The FACEBOOK Thread

[Carlynn Carnage]

Yeah whatever... as long as you dont do anything wrong you have nothing to worry about. I mean really.

[hpwiz89]

Who cares? Facebook sucks! :o

[Carlynn Carnage]

Who cares? Facebook sucks! :o


I totally agree with you there!

[Halloween]

If you're using the internet period, your ass is being watched.


Interesting, considering I am sitting on my ass.

[Darkfly]

One of the many reasons I don't use Facebook

[knowsbleed]

If companies are using the information gathered from facebook to scout potential employees, then I can see the benefits and the negative aspects of this. You are "interviewed" before being interviewed. Such is the way of the digital age.

[Sugarculted]

Who cares? Facebook sucks! :o

YOUR face sucks :o

I'm not too bothered about this. I use it a lot, but I sure as hell don't stick any personal information down, other than my name and DOB.

[Lunar_Wolf]

Why is a 6 year old talking:huh: That scares me most.

[terry78]

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080719/ap_on_hi_te/tec_facebook_evidence

[Untilteld]

Red Bull is now alcoholic? :huh:

[BlackLantern]

no..but it is the official drink of douchebags

[JayCaz]

Jeez, in that case, if I ever get arrested for a driving offence I'm getting 10 years if the judge sees my Facebook;

http://i214.photobucket.com/albums/cc42/Jay_Caz/drunkatthewheel.jpg

The car was stationary though to be fair.

[Untilteld]

no..but it is the official drink of douchebags

I hear that, only people who wear Hollister, have blonde hair, and wear pink polos drink that ****.

[terry78]

I hear that, only people who wear Hollister, have blonde hair, and wear pink polos drink that ****.

Hey, watch the Red Bull bashing...I love that ****. I don't drink alcohol though, and am black, so most of the above don't apply to me. :o

[Untilteld]

Hey, watch the Red Bull bashing...I love that ****. I don't drink alcohol though, and am black, so most of the above don't apply to me. :o

Oh Terry. I went to catch a movie one night and these two girls driving a Red Bull car drove up to me and asked if I wanted a free package, I knew there was two Red Bulls in there and something else which I can't remember, but I do remember saying no thanks. :o

[BlackLantern]

I bet you own a visor... Bro....lol

[michephantom]

The last time I was at a party, my friend was taking photos of everyone, and I asked that she not take photos of me holding a drink in my hand. Not that I'm going to be drunk driving/crashing anytime soon, but I wouldn't want a future employer to think I'm a drunk.

And I might have dressed up as a prisoner too if there was a possibility of me going to jail. It's easier to handle things when you make fun of them.

[BlackLantern]

smart move...lots of employers these days are going through MySpace and Facebook for potential employees....the last thing one needs is you applying for a decent job and there is a picture of you online table dancing in a diaper

[amazingfantasy15]

The last time I was at a party, my friend was taking photos of everyone, and I asked that she not take photos of me holding a drink in my hand. Not that I'm going to be drunk driving/crashing anytime soon, but I wouldn't want a future employer to think I'm a drunk.

And I might have dressed up as a prisoner too if there was a possibility of me going to jail. It's easier to handle things when you make fun of them.

Yeah, cause if there are pictures of you with a drink in your hands you must be a drunk. No one should ever drink if they plan on getting a job at any time.

[SouLeSS]

smart move...lots of employers these days are going through MySpace and Facebook for potential employees....the last thing one needs is you applying for a decent job and there is a picture of you online table dancing in a diaper

But that's ****ing stupid. If I'm a good employee on the clock, why should I get fired/not hired over what I do in my personal time, provided it's not illegal. If I found out that I didn't get a job strictly because theres pictures of me being a drunken ******* on my Myspace, and theres a buncha videos of me Rapping on it, I'd sue the **** out of that company and make sure I'd never even need their ****ty job in the first place.

[hammy]

But that's ****ing stupid. If I'm a good employee on the clock, why should I get fired/not hired over what I do in my personal time, provided it's not illegal. If I found out that I didn't get a job strictly because theres pictures of me being a drunken ******* on my Myspace, and theres a buncha videos of me Rapping on it, I'd sue the **** out of that company and make sure I'd never even need their ****ty job in the first place.
Sue them on what grounds - not hiring you for the public image you have promoted of yourself online? Don't think you'd get very far. Best to pick your employers, carefully. Better yet, work for yourself. :up:

[Manic]

Remember, folks: if you get caught drunk driving, do NOT go to any parties before the judge can carry out his/her sentence, and promptly remove all pictures from your Facebook and MySpace accounts.

[X-Punisher]

Those pics are SO CASH!!!

[JustABill]

I agree with Soulless, Myspace and Facebook should be off grounds for employeers. What you do in your personal life has no grounds in what you do in your professional life. :down:

[terry78]

I agree with Soulless, Myspace and Facebook should be off grounds for employeers. What you do in your personal life has no grounds in what you do in your professional life. :down:

Yeah, but I've known people in the corporate biz that Google every ****ing person they call for an interview, just to see what comes up in a search. Is it right? No...but it's public domain. I would suggest searching your own name to see what pops up, just to be safe.

[Star]

Solution= Don't Drink and Drive

[BlackLantern]

But that's ****ing stupid. If I'm a good employee on the clock, why should I get fired/not hired over what I do in my personal time, provided it's not illegal. If I found out that I didn't get a job strictly because theres pictures of me being a drunken ******* on my Myspace, and theres a buncha videos of me Rapping on it, I'd sue the **** out of that company and make sure I'd never even need their ****ty job in the first place.

like Terry said, it's public domain and the company can claim that they are projecting an image to the public, and the image of you doing shots of a girls butt is not the type of image they wish to project....

i think its more of an unwritten wink wink nod policy, kind of like how places won't hire you if you've done jail time, even if it says admitting to such will not determine if you get hired or not. No company will be stupid to come out and say that MySpace or Facebook was the SOLE reason for not hiring someone, they can just say the person wasn't a good fit....

[zeptron]

I know a lot of people around the forums have a facebook accout, and recently they changed the format. This new layout has been known as "The New Facebook".

Until now, most people had the choice of useing the New Facebook or the Old Facebook, but I know now it seems like we no longer have that option, and are now forced to use the New Facebook.

The problem is that many Facebook member do not like the New Facebook. "If it ain't broke, don't fix it," as they always say.

So I want your opinion, do you like the New Facebook, or do you perfer the old one?

As for me, I like the old one better.

