X Girlfriend/Boyfriend Weddings

[chaseter]

Do you go? Are they awkward? One of my x's is engaged and is getting married to a pretty redneck backwoods guy that is like 10 years her senior, decided to drop out of college, and has been trying to rebuild an old truck for years per her. We stayed good friends but I think this guy is a total d-bag and I think she can do better even though she is a hoe now:o We had a good/long relationship in high school and into college so we were really close. I came back to senior prom for her while I was in college:(

Do I go to the wedding? I really don't want to:o

[Silverstein]

Do you go? Are they awkward? One of my x's is engaged and is getting married to a pretty redneck backwoods guy that is like 10 years her senior, decided to drop out of college, and has been trying to rebuild an old truck for years per her. We stayed good friends but I think this guy is a total d-bag and I think she can do better even though she is a hoe now:o We had a good/long relationship in high school and into college so we were really close. I came back to senior prom for her while I was in college:(

Do I go to the wedding? I really don't want to:o

Bro, it isn't hard. Don't go. She's a hoe, he's a redneck, and it's her life. She obviously loves him if she's going through with it. Or loves him enough to go through without.

So don't feel any sort of obligation. Just move on, wish her well, send a card, but that's as much as you owe her.

[chaseter]

Bro, it isn't hard. Don't go. She's a hoe, he's a redneck, and it's her life. She obviously loves him if she's going through with it. Or loves him enough to go through without.

So don't feel any sort of obligation. Just move on, wish her well, send a card, but that's as much as you owe her.
She will insist I go though and her grandparents love me. They even call me over to play cards with them and I graduated college with her and her grandparents found me in the crowd of 4,000 graduates and told me to come over! I mean I don't want her to hate me for not going but I really don't want to go...damn qualms.

[Silverstein]

She will insist I go though and her grandparents love me. They even call me over to play cards with them and I graduated college with her and her grandparents found me in the crowd of 4,000 graduates and told me to come over! I mean I don't want her to hate me for not going but I really don't want to go...damn qualms.

I believe honesty is the best policy. Tell her like it is. And then if she hates you for it, then it's on her, but who knows, maybe she was waiting for someone to tell her the truth.


"You know I've known you for so long, and your grandparents have been great to me. But this guy is trash, Meg (she sounds like a Christina, but I'm going to go with Meg), I don't think you should marry him. I can't stand him. And I'm sorry, but I just don't want to be there. I wish you both the best, but please understand: This will be more of a chore than a wedding."

She will say:

-"You're just jealous. You want me, you've always wanted me. And now you're just jealous that Jake (he sounds like a Todd, but I'm goin with Jake), and I are getting married. Fine! Don't come!"

or
-"I understand. I'm glad you feel open enough with me to share and be so honest. A lot of people have doubts about him. But he makes me happy. Don't worry about it, I'll tell my grandparents you're busy. :)"

or
-"....okay? Whatever. I didn't even invite you my parents suggested it. We'll get coffee sometime."

or
-"Oh my god, Harry(You seem like a Tim, but I'm going with Hank...er..Harry)!!! No one would say it, but that's exactly what I've been feeling too!! Thank you thank you thank you, for being so honest! This guy is trash, but I was affraid that I couldn't find any better. And like how you've moved on and done things with your life. I just...I--*she cries, you consul her*"


Not exactly like that...but similar.

[AndThePickles]

First of all, is she a ho because you're bitter, or is she truly? Just wondering, considering she's getting married.

Also, judging by your tone, I'd say do NOT go to the wedding. I know I wouldn't feel comfortable going to any of my ex's weddings. Who cares if her grandparents love you? And she should also fully understand why it'd be awkward for you to go...I'm honestly shocked she'd even invite any ex boyfriends.

[Silverstein]

I don't want to get graphic, but shouldn't we all be saying "****", ho infers that she gets money for it?

