Adult Loners

[PyroChamber]

Do you think there is something wrong with a person if they're an adult and don't have any friends?

Being a loner is somewhat exceptable when you're a teen but what if it still lingers with you in your adult life?

[The Avatar]

Um, I thought it was the other way around. You're supposed to have friends when you're a teen because school is just as much about developing social skills as it is education. Then as you go into adulthood your time shifts toward work and family.

[November Rain]

Depends on your definition of friends.

Everyone should have someone they could hang out with no matter where they live or what they are doing, that's just adapting to your surroundings

However I wouldn't be surprised if one was to go a long stint without having someone they could really 'talk' to about the important things in life.

But that's life.

[chamber-music]

I knew this would be a Pyrochamber thread :funny:

If your an adult you should have atleast 2 or 3 good friends by now. If you have a job, wife, kids, ect its harder to find time for friends.

[Colossal Spoons]

Pyro, you need to stop making these threads about yourself and seeking validation dude. Just do you :up:

[Logan's Runt]

I knew this would be a Pyrochamber thread :funny:

If your an adult you should have atleast 2 or 3 good friends by now. If you have a job, wife, kids, ect its harder to find time for friends.

Says who? Besides you.

Also, if you're an adult, you should know the difference between "your" and "you're", and that 'at least' is two separate words.

[Colossal Spoons]

^Not in favor of 2-3 good friends?

[PyroChamber]

Pyro, you need to stop making these threads about yourself and seeking validation dude. Just do you :up:Most of these threads aren't about me, they're just things that pop into my head. Guess this is what happens when you come home from work and can't sleep.

[scifiwolf]

I'd say it's good to have friends, but I'm not going to dictate the extent of those friendships. I myself have a lot of friends, but no one who's particularly close to me, save for my girlfriend. I'm somewhat of an introvert (not the same as antisocial), so I never really have a best friend. I guess you could say that, other than my girlfriend, my closest friend would be my one roommate. The important thing is having some sort of relationship with other people, getting that human interaction other than in a co-worker or classmate capacity.

So, I guess my ultimate answer is, yes, an adult should have friends.

[Majic Walrus]

As an adult I have two close friends outside of my family however I am not as reclusive as I used to be because I recognize the practical need to have friendly relationships with my co-workers. Of course all of this depends on your definition of adult.

If by adult you mean "someone over 18" then you and I disagree on what the world adult means.

[Logan's Runt]

^Not in favor of 2-3 good friends?

Not in favor of someone defining how many 'friends' are proper for an adult to have.

[Colossal Spoons]

Most of these threads aren't about me, they're just things that pop into my head. Guess this is what happens when you come home from work and can't sleep.

Pyro. Pyyyrooooo

*stern look*

[Knightsaber Priss]

I freely admit I am a loner because I find it hard to trust very many people.

[oakzap425]

I honestly have people I talk to, but One true friend to talk to about anything.

Other wise than that... i do everything alone...

[knowsbleed]

I honestly have people I talk to, but One true friend to talk to about anything.

Other wise than that... i do everything alone...

We're talking about adults here... I think you're confused.

[Ugfugly]

My one companion is my wife. I love having her company and don't really need "friends".

She's like a friend, with benefits.

[knowsbleed]

... who can cook chicken adobo. :up:

[GuardianofOa]

This thread is interesting. I am very conflicted about it.

[Colossal Spoons]

My one companion is my wife. I love having her company and don't really need "friends".

She's like a friend, with benefits.

I love the g/f dearly, but I could never be content with having her be my only friend. Socializing is way too big a part of my personality/life.

[November Rain]

I don't know about having your wife be your best friend

who do you bith to your wife about and who can you then bith about your best friend about?

when your wife's your best friend, what do you then do if they leave ya?

[AndThePickles]

Most of these threads aren't about me, they're just things that pop into my head. Guess this is what happens when you come home from work and can't sleep.

Pyro, you need to stop making these threads about yourself and seeking validation dude. Just do you :up:

Sorry Pyro, but I'm gonna have to agree with Spoons on this one. It's what I think every time I see one of your threads.

My one companion is my wife. I love having her company and don't really need "friends".

She's like a friend, with benefits.