[November Rain]

the problem with the old facebook was the clutter of applications on people's pages. It could take me a good while to simply find their walls

especially with superwall, advanced wall and everyother wall under the sun

in the end, i just end up sending private messages all the time so it really doesn't bother me that much.

in essence, the sight is just a recent fad, kidna like how friendsreunited was a while ago. something else will come.

[arachnid-guy]

Eh. I hated it before. But Im slowly getting used to it.

[Colossal Spoons]

Hate the new one!

[Bad Supe's Girl]

I prefered the old version

[jed.exodus.89]

the new 1 aint actually that bad. ive got use 2 it now and i think i prefer it

[JayCaz]

I preferred Old Facebook!

[Symbiotic]

Eh, I wasn't too steamed when New Facebook came to life. Can't really say which is better though.

[The Squirrel]

Old facebook. 'nuff said.

[dlvillarreal]

I prefer the old one. The new one has too much **** going on.

[MaskedManJRK]

Actually, I kinda like the new version a bit better--the tabs for profiles are very convinient, so if I want to see someone's applications, I can just look at it's tab, or if I just want to leave a message at their Wall, I can just get into their Wall tab and get it done.

[AndThePickles]

Ugh, I hate the new one so so much.

[bullets]

i really dont bother with facebook , i started with myspace and got tired with that .




oh yeah , please post in the thread that's in my sig.

[Ace of Knaves]

I really really detest the new face book. I mean your status section goes about half-way down the page. I don't think anyone cares what i was up to about a month ago. It's crap

[black_dust]

New one is toss

[JaD]

Old one w/out a doubt. :O

[union_jak]

I hate New Facebook. They're being stubborn because they obviously spent time and effort designing this mess and won't admit it's a flop.

[Poeman]

damn the new facebook is so aweful

[dontplaydead27]

Hate the new.

[Jack Bauer]

I don't even have a Facebook since I already have a MySpace, so why would I bother with another type of thing?

[04nbod]

I don't even have a Facebook since I already have a MySpace, so why would I bother with another type of thing?

facebook is classier

[LegendaryCaleb]

ehh I had a facebook but stuck with MySpace...the facebook now is just as dumb as the old one IMO

[Poeman]

lol myspace is still popular?

i think facebook is more safer and secure...

[Magneto29]

I hate how they have the wall and news feed as the same thing. It was better when they were seperated instead of it now being all scrambled together.

Even though you can have applications on your main page, they make them so small, or the full application doesn't show, so it's not worth it.

Although I don't miss those people with the thousands of applications that made their page way way too long.

Overall I liked the old one better.

[Ace of Knaves]

Yea i can't even find my Joker graffiti app anymore. what a biaaatch!!

[batlovescatDC]

Facebook sucks. Always has.

[Cmill216]

New Facebook?

It stinks, and I don't like it.

[Charlie No-One]

New facebook needs to go. It is complete ****.

[SapphirePrima]

I love new facebook. I've been using it for a few months now.

[Super Kal]

i never used the old facebook, so I like the new one

[Nirvana]

I never used the old one, so I'm not sure what the difference is at all.

[DeGenerate10]

Old Facebook Old Myspace

[JP]

The new facebook is possibly THE worst design I've ever seen.

[Sky Captain]

I was BARELY getting used to the old Facebook and then it became the new one. I'm gonna conform and say it sucks booty.

[Kaleb]

Im not bothered by the new one, what I hate more is getting group invites about bringing back the old one.

[Spidey-Bat]

I can't decide whether the New Facebook sucks or blows.

[theShape]

The new Facebook has got to be one of the most poorly thought-out changes ever. This is like New Coke or whatever is what called. Nothing is really different, but they just chose to move everything around and hide things so that no one knows where anything is. It pisses me off.

If they're so keen on keeping this stupid layout, they should have at least kept the option to use the old or new, but now the new is permanent and Facebook sucks.

[Untilteld]

I like the old one much better.

[Cmill216]

The profiles are completely incomprehensible now. Instead of streamlining things to make it easier to navigate (which was a problem with the Old Facebook), they've instead thrown everything into one big Jenga-style column that no one outside of a PhD can friggin' understand.

[Banshee]

I'm certainly not a fan.

[Asteroid-Man]

A hybrid of them both. The simplicity of the old one and the separation of extra apps on another page of the new one.

[Charlie No-One]

Just give me the old one. There was nothing wrong with it. If you put the extra apps in another page, no one will see them which defeats the point of having them. And for people who are like "well I don't want to see them" well you can either delete them or just remove the box. And if it isn't on your page...well guess what? It isn't your page so don't worry about it.


The new facebook is too busy and complicated for something that should be simple and easy. They should keep the new application adding thing though.

[The Geek Vault]

I don't mind the new one!

[UA-Archangel]

It's all the same to me.

[Magneto29]

Given the large majority of people who don't seem to like it, you'd think that would change their minds. But doubtful.
The change probably is just a set up to make it easier for them to put up more advertisements.

[WompuM]

Not sure what all the fuss is about. It'll be different within the year anyway.

[oakzap425]

Don't know the difference, since I barely visit mine.

[Untilteld]

Also, Facebook runs slower than it did before because the profile takes up the whole screen, and I hate how I have to click something to see their profile information.

[Asteroid-Man]

Only 14? hahahahahahaha I have 516 friends!
Hard to believe I've gone up over a hundred since then... :dry:

[amazingfantasy15]

A friend of mine convinced me to sign up for Facebook, I find it totally pointless. I'll confirm friend requests, but don't really spend anytime on there. Really what's the point of it?

[Darthphere]

Hard to believe I've gone up over a hundred since then... :dry:

If only one of them would actually talk to you in real life.:csad:

[Apollo]

i don't have many friends on facebook either...i guess facebook is like a popularity meter?.... you know it is..:o :csad:

more than half the friends i have on it, i don't even talk to anymore...:csad:

[Go Web Go!]

I'm more of a MySpace guy, if I do say so myself, but man...I despise this new Facebook. I can't find a damn thing on it and all this tabbage us really annoying.

[Rando]

new facebook is poopy.

[yenaled]

i illicit no strong feelings for facebook.

[The Squirrel]

Pirate facebook is fun!

Go down to the bottom of your homepage and change English to English (Pirate).

[Iceman]

Old >>>>>> New

[Dew k. Mosi]

I am addicted to Dungeons and Dragons: Tiny Adventures

[The Senator]

The Facebook layout really has no affect on my overall life.

