Stunts]

haha well, i know it was worth it

http://i294.photobucket.com/albums/mm98/Cunning_Stunts9/BanginTheHeadboard.jpg

[SpideyVille]

:pal:

[omid17]

one word " Rough "

[Cunning Stunts]

one word " Rough "

:bow:

[DV8]

wow . . . . this thread sure has made quite the turn-around . . . at least it's not just a hotbed of self-loathing anymore though (well at least this page) :hehe:

[DV8]

so I got a date tonight, homies :up: actually a double-date . . . wish me luck :D (as if I need it :cool:) :o

[The-Dark-Knight]

so I got a date tonight, homies :up: actually a double-date . . . wish me luck :D (as if I need it :cool:) :o

That poor poor woman/man.

[DV8]

You know life is so fun, you should get one.

That poor poor woman/man.

wow . . . maybe you should take your own advice :confused:

[The-Dark-Knight]

wow . . . maybe you should take your own advice :confused:

I was joking, lighten up.:whatever:

Edit-You actually went back to find something i said to you days ago? woah.


Come here, lets make hugs.

[Cunning Stunts]

I was joking, lighten up.:whatever:

Edit-You actually went back to find something i said to you days ago? woah.


Come here, lets make hugs.

LET'S MAKE SECKS, AND EAT CHACA LET!

[Angel_Faerie]

No matter how hard I fight, I can't get him out of my mind completely. It's driving me crazy! I feel like he's a drug and I'm addicted to it. If only there was a rehab for this sort of situation...

[Remy LeBeau X3]

hmm, im sorry to hear that ^ i actually have the opposite problem, my ex will not stop calling me and he is driving me crazy! i don't really know what to say at this point, maybe it would help you to vent a little bit. myself as well as many others here im sure are willing to listen. considering this is an advice thread.

[Mac_Hine]

No matter how hard I fight, I can't get him out of my mind completely. It's driving me crazy! I feel like he's a drug and I'm addicted to it. If only there was a rehab for this sort of situation...
Emotion is stronger than logic I guess.

[Cunning Stunts]

No matter how hard I fight, I can't get him out of my mind completely. It's driving me crazy! I feel like he's a drug and I'm addicted to it. If only there was a rehab for this sort of situation...

That's all part of grieving. You go through grieving from rejection the same way you do from deaths (only to a lesser extent). He'll be in your mind for a while, but it'll leave after a while, trust me. Find other things to occupy your time- active things (not just walks and listening to music). Try drawing, writing, playing guitar, exercising, anything that requires effort.

If you're lucky enough, you'll lose your teenage boyfriend-dependency altogether through constructive use of your time.

hmm, im sorry to hear that ^ i actually have the opposite problem, my ex will not stop calling me and he is driving me crazy! i don't really know what to say at this point, maybe it would help you to vent a little bit. myself as well as many others here im sure are willing to listen. considering this is an advice thread.

Tell him the next time he calls, firmly, "Do not call here anymore, I'm not interested in you." Be blunt with the boy. If he's a big enough dumbass, sometimes even bluntness won't work.

If it's to the point where he's practically stalking you, tell the boy you're going to call the cops. Or, in a more scary way, "Notify the authorities."

And yes, both of you here can vent:up:.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

^ thanks, he's just an idiot. i was with my brother yesterday and we ran into him and he didn't say a word. he's not stalker type, i don't think, but just... i'll go ahead and say it, a player. all he wanted was obvious and that's why i have to be somewhat of a b**** to him.

[Cunning Stunts]

^ thanks, he's just an idiot. i was with my brother yesterday and we ran into him and he didn't say a word. he's not stalker type, i don't think, but just... i'll go ahead and say it, a player. all he wanted was obvious and that's why i have to be somewhat of a b**** to him.

Look at it less like being a *****, and more like being self-defensive. The guy is invading your personal life and that's not cool to do to anyone.

Hell, if he calls, even go so far as to elaborate (a little, not too much) as to why you're not interested in him.

Or hell, take the route I thought you were going earlier and tell him you're dating a girl named cupcake with a lowercase 'c':up:.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

lmao! i love it! i think i'll say that. it's funny she may have no idea she's popped up so many times.

but i've told him off a bunch of times. he just likes to hope i'll give him another chance. he actually just texted me "how's your spring break?" when it's almost over and i already told him just fine when he texted me the same thing two days ago.

[Cunning Stunts]

lmao! i love it! i think i'll say that. it's funny she may have no idea she's popped up so many times.

but i've told him off a bunch of times. he just likes to hope i'll give him another chance. he actually just texted me "how's your spring break?" when it's almost over and i already told him just fine when he texted me the same thing two days ago.

Wow... The dude's definitely obsessed.

All I can really say is lay your feelings for this guy out to him. If he doesn't get it after that, then it's time for backup:ninja:.

Also, ignoring his texts will be a good way to begin getting him off. He'll likely go crazy and begin texting you like mad, but it should die off. If this dude's that crazy, just get a new phone.

Have you considered talking to school authorities? Or even your parents?

[Remy LeBeau X3]

well, i mean i don't think he's that bad, he's just annoying not like stalker annoying. so far it's not too bad it was worse before so i assume it's getting better and going away.

[Cunning Stunts]

well, i mean i don't think he's that bad, he's just annoying not like stalker annoying. so far it's not too bad it was worse before so i assume it's getting better and going away.

It will probably die out.

If it doesn't, that's when SpideyVille, Supes, Omid, and I net-kick his ass:cmad:.

[SpideyVille]

It will probably die out.

If it doesn't, that's when SpideyVille, Supes, Omid, and I net-kick his ass:cmad:.

Hells yea, I'm ready for a fight :cmad:

btw, congratz on 300 CS, now you can get an avy :up:

[Crook]

Or she could just....brutally tell him off. If he's not the stalker-ish type, I don't see why he wouldn't back down from a verbal smacking. No guy with any dignity would. :o

[Remy LeBeau X3]

haha, well i greatly appreciate it! :heart: get yourself an avy now hun!

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Or she could just....brutally tell him off. If he's not the stalker-ish type, I don't see why he wouldn't back down from a verbal smacking. No guy with any dignity would. :o

no lie when i've done that it apparently "seduces" him. he's a sick perv. i'm seriously not trying to play any games.

[Crook]

Oh, he's one of those.. :funny:

Well if the angry tone doesn't work, you can always try the "just looking at you makes me hurl" behavior. Put on a vomit face every time you're around him. That should turn him off. :up:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

haha well i gave him the "shart face" as jag has tagged it, a few times.

http://b1.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/01265/10/32/1265332301_l.jpg

maybe i need a vomit face.

[Erzengel]

Hey, where'd you get that necklace?

[Remy LeBeau X3]

i got it for christmas from one of my cousins in seattle. we were close when we were younger but i haven't seen her since (except this past thanksgiving) a few years. i think she said she got it from macy's? but someone else got me a necklace for christmas and that one could have been from there lol.

[Erzengel]

It doesn't say on the necklace itself? I think that's the one, someone mentioned to me, so I'd like to be able to know what store I can get it from.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

no i just looked at it, maybe the one your thinking of is more quality, this could be just a generic clone or something. unless im not looking hard enough i dont see name. sorry Erz. i'll try to get a hold of my cousin sometime and figure it out.

[Superman79]

http://a493.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/125/l_550dccf9a0303f122e20e2244c58e184.jpg

let's put a cupcakes mess on left and we'll have a little preview!

Remy...just double checking, how old are you???

[Remy LeBeau X3]

hmm how old do you think i am? this pic is from two years ago.

[Superman79]

so I got a date tonight, homies :up: actually a double-date . . . wish me luck :D (as if I need it :cool:) :o

Congrats buddy!!

She's not married right? ;)

Best of luck!

[a cupcake mess]

what? she was? i took it as she was asking me to be her unofficial counselor.

i was i was, but i'll play along!!!

you are gorg! i may be straight, but i'm not gonna let a pretty gal go by without em knowing it! hahahaha.

[Superman79]

No matter how hard I fight, I can't get him out of my mind completely. It's driving me crazy! I feel like he's a drug and I'm addicted to it. If only there was a rehab for this sort of situation...