My sig other is my VERY best friend, but I would never want him to be my *only* friend. I think it's so important to have good friends of your own gender to be able to talk to and go out with. Ever since I graduated college I barely get to see my close girlfriends due to where we all live, and it's been driving me nuts!

I don't think you can set a number on friends. I have many people who I consider to be friends...some more acquaintance-like than others. I have a best friend that I'm lucky if I see once a year, but when I do, it's as if I'd just seen her the day before. I also have friends up where Spoons' lives that I met through him, but now love dearly. New friends are great!

[BlackLantern]

I'm in the average, I have 2 good friends I can go to if needed.....but I had a stint where I didn't have anyone....conversely, I think it's unhealthy if you consider your SO your one and only friend.....

[Star]

I think everyone needs some actual social activity once in awhile regardless of age, otherwise they become bizarre

[chaseter]

I think everyone needs some actual social activity once in awhile regardless of age, otherwise they become bizarre
'They' or 'knowsbleed'?

[The Guard]

There's only something wrong with being a loner as an adult if that's not what you want.

[Tyrinus]

I don't know about having your wife be your best friend

who do you bith to your wife about and who can you then bith about your best friend about?

when your wife's your best friend, what do you then do if they leave ya?

I have never had a need to ***** about my best friend, other friends yes, but not my best friend.

People piss and moan too much these days anyway.

[Faded To Deaf]

I live with my Dad only. All my friends, and family live two hours away. I make a trip once a month to see them and my former co-workers, for a few days.

I'm actually quite happy not having any close friends. Maybe that's because I have an addicting and obsessive personality and spend needless and countless amounts of cash when I hang out with someone.

That's just me though.

[bullets]

there are things you can tell your best friend but not your wife .

there is someone out there who wants to be your friend but you have to be a little sociable.

[Hobgoblin]

Nah, nothing wrong with it...as long as they arent crazy and cutting people up for fun...

[bullets]

not having any friends is kind of creepy unless your a hitman , like leon

[Addendum]

As an adult I have two close friends outside of my family however I am not as reclusive as I used to be because I recognize the practical need to have friendly relationships with my co-workers. Of course all of this depends on your definition of adult.

I'm civil with my co-workers, but I don't bother with the drinks and meals ********

[Tyrinus]

there are things you can tell your best friend but not your wife .

there is someone out there who wants to be your friend but you have to be a little sociable.

I disagree, if there is something you can't tell your spouse, then you shouldn't have married them.

[Neto Magnus]

this thread just made me realize that i have no friends left in my life. I just have co-workers but I could care less about them. All my friends are now either married, have kids, dead, locked up, or I hate them or they hate me. Eh, who needs friends.

[Johann Krauss]

this thread just made me realize that i have no friends left in my life. I just have co-workers but I could care less about them. All my friends are now either married, have kids, dead, locked up, or I hate them or they hate me. Eh, who needs friends.


wow...sucks to be you.

[Neto Magnus]

wow...sucks to be you.
It has its good days and bad.

[Johann Krauss]

lol

[PyroChamber]

this thread just made me realize that i have no friends left in my life. I just have co-workers but I could care less about them. All my friends are now either married, have kids, dead, locked up, or I hate them or they hate me. Eh, who needs friends.That sounds a lot like me, except the part about having friends who are dead or locked up.

[Neto Magnus]

I do have internet friends and a few here on the hype. But they dont count.

[Halcohol]

We count twice. :(

[imdaly]

By my latest count I have 23,531 friends (http://forums.superherohype.com/memberlist.php). :oldrazz:


...Of course some are clones or fake though! :wow::wow::wow:

[Colossal Spoons]

I disagree, if there is something you can't tell your spouse, then you shouldn't have married them.

Heck of a statement

[November Rain]

In an ideal world sure...

In reality, there's plenty you shouldn't voice just for ease...

[November Rain]

I have never had a need to ***** about my best friend, other friends yes, but not my best friend.

People piss and moan too much these days anyway.
Best friends never let ya down?

or do you just take it on the chin?

[ChrisBaleBatman]

I'm a loner.

And better off for it.

[Tyrinus]

Best friends never let ya down?

or do you just take it on the chin?