But because it has become a staple in my daily routine, at first I was annoyed by it, because I had no idea what the creators were going for with this facelift. I couldn't find anything, the wall seemed to have disappeared on me... I was a bit distraught.

Then I realized how efficient it is, because I no longer have to scroll through ten thousand stupid applications to post something on someone's wall. In fact, I don't have to deal with any ridiculous applications, because they now have their own tab. I don't have to worry about feeling "unpopular" because I have a lower wall post count than others, as the counter has disappeared; I don't have to scroll through the page looking for a specific piece of information... this is a far more efficient improvement than previous changes.

So I am actually pleased with the new Facebook.

[04nbod]

I've gotten used to it. I used to lose my way around friend's profiles because they had so many lame applications. Now they are on another page. Only thing I want now is to be able to hide photos my friends tag as me from my own profile. My friend franki put some really awful ones up. Her flash is blinding so I'm always squinting. I'd rather old classmates didn't see them.

[Iceman]

You can do that - adjust privacy settings.

[Morg]

New one takes longer to load then the old one :mad:

[Mr. Todd]

http://img301.imageshack.us/img301/2048/newlt1.png

[[A]]

there's an option missing: I have a facebook but didn't notice anything

[04nbod]

You can do that - adjust privacy settings.

thanks. I just set it to 'only me' but I'll have to see if it works from someone else

[Mr. Biggles]

http://img301.imageshack.us/img301/2048/newlt1.png

^what he said.

[Arcturus]

I never bothered with facebook, I had a bunch of invitations sent to my email, but I never signed up.

[gap5ewl]

It's funny because people made facebook out to be the "sophisticated" alternative to myspace for college students and now it's exactly the same. So pointless. :whatever:

[Max J Power]

I prefer the old layout, but the new one's alright.

[The Senator]

It's funny because people made facebook out to be the "sophisticated" alternative to myspace for college students and now it's exactly the same. So pointless. :whatever:

The spamming is total proof of this.

[Dark Victory]

I don't know, I just made a Facebook about a day ago and I'm haering everybody complain about the new Facebook and I'm like :huh:

[Manic]

My friends and I are starting an online magazine, and it turns out everyone but me has been going over extra notes about our site on Facebook. I've been completely out of the loop. I pretty much had to sign up a few days ago. It's... it's weird. In all my days of using trendy sites like Friendster, Myspace, Xanga, ect, Facebook has the most chaotic layout I've ever seen. I have to search frantically for my Friends list, and I'm never sure when I'm simply viewing my profile or editing it. And dear god, it seems like everything I click puts a notice on my profile page. And I have no idea what Pokes and SuperPokes are.

And who the hell designs a control panel so strange that half of the navigational buttons are on a floating bar on the bottom of the window?

[Asteroid-Man]

If only one of them would actually talk to you in real life.:csad:
*Slaps Darthphere* Respects those above you, you fool! :cmad:

[AndThePickles]

My facebook is still broken :csad:

[Asteroid-Man]

I now have 640 friends on facebook. And YES I know them all.

[Manic]

I've been taken in by the Pet Society. :o

[Ronny Shade]

I never friend people I don't know, but I do accept requests from people I don't know.

[[A]]

So I Joined That Facebook Thing....
I joined because a friend told me into it.. she's 21, it's alright for her to have one (I guess). But for me, at 29, makes feel like a real loser (and I do have a social life).. so I never even open the damn thing

[Ronny Shade]

I joined because a friend told me into it.. she's 21, it's alright for her to have one (I guess). But for me, at 29, makes feel like a real loser (and I do have a social life).. so I never even open the damn thing

admit it. You were trying to tap that.

[[A]]

admit it. You were trying to tap that.
shoot.. you mean tap as in..?

[Ronny Shade]

you know.

[[A]]

you know.
No, I don't--I hardly know any slang in my own language, you want me to know slang in english?

[Double Down]

This is a priceless source for comedy:
http://www.assetize.com/accounts/viewall/page:1

You should see the Facebook names people are trying to sell.
I mean, someone is trying to sell www.facebook.com/danakroyd for $1,000. I don't think the missing "y" would even help to sell that name.

[[A]]

:pal:

[Raiden]

I have both Facebook and MySpace, but FB is way better than MS imo. Not only do most people have FB (I have many of my old high school and college friends there), but the layout is alot easier to navigate and more inituitive than MS. I have over 300+ friends on FB, but that is because I'm playing games on it and I needed friends for those applications in order to "unlock" stuff. I hated at first, but now I'm find with it, and it's easy to get rid of most of the spam by setting the filter option.

[Bim]

.....And i realised i dont know that many people i know people on there that have like 300 friends, okay so they may mot be friends in the stricktest sense of the word but its better than the amount i have.....


wait for it,

A full 14, fourteen and now i'm scraping the barrel so much i'm looking up people with famous names, Gary Coleman, Michael Keaton, Christian Bale & Shakira.

On a basic level maybe i'm just not that popular, i can live with that but what if only 14 people turn up at my funeral? actually make that 16 adding my 2 children, feck if my future mother in law was on there i'd add her.

Anyone on here wanna be my friend? oh go on, you know it was worth a try.:csad:
Well, consider urself exclusive in how u dont add a bunch of people u hate just so that others see u have a lot of 'friends' like many do :hehe:

[ComicChick]

i actually don't hate faeebook anymore

[Cunning Stunts]

I don't have anybody from here on FaceBook. Well, I've got one. But one's not enough. I want some Hype FB friends. :(

[ComicChick]

there's a SHH facebook group

[Cunning Stunts]

I did not know that.

I'll join it now.

[Double Down]

Anybody from here who wants can add me -- www.facebook.com/doubledown.

It would be good if you mention your name on the Hype so I know who you are.

[ComicChick]

custom links on faecbook now? hmm

[Double Down]

Oh yeah.
Add me and you can find where I explained exactly how to do it in one of my last two posts on Facebook.

[Wiseman]

Oh yeah.
Add me and you can find where I explained exactly how to do it in one of my last two posts on Facebook.

Hmm, that sounds like a bribe

[Double Down]

Hmm, that sounds like a bribe

Now that I read it again, you're right, it does.

I stand by my "bribe." :oldrazz:

[pyromaniac]

.....And i realised i dont know that many people i know people on there that have like 300 friends, okay so they may mot be friends in the stricktest sense of the word but its better than the amount i have.....


wait for it,

A full 14, fourteen and now i'm scraping the barrel so much i'm looking up people with famous names, Gary Coleman, Michael Keaton, Christian Bale & Shakira.