I'm starting to feel a bit like a broken record...we said it would suck to get over him, and it's gonna take some time, but you will get through it and you will be stronger for it :up:

hmm, im sorry to hear that ^ i actually have the opposite problem, my ex will not stop calling me and he is driving me crazy!

two words: contract killer. Have him 'offed' :o

[a cupcake mess]

lmao! i love it! i think i'll say that. it's funny she may have no idea she's popped up so many times.

but i've told him off a bunch of times. he just likes to hope i'll give him another chance. he actually just texted me "how's your spring break?" when it's almost over and i already told him just fine when he texted me the same thing two days ago.

text him and make him think you're on a date with some hot guy.
or be like, "i dont like you. i never will. please try and find someone else".

[DV8]

Congrats buddy!!

She's not married right? ;)

Best of luck!

LOL!! NO, she's not married!! :mad:

although I've been wrong in the past :O

the date went SPECTACULAR, btw, kthanx4askin . . . and I mean really spectacular :cool: [/gloat]

[DV8]

Remy, your ex will eventually stop calling you; I don't know what kind of terms you ended on, or if you want to remain friends (which rarely works out), but I'd say if you're really tired of him calling/texting, just ignore his punk ass :up:

if he asks if/why you're ignoring him, just tell him you've been really busy lately or make up some other half-baked excuse to kind of give him the hint . . .

[Remy LeBeau X3]

i was i was, but i'll play along!!!

you are gorg! i may be straight, but i'm not gonna let a pretty gal go by without em knowing it! hahahaha.

aww your a sweet heart!

I'm starting to feel a bit like a broken record...we said it would suck to get over him, and it's gonna take some time, but you will get through it and you will be stronger for it :up:

two words: contract killer. Have him 'offed' :o

i was thinking about that one.

text him and make him think you're on a date with some hot guy.
or be like, "i dont like you. i never will. please try and find someone else".

yea i've done that, and actually went on a date. it's not as bad.

Remy, your ex will eventually stop calling you; I don't know what kind of terms you ended on, or if you want to remain friends (which rarely works out), but I'd say if you're really tired of him calling/texting, just ignore his punk ass :up:

if he asks if/why you're ignoring him, just tell him you've been really busy lately or make up some other half-baked excuse to kind of give him the hint . . .

yea he is catching it i think.

i actually have another issue now....

[DV8]

yea he is catching it i think.

i actually have another issue now....

oh boy . . .

[Superman79]

i actually have another issue now....

What now?

LOL!! NO, she's not married!! :mad:

although I've been wrong in the past :O

the date went SPECTACULAR, btw, kthanx4askin . . . and I mean really spectacular :cool: [/gloat]

DV8...you dog...you shoplifted the pootie didn't you??? :oldrazz:

[DV8]

DV8...you dog...you shoplifted the pootie didn't you??? :oldrazz:

maybe :ninja:

yeah, Remy . . . what now?? you got hype stalkers instead now or something?? :hehe:

[Angel_Faerie]

I'm starting to feel a bit like a broken record...we said it would suck to get over him, and it's gonna take some time, but you will get through it and you will be stronger for it :up:

I'm sorry I'm making you feel like a broken record. Everytime I feel like I'm making progress, I think about the several times I've caught him looking at me in class and worry that I'm making a mistake. Maybe if I had some closure I'd feel a bit better. I dunno.

[Cunning Stunts]

Hells yea, I'm ready for a fight :cmad:

btw, congratz on 300 CS, now you can get an avy :up:

haha, well i greatly appreciate it! :heart: get yourself an avy now hun!

I'M GOING IN:cmad:.

Thanks, btw.

hmm how old do you think i am? this pic is from two years ago.

You look to be about 15 in that picture.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

lol well actually yea i was at the time, i am 18 now! just turned two weeks ago!

ok so my situation now, i am in the midst of typing so bear with me...

[Superman79]

maybe :ninja:

yeah, Remy . . . what now?? you got hype stalkers instead now or something?? :hehe:

hahaha...attaboy :up:

[Superman79]

I'm sorry I'm making you feel like a broken record. Everytime I feel like I'm making progress, I think about the several times I've caught him looking at me in class and worry that I'm making a mistake. Maybe if I had some closure I'd feel a bit better. I dunno.

Don't be sorry. Its ok, I just wish I had some new revelation or advice for you but I don't. Feel free to vent.

AS for the decision. You're doing the right thing.

[DV8]

ok so my situation now, i am in the midst of typing so bear with me...

haha, Remy's writing a short story over here :D

[Superman79]

Hells yea, I'm ready for a fight :cmad:



Count me in. I like aggression :D

[Cunning Stunts]

Count me in. I like aggression :D

I already did:huh:.

It was you, SV, omid, and me.

[DV8]

hahaha...attaboy :up:

all I'm gonna say is; I came, I saw, I conquered . . . but not in that order :D


more like saw, conquered, came . . . . da-dummm-csssshhhh!

[Superman79]

all I'm gonna say is; I came, I saw, I conquered . . . but not in that order :D


more like saw, conquered, came . . . . da-dummm-csssshhhh!


:pal:

I already did:huh:.

It was you, SV, omid, and me.

Oh. cool. guess I missed that post

[Cunning Stunts]

LOL!! NO, she's not married!! :mad:

although I've been wrong in the past :O

the date went SPECTACULAR, btw, kthanx4askin . . . and I mean really spectacular :cool: [/gloat]

So, how'd the date go?

I'm sorry I'm making you feel like a broken record. Everytime I feel like I'm making progress, I think about the several times I've caught him looking at me in class and worry that I'm making a mistake. Maybe if I had some closure I'd feel a bit better. I dunno.

Here you go:

http://i294.photobucket.com/albums/mm98/Cunning_Stunts9/Closure.jpg

Choose any size you like:).

Just kidding. But seriously, it will blow over. We promise you're not making a mistake. That, "Plenty of fish in the sea," saying is true- you'll find someone else in due time. But for now, just do like I said- concentrate on an activity that draws your focus. Cheerleading worked for me in high school, when that kind stuff happened to me in college, I wound up taking up bass (not for those reasons, but in the midst of the "crisis") and it took my mind of that horse **** completely.

lol well actually yea i was at the time, i am 18 now! just turned two weeks ago!

ok so my situation now, i am in the midst of typing so bear with me...

Congratulations! 18 kinda sucks when you get there. When I turned 18, I realized all I could do was smoke:huh:. I don't smoke so it was effin' pointless:cmad:.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

ok i have to give you a lil bit of background...

for their privacy purposes i'll call my friends, Sara and her boyfriend Kyle. they have been together like three months now and they are pretty good together no problems or anything. Sara is one of my better friends, i've known her since middle school. well about a month ago my mom got into an accident and her car went to the shop about three weeks ago. so she's driving my car to work and i'm getting rides to school. for the first about week and half Sara picked me up and took me home. but recently as in last week, she had to stay after school because she's in some clubs and is heavily involved in extracurriculars, so Kyle took me home. i'm sure you're beginning to get an idea now.

well everything is cool except now Sara is skipping her first class to sleep in sometimes, and so Kyle comes to pick me up. apparently she told him to. there's plenty of other people i could get a ride from but they insist. so now he picks me up and takes me home almost everyday. it's like he's dating both of us. well at school and when we go out in group he does flirt with me a bit. but it's just all for fun i mean Sara is there. well one time when he took me home, we were talking in my drive way and he was talking about money and going to the bank or something. then he leans in almost like he's about to kiss me and i back up a bit and he is looking at me straight in the eyes and opens his glove box with his other hand to pull out his check book. then he moves back and everything is "normal". very odd for me.

then another time he took me home and Sara was going to meet us at my house so he came inside and i got him something to drink. it was just on my kitchen table and he was looking at some pictures on my fridge. i was slightly leaning on my table and i was texting Sara to see when she'd be here, and he comes up to me, and is literally two inches away and he moves his arm around my back while staring at me straight in the eyes, and then backs up and takes a drink of water. very awkward.

also when we all hang out sometimes he touches me, not like that, but like my arm, my back, my waist, just kinda weird. it's frequent too like at least once every time i see him.

so let me answer the questions you may have. yes, i think he may like me not only for these reasons which may not be enough proof, but because a few of his friends have mentioned it to me in the past. i've told some of my other friends and they think he does. yes, i've told Sara and she just told me he is flirty and probably just playing around, nothing to worry about. no i really do not like him.

okay now it took me a while to put this up not just because it was long, but because he actually just came over. he said he dropped Sara off at work, i don't know why she didn't drive, and said she gave him my hoodie i let her borrow i while ago. well we're talking a minute and then he leans in and slowly grabs my necklace and says it looks really pretty. i don't know what is with this guy with leaning in but it's kinda freakin me out.

thoughts?