Friend yeah, best friend no. Not saying it couldn't happen, just hasn't in the 8-9 years we've known each other.

[Majic Walrus]

I'm civil with my co-workers, but I don't bother with the drinks and meals ********

Exactly, but if you're civil enough to get along with them are you really a loner?

[Johann Krauss]

I'm a loner.

And better off for it.

:whatever:

[November Rain]

Friend yeah, best friend no. Not saying it couldn't happen, just hasn't in the 8-9 years we've known each other.
Well you either don't interact with them regularly or you have really good friends.

Either way, I'm glad its lasted so well on on good run

[Colossal Spoons]

:whatever:

Batfans :o

[thedeadite]

I have friends, but am pretty anti-social so I don't hang out with them much.
I don't see anything wrong with it really.

[Addendum]

Exactly, but if you're civil enough to get along with them are you really a loner?

Just because I'm civil (polite) to my coworkers doesn't mean I'm their friend. The only reason I am is because it helps make the atmosphere at work comfortable.

Once I clock out and go home, they go their way and I go mine.

[rizzo51]

I guess if your happy being a loner, not being pestered with everyones drama, partys, or random bs then its fine.. but for those that sit at home, only get calls when someone wants something from you, hears about cool trips or partys after the fact and never being invited... thats just depressing.

[Logan's Runt]

That would be the difference between being a 'loner' and being a 'loser.' Fun fact: you can choose!

[rizzo51]

guess its just a matter of finding other losers to get along with. In that sence then i don't think theirs anything wrong with being a loner.

[Be Snikt-Happy]

me and a friend. we're very social people and adults. but i dont think we have many friends. but many many acquaintances. i dont think by any means we are dorks, just somethings limit having that a typical social life. my friend has to take care of his brother all the time and me personally i cant drive.

[Halloween]

Well being married and having two kids, that takes up most of my life. I have friends at work and we are able to chat while working, so that's good enough for me. Sometimes a few of us will get together for a big sporting event or just a BBQ to hang out and get sloshed every now and then.

"I don't need, friends." Buddy Revell - Three O'Clock High

[Ace of Knaves]

Loners scare me :(

[Majic Walrus]

Just because I'm civil (polite) to my coworkers doesn't mean I'm their friend. The only reason I am is because it helps make the atmosphere at work comfortable.

Once I clock out and go home, they go their way and I go mine.

See I alway imagine that a loner doesn't socialize with people at all. Avoids social interaction. Avoids conversations. Stuff like that. When I'm at work I'm social with the people I work with. We take smoke breaks together and shoot the **** together, stuff like that. But when the work day ends, it's over. I go back home and spend time with my family or relaxing.

I think that if you're civil and polite you have the social skills necessary to not be lumped in with all the people who call themselves "loners".

[Ace of Knaves]

I enjoy going out for a drink after work with the lads, we've had some spur of the moment nights out in our tatty work clothes a few times. :hehe:

[Colossal Spoons]

"I don't need, friends." Buddy Revell - Three O'Clock High

Great movie :D

[Addendum]

See I alway imagine that a loner doesn't socialize with people at all. Avoids social interaction. Avoids conversations. Stuff like that. When I'm at work I'm social with the people I work with. We take smoke breaks together and shoot the **** together, stuff like that. But when the work day ends, it's over. I go back home and spend time with my family or relaxing.

I think that if you're civil and polite you have the social skills necessary to not be lumped in with all the people who call themselves "loners".

My socializing with my co-workers consists of returning greetings, giving a one word response to "how're you doing today" or a question similar to it, and nothing else. I don't bother shooting the **** even on breaks, since I prefer to actually eat a meal instead of yapping. I also listen to my mp3 player so any conversation is drowned out

[Majic Walrus]

My socializing with my co-workers consists of returning greetings, giving a one word response to "how're you doing today" or a question similar to it, and nothing else. I don't bother shooting the **** even on breaks, since I prefer to actually eat a meal instead of yapping. I also listen to my mp3 player so any conversation is drowned out

If you're returning greetingsand giving one word responses I really think you should question how civil and polite you're actually being.