On a basic level maybe i'm just not that popular, i can live with that but what if only 14 people turn up at my funeral? actually make that 16 adding my 2 children, feck if my future mother in law was on there i'd add her.

Anyone on here wanna be my friend? oh go on, you know it was worth a try.:csad:

You have a long, fruitful life ahead of you where you'll inevitably meet all sorts of interesting and colourful people, which will surprise you, so don't feel like what your life is now is a reflection of who you are, or the way people are.

The best years are still yet to come.

[Cunning Stunts]

custom links on faecbook now? hmm

As of last Saturday.

[CrashNburn]

Might I suggest
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2220287857

:up:

man! Im totally signing up for that as soon as i get to work.

[CrashNburn]

i'd love to have people from this board on my friends list. anyone interested just pm me your link to your page or just add me and include your shh username. pm me if you would rather have me give you my link. hope to get alot of people from here. i really like you guys!:yay:

[Majin Boo]

I got a question, if I review a movie with the Flixster thing, how do you make that movie review appears on your profile, I have done it before, but cant remember how I did it.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Well - not screwed my life up, my life is good. But they screwed me hard.

Without getting into details, because nobody wants a wall of text - over the course of about 3 years, probably about 2004 - 2007, I became really good friends with a couple of people; a guy I knew through a mutual friend, and his girlfriend, who's now his wife. During the last couple years of that time, I became particularly close with the girl - she became one of my best friends, and I looked at her like the sister that I never had.

Fast forward, her aunt gives them a house to rent at a major discout (nice house, nice area, nice deal), but it's a little pricey for them still, so they ask me, along with another of her friends, to all move in. So we all move in there (5 adults, a six year old, and another baby on the way), one thing leads to another, and after about a month, I'm not friends with them anymore, I'm kicked out, and they physically screw me out of $400 cash (along with another $2000 or so that I had spent getting settled into the house).

So they screwed me over emotionally and financially. I end up having to move clear across the country due to the situation, because it's either move across the country, or move back in with my parents at 24. So I'm in a part of the world that I don't want to be in, away from home, with no money in my pocket.

Year and a half goes by, and what do I see when I come home and log into Facebook? A message from them, saying our "spat" was long enough ago and now they want to know how I'm doing.

Shocked, to say the least, as well as torn. On one hand, these people were a huge part of my life for about 3 years, they were some of my best friends. It really took me awhile to get over the fact that I wasn't friends with them anymore. On the other hand, I still haven't forgotten what they did to me, and how they treated me there at the end. A part of me wants to say "Hey man! Been awhile, how's the family!!" and the other part of me wants to say "Go lay your head in a garbage disposal and **** off".

[enterthemadness]

Well - not screwed my life up, my life is good. But they screwed me hard.

Without getting into details, because nobody wants a wall of text - over the course of about 3 years, probably about 2004 - 2007, I became really good friends with a couple of people; a guy I knew through a mutual friend, and his girlfriend, who's now his wife. During the last couple years of that time, I became particularly close with the girl - she became one of my best friends, and I looked at her like the sister that I never had.

Fast forward, her aunt gives them a house to rent at a major discout (nice house, nice area, nice deal), but it's a little pricey for them still, so they ask me, along with another of her friends, to all move in. So we all move in there (5 adults, a six year old, and another baby on the way), one thing leads to another, and after about a month, I'm not friends with them anymore, I'm kicked out, and they physically screw me out of $400 cash (along with another $2000 or so that I had spent getting settled into the house).

So they screwed me over emotionally and financially. I end up having to move clear across the country due to the situation, because it's either move across the country, or move back in with my parents at 24. So I'm in a part of the world that I don't want to be in, away from home, with no money in my pocket.

Year and a half goes by, and what do I see when I come home and log into Facebook? A message from them, saying our "spat" was long enough ago and now they want to know how I'm doing.

Shocked, to say the least, as well as torn. On one hand, these people were a huge part of my life for about 3 years, they were some of my best friends. It really took me awhile to get over the fact that I wasn't friends with them anymore. On the other hand, I still haven't forgotten what they did to me, and how they treated me there at the end. A part of me wants to say "Hey man! Been awhile, how's the family!!" and the other part of me wants to say "Go lay your head in a garbage disposal and **** off".

Um.....follow your hurt? You can take the high road or the low road really. To me it's kinda close to call.

[muertevilla]

you decision will show the kind of person you are. its funny.. i just spoke on the phone with a friend who i told to go to hell (in a more rated R sort of way) and we just started talking about adult swim and stuff like nothing happened. friends are hard to come by. tell them you still think what they did is efft up and you would like some compensation. if i were in your shoes a simple apology would suffice. situations arise to make or break someone. it didnt break you... you are still here. you are stronger because of them.

[ross2287]

Forgive, but never forget. That's my advice.

You can believe that people can or cannot change and maybe they've changed. They contacted you so they either want to mend the bridge or they need something from you.

Can I ask what happened during the month you lived with them that made you not be friends with them anymore?

[batboy99]

I think you can still be friends, but probably never as close as you were. And I probably wouldn't put much trust into them.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Can I ask what happened during the month you lived with them that made you not be friends with them anymore?

The girl was about 7 or 8 months pregnant when we all moved into the house. Throughout her pregnancy, because she didn't have a car, and her boyfriend was always away from home for work and stuff, I'd always drive her to and from work, to doctor's appointments, to pick up her daughter from school, and stuff like that. Her and I would always end up hanging out, either going to lunch, or just hanging out at her place. Whatever. She'd offer to buy me lunch a lot of times, and she'd offer gas money, but I'd always decline, because I did it because she was my friend, not because I wanted anything in return.

For some reason that I'm not too sure of, when we moved into the house, she just really stopped talking to me. The only time she'd really talk to me is if there was some problem in the house - a mess, dirty dishes, whatever.

When she found the due date of her baby, she had posted it on her myspace page, which is where I found out. She had never told me, but she started calling me to ask me to get her a pair of shoes from my work. I was a bit upset, and so I told her something like "You can get at me when you need some shoes, but you can't tell me when your baby is going to be born?" She'd talk to me in the house if she needed a ride, or she kept asking me to get her the shoes, but she wouldn't talk to me for any other reasons. So, I started feeling like she was beginning to use me, that all the things I'd do for her were now expected, and not appreciated. I confronted her about it, and she didn't really like it, and when things continued on the same path, I would continue to confront her about it, until everything just reached it's boiling point one night where she told me it'd be best to find a new place to live, and that maybe she didn't want to be my friend anymore.