[Angel_Faerie]

Don't be sorry. Its ok, I just wish I had some new revelation or advice for you but I don't. Feel free to vent.

AS for the decision. You're doing the right thing.

Sometimes I wish I never saw him that first day in Speech class. Then I wouldn't be so miserable right now.

[DV8]

ok i have to give you a lil bit of background...

for their privacy purposes i'll call my friends, Sara and her boyfriend Kyle. they have been together like three months now and they are pretty good together no problems or anything. Sara is one of my better friends, i've known her since middle school. well about a month ago my mom got into an accident and her car went to the shop about three weeks ago. so she's driving my car to work and i'm getting rides to school. for the first about week and half Sara picked me up and took me home. but recently as in last week, she had to stay after school because she's in some clubs and is heavily involved in extracurriculars, so Kyle took me home. i'm sure you're beginning to get an idea now.

well everything is cool except now Sara is skipping her first class to sleep in sometimes, and so Kyle comes to pick me up. apparently she told him to. there's plenty of other people i could get a ride from but they insist. so now he picks me up and takes me home almost everyday. it's like he's dating both of us. well at school and when we go out in group he does flirt with me a bit. but it's just all for fun i mean Sara is there. well one time when he took me home, we were talking in my drive way and he was talking about money and going to the bank or something. then he leans in almost like he's about to kiss me and i back up a bit and he is looking at me straight in the eyes and opens his glove box with his other hand to pull out his check book. then he moves back and everything is "normal". very odd for me.

then another time he took me home and Sara was going to meet us at my house so he came inside and i got him something to drink. it was just on my kitchen table and he was looking at some pictures on my fridge. i was slightly leaning on my table and i was texting Sara to see when she'd be here, and he comes up to me, and is literally two inches away and he moves his arm around my back while staring at me straight in the eyes, and then backs up and takes a drink of water. very awkward.

also when we all hang out sometimes he touches me, not like that, but like my arm, my back, my waist, just kinda weird. it's frequent too like at least once every time i see him.

so let me answer the questions you may have. yes, i think he may like me not only for these reasons which may not be enough proof, but because a few of his friends have mentioned it to me in the past. i've told some of my other friends and they think he does. yes, i've told Sara and she just told me he is flirty and probably just playing around, nothing to worry about. no i really do not like him.

okay now it took me a while to put this up not just because it was long, but because he actually just came over. he said he dropped Sara off at work, i don't know why she didn't drive, and said she gave him my hoodie i let her borrow i while ago. well we're talking a minute and then he leans in and slowly grabs my necklace and says it looks really pretty. i don't know what is with this guy with leaning in but it's kinda freakin me out.

thoughts?

HA!! this guy is a smooth operator, or so he thinks . . . he's trying to gauge your reaction to him making a move on you, which he has obviously done repeatedly and is trying to then play it off . . . :whatever:

that's a tough call though; since he thinks he's so slick, he's "playing it safe" by trying to make a move and acting like he's not, so if you try to tell him to back off, he'll try to make you look stupid like he wasn't trying anything . . .

next time he touches you or moves into your personal space, just say something like "you're getting a little too close, there pal", or "you're all up in my Chi!! PERSONAL SPACE!" you know, make it known in a light-hearted way, almost jokingly; slickly letting him know IT AIN'T happening, the way he thinks he's slick by trying to make a move under your friend's nose . . .

[Cunning Stunts]

ok i have to give you a lil bit of background...

for their privacy purposes i'll call my friends, Sara and her boyfriend Kyle. they have been together like three months now and they are pretty good together no problems or anything. Sara is one of my better friends, i've known her since middle school. well about a month ago my mom got into an accident and her car went to the shop about three weeks ago. so she's driving my car to work and i'm getting rides to school. for the first about week and half Sara picked me up and took me home. but recently as in last week, she had to stay after school because she's in some clubs and is heavily involved in extracurriculars, so Kyle took me home. i'm sure you're beginning to get an idea now.

well everything is cool except now Sara is skipping her first class to sleep in sometimes, and so Kyle comes to pick me up. apparently she told him to. there's plenty of other people i could get a ride from but they insist. so now he picks me up and takes me home almost everyday. it's like he's dating both of us. well at school and when we go out in group he does flirt with me a bit. but it's just all for fun i mean Sara is there. well one time when he took me home, we were talking in my drive way and he was talking about money and going to the bank or something. then he leans in almost like he's about to kiss me and i back up a bit and he is looking at me straight in the eyes and opens his glove box with his other hand to pull out his check book. then he moves back and everything is "normal". very odd for me.

then another time he took me home and Sara was going to meet us at my house so he came inside and i got him something to drink. it was just on my kitchen table and he was looking at some pictures on my fridge. i was slightly leaning on my table and i was texting Sara to see when she'd be here, and he comes up to me, and is literally two inches away and he moves his arm around my back while staring at me straight in the eyes, and then backs up and takes a drink of water. very awkward.

also when we all hang out sometimes he touches me, not like that, but like my arm, my back, my waist, just kinda weird. it's frequent too like at least once every time i see him.

so let me answer the questions you may have. yes, i think he may like me not only for these reasons which may not be enough proof, but because a few of his friends have mentioned it to me in the past. i've told some of my other friends and they think he does. yes, i've told Sara and she just told me he is flirty and probably just playing around, nothing to worry about. no i really do not like him.

okay now it took me a while to put this up not just because it was long, but because he actually just came over. he said he dropped Sara off at work, i don't know why she didn't drive, and said she gave him my hoodie i let her borrow i while ago. well we're talking a minute and then he leans in and slowly grabs my necklace and says it looks really pretty. i don't know what is with this guy with leaning in but it's kinda freakin me out.

thoughts?

He definitely sounds flirty but I don't know that this is enough proof to be convinced he likes you.

The girl I mentioned in the previous post (the one whom I liked when I picked up playing bass) used to and still does all that ****, but mainly it's for attention. She's always all over other guys, and used to be all over me 'til I began... Well, disliking her. I'm dating her best friend, yet she would hold my hand- even in front of her.

Now, she swore she didn't like me. She also swore she didn't like the numerous other guys who she'd find out liked her, and then proceed to hang out with/grope all over them for the duration while they liked her...

In front of her boyfriend.

So long story short, he may like you, but the best thing to do, like I said with the ex, tell the ****er to cut it out- especially if you're as close to his girlfriend as you apparently are.

[Superman79]

Cheerleading worked for me in high school, when that kind stuff happened to me in college[/quote]

You had male cheerleaders in high school?? :huh:


Congratulations! 18 kinda sucks when you get there. When I turned 18, I realized all I could do was smoke:huh:. I don't smoke so it was effin' pointless:cmad:.

Don't forget you can buy porn at 18...oh, and operate heavy machinery :woot:

[Cunning Stunts]

You had male cheerleaders in high school?? :huh:

In my first high school, no. My second (where I started), I was one of five, but the fifth one (a sophomore who joined after I did) wound up quitting when I found out he'd been playing one of the girls on our team (cheerleading guys+cheerleading girls= like brothers and sisters) and told the girls about it.

My third high school had none (but the girls found out about me somehow before I'd even moved there), and the football coach was bugging my cheer coach to get me on his team (because he heard I was moving from Alabama, which= football central). I wound up joining the cheer team as the first and only male cheerleader ever at that school.

Five others were going to try out for basketball season, but they chickened out:cmad:.

Don't forget you can buy porn at 18...oh, and operate heavy machinery :woot:

Oh yeah. But I operated heavy machinery before that:csad:. I don't buy porn either, though, so eff that too:cmad:.