[Ace of Knaves]

Yea same here. If someone was so blatantly rude and didn't ever join in conversations or nothing I would think they are a prick. But maybe Addendum just works with pricks?

[Colossal Spoons]

I have the opposite problem as Addendum at work. Everybody here gives like 10 minute long greetings/farewells! I'm a super chatty person, but even I've had to resort to headphones to keep out smalltalk. SPOONS HATE SMALLTALK!

[Ace of Knaves]

HAHA same here. We are always talking bollox and taking the piss out of each other, but I suppose it's different on site. I love winding up the new kids. "Can you go get me a long weight please mate?" or "Can you hand me that curved level?" :hehe:

[AndThePickles]

My coworkers are mainly women, but even the men there love to talk. Unfortunately, most of the time it's just everyone complaining/gossiping. I try to ignore the gossip and sympathize with the complaining. Sometimes we'll all go on a rant, though, if the day is REALLY bad. We have a new housekeeper, this man with a very strong African accent. I think some people are nervous to converse with him because they can't understand him, but I always talk to him when I see him. I think as a result he must ALWAYS be eager to have me to talk to, because a small greeting turns into I can't get away for 15 minutues lol.

[Cunning Stunts]

What I think is worse is when you're the manager of a movie theatre and you treat it like you're saving starving children in Ethiopia.

Seriously, my manager can't have any friends, as much of a dick as he is to myself and my co-workers.

[Master Chief]

I'm my own best friend, **** all y'all. :heart:

[Knightsaber Priss]

I don't know if this is something that'll come to be, but I have a feeling I might not be alone in the near future. I feel like I'm starting to emerge from a cocoon that I've been in for a very long time.

[I Am The Knight]

I've always hated my friends. So I tend to just use them. I don't know how much of a loner I'll be as an actual adult.

[Addendum]

If you're returning greetingsand giving one word responses I really think you should question how civil and polite you're actually being.

The thing is, I'm there to do my job. I'm not there to have a damn conversation with my co-workers about pointless ****, or explain my emotional state at a particular time of day and why certain experiences prior to my arrival at work led to my current state of mind.

[david icke]

I'm 34 and have always had a solid bunch of good friends around me that I can call up and hang out with most of the time. But last year I quit drinking and smoking mj so a lot of our habits became very different. I can't pop up to see them now as they are always in possesion of it and I don't want to be around it. Also, going to parties sober is not much fun, as soon as people find out you're teetotal that is immediately a source of great amusement, and let me tell you, people high as kites are never funny when you are sober, folk can be very concedending when you are sober and they are high, as if to say 'you can't handle it', or 'you're boring'.
So, my social life has changed dramatically, even when I would hang out with someone who has a wife and kids, hanging out with me was an excuse to hang back like the old days and get drunk.
Now I hardly see anyone, but i'm not that bothered. Glasgow is a notorious drinking city, and if you play music in a band, hang out at venues etc, everyone is smoking it. It can't be avoided and I wanted to change my habits, not fall back into old ways, so avoidance of old haunts and friends has become a norm for me now, and I'm, for the first time in my life , a bit of a loner. but that's cool, I don't miss the downsides to all that jazz at all.

[Halcohol]

Can't we all just group hug? Or is that too gay? :confused:

[Addendum]

Dude, you're only supposed to hug family or whomever you're in a relationship with

[Halcohol]

I see how it is.

[Sarge 2.0]

Dude, you're only supposed to hug family or whomever you're in a relationship withI hug my friends all the time. Even guy friends. :huh:

[Figs]

Yea same here. If someone was so blatantly rude and didn't ever join in conversations or nothing I would think they are a prick. But maybe Addendum just works with pricks?

Can you clarify a bit more for me please? I'm just curious as to how and why people seem to have forgotten that some people are naturally shy(and maybe always will be)and introverted. Over the years that's the conclusion I've come to on why most people I've interacted in the real world tend to dislike/hate me.

I'm asking you or anyone else to clarify because I'm curious not because I want to start an argument. I pretty much agree with Addendum. It's not because I don't like these people or think I'm better than them(believe me most of my friends in real life usually tell me I'm too nice/polite and down to earth), it's just I can't stand boring small talk. Not to mention alot of my co-workers I know I have nothing in common with so the nice guy in me doesn't want to bore them with stuff they won't give two ****s about either. And for those who want to say "well how do you know if they don't have much in common with you if you don't talk to them that much", well I hear them talk to other co workers enough that I've got a feel for their likes/dislikes. Don't get me wrong, I've always made some friends at every job I've ever had, it's just usually a small handful.