Part of what really made me angry was when I confronted her about it, she snidely talked about how I could just take the shoes back if it meant that much to me. I tried to tell her I didn't give a crap about the shoes. When she asked what then the problem was, I told her that all I wanted was a little appreciation and respect. When I told her that, her response is "I don't have to show you any appreciation, you're not my boyfriend." I told her it wasn't about being her boyfriend or not, it was about being her friend. She didn't take too kindly to that.

The ending of it all entailed them stealing $400 from me. I had JUST paid them for the month's rent in advance when they decided to kick me out of the house. When I asked for my money back, they refused to give it to me, and refused to acknowledge me when I tried to contact them to get it. They also shut me out of the house, and didn't allow me to say goodbye to the daughter. In anger, I attempted to do some things back to them that made the situation even worse.

[dark_b]

The girl was about 7 or 8 months pregnant when we all moved into the house. Throughout her pregnancy, because she didn't have a car, and her boyfriend was always away from home for work and stuff, I'd always drive her to and from work, to doctor's appointments, to pick up her daughter from school, and stuff like that. Her and I would always end up hanging out, either going to lunch, or just hanging out at her place. Whatever. She'd offer to buy me lunch a lot of times, and she'd offer gas money, but I'd always decline, because I did it because she was my friend, not because I wanted anything in return.

For some reason that I'm not too sure of, when we moved into the house, she just really stopped talking to me. The only time she'd really talk to me is if there was some problem in the house - a mess, dirty dishes, whatever.

When she found the due date of her baby, she had posted it on her myspace page, which is where I found out. She had never told me, but she started calling me to ask me to get her a pair of shoes from my work. I was a bit upset, and so I told her something like "You can get at me when you need some shoes, but you can't tell me when your baby is going to be born?" She'd talk to me in the house if she needed a ride, or she kept asking me to get her the shoes, but she wouldn't talk to me for any other reasons. So, I started feeling like she was beginning to use me, that all the things I'd do for her were now expected, and not appreciated. I confronted her about it, and she didn't really like it, and when things continued on the same path, I would continue to confront her about it, until everything just reached it's boiling point one night where she told me it'd be best to find a new place to live, and that maybe she didn't want to be my friend anymore.

Part of what really made me angry was when I confronted her about it, she snidely talked about how I could just take the shoes back if it meant that much to me. I tried to tell her I didn't give a crap about the shoes. When she asked what then the problem was, I told her that all I wanted was a little appreciation and respect. When I told her that, her response is "I don't have to show you any appreciation, you're not my boyfriend." I told her it wasn't about being her boyfriend or not, it was about being her friend. She didn't take too kindly to that.

The ending of it all entailed them stealing $400 from me. I had JUST paid them for the month's rent in advance when they decided to kick me out of the house. When I asked for my money back, they refused to give it to me, and refused to acknowledge me when I tried to contact them to get it. They also shut me out of the house, and didn't allow me to say goodbye to the daughter. In anger, I attempted to do some things back to them that made the situation even worse.
after this story are you serious? show them them the finger.

she was obviously using you. its that simple. how many peopel are on earth? enough to ignore those mutherf....

[Eggyman]

You should totally throw a sheep at them or super poke them. Seriously though, life's too short. If you want to be friends with them then do so, but like Ross said, don't forget what they did. Just incorporate it into the funky soup that is you. Live and learn.

[Silvermoth]

I think you should cut them some slack. She was pregnant and probably emotional. There was probably alot of stuff going on and it was hard to keep track of it all.

I think it's quite friendly of them to want to contact you after these years and if you're not ready to forgive and forget you should just send them a message saying you're okay, thank you very much for the kind words and that you're not ready to meet up again (if they want to do that)

[ih8nyy]

You should tell em to GFY.

[dark_b]

I think you should cut them some slack. She was pregnant and probably emotional. There was probably alot of stuff going on and it was hard to keep track of it all.

I think it's quite friendly of them to want to contact you after these years and if you're not ready to forgive and forget you should just send them a message saying you're okay, thank you very much for the kind words and that you're not ready to meet up again (if they want to do that)

but

''I'm kicked out, and they physically screw me out of $400 cash (along with another $2000 or so that I had spent getting settled into the house).''

[xisaacx]

What it comes down to, is would you really want those kind of people in your life now? I would not. Who knows how much people have changed, but I wouldn't put myself in that situation.

[squeekness]

This is a perfect example of why you should never move in with your friends. :( It always seems to end up badly. Something similar happened to me.

[Blindfighter]

you should try to make them feel bad for kicking you out. If that happened to me I would just tell them to **** off but that is me.

[Eggyman]

This is a perfect example of why you should never move in with your friends. :( It always seems to end up badly. Something similar happened to me.


They sell your wheel for crack? :(

[Ace of Knaves]

Ahh man, **** these guys. They ain't friends. I would rob $2400 worth of goods off of them.

[Eggyman]

Ahh man, **** these guys. They ain't friends. I would rob $2400 worth of goods off of them.

Knaves! :)

He could easily earn it back though. Make up with them so he can get close enough to steal their child. Ransom! If they don't have the money, sell it to Madonna.

[Kelly]

I would tell them thanks for the message, but no thanks for friendship....

[VampElvis]

Seems to me there's plenty of blame to go around. The kind of talk you describe having with this pregnant lady, well, you don't have those kind of talks with a pregnant lady and expect it to go well. At 24 I wouldn't have known either, but having been through it twice with VampPriscilla and watched several friends and family members go through it - they just ain't themselves because their body is placing a LOT of stress on them physically and emotionally. I recall very clearly being called in to mediate a dispute between a couple. She, being very pregnant, decided it was a great idea to redecorate their entire house in zebra stripes. He, being deployed, was having a hard time breaking through to tell her he did not concur. After some conversations where I was a called some very vicious names, we were successful in stopping this horrible decorative feaux pas and later, when her son was about a year old and her body had returned to normal chemical balance, she was very grateful we'd done so and thanked us several times for it!
Now, does that excuse the money thing? No, I don't think it does. BUT at some point in your life you're going to have to learn to forgive or you'll have a tough row to hoe. That doesn't mean everything has to go back to the way it was or anywhere close. It doesn't mean it can't either. That part is up to you and them. I say forgive them, clear the grudge, you'll sleep better at night. Then take it from there. It sounds like you're all pretty young and in the grand scheme of things I've seen far worse damage in these situations. They may be able to earn back your trust but I wouldn't give it freely and I wouldn't recommend going halfsies on a time share with them:cwink:

[C. Lee]

They probably need some more money.