[Superman79]

ok i have to give you a lil bit of background...

for their privacy purposes i'll call my friends, Sara and her boyfriend Kyle. they have been together like three months now and they are pretty good together no problems or anything. Sara is one of my better friends, i've known her since middle school. well about a month ago my mom got into an accident and her car went to the shop about three weeks ago. so she's driving my car to work and i'm getting rides to school. for the first about week and half Sara picked me up and took me home. but recently as in last week, she had to stay after school because she's in some clubs and is heavily involved in extracurriculars, so Kyle took me home. i'm sure you're beginning to get an idea now.

well everything is cool except now Sara is skipping her first class to sleep in sometimes, and so Kyle comes to pick me up. apparently she told him to. there's plenty of other people i could get a ride from but they insist. so now he picks me up and takes me home almost everyday. it's like he's dating both of us. well at school and when we go out in group he does flirt with me a bit. but it's just all for fun i mean Sara is there. well one time when he took me home, we were talking in my drive way and he was talking about money and going to the bank or something. then he leans in almost like he's about to kiss me and i back up a bit and he is looking at me straight in the eyes and opens his glove box with his other hand to pull out his check book. then he moves back and everything is "normal". very odd for me.

then another time he took me home and Sara was going to meet us at my house so he came inside and i got him something to drink. it was just on my kitchen table and he was looking at some pictures on my fridge. i was slightly leaning on my table and i was texting Sara to see when she'd be here, and he comes up to me, and is literally two inches away and he moves his arm around my back while staring at me straight in the eyes, and then backs up and takes a drink of water. very awkward.

also when we all hang out sometimes he touches me, not like that, but like my arm, my back, my waist, just kinda weird. it's frequent too like at least once every time i see him.

so let me answer the questions you may have. yes, i think he may like me not only for these reasons which may not be enough proof, but because a few of his friends have mentioned it to me in the past. i've told some of my other friends and they think he does. yes, i've told Sara and she just told me he is flirty and probably just playing around, nothing to worry about. no i really do not like him.

okay now it took me a while to put this up not just because it was long, but because he actually just came over. he said he dropped Sara off at work, i don't know why she didn't drive, and said she gave him my hoodie i let her borrow i while ago. well we're talking a minute and then he leans in and slowly grabs my necklace and says it looks really pretty. i don't know what is with this guy with leaning in but it's kinda freakin me out.

thoughts?

I gotta go with DV8 on this one...he's gauging your reaction to see how far he can push things. What he's doing is more than harmless flirting.

I've seen it a million times with frat bros of mine who couldn't keep it in their pants. They test the waters with moves like that and if theres no weirding out, or if the girl makes a move, then they go with it. They were really somthing...it was like Jedi mind ****...

I would do as DV said...call him on it. Thats the surest way to get him to back off and let you be.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

yea the only thing is we were all kinda friends before, him and us i mean, and then obviously he became closer when he started dating my friend. i'm not like completely convinced he likes me yet both you DV8 and CS are talking about exactly what i've been thinking. i do think Sara may not necessarily be giving him much attention, so maybe that's why he's drawn to me whether it's cuz he likes me or not. yet another reason i think he may is just that sound in his voice when he talks to me plus the eye contact. not to mention some of my friend and his friends all think he does too.

and about the space thing, there has been times when im at my locker and he'll come up right next to me and i'll push back a little or move away. sometimes when he grabs my arm i'll pull away. one time at lunch he came and sat right next to me and i moved "so Sara could sit there" but i just didn't want to sit next to him. it's moreso the eye contact just the way he looks at me. it's like he's trying to telepathically speak to me.

[Cunning Stunts]

yea the only thing is we were all kinda friends before, him and us i mean, and then obviously he became closer when he started dating my friend. i'm not like completely convinced he likes me yet both you DV8 and CS are talking about exactly what i've been thinking. i do think Sara may not necessarily be giving him much attention, so maybe that's why he's drawn to me whether it's cuz he likes me or not. yet another reason i think he may is just that sound in his voice when he talks to me plus the eye contact. not to mention some of my friend and his friends all think he does too.

and about the space thing, there has been times when im at my locker and he'll come up right next to me and i'll push back a little or move away. sometimes when he grabs my arm i'll pull away. one time at lunch he came and sat right next to me and i moved "so Sara could sit there" but i just didn't want to sit next to him. it's moreso the eye contact just the way he looks at me. it's like he's trying to telepathically speak to me.

"Telepathically" give him the finger:o.

[Superman79]

yea the only thing is we were all kinda friends before, him and us i mean, and then obviously he became closer when he started dating my friend. i'm not like completely convinced he likes me yet both you DV8 and CS are talking about exactly what i've been thinking. i do think Sara may not necessarily be giving him much attention, so maybe that's why he's drawn to me whether it's cuz he likes me or not. yet another reason i think he may is just that sound in his voice when he talks to me plus the eye contact. not to mention some of my friend and his friends all think he does too.

and about the space thing, there has been times when im at my locker and he'll come up right next to me and i'll push back a little or move away. sometimes when he grabs my arm i'll pull away. one time at lunch he came and sat right next to me and i moved "so Sara could sit there" but i just didn't want to sit next to him. it's moreso the eye contact just the way he looks at me. it's like he's trying to telepathically speak to me.

It doesn't matter if he "likes" you or not...he's just trying to...um..."dip his wick" if I may? He doesn't need to have feelings for you to want to sleep with you, he just has to find you attractive. Thats how cheaters operate.

The eye contact is him trying to draw you in, you really just need to call him out and tell him to back off and get out of your personal space.

[Superman79]

"Telepathically" give him the finger:o.

I always thought a well timed kick to the junk works well too...

[Remy LeBeau X3]

In my first high school, no. My second (where I started), I was one of five, but the fifth one (a sophomore who joined after I did) wound up quitting when I found out he'd been playing one of the girls on our team (cheerleading guys+cheerleading girls= like brothers and sisters) and told the girls about it.

My third high school had none (but the girls found out about me somehow before I'd even moved there), and the football coach was bugging my cheer coach to get me on his team (because he heard I was moving from Alabama, which= football central). I wound up joining the cheer team as the first and only male cheerleader ever at that school.

Five others were going to try out for basketball season, but they chickened out:cmad:.



Oh yeah. But I operated heavy machinery before that:csad:. I don't buy porn either, though, so eff that too:cmad:.

wow no male cheerleaders at my school, but three high schools for you? why so many moves? yea being 18 is nice but feels practically the same. i don't smoke and i haven't bought porn. no need to really operate heavy machinery so i guess buying porn would be my only advantage.

but thanks for the comment, yea i need to work on telling him off in a friendly way.

[Cunning Stunts]

It doesn't matter if he "likes" you or not...he's just trying to...um..."dip his wick" if I may? He doesn't need to have feelings for you to want to sleep with you, he just has to find you attractive. Thats how cheaters operate.

The eye contact is him trying to draw you in, you really just need to call him out and tell him to back off and get out of your personal space.

I thought "dip his wick" meant boning:csad:.

Seriously, Remy, the next time he gets flirty, just calmly ask, "Why do you do *insert action here* whenever 'Sara' isn't around?"

[Cunning Stunts]

wow no male cheerleaders at my school, but three high schools for you? why so many moves? yea being 18 is nice but feels practically the same. i don't smoke and i haven't bought porn. no need to really operate heavy machinery so i guess buying porn would be my only advantage.

but thanks for the comment, yea i need to work on telling him off in a friendly way.

Military. I've lived in around 13-15 houses since birth. Sucks, don't it? It doesn't bother me anymore. I wouldn't be who I am now if it weren't for that.

I probably wouldn't be playing bass, a cheerleader, into martial arts, etc., if it weren't for moving. I like the things I have, although I don't want to move more. Except away from my house now:cmad:.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

"Telepathically" give him the finger:o.

haha i wish i could!

It doesn't matter if he "likes" you or not...he's just trying to...um..."dip his wick" if I may? He doesn't need to have feelings for you to want to sleep with you, he just has to find you attractive. Thats how cheaters operate.

The eye contact is him trying to draw you in, you really just need to call him out and tell him to back off and get out of your personal space.

well that's crap, not that i want him to like me, but jeez it's nice to know i might just be a "piece of meat".

[Superman79]

I thought "dip his wick" meant boning:csad:.

It does :o

[Remy LeBeau X3]

I thought "dip his wick" meant boning:csad:.

Seriously, Remy, the next time he gets flirty, just calmly ask, "Why do you do *insert action here* whenever 'Sara' isn't around?"

good call, i will really consider that.

Military. I've lived in around 13-15 houses since birth. Sucks, don't it? It doesn't bother me anymore. I wouldn't be who I am now if it weren't for that.

I probably wouldn't be playing bass, a cheerleader, into martial arts, etc., if it weren't for moving. I like the things I have, although I don't want to move more. Except away from my house now:cmad:.

oh that does suck but it does make you who you are, and as long as your happy, then that's great!