[chaseter]

HAHA no she's not a ho persay:o I got tons of flack for being with her. She dated me while she still had a boyfriend then I told her to end that and she did and that dude seriously hated me. I really wouldn't call her a ho...I shouldn't...but she dresses and acts skanky. I wish you could see her myspace and the way she dresses and acts:o But she is a good person and the only reason I liked her was because she was so wild...the yen to my yang. But she went off to the army or some ****, joined to pay for school, and I haven't seen her in nearly a year and I get an update that she is engaged and I am like WTF!?

[I'm Old Greg]

i think it can be about supporting the people you once knew a different way back then than how you do know them now.

life is about people. if she's respectful towards you and wants you there thats a good thing and why pass up on that?

it is her life and her choice, being her friend you can tell her how you feel since it seems you care about her life.

but if shes truly happy it is her choice now. you have a choice to...

i'd go and have a good time and wish them the best. people don't forget the good in you. they know thats more reliable than the bad. sometimes it takes just that for them to realize the right choice for themselves..lifes about people.

[chaseter]

i think it can be about supporting the people you once knew a different way then than you do now.

life is about people. if she's respectful towards you and wants you there thats a good thing and why pass up on that?

it is her life and her choice, being her friend you can tell her how you feel since it seems you care about her life.

but if shes truly happy it is her choice now. you have a choice to...

i'd go and have a good time and wish them the best.
Maybe she has cute bride's maides right!

[I'm Old Greg]

exactly!

[Silverstein]

Maybe she has cute bride's maides right!


But what if she doesn't? Don't go to something that you don't want to for a memory. Life is about people, Greg's right. But people that you like and how you do things with them.

You hadn't seen her for a year and she claims to have been in the military. I have friends in the military, they joined back in highschool, they're still busy. The fact that she's getting married so soon, since you last saw her seems like she's rushing into it. And that's how you feel. So why go and then sit around either bored or just unhappy, when you could call up some friends and go to a movie or diner?

I'm just telling you to follow your heart. You're not obligated to anyone, and AndThePickles is right. You don't seem like your heart is telling you to do this.

[AndThePickles]

I'd be honest with yourself, though. If you know you'll end up feeling weird/bitter/awkward the whole time, it's better to wish her well but NOT attend. Don't go if you aren't truly happy for her.

[knowsbleed]

Quit being a wuss chaseter.

[chaseter]

I'd be honest with yourself, though. If you know you'll end up feeling weird/bitter/awkward the whole time, it's better to wish her well but NOT attend. Don't go if you aren't truly happy for her.
Thanks Pickles. I am happy if she is happy but only time will tell. I won't feel bitter because I don't like her like that anymore but we are still good friends...I just think it would be more awkward having her family around me. Old people love me....I don't know why. I need to find me a sugar momma.

Come on...someone else has to have went to an x's wedding before:o

[chaseter]

Quit being a wuss chaseter.
If you go with me we can raid the bar...they will be drinking there.

[chaseter]

btw...this isn't the first x's wedding I have been invited to. This is the second or third but I didn't go to any of the other ones either.

[Silverstein]

Thanks Pickles. I am happy if she is happy but only time will tell. I won't feel bitter because I don't like her like that anymore but we are still good friends...I just think it would be more awkward having her family around me. Old people love me....I don't know why. I need to find me a sugar momma.

Come on...someone else has to have went to an x's wedding before:o

:csad: I said the same thing....I didn't get a response...:whatever:

[chaseter]

:csad: I said the same thing....I didn't get a response...:whatever:
She is a girl...I am trying to get a boob hug:cmad:

[AlteredEgo]

will their be a reception right after? 'cause... free food. :o

[Dew k. Mosi]

I didn't go to my ex's wedding. Seriously, why would I want to see that? Am I happy that he's happy? Not really. Yeah I'm a *****, but seriously, **** him.

[Erzengel]

I'm still friendly with an ex. Even take her out for lunch and what not. The girl knows about it, but it doesn't bother her.