[Wiseman]

You should ruffie both of them and make good use of cucumbers

[ross2287]

I think you should cut them some slack. She was pregnant and probably emotional. There was probably alot of stuff going on and it was hard to keep track of it all.

Sorry, I don't mean to diss you or pregnant women everywhere, but this is a lame excuse. There's a difference between being pregnant and being a *****.

I'd return the message but keep it very light and superficial. Then see what happens. And don't be afraid to ask for your $2400 back.

[Addendum]

Tell them to f*** off.

[Fresh Prince]

Um.....follow your hurt? You can take the high road or the low road really. To me it's kinda close to call.

Yup.

[Addendum]

BUT at some point in your life you're going to have to learn to forgive or you'll have a tough row to hoe. That doesn't mean everything has to go back to the way it was or anywhere close. It doesn't mean it can't either. That part is up to you and them. I say forgive them, clear the grudge, you'll sleep better at night. Then take it from there.

I'm proud to say that I've never forgiven anyone that has done me wrong, and I always get a good night's sleep. In fact, the hardest part is getting up since I like the rest so much

[Spider-Who?]

My first thought when you talked about the relationship that you and this girl had was that it was beginning to get alittle inappropriate - not that you had any intention - but it is VERY easy for emotional cheating to happen; its highly possible that she began to feel this way, and took a step away from the friendship, but still wanted your kindness; the whole "have your cake and eat it too" mentality. Her reactions to your honesty with the situation helps this idea (imo, anyway).

Or it could simply be that the boyfriend was getting uncomfortable with you and his girlfriends' growing friendship, and confronted her about it, which caused her to push away.

Either way, whether you mention it or not, I'm sure there were things that you did or said that helped bring the destruction of the friendships (it's hardly ever COMPLETELY one sided), but that doesnt mean you should allow them to jump back into your good graces.

I would either completely ignore their message, or EVENTUALLY send a short, impersonal reply; just so they know you're doing good and don't need/want them (without mentioning what happened). Or you could always be a massive dick to them about it, not hold any punches back, let them know how much pain they caused you; either way, its your call.

[LiveWire777]

Take em to small claims court!!! Get yo money back!!!

[Figs]

after this story are you serious? show them them the finger.

she was obviously using you. its that simple. how many peopel are on earth? enough to ignore those mutherf....


Agreed.

Just now read what happened and she is a major ***** or the C word which I prefer to use for women like this.

Sounds like a case of you were too nice Nell and the female took advantage of that...surprise, surprise. Not saying ALL women are like that but yeah...a lot are. You weren't in the wrong at all and I don't think you should be friends with people or a woman like that. I think your better than that and it would be desperate of you to befriend them again.

Just curious, what did you do back to them that didn't help the situation out as you put it? You can PM me if you don't want to air it to everyone. I think that's screwed they literally robbed/ripped you off with the no refund on rent.

[taskmaster]

You go back to a person like this and you set yourself up to be used for the rest of your life. Small things can be forgiven but something this big should never be forgiven.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Just curious, what did you do back to them that didn't help the situation out as you put it? You can PM me if you don't want to air it to everyone. I think that's screwed they literally robbed/ripped you off with the no refund on rent.

I threatened to take them to court for the money, and I would have done it, except I was leaving the state, and doing so would have delayed my move.

Also, before I left, I did attempt to get them kicked out of the house. I confronted her aunt about the things that had been going on in the house, the way they had treated me, the money that they stole from me, and I also informed her that one of the other room mates was constantly doing drugs on the property, and having people over at all times, all sitting around doing drugs. The aunt didn't want drugs at all in the house.

I do admit that it may have been wrong of me to attempt to do something like that, it was done in anger, hurt, and frustration. They ended up not getting kicked out of the house, but I guess the aunt confronted them about it, because one day the guy called me up and cussed me out about it.

As far as some other responses I've seen - I have thought about the "emotional affair" type thing, and always wondered if perhaps he was getting a bit jealous of the bond her and I had. I mean, it was never secretive, EVERYTIME her and I were together, we let him know where we were at and what we were doing. In fact, in the beginning it was HIS idea for her and I to start hanging out together, because the 2 of us actually worked at the same mall together. It was also his idea a lot of times for me to come over and spend time with her and what not. So he did know. But yea, then again, he could have been getting jealous, knowing how close her and I had gotten.

As far as the whole being pregnant thing, I also wonder how much of it may have been that, because her and I did have some big problems prior to that as well that stemmed from her being pregnant. We were able to work through all of those problems.

I don't know exactly why things went the way they did, and I'm sure that it was something that had been building on BOTH sides (as it wasn't just the shoes that made me snap, it was a combination of things), so I'm sure I'm not blameless. BUT, there was no justification for what they did to me there at the end.

As far as my response to them, I took a bit of a high road. I decided to give them a mature response - after all she had given me one a few months back. I sent her a message in September to wish her daughter a happy birthday, and she replied back to me rather civily. So I figured they deserved a civil response from me. As far as where it goes from here - who knows.

[Majic Walrus]

Wait wait... I dig that there was probably a bigger problem dude, but did all of this really start over her asking about shoes?

People can tell you all they want to not forgive and not forget and if that's what you do that's fine, but I do not think that harboring resentment for years will make you feel as good as just forgiving them and moving on. You're out some cash and they hurt your feelings, and that blows.

As far as them wanting to be your friend? Well I probably wouldn't move back in with them, but hell... If they send you funny jokes in your email and chat with you every once in a while what harm could that cause? Especially "Facebook Friends" that's not even like a real friend.

[Wiseman]

Especially "Facebook Friends" that's not even like a real friend.

I knew it:csad:

[Majic Walrus]

I knew it:csad:

Hype friends are better than real friends though because I can always imagine that you are actually Buddy Christ in-the-flesh here to sarcastically piss off the world into salvation. :up:

[taskmaster]

People can tell you all they want to not forgive and not forget and if that's what you do that's fine, but I do not think that harboring resentment for years will make you feel as good as just forgiving them and moving on. You're out some cash and they hurt your feelings, and that blows.

I don't think it's necessary to forgive someone in order to move, nor do I think you have to harbor resentment if you don't forgive them. I have had people hurt me in the past, I don't hate them (anymore) but I don't need to forgive them or have them in my life. You can move on without forgiving or resenting them.

[The Guard]

Without more details, it's impossible to give you much in the way of advice.

Without details, it sounds like you got used by some immature, selfish people.