So basically, what your saying is(and like I said, this is the conclusion I've come up with over the years)people tend to assume your arrogant or a dick if you responde in short answers...even if the answer is said in a uplifting and positive tone? I can understand if people assume this, but at the same time it's kind of sad they don't stop and realize that not all people in this society are extroverted and get that mental stimulation from small talk.

[Ace of Knaves]

Well yea, I don't like boring small talk. But if I said "Hello mate how are you" and you just replied "I'm ok" and didn't bother to ask how I was or whatever, then I would assume you are a bit of a prick. I take my time to be polite to anyone, even strangers. I just couldn't imagen working with people and not talking to them or just giving them one word answers. But I suppose in my line of work bantering and having a laugh is all part of the job.

[Figs]

Well yea, I don't like boring small talk. But if I said "Hello mate how are you" and you just replied "I'm ok" and didn't bother to ask how I was or whatever, then I would assume you are a bit of a prick. I take my time to be polite to anyone, even strangers. I just couldn't imagen working with people and not talking to them or just giving them one word answers. But I suppose in my line of work bantering and having a laugh is all part of the job.

Well that's the thing I forgot to include, is that I'm not rude and I do ask how they're doing.

I do ask them back if they first asked me or said hello. It's just I'm never that great at moving the conversation beyond that. I think alot of it has to do with being at work and just not wanting to be there in the first place so I'm not in the happiest and positive/energetic of moods.

[Ace of Knaves]

Oh yea I know what you are saying, and I have no problem with people like that.

But when I say hi to someone and ask how they are doing I don't expect them to just "OK" and that's it, I find that very rude. Or when you make eye contact with someone and just say "Hello" and they flat out ignore you, I hate that.

[Logan's Runt]

It's 'very rude' to ask people constantly 'how they're doing' when you don't actually care and are just saying things that society tells you are 'nice things to say'. You're lucky to get a response at all, one word or not. If I don't care how someone's doing, I'm not going to ask them, whether they asked me or not. I'm perfectly friendly when people ask me, I smile and say 'oh fine!' cheerily, but I'll be damned if I'm going to lie to their face and pretend I care how they are.

Small talk is the product of small minds and I don't have time to care about it.

[Ace of Knaves]

HAHA you really are quite abrasive aren't you? :D

Well who says I don't care how they are? If they are people I work with I'm not going to just complete ignore them or whatever. So if me and you worked together and I came up to you and said "Hi! How are you?" you would just say "Hi i'm fine" and thats it? No "And how are you?" or nothing. Well that is rude, that's not just not wanting to have small talk.

[Colossal Spoons]

It's 'very rude' to ask people constantly 'how they're doing' when you don't actually care and are just saying things that society tells you are 'nice things to say'. You're lucky to get a response at all, one word or not. If I don't care how someone's doing, I'm not going to ask them, whether they asked me or not. I'm perfectly friendly when people ask me, I smile and say 'oh fine!' cheerily, but I'll be damned if I'm going to lie to their face and pretend I care how they are.

Small talk is the product of small minds and I don't have time to care about it.

Jeez woman

[Chris B]

Well, I'm 19 and don't have any friends. Doesn't bother me. I've always just have a hard time when it comes to connecting with other people. And I've never liked being in some huge crowd. That's not to say that if somebody tries talking to me I'm not friendly about and don't make any kind of small talk or lock myself away in my basement.

The closet that I've ever had to having a best friend was when I would hang with this one guy back when I was in middle school. In addition to several other kids who were considered part of our group, who I considered good friends at the time. But we all went to different high schools and lost contact with one another.

I went through high school with only 'in school' friends. Never hung out with them outside of school.