It does :o

well that's gross. one time he did tell me that i looked great in front of Sara, but she just agreed with him. do you think i should like talk to her again about it?

[Cunning Stunts]

well that's crap, not that i want him to like me, but jeez it's nice to know i might just be a "piece of meat".

Welcome to the wonderful world of men.

It does :o

Thank God, I'm not a total retard:up:.

[Showtime]

"Dip his wick."

Have you been watching the John Adams mini-series?

[Superman79]

well that's gross. one time he did tell me that i looked great in front of Sara, but she just agreed with him. do you think i should like talk to her again about it?

You should consider talking about his weird behavior. Just do it in a way that Sara doesn't get defensive. I would bring it up again.


well that's crap, not that i want him to like me, but jeez it's nice to know i might just be a "piece of meat".

Sorry, but thats how players like that think, you are a conquest, not a potential relationship. They figure if they just look at a girl as a place to put their dick, then its not technically cheating as they diddn't betray their feelings for their girlfriend...I've seen it a million times and it never fails to blow my mind.

[DV8]

Don't forget you can buy porn at 18...oh, and operate heavy machinery :woot:

for me, those two things are one in the same . . . . da-dummm-csssshhh!!

[Cunning Stunts]

Oh, Supes79, you forgot one.

Now we can be in porn too:).

[SpideyVille]

for me, those two things are one in the same . . . . da-dummm-csssshhh!!

:pal:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

not that i disagree with you CS, but i know that him and Sara consummate so do you still feel the same way knowing that? i mean like what motive is there if he is getting some. assuming it's good, Sara is hot.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Oh, Supes79, you forgot one.

Now we can be in porn too:).

i would never do that! unless it's homemade between my husband and i.

[Superman79]

not that i disagree with you CS, but i know that him and Sara consummate so do you still feel the same way knowing that? i mean like what motive is there if he is getting some. assuming it's good, Sara is hot.

Even if it's good, and he enjoys what hes getting, some guys (the player type) always want more, and different. They're the type who's not happy with just vanilla ice cream in their sundae, they want some chocolate and cookies and cream ice cream tossed in for good measure, even if they love vanilla...you get what I'm saying?

My bet is he finds you attractive and wonders "hmm...how would she be in bed" and so he pursues in an attempt to find out.

[DV8]

not that i disagree with you CS, but i know that him and Sara consummate so do you still feel the same way knowing that? i mean like what motive is there if he is getting some. assuming it's good, Sara is hot.

oh, Remy, sweet . . . . innocent, Remy . . . 98.98% of guys will eventually stray no matter what . . . it's part of human nature . . . even Halle Berry's ex cheated on her!!! HALLE BERRY . . . the grass is always greener on the other side and he wants to play on your field . . .

[Cunning Stunts]

not that i disagree with you CS, but i know that him and Sara consummate so do you still feel the same way knowing that? i mean like what motive is there if he is getting some. assuming it's good, Sara is hot.

I know there are good guys out there, but a very high percentage of guys have sex pretty high on their lists- even when in serious relationships.

I wouldn't go so far as to say we think of sex ever 6 seconds (like that ******** tale says), but a great deal of guys will try to get with a girl thinking, "I'd love to **** her." Our age is probably one of the worst periods for that.

i would never do that! unless it's homemade between my husband and i.

Lmao, nice, but I was kidding:ninja:. I'm not down for showing my sac on-screen.

[Superman79]

"Dip his wick."

Have you been watching the John Adams mini-series?

maybe :csad:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Even if it's good, and he enjoys what hes getting, some guys (the player type) always want more, and different. They're the type who's not happy with just vanilla ice cream in their sundae, they want some chocolate and cookies and cream ice cream tossed in for good measure, even if they love vanilla...you get what I'm saying?

My bet is he finds you attractive and wonders "hmm...how would she be in bed" and so he pursues in an attempt to find out.

haha i love the ice cream analogy! thanks for that.

oh, Remy, sweet . . . . innocent, Remy . . . 98.98% of guys will eventually stray no matter what . . . it's part of human nature . . . even Halle Berry's ex cheated on her!!! HALLE BERRY . . . the grass is always greener on the other side and he wants to play on your field . . .

hey i'm not that innocent, you know what i mean :cwink: but i see your point.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

I know there are good guys out there, but a very high percentage of guys have sex pretty high on their lists- even when in serious relationships.

I wouldn't go so far as to say we think of sex ever 6 seconds (like that ******** tale says), but a great deal of guys will try to get with a girl thinking, "I'd love to **** her." Our age is probably one of the worst periods for that.



Lmao, nice, but I was kidding:ninja:. I'm not down for showing my sac on-screen.

haha ok well, i just wish i could tell Sara, i mean maybe i am "innocent" with this, but i think that if let's say he is wanting to sleep with me, then that is not being faithful to my friend, so shouldn't she know? know as in about his personality/intentions rather than the actual situation.

[DV8]

hey i'm not that innocent, you know what i mean :cwink: but i see your point.

prove it :ninja: ;)

[DV8]

haha i love the ice cream analogy! thanks for that.

haha, supes has the BEST analogies . . . although many of them are related to snackfoods :confused:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

prove it :ninja: ;)

haha! well i can be anything you want me to be :cwink: :heart:

[Superman79]

haha, supes has the BEST analogies . . . although many of them are related to snackfoods :confused:

That's because everybody likes snack foods...I have some great sports analogies too, but not everyone likes sports...

haha ok well, i just wish i could tell Sara, i mean maybe i am "innocent" with this, but i think that if let's say he is wanting to sleep with me, then that is not being faithful to my friend, so shouldn't she know? know as in about his personality/intentions rather than the actual situation.

Problem is, you don't know 100% what his plot is, and really, until he actually does something like putting his hand up your skirt, he has complete deniability, its your word against his, and as close as you and Sara are, she is gonna side with her man. I'd hold off until he REALLY makes a VERY overt move, that or as we said before, just tell Sara about his 'weird' behavior

[Superman79]

haha! well i can be anything you want me to be :cwink: :heart:

Whoa. easy there youngster...you don't wanna get DV or the rest of us in trouble

[DV8]

haha! well i can be anything you want me to be :cwink: :heart:

I don't think I'm allowed to get this excited at work :wow:

;)

[DV8]

Whoa. easy there youngster...you don't wanna get DV or the rest of us in trouble

she's 18, supes!! stay outta my way!!! :cmad:

[DV8]

Whoa. easy there youngster...you don't wanna get DV or the rest of us in trouble

also, would it really kill you to put the '8' on the end, there?? :o

[Superman79]

also, would it really kill you to put the '8' on the end, there?? :o

Sorry...I was shortening it like a nickname :(...maybe I'll just call you "D" ;)

she's 18, supes!! stay outta my way!!! :cmad:

Freshly 18...kinda young for a mature fellow like yourself...'sides, you don't wanna ruin what you might have with the gal from last night...be strong! :o:cwink:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Whoa. easy there youngster...you don't wanna get DV or the rest of us in trouble

haha sorry, so how old are you guys then? if you don't mind me asking.

but i completely see your point above. i think what i'll do is talk to Sara today and see what else she'll say. and i guess you're right i don't have any real evidence of some i suppose "desired cheating" yet.

he actually just texted me and asked me to if i wanted to go out for coffee. i should mention that this is something we sometime do in a group. however some of the last times we went, Sara was supposed to meet us there but she couldn't (long story) and it ended up being two other couples, and then him and i. lol just my luck right. there's usually other singles but for some reason they didn't go either. anyway i have went with just him once and that was because i was originally there with someone else and he came but then she had to "run off" and asked if he could take me home. now that i think about it, it 's almost as if i'm always set me up or something. and i did tell Sara about that time and she didn't care.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Sorry...I was shortening it like a nickname :(...maybe I'll just call you "D" ;)



Freshly 18...kinda young for a mature fellow like yourself...'sides, you don't wanna ruin what you might have with the gal from last night...be strong! :o:cwink:

oh yea DV8 i don't wanna get in the way of that! how is that by the way?

[Superman79]

haha sorry, so how old are you guys then? if you don't mind me asking.