I guess the question is...here you are now, what did these people ever do for you that makes you think you'd want their friendship back? What will they do for you now? What makes them any more special or worth putting the effort of a friendship into than the average person?

[VampElvis]

I'm proud to say that I've never forgiven anyone that has done me wrong, and I always get a good night's sleep. In fact, the hardest part is getting up since I like the rest so much
And that's why no one likes you and in your time of need you will be alone and unloved.


EDIT follows
OK, so that doesn't properly convey the sardonic tone I was hoping for but take it that way (tongue in cheek). I don't actually mean that your a friendless wretch. I don't know you well enough to say for sure:cwink:

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Wait wait... I dig that there was probably a bigger problem dude, but did all of this really start over her asking about shoes?

It happened because the only time she'd ever want to talk to me anymore was when she wanted or needed something out of me. The pair of shoes was one of the things that she wanted, along with rides to work.

Outside of needing or wanting something, she wouldn't speak to me.

Which is rather quite opposite of how the friendship HAD been. I'd often just volunteer to help her out with things, and she had always been rather grateful, and I never felt that I was being used. But by the time I moved into the house, all of the favors became expected, and no longer appreciated.

[bullets]

I'd say just be friendly on facebook but nothing outside that.

[ross2287]

I'd say just be friendly on facebook but nothing outside that.

:up: This is good advice.

[E-Man]

There has been some good advice in this thread, so I'll just piggy back by saying this. You don't want to let them back in your life like nothing happened. You want to let them know how pissed and hurt you were that they did what they did. At the same time, you don't want to hold a grudge, so making peace in the form of Facebook is good enough. Basically you want to hold them accountable for what they did without starting something bad with them. If you respond, make sure your tone is that you're cool now, but you don't want to deal with them because you don't trust them anymore. If you happen to catch them out and about if you're in your home state, give them a little friendly hug and some dap, then make the conversation quick before letting it go further. Just a nice, "Hey how's it going? I'm fine, just doing my thing out in [whatever state you moved to]." After that quick two minutes is up, just bounce. You don't need to reconnect, because eventually you'll have it out about the situation that got you here in the first place. It's best to leave these people in the past.

[Majic Walrus]

I don't think it's necessary to forgive someone in order to move, nor do I think you have to harbor resentment if you don't forgive them. I have had people hurt me in the past, I don't hate them (anymore) but I don't need to forgive them or have them in my life. You can move on without forgiving or resenting them.

So what benefit do you get from not forgiving someone?

It happened because the only time she'd ever want to talk to me anymore was when she wanted or needed something out of me. The pair of shoes was one of the things that she wanted, along with rides to work.

Outside of needing or wanting something, she wouldn't speak to me.

Which is rather quite opposite of how the friendship HAD been. I'd often just volunteer to help her out with things, and she had always been rather grateful, and I never felt that I was being used. But by the time I moved into the house, all of the favors became expected, and no longer appreciated.

I see what you mean. She could be doing something similar now. I stick with what I said before, forgive what she did in the past but do not allow it to happen again in the future.

[taskmaster]

So what benefit do you get from not forgiving someone?


You don't put yourself in a position to be harmed again. People rarely learn lessons without consequences, if you go back to people who use you the message you're sending them is that they can do whatever they want to you without worrying about you leaving. It usually sets up a bad chain of events. Maybe this way they'll think harder about others feelings next time but maybe not. At least you know that you won't be the one they're using.

[Majic Walrus]

You don't put yourself in a position to be harmed again. People rarely learn lessons without consequences, if you go back to people who use you the message you're sending them is that they can do whatever they want to you without worrying about you leaving. It usually sets up a bad chain of events. Maybe this way they'll think harder about others feelings next time but maybe not. At least you know that you won't be the one they're using.

I see what you mean I think I just have a different definition of forgiving someone. When I forgive someone I don't hold a grudge anymore or anger anymore but I still remember what they did and things do not "go back to normal" just because I considered them forgiven.

I guess as long as you're not lingering on it and you are actually moving on then forgiveness doesn't really matter. I guess I just think if I can't manage to just forgive someone then I will harbor bad feelings towards them.

[Darthphere]

The girl was about 7 or 8 months pregnant when we all moved into the house. Throughout her pregnancy, because she didn't have a car, and her boyfriend was always away from home for work and stuff, I'd always drive her to and from work, to doctor's appointments, to pick up her daughter from school, and stuff like that. Her and I would always end up hanging out, either going to lunch, or just hanging out at her place. Whatever. She'd offer to buy me lunch a lot of times, and she'd offer gas money, but I'd always decline, because I did it because she was my friend, not because I wanted anything in return.

For some reason that I'm not too sure of, when we moved into the house, she just really stopped talking to me. The only time she'd really talk to me is if there was some problem in the house - a mess, dirty dishes, whatever.

When she found the due date of her baby, she had posted it on her myspace page, which is where I found out. She had never told me, but she started calling me to ask me to get her a pair of shoes from my work. I was a bit upset, and so I told her something like "You can get at me when you need some shoes, but you can't tell me when your baby is going to be born?" She'd talk to me in the house if she needed a ride, or she kept asking me to get her the shoes, but she wouldn't talk to me for any other reasons. So, I started feeling like she was beginning to use me, that all the things I'd do for her were now expected, and not appreciated. I confronted her about it, and she didn't really like it, and when things continued on the same path, I would continue to confront her about it, until everything just reached it's boiling point one night where she told me it'd be best to find a new place to live, and that maybe she didn't want to be my friend anymore.

Part of what really made me angry was when I confronted her about it, she snidely talked about how I could just take the shoes back if it meant that much to me. I tried to tell her I didn't give a crap about the shoes. When she asked what then the problem was, I told her that all I wanted was a little appreciation and respect. When I told her that, her response is "I don't have to show you any appreciation, you're not my boyfriend." I told her it wasn't about being her boyfriend or not, it was about being her friend. She didn't take too kindly to that.

The ending of it all entailed them stealing $400 from me. I had JUST paid them for the month's rent in advance when they decided to kick me out of the house. When I asked for my money back, they refused to give it to me, and refused to acknowledge me when I tried to contact them to get it. They also shut me out of the house, and didn't allow me to say goodbye to the daughter. In anger, I attempted to do some things back to them that made the situation even worse.

Arguing with a pregnant woman, men have never won.

[ross2287]

^^Demotivational in the making.

[E-Man]

I see what you mean I think I just have a different definition of forgiving someone. When I forgive someone I don't hold a grudge anymore or anger anymore but I still remember what they did and things do not "go back to normal" just because I considered them forgiven.