[Norman Bates]

In high school I was all pro-loner only because I felt so out of place. My high school was like being with the Gotti-kids in every class. Everyone was a guido with spiky hair, tweezed eyebrows, fake tans, and had big muscles. It was like they were mass produced from some assembly line because they all looked so similar. The only talk amongst them was how tough they were. They all came from the richest part of town yet they had the fakest, forced "ghetto" attitude you could get. It was terrible and definitely not me. I wasn't stupid, I stayed "cool" with them but not to the point of hanging or anything after class. Needless to say graduation was very liberating.

I chill with one person in my entire school from time to time, and that's it.

Then I went to college and picked my major. Meeting people with similar interests as you and all that jazz and just plain old maturity in others (for the most part) really helped me land a great group of friends. I've been finished with college and I compare my days with high school and college and feel a lot more emotionally healthier.

I really don't know why anyone would choose to live their life lonely.

[Faded To Deaf]

Maybe betrayal, humiliation, and many ruined years gives you a new outlook on life. Maybe you just are wary on who you trust next.

[Norman Bates]

Maybe betrayal, humiliation, and many ruined years gives you a new outlook on life. Maybe you just are wary on who you trust next.

I think we've all hit those points in our lives at some point.. it happens. So the initial reaction is to give up? I can't get on board with that. If you're not constantly bringing that stuff upon yourself then there's no reason you can't find some trust worthy friends at some point.

[Faded To Deaf]

Maybe, but you've also learned a few tricks too. While you may not give up, you may also be wary of who you trust next. It's also possible those you meet are giving you the exact same experience from when you started your last experience.

Sometimes, you're happier being alone and knowing it won't happen again. Ever.

[Norman Bates]

Maybe, but you've also learned a few tricks too. While you may not give up, you may also be wary of who you trust next. It's also possible those you meet are giving you the exact same experience from when you started your last experience.

Sometimes, you're happier being alone and knowing it won't happen again. Ever.

I guess if it works for you, go for it. I can't fathom it.

I just can't possibly see that as being the healthiest solution in the long term.

[chesslover]

The three of me get along greatly. The three of you? Me,myself,and I.

[Anita18]

Small talk is the product of small minds and I don't have time to care about it.
I agree, that's why I can only hang out with other nerds. :hehe: Small group of other nerds. I'm an extreme introvert and a social group larger than 5 is too big for me.

I don't think I'm a loner, but I do pick and choose my social outings. Sometimes I'd just rather be alone, you know? Well, now that there's a cat here, I guess I'm not totally alone. There's always a kitty. :yay: And I'm always friendly with strangers - I'd actually rather be milling around like a :ninja: instead of feeling pressured to interact with people directly.

Among my work group, that's actually the norm. We're all hermits after work, but we do have a great camaraderie in lab. And my sister's group of coworkers are incredibly social people who love to go out and do stuff, and that suits her perfectly. Funny how that works out.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being a "loner," but I think it's good to at least have someone you can trust if you need help, be it a close friend or family member.

[chamber-music]

In high school I was all pro-loner only because I felt so out of place. My high school was like being with the Gotti-kids in every class. Everyone was a guido with spiky hair, tweezed eyebrows, fake tans, and had big muscles. It was like they were mass produced from some assembly line because they all looked so similar. The only talk amongst them was how tough they were. They all came from the richest part of town yet they had the fakest, forced "ghetto" attitude you could get. It was terrible and definitely not me. I wasn't stupid, I stayed "cool" with them but not to the point of hanging or anything after class. Needless to say graduation was very liberating.

I chill with one person in my entire school from time to time, and that's it.

Then I went to college and picked my major. Meeting people with similar interests as you and all that jazz and just plain old maturity in others (for the most part) really helped me land a great group of friends. I've been finished with college and I compare my days with high school and college and feel a lot more emotionally healthier.

I really don't know why anyone would choose to live their life lonely.

Oh I went to a school very much like that with people very much like that.

[Hobgoblin]

I'm what would be called a loner. I go to work and come home. Thats about it. I dont mind chatting with my co-workers, but I wouldnt call them my friends either. I have friends but only see them every few months and I'm fine with that. I'm definitely an introvert but I do try to be polite, like saying more than just "OK" if someone asks how I am. I agree, thats rude.