26. Old enough to know better, but still too young to care ;)

but i completely see your point above. i think what i'll do is talk to Sara today and see what else she'll say. and i guess you're right i don't have any real evidence of some i suppose "desired cheating" yet.

he actually just texted me and asked me to if i wanted to go out for coffee. i should mention that this is something we sometime do in a group. however some of the last times we went, Sara was supposed to meet us there but she couldn't (long story) and it ended up being two other couples, and then him and i. lol just my luck right. there's usually other singles but for some reason they didn't go either. anyway i have went with just him once and that was because i was originally there with someone else and he came but then she had to "run off" and asked if he could take me home. now that i think about it, it 's almost as if i'm always set me up or something. and i did tell Sara about that time and she didn't care.

You just have to keep an eye out. And if a situation like that arises again, just come up with a reason why you have to leave and go. Don't give him the opportunity to mess with you.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

26. Old enough to know better, but still too young to care ;)



You just have to keep an eye out. And if a situation like that arises again, just come up with a reason why you have to leave and go. Don't give him the opportunity to mess with you.

lol fair enough. i see, i didn't text him back yet i'll make something up. so you do agree that something is up about him though right? like cuz when i did talk to Sara she just kinda shrugged it off like im paranoid or something. so i just wanted to make sure that i'm not paranoid and that this is really what it seems like.

[Superman79]

lol fair enough. i see, i didn't text him back yet i'll make something up. so you do agree that something is up about him though right? like cuz when i did talk to Sara she just kinda shrugged it off like im paranoid or something. so i just wanted to make sure that i'm not paranoid and that this is really what it seems like.

If what you're telling us is 100% true, and it happens just like you've relayed it...there is a better than 95% chance he's playing you. There is always the very small chance he's just weird/goofy/has no idea about personal space while flirting, but in my experience that is HIGHLY unlikely.

Sara is not going to make a big deal out of it because hes her man, and she's not going to see any bad in him. Just follow our previous advice and your gut and you'll be fine.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

If what you're telling us is 100% true, and it happens just like you've relayed it...there is a better than 95% chance he's playing you. There is always the very small chance he's just weird/goofy/has no idea about personal space while flirting, but in my experience that is HIGHLY unlikely.

Sara is not going to make a big deal out of it because hes her man, and she's not going to see any bad in him. Just follow our previous advice and your gut and you'll be fine.

i assure you that everything is the way i said it. now i'm not gonna lie though, i may have from time to time flirted back a little bit through natural reaction but nothing of the touching or eye stare sort. it's not like i'm misleading him or anything.

[Superman79]

i assure you that everything is the way i said it. now i'm not gonna lie though, i may have from time to time flirted back a little bit through natural reaction but nothing of the touching or eye stare sort. it's not like i'm misleading him or anything.

Fair enough. Then you are in the right here. Go with what we gave you and you'll be fine. Harmless flirting is never a problem, its when it crosses the line like he seems to have, thats when its no good.

[amazingfantasy15]

haha sorry, so how old are you guys then? if you don't mind me asking.

but i completely see your point above. i think what i'll do is talk to Sara today and see what else she'll say. and i guess you're right i don't have any real evidence of some i suppose "desired cheating" yet.

he actually just texted me and asked me to if i wanted to go out for coffee. i should mention that this is something we sometime do in a group. however some of the last times we went, Sara was supposed to meet us there but she couldn't (long story) and it ended up being two other couples, and then him and i. lol just my luck right. there's usually other singles but for some reason they didn't go either. anyway i have went with just him once and that was because i was originally there with someone else and he came but then she had to "run off" and asked if he could take me home. now that i think about it, it 's almost as if i'm always set me up or something. and i did tell Sara about that time and she didn't care.

Next time he "makes a move" just say the you're uncomfortable with it. If he continues, then it's time to be a little more firm with him. If he persists then tell your friend. Telling your friend is the last step though in my mind, she's not gonna believe you and he might try to play it off like you're obsessed with him, which will screw up your friendship with Sara. If you explain how you've tried to work this out by yourself first it might have better results.

I definitely don't think you should be hanging out with him without your friend, that just seems a little odd.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Fair enough. Then you are in the right here. Go with what we gave you and you'll be fine. Harmless flirting is never a problem, its when it crosses the line like he seems to have, thats when its no good.

awesome! well i appreciate your advice. it's nice to hear a male opinion because all my girlfriends say the same thing. if i told my brothers about it, they would have just kicked his *** so there's no talking to them about this. and then most of my guy friends are out of town for spring break. i've gotten a lot of drunk phone calls of love confessing! so yea. thanks Supes! :heart:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Next time he "makes a move" just say the you're uncomfortable with it. If he continues, then it's time to be a little more firm with him. If he persists then tell your friend. Telling your friend is the last step though in my mind, she's not gonna believe you and he might try to play it off like you're obsessed with him, which will screw up your friendship with Sara. If you explain how you've tried to work this out by yourself first it might have better results.

I definitely don't think you should be hanging out with him without your friend, that just seems a little odd.

oh gawd i don't even want to! yea i think i'm just going to ask Sara about him and stuff. very lightly though. and then the next time he and i go through some incident, i'll be sure to let him know. thanks!

[Superman79]

awesome! well i appreciate your advice. it's nice to hear a male opinion because all my girlfriends say the same thing. if i told my brothers about it, they would have just kicked his *** so there's no talking to them about this. and then most of my guy friends are out of town for spring break. i've gotten a lot of drunk phone calls of love confessing! so yea. thanks Supes! :heart:

Glad to help, that's what I'm here for. :super:

[DV8]

Sorry...I was shortening it like a nickname :(...maybe I'll just call you "D" ;)

I know, I know . . . but isn't it short enough? *contemplative*


Freshly 18...kinda young for a mature fellow like yourself...'sides, you don't wanna ruin what you might have with the gal from last night...be strong! :o:cwink:

she has an old soul though . . . I can tell by the 2 days I've known her :o

oh yea DV8 i don't wanna get in the way of that! how is that by the way?

you??? in the way??? girl, pleeeeeeaaaase; lookin that fine, you can set up a roadblock of yous in my driveway ;) Lol!

Anyway, I had a really great time!! She is a really fun girl and everything, and to be honest, she's pry the most downright beautiful woman I've had the pleasure of uhhhh, pleasuring? but I've still got a lot to learn about her . . . . she's also fresh out of a 6-year relationship so we're keeping it fairly casual for the time being . . . :up:

[SpideyVille]

you??? in the way??? girl, pleeeeeeaaaase; lookin that fine, you can set up a roadblock of yous in my driveway ;) Lol!

:pal:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

I know, I know . . . but isn't it short enough? *contemplative*



she has an old soul though . . . I can tell by the 2 days I've known her :o



you??? in the way??? girl, pleeeeeeaaaase; lookin that fine, you can set up a roadblock of yous in my driveway ;) Lol!

Anyway, I had a really great time!! She is a really fun girl and everything, and to be honest, she's pry the most downright beautiful woman I've had the pleasure of uhhhh, pleasuring? but I've still got a lot to learn about her . . . . she's also fresh out of a 6-year relationship so we're keeping it fairly casual for the time being . . . :up:

lol sweetheart! :heart: well that's good to hear. how long have you known her? i can't imagine breaking up after a six year relationship that kinda sucks. longest i've ever had was six months. sad i know. all want the same thing usually, or just all about that. maybe i just suck at being a person lol i don't know.

[Superman79]

I know, I know . . . but isn't it short enough? *contemplative*

I like giving people nicknames :csad:

you??? in the way??? girl, pleeeeeeaaaase; lookin that fine, you can set up a roadblock of yous in my driveway ;) Lol!

OyVey... http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v171/backinblack1979/picard_facepalm.jpg

Anyway, I had a really great time!! She is a really fun girl and everything, and to be honest, she's pry the most downright beautiful woman I've had the pleasure of uhhhh, pleasuring? but I've still got a lot to learn about her . . . . she's also fresh out of a 6-year relationship so we're keeping it fairly casual for the time being . . . :up:

Good call bro. I hope it all goes well for you :up:
Where'd you meet this little vixen?

[Remy LeBeau X3]

I like giving people nicknames :csad:

aww its ok, me too! it's not so much typing the 8 its when you say it out loud. not that i'm speaking outloud. if any of this even makes sense.


OyVey... http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v171/backinblack1979/picard_facepalm.jpg


haha i don't know what to say about that!

[Superman79]

lol sweetheart! :heart: well that's good to hear. how long have you known her? i can't imagine breaking up after a six year relationship that kinda sucks. longest i've ever had was six months. sad i know. all want the same thing usually, or just all about that. maybe i just suck at being a person lol i don't know.