However, I don't think I'd invite her to a wedding because to quote my girl, she wants to be the only one there who has screwed me. I think my ex would invite me though, although I do feel it's awkward even if we are on good terms.

[Bad Supe's Girl]

I've never been to an x's wedding....... but there's one I KNOW I will go to if he gets married.

I dated him 1 1/2 years and we ended cordially in more of a like "We're more friends than boyfriend/girlfriend material" thing. That was about 15 years ago now. Anyway, right now he's dating one of my BEST friends, and they've been dating about a year now. I know if they get married I will not only be invited, but be one of the bridesmaids... hell yeah I'm so going to that wedding :)

[Majic Walrus]

I'm not cordial enough with the any of my ex's to still be in contact, much less attend a wedding. I might crash a wedding or too though if I heard about it first.

[Knightsaber Priss]

I can't say that I've ever been invited to a Wedding for an Ex because I usually don't keep in close contact with many of them. Hell, I can't even recall 99.9% of them. Those in the 1% category should feel astonishment my braincells were able to drag them up from the Cold Case files.

[PWN3R]

Do you go? Are they awkward? One of my x's is engaged and is getting married to a pretty redneck backwoods guy that is like 10 years her senior, decided to drop out of college, and has been trying to rebuild an old truck for years per her. We stayed good friends but I think this guy is a total d-bag and I think she can do better even though she is a hoe now:o We had a good/long relationship in high school and into college so we were really close. I came back to senior prom for her while I was in college:(

Do I go to the wedding? I really don't want to:o
Dick in a box.
At the wedding.
You can do it chase!

[Erzengel]

Also Chase, only go if you can bring a girl that's hotter than her or unless you can snag one of her bridesmaids. :up:

You can do it.

[November Rain]

Grow some ****ing balls and go

you don't go to a wedding because you want to, you go because you are ****ing invited

man up and be there to support her

support her when she marries the idiot and support her when it falls apart

that's what friends do, unless you still want some pie? In that case don't go because you aren't her friend.

but let's not beat around the bush, this is an open/shut case. If you aren't going then admit to yourself you aren't her friend and rid yourself of this unnecessary guilt.

[Colossal Spoons]

you don't go to a wedding because you want to, you go because you are ****ing invited

Que?

[November Rain]

you go to support the person who invited you, they arent' doing it to parade people in your face, they cherish one's apparent friendship and want them to share in their joy.

same way if a friend of yours is trapped under a car, you go to help lift it, you don't not go because he owes you a fiver.

People take incidents all the time that aren't about even about them but make themselves the centre of the universe, as if it's god's sick joke to screw them over.

[Colossal Spoons]

So you'd go to a wedding out of obligation?

[November Rain]

if i was sincerely a friend and there were no feelings still there yes.

but then i wouldn't be a friend and i wouldn't pretend i was a friend.

It's this idea that people have that they are friends with people but don't act it. It's the same with these guys who are friends with girls they fancy and complain about their crappy boyfriends, all the while trying to slip into their pants at any opportunity, and claim to be nice guys.

[Majic Walrus]

Do you go? Are they awkward? One of my x's is engaged and is getting married to a pretty redneck backwoods guy that is like 10 years her senior, decided to drop out of college, and has been trying to rebuild an old truck for years per her. We stayed good friends but I think this guy is a total d-bag and I think she can do better even though she is a hoe now:o We had a good/long relationship in high school and into college so we were really close. I came back to senior prom for her while I was in college:(

Do I go to the wedding? I really don't want to:o

When the pastor/judge/preist says "Speak now or forever hold your peace speak up and address the groom with something like, "Seriously Bro, this is a really bad idea. Why don't you forget her and we can go out to pick up some skanky hoes."

You can do it.

Seriously though. You answered your own question:

I really don't want to:o

Don't go. You don't want to.

[AndThePickles]

Come on...someone else has to have went to an x's wedding before:o
Nah son :o
if i was sincerely a friend and there were no feelings still there yes.

but then i wouldn't be a friend and i wouldn't pretend i was a friend.