On the other hand, I cant stand people that constantly talk and need everyone around them to constantly talk. I have a co-worker that will ask a question and interrupt you as you start to answer. I actually asked him if he could "shut up for two seconds" a few days ago. It was the most liberating thing I'd felt in a long time. He looked like I had suddenly punched him.

[Ace of Knaves]

Man, some of these stories from school are so depressing. My school was the complete opposite. My whole year at school got along. I had about 30 really close friends, we used to do everything together. Soon as we got home from school we would meet up and go play football and whatever. Then at the weekends we used to do stuff, like go up London or Southend or just stay in our town and have a laugh. I'm still pretty close with everyone, but I suppose that's quite unusual, most people drift apart. But the same 20 or 30 of us still to this day meet up and go out drinking or go watch the football up West Ham.

[I Am The Knight]

Man, some of these stories from school are so depressing. My school was the complete opposite. My whole year at school got along. I had about 30 really close friends, we used to do everything together. Soon as we got home from school we would meet up and go play football and whatever. Then at the weekends we used to do stuff, like go up London or Southend or just stay in our town and have a laugh. I'm still pretty close with everyone, but I suppose that's quite unusual, most people drift apart. But the same 20 or 30 of us still to this day meet up and go out drinking or go watch the football up West Ham.

For someone as deranged as yourself, you sure have a fairytale life :oldrazz:

On the other hand, I cant stand people that constantly talk and need everyone around them to constantly talk. I have a co-worker that will ask a question and interrupt you as you start to answer. I actually asked him if he could "shut up for two seconds" a few days ago. It was the most liberating thing I'd felt in a long time. He looked like I had suddenly punched him.

Yeah, I hate that too. Just shut up! And I hate small talk. Small talk is probably what makes me have issues tolerating people at work. I mean I'm not shy, but normally I have issues caring about the people around me. It seems like I can only get along with geeks or people whom I deem interesting/non troglodytes. I have a hard time finding friends I actually consider friends, instead of the idiots I usually end up hanging out with. That may sound elitist, but that's me.

[Ace of Knaves]

For someone as deranged as yourself, you sure have a fairytale life :oldrazz:


:hehe: Well it ain't all fairytale, I've had some pretty rough times. I was homeless at one point (only for about a week though!) but I dunno, I just don't let any of that effect me really. Just keep my chin up, keep that spliff lit and I'm alll good! :up:

[chamber-music]

Man, some of these stories from school are so depressing. My school was the complete opposite. My whole year at school got along. I had about 30 really close friends, we used to do everything together. Soon as we got home from school we would meet up and go play football and whatever. Then at the weekends we used to do stuff, like go up London or Southend or just stay in our town and have a laugh. I'm still pretty close with everyone, but I suppose that's quite unusual, most people drift apart. But the same 20 or 30 of us still to this day meet up and go out drinking or go watch the football up West Ham.

I have that but with college friends. Everyone on my course got along and even though we all moved on to different universities we still kept in touch and make an effort to hang out. There are only a few people from school I talk to.

[Ace of Knaves]

I have that but with college friends. Everyone on my course got along and even though we all moved on to different universities we still kept in touch and make an effort to hang out. There are only a few people from school I talk to.

Yea it's nice to keep in touch with friends from school or college. It doesn't happen for everyone, so I count myself lucky that i've had some good mates for nearly 10 years. Some of them i've know since junior school!

[I Am The Knight]

:hehe: Well it ain't all fairytale, I've had some pretty rough times. I was homeless at one point (only for about a week though!) but I dunno, I just don't let any of that effect me really. Just keep my chin up, keep that spliff lit and I'm alll good! :up:

Yeah, I normally don't let the bad in life get to me, I actually am a pretty positive (at least rational) person. You have to use the bad stuff in life to become a better person. And Batman agrees with me.

[Ace of Knaves]

Yea you should use the negatives in a good way, don't let them bog you down. :up:

[Venom75]

I'm a 33 year old guy and I have no friends. Well,I have online friends,but really,who doesn't? I've slowly become an anti-social type of person not only because I've battled depression,but everyone who've I've considered a friend has always left me. It's really hard to open up to anyone again. I don't need a ton of friends,just 1 would do. But it really seems like I'll spend the rest of my life alone and I will say that does scare me a bit.