Meh, you're in high school (right?), you're just at the tip of the relationship iceberg.

College will be a huge change...and beyond that if you do grad school its a different animal there too...for me high school, college, and law school were all different worlds relationship-wise.

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Meh, you're in high school (right?), you're just at the tip of the relationship iceberg.

College will be a huge change...and beyond that if you do grad school its a different animal there too...for me high school, college, and law school were all different worlds relationship-wise.

yea my last year! i've heard about the college thing. you went to law school?! that's awesome! i was sort of thinking about that but i don't know. for now i have a mindset for pharmacy.

[DV8]

lol sweetheart! :heart: well that's good to hear. how long have you known her? i can't imagine breaking up after a six year relationship that kinda sucks. longest i've ever had was six months. sad i know. all want the same thing usually, or just all about that. maybe i just suck at being a person lol i don't know.

yeah, the longest serious relationship I've had was 3 years, so I can only imagine . . . . and 6 months is long enough to know if that person isnt' right for you . . . you're still young!! you shouldn't be tying yourself down too tight right now anyway . . . have fun (but not TOO much fun, that's how STD's happen ;))

heh, trust me you don't suck at being a person . . . :yay:

[Superman79]

yea my last year! i've heard about the college thing. you went to law school?! that's awesome! i was sort of thinking about that but i don't know. for now i have a mindset for pharmacy.

You'll be surprised how often you change your mind about a career as you go through college, either one, law or pharmacy would be good, heck, I graduated with a gal who did both so she could represent pharmacy corporations...

[Erzengel]

Pharmacist is good money. Although what is it to become actually a Pharmacist is like over 6 years including college and post stuff?

[Superman79]

Pharmacist is good money. Although what is it to become actually a Pharmacist is like over 6 years including college and post stuff?

I'm pretty sure its total of 4 years undergrad and 3 years pharm school...not a ton of time, but not the blink of an eye by any means

[Erzengel]

I think anything past 4 years is long. :o

[Cunning Stunts]

I think anything past 4 years is long. :o

Anything past one is too long for me:o.

Then again, I'm coming up on one year with my girl. Oops:wow:.

[Superman79]

Anything past one is too long for me:o.

Then again, I'm coming up on one year with my girl. Oops:wow:.

Congrats...I think.

Though we were talking about higher education...not dating...we kinda got off subject

[Cunning Stunts]

Congrats...I think.

Though we were talking about higher education...not dating...we kinda got off subject

Lmao, dating might as well be education.

[Erzengel]

Anything past one is too long for me:o.

Then again, I'm coming up on one year with my girl. Oops:wow:.
I mean in terms of schooling. :o

[Cunning Stunts]

Did I just hear a T.V. commercial come on called "Fresh Taint with Alicia Keys," or am I just hearing things?

[SpideyVille]

Congrats...I think.

Though we were talking about higher education...not dating...we kinda got off subject

:pal:

Lmao, dating might as well be education.

Well then I guess I haven't started school yet :csad:

[Cunning Stunts]

:pal:



Well then I guess I haven't started school yet :csad:

Well, here's a history lesson for you:

My best friend (who is about to turn 21) just bagged a 40-something year old:dry:.

Don't start there.

[Crook]

My best friend (who is about to turn 21) just bagged a 40-something year old:dry:.
Well hey, if she's hot....the experience only adds to it. :up:

[Cunning Stunts]

Well hey, if she's hot....the experience only adds to it. :up:

*Insert 'no' here*

[Crook]

*Insert 'no' here*
Monica Bellucci's in her 40s, and she's one of the more finest pieces of ass I've seen. :o

[SpideyVille]

Well, here's a history lesson for you:

My best friend (who is about to turn 21) just bagged a 40-something year old:dry:.

Don't start there.

Yea, I'm only looking into age differences of 1 year at most. I feel it's harder to relate to someone too young or too old because we'll both be at different places in our life.

[Superman79]

There are plenty of very attractive women in their 40's :o

Check out your local gym...bet a bunch of the women you think are younger are just really in shape 40 somethings

[Superman79]

Yea, I'm only looking into age differences of 1 year at most. I feel it's harder to relate to someone too young or too old because we'll both be at different places in our life.

Not bad...though that will change as you get older.

I usually give myself a cushion of up to 4 years younger or 2 years older...thus far it hasn't let me down. :up:

[SpideyVille]

Not bad...though that will change as you get older.

I usually give myself a cushion of up to 4 years younger or 2 years older...thus far it hasn't let me down. :up:

Yea it'll definitely change. I mean I'm 19 now. I'd feel too old to a girl in high school, but too young to a fully mature woman. So for now I'm only sticking to my age group.

[Cunning Stunts]

Yea it'll definitely change. I mean I'm 19 now. I'd feel too old to a girl in high school, but too young to a fully mature woman. So for now I'm only sticking to my age group.

I'm 19 too... If I were single, my range would most likely be 17 at the very youngest (I'd prefer to keep it at 18), up to mid-20s. My girlfriend is 20, so we have a small age gap... Not too big of one at all.

[Crook]

My rule for youngest, is 1/2 my age plus 6. So right now, the lowest I'd go would be around 16. :up:

[Remy LeBeau X3]

yeah, the longest serious relationship I've had was 3 years, so I can only imagine . . . . and 6 months is long enough to know if that person isnt' right for you . . . you're still young!! you shouldn't be tying yourself down too tight right now anyway . . . have fun (but not TOO much fun, that's how STD's happen ;))

heh, trust me you don't suck at being a person . . . :yay:

haha yea i know what you mean! and thanks!

You'll be surprised how often you change your mind about a career as you go through college, either one, law or pharmacy would be good, heck, I graduated with a gal who did both so she could represent pharmacy corporations...

yea i know how that goes. hopefully if i do change my mind it'll still get me some good money like these two jobs.

I think anything past 4 years is long. :o

ohh most definitely. for both pharmacy and law it is four years and then three. so whichever one i choose i'll still be going the same amount, assuming i don't fail any classes! i guess that's both good and bad.

[Superman79]

So...back to relationship stuff...um...ahh...who's got a date tonight?

[Remy LeBeau X3]

wow i went to comment and the topic quickly changed

[SpideyVille]

I'm 19 too... If I were single, my range would most likely be 17 at the very youngest (I'd prefer to keep it at 18), up to mid-20s. My girlfriend is 20, so we have a small age gap... Not too big of one at all.

Yea but I'm fresh of 18, just turned 19 at the end of January. But yea, I feel like I'm in the middle of a different age phase. Like whenever I talked to sophomores or juniors last year in high school, I felt so old around them. Like I had so much experience and wisdom from 1 year compared to them. But when I talked to people in college, I felt so young because they were at a more mature and dependent phase in their lives. It's been changing now that I'm in college, but it still feels like I'm on the fence here.

[DV8]

So...back to relationship stuff...um...ahh...who's got a date tonight?

I got a date w/ the t1tty bar tonight :cool:

I actually went to the t1tty bar w/ my date last night too :confused: wasn't even my idea . . . . Best. Date. Ever. :cool: :cool:

[SpideyVille]

My rule for youngest, is 1/2 my age plus 6. So right now, the lowest I'd go would be around 16. :up:

So that would make you 20, right?

So...back to relationship stuff...um...ahh...who's got a date tonight?

I ... don't. I have a ton of homework to do this weekend.

[Crook]

So that would make you 20, right?

19. But I'll be 20 in just a few months. What a crappy number. :csad:

[Superman79]

I'm 19 too... If I were single, my range would most likely be 17 at the very youngest (I'd prefer to keep it at 18), up to mid-20s. My girlfriend is 20, so we have a small age gap... Not too big of one at all.
My rule for youngest, is 1/2 my age plus 6. So right now, the lowest I'd go would be around 16. :up:

I feel I should warn you that you both should bump that lower level to 18...just from a legal standpoint...statutory rape is not cool. :o

[Superman79]

I got a date w/ the t1tty bar tonight :cool:

I actually went to the t1tty bar w/ my date last night too :confused: wasn't even my idea . . . . Best. Date. Ever. :cool: :cool:

I think someone needs to give us all the gory details of this little outing last night...cutting it to an R rating of course :word:

[Crook]

I feel I should warn you that you both should bump that lower level to 18...just from a legal standpoint...statutory rape is not cool. :o
But that's only like if someone snitches or finds out. So I'm....cool, for now. :ninja: :p

[Remy LeBeau X3]

haha ^^

[SpideyVille]

I feel I should warn you that you both should bump that lower level to 18...just from a legal standpoint...statutory rape is not cool. :o

QFT :up:

Which is why I won't dare go a year under my age right now.