It's this idea that people have that they are friends with people but don't act it. It's the same with these guys who are friends with girls they fancy and complain about their crappy boyfriends, all the while trying to slip into their pants at any opportunity, and claim to be nice guys.

Not to sound mean to chase, but he isn't making his situation sound like he IS truly this "good friend" he claims he is. Particularly because this engagement came as such an out of the blue surprise to him.

To chase: don't confuse still considering yourself friendly with this girl as being good friends with her. Or, if you ARE that close with her and truly have no romantic feelings left, why DON'T you want to go to her wedding?

Edit: And honestly, there's also nothing wrong with not staying good friends with your ex's! Like I said, I'd NEVER want to go to an ex boyfriend's wedding.

[Chris Wallace]

Do you go? Are they awkward? One of my x's is engaged and is getting married to a pretty redneck backwoods guy that is like 10 years her senior, decided to drop out of college, and has been trying to rebuild an old truck for years per her. We stayed good friends but I think this guy is a total d-bag and I think she can do better even though she is a hoe now:o We had a good/long relationship in high school and into college so we were really close. I came back to senior prom for her while I was in college:(

Do I go to the wedding? I really don't want to:o

If you don't wanna go, don't go. Never give the impression that you're supporting something if you're not.

[amazingfantasy15]

Just because you don't think the marriage will last/is a good idea is no reason not to go. I've gone to a couple weddings that I knew probably wouldn't even make it through the first year, but they were friends/family so I went. Is it weird when you see her now and you two actually friends or is it always awkward, not because of her life choices, but because of your past together. If you're truly friends, go. If your not friends and you're still interested in her, don't, make up some excuse, here's two. If she lives out of town, you can't afford the travel arrangements, if she lives in town, you've already made plans to go out of town.

[Silverstein]

All boob hugs aside, don't go, listen to Pickles...

Seriously...I can give you over 150 fun things to do in place of being bored at a wedding you don't care about.

[Erzengel]

He can get it on with some of the bridesmaids. :huh:

[Silverstein]

He can get it on with some of the bridesmaids. :huh:

No! Stop trying to convince the kid to go. You and Greg! He doesn't want to! *kidnaps Chaseter...with name capitalized and everything*

[chaseter]

All boob hugs aside, don't go, listen to Pickles...

Seriously...I can give you over 150 fun things to do in place of being bored at a wedding you don't care about.
If all those 150 things begins with mastur and ends with bate:woot:

I still haven't decided and thanks for all the comments.

[Silverstein]

If all those 150 things begins with mastur and ends with bate:woot:

I still haven't decided and thanks for all the comments.

1. Masturbate
2. Call some friends and go to Friday's or Houlihan's or a place like that..
3. Drink
4. Go to a dance club
5. Hang out at a friend's house..
6. Find Carmen and Waldo
7. My friend is calling me...I think you get the point...
....fast forward...
149. Mew
150. Mewtwo

[Colossal Spoons]

Hahaha

[Spidey-Bat]

Do you go? Are they awkward? One of my x's is engaged and is getting married to a pretty redneck backwoods guy that is like 10 years her senior, decided to drop out of college, and has been trying to rebuild an old truck for years per her. We stayed good friends but I think this guy is a total d-bag and I think she can do better even though she is a hoe now:o We had a good/long relationship in high school and into college so we were really close. I came back to senior prom for her while I was in college:(

Do I go to the wedding? I really don't want to:o

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[xisaacx]

Im friends with most of my exs so I wouldn't really mind
my ex girlfriend of a year and a half was married to this guy I hated who turned out to be secretly gay
but now has a baby by this other guy, she got a divorce from the first guy

and two of my exs are lesbians now(not my fault) haha so Im not sure how that would play out

[Majic Walrus]

Dude. You lucked out. Your exgirlfriend married a closet homosexual who now has a child with a gay man.

Seriously you must look like a love god compared to him.