[SpideyVille]

But that's only like if someone snitches or finds out. So I'm....cool, for now. :ninja: :p

:pal:

[Cunning Stunts]

Yea but I'm fresh of 18, just turned 19 at the end of January. But yea, I feel like I'm in the middle of a different age phase. Like whenever I talked to sophomores or juniors last year in high school, I felt so old around them. Like I had so much experience and wisdom from 1 year compared to them. But when I talked to people in college, I felt so young because they were at a more mature and dependent phase in their lives. It's been changing now that I'm in college, but it still feels like I'm on the fence here.

Eh, get to know them first. Real well though. Some girls will seem very mature at first, but turn out to show their age. My senior year, I dated a freshman- she seemed incredibly mature, and hell, from lookin' at her, I thought she was a junior when I met her.

She seemed mature enough that I'd go for it anyway (once I found out). That took up a whole year and filled it with confusion, stupidity, and misery.

Then I realized, it was typical high school dramatic horse ****.

Then it happened again with my boss's daughter. She was a bit older though. He found out, and "laid me off due to lack of work."

:whatever:

I'd make exceptions depending on who they are, but I learned to take that a lot more seriously than I used to. It used to be, "They seem more mature, let's give it a shot." Now, I'd better know you like the back of my frickin' hand if you're younger than 16 or 17:cmad:.

Although I honestly can't think of an instance where I'd go that young, if I were single.

[Superman79]

But that's only like if someone snitches or finds out. So I'm....cool, for now. :ninja: :p

Oy Vey...:csad:

[Crook]

Then it happened again with my boss's daughter. She was a bit older though. He found out, and "laid me off due to lack of work."

:whatever:

My god...why would you even do that? That took balls. :funny:

Oy Vey...:csad:
You're not a lawyer of Chris Hansen right? Ok so we're good. :cmad: :up:

[Cunning Stunts]

I feel I should warn you that you both should bump that lower level to 18...just from a legal standpoint...statutory rape is not cool. :o

I find statutory rape rather amusing, actually:).

Besides, the law's a bit different to that where I live. 16 is legal up to 18, 17 is legal up to 19, and above 18... It's not statutory any more:(.

Doesn't the thrill of knowing you might get arrested for bonerating make it that much more sexy:brucebat:?

[Superman79]

Doesn't the thrill of knowing you might get arrested for bonerating make it that much more sexy:brucebat:?

Umm....NO.

My god...why would you even do that? That took balls. :funny:

Big BRASS balls, complete with your own midget to shine them every ten minutes...

You're not a lawyer of Chris Hansen right? Ok so we're good. :cmad: :up:

http://i214.photobucket.com/albums/cc309/toylion/ToCatchaPredator.jpg
http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa231/FrankTheTank1236/Demotivational%20Posters/predator.jpg

[Cunning Stunts]

My god...why would you even do that? That took balls. :funny:

Lmao, not to "toot my own horn," but it had to take even bigger nuts considering the fact that her mom hated me, and told her daughter I was "too poor and too ugly for" her. I told my co-workers I hated that ***** too, because she was fat and squealed like a pig when she laughed:).

That's a way to charm 'em:word:.

[Crook]

Doesn't the thrill of knowing you might get arrested for bonerating make it that much more sexy:brucebat:?
Yes, because....

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v132/Dex4788/Fun/Motivational%20Posters/1c1a2fd1.jpg

:ninja:

[Cunning Stunts]

Umm....NO.

Big BRASS balls, complete with your own midget to shine them every ten minutes...


Does that give me the biggest, shiniest set of nuts on the Hype?

And c'mon, live a little. Some jail time never did any harm:woot:.

[Cunning Stunts]

Yes, because....

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v132/Dex4788/Fun/Motivational%20Posters/1c1a2fd1.jpg

:ninja:

*Grabs tissue*

:ninja:

[SpideyVille]

Eh, get to know them first. Real well though. Some girls will seem very mature at first, but turn out to show their age. My senior year, I dated a freshman- she seemed incredibly mature, and hell, from lookin' at her, I thought she was a junior when I met her.

She seemed mature enough that I'd go for it anyway (once I found out). That took up a whole year and filled it with confusion, stupidity, and misery.

Then I realized, it was typical high school dramatic horse ****.

Then it happened again with my boss's daughter. She was a bit older though. He found out, and "laid me off due to lack of work."

:whatever:

I'd make exceptions depending on who they are, but I learned to take that a lot more seriously than I used to. It used to be, "They seem more mature, let's give it a shot." Now, I'd better know you like the back of my frickin' hand if you're younger than 16 or 17:cmad:.

Although I honestly can't think of an instance where I'd go that young, if I were single.

Same exact thing happened to me last year. I met this girl and could've sworn she was an upperclassmen that I'd never seen before. Turns out she was a freshmen. I would've went for it, but we had a convo one day where I kept finding myself saying 'When I was your age ... or .. Back when I was a freshmen things were different ..." :csad:

It was then that I realized that my approach with girls was just soooo wrong and I needed to make a lot of changes. And it's worked so far, but now there's this girl in my class that I'm sorta liking, but trying not to so much. I'd rather get to know her first before I take any steps towards trying to date her.

[Cunning Stunts]

Same exact thing happened to me last year. I met this girl and could've sworn she was an upperclassmen that I'd never seen before. Turns out she was a freshmen. I would've went for it, but we had a convo one day where I kept finding myself saying 'When I was your age ... or .. Back when I was a freshmen things were different ..." :csad:

It was then that I realized that my approach with girls was just soooo wrong and I needed to make a lot of changes. And it's worked so far, but now there's this girl in my class that I'm sorta liking, but trying not to so much. I'd rather get to know her first before I take any steps towards trying to date her.

I did that occasionally, but for some reason, having that wise-man type role in a relationship (even with women older than you) is something I kind of like. My girlfriend comes to me for advice on what to do with her friendships that go awry and such. Granted, that's a little different, but still two attributes I like to be able to have for my girlfriend- supportive and wise.

[SpideyVille]

I did that occasionally, but for some reason, having that wise-man type role in a relationship (even with women older than you) is something I kind of like. My girlfriend comes to me for advice on what to do with her friendships that go awry and such. Granted, that's a little different, but still two attributes I like to be able to have for my girlfriend- supportive and wise.

Yea, I had a close friend who's a year younger than me, and she would always talk about the guys she liked. One time she told me I was like a father to her because of the way I was telling her which guys she should and shouldn't like. It was weird though because she asked me out a few weeks later.:huh:

[Cunning Stunts]

Yea, I had a close friend who's a year younger than me, and she would always talk about the guys she liked. One time she told me I was like a father to her because of the way I was telling her which guys she should and shouldn't like. It was weird though because she asked me out a few weeks later.:huh:

I've noticed girls use that for one reason: to get you to not ask them out.

But, that same experience you had happened to me the summer after my sophomore year. My best friend told me I was like a brother. I'd asked her out a few months back, and she told me just that- I'm a brother (we didn't know each other that well:huh:). She wound up asking me out during that summer.

Granted, it was a net relationship and we wanted to kill each other afterward, but we patched it up after a month-and-a-half and we're still best friends to this day... About 5 years later.

[SpideyVille]

I've noticed girls use that for one reason: to get you to not ask them out.

But, that same experience you had happened to me the summer after my sophomore year. My best friend told me I was like a brother. I'd asked her out a few months back, and she told me just that- I'm a brother (we didn't know each other that well:huh:). She wound up asking me out during that summer.

Granted, it was a net relationship and we wanted to kill each other afterward, but we patched it up after a month-and-a-half and we're still best friends to this day... About 5 years later.

Damn, the brother zone? That's way worse than the friend zone. That's like saying "we're related so something REALLY won't happen".

But this chick, I liked her too because she was the only girl I was ever truly comfortable with and knew I could completely trust, but she still felt like too much of a friend. We were still friends afterwards and even after I graduated, but lately it's like she doesn't wanna bother with me. Sorta like it's "Out of sight, out of mind" with her.