I guess as long as you're not lingering on it and you are actually moving on then forgiveness doesn't really matter. I guess I just think if I can't manage to just forgive someone then I will harbor bad feelings towards them.

I go by this definition of forgiveness as well. To me forgiving is not being mad anymore. At some point in time everyone gets forgiveness. No one stays mad forever at something.

[AlteredEgo]

You should totally throw a sheep at them or super poke them. Seriously though, life's too short. If you want to be friends with them then do so, but like Ross said, don't forget what they did. Just incorporate it into the funky soup that is you. Live and learn.seconded. :up:

[Addendum]

And that's why no one likes you and in your time of need you will be alone and unloved.
That doesn't sound like a big deal. If it happens, oh well.


EDIT follows
OK, so that doesn't properly convey the sardonic tone I was hoping for but take it that way (tongue in cheek). I don't actually mean that your a friendless wretch. I don't know you well enough to say for sure:cwink:
I'm just too lazy to see my friends from college that live out of state. I'd rather spend my vacation slacking. I have some friends at work, but that's just to make the day go by faster. Off the clock, I don't hang with them.

[Addendum]

I see what you mean I think I just have a different definition of forgiving someone. When I forgive someone I don't hold a grudge anymore or anger anymore but I still remember what they did and things do not "go back to normal" just because I considered them forgiven.

I guess as long as you're not lingering on it and you are actually moving on then forgiveness doesn't really matter. I guess I just think if I can't manage to just forgive someone then I will harbor bad feelings towards them.
The people that have wronged me are dead to me. So I don't see a need for forgiving. Apathy works better.

[SpideyInATree]

I went through a same similar situation only I am male and my friend was male. We were living together. Having a good time. Things eventually started to erode because it was obvious he was just using me after a while.

From the way you've described your situation you are a very nice person that will do anything for their friends. I am the same way. Though once a user, always a user. Very rarely do people change. I agree with C. Lee. Sounds like they want to reconnect because they might want something from you.

My advice...and this is what I eventually did with my friend...keep talking to them but keep them at a very long distance and don't give them the satisfaction of being back in your life.

And another question...why would you move across the country and be broke when you could move back in with your parents? Unless your parents are horrible and evil people there is no shame in doing that. I have done it dozens of times and it helps you get back on your feet a lot easier than slumming it just to keep your pride. Though that is me. You may be a very very independent person. And my mom is a widow who lives in a big house all by herself in a crappy neighborhood...so situations are always different. :o

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I went through a same similar situation only I am male and my friend was male. We were living together. Having a good time. Things eventually started to erode because it was obvious he was just using me after a while.

From the way you've described your situation you are a very nice person that will do anything for their friends. I am the same way. Though once a user, always a user. Very rarely do people change. I agree with C. Lee. Sounds like they want to reconnect because they might want something from you.

My advice...and this is what I eventually did with my friend...keep talking to them but keep them at a very long distance and don't give them the satisfaction of being back in your life.

And another question...why would you move across the country and be broke when you could move back in with your parents? Unless your parents are horrible and evil people there is no shame in doing that. I have done it dozens of times and it helps you get back on your feet a lot easier than slumming it just to keep your pride. Though that is me. You may be a very very independent person. And my mom is a widow who lives in a big house all by herself in a crappy neighborhood...so situations are always different. :o

The reason why I did that is because by 24 years old, I had never been out on my own. So moving out with my friends was my way of getting out on my own, and taking care of myself. When things went bad, I went back to my parents for about a month, but at some point, I need to get out on my own.

No, my parents aren't horrible, evil people. In fact, I have a wonderful relationship with my parents, and I always have. But there just comes a time in every person's life when you gotta try and make it on your own, and not be living with mommy and daddy anymore.

It's definitely tough, because I hardly have any income, but where I live, the cost of living is significantly lower than what it is back home, so I am able to do it. Sometimes, I need some help, and I am lucky and blessed that my parents are willing and capable to help me out in a crunch.

The good news about all of this - because of what happened, and me being out where I am now, I have gotten an opportunity to go back to school and finish up my education, which I am taking full advantage of, and will be going back to school in September. Living out on my own, and working crappy jobs at restaurants and shoe stores gave me the motivation to finish school - the motivation I didn't have when I was living in the comfort of my parent's house.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

So yea the moment I've been preparing for - he wants to be my Facebook friend now.

:(

[Holiday]

So yea the moment I've been preparing for - he wants to be my Facebook friend now.

:(

It just. Got. SERIOUS.

[Darthphere]

****, if he starts following you on Twitter too, you're ****ed.

[Lasirius]

Make sure to tell them what they did was wrong and stay in touch through facebook like others said, if you decide to make amends and become friends again with them then demand your money back.

[The Spawn]

Nell2ThaIzzay


#1: Change your location

#2: Dude...what was the $2k from? Sorry if I missed you explaining that.

#3: He's prob just like everyone else on Facebook...Friends You May Know...oh, I know them...let's add to my roster of friends.

If you get serious on him with the $$$ talk, he'll probably just ignore you.

I however, would wall of text that ******* and if he doesn't reply (which you should mention in the wall of text), just let him know that makes him even less of a man.

Where do they live, and where do you live?

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

It just. Got. SERIOUS.

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[Star]

I'd tell them that it's nice that they sent the message, and that you're willing to act like an adult about it- but that you'll never consider them friends again.

[Ahura Mazda]

Send a message asking for your $400 back. And then state you can talk about freindship again.

Of course, this disregards facebook which is absolute nonsense and a freind trequest in there is paramount to nothing.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Send a message asking for your $400 back. And then state you can talk about freindship again.

Of course, this disregards facebook which is absolute nonsense and a freind trequest in there is paramount to nothing.

How about when the girl now gets ahold of you, says that she has been thinking a lot about what happened, how things got out of hand, and that she apologizes for the things that happened because you are a good friend that she has lost, and now she wants to be friends again, and wants you to call her?

[The Guard]

Why are you asking people how much you should care about these people?

It's up to you. Completely and totally up to you. You either want this person in your life, and are willing to forgive them for what they did and let bygones be bygones, or you don't, and you aren't. Or some combination of the two.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Why are you asking people how much you should care about these people?

It's up to you. Completely and totally up to you. You either want this person in your life, and are willing to forgive them for what they did and let bygones be bygones, or you don't, and you aren't. Or some combination of the two.

I'm not really so much asking for advice as I am just venting on a situation that's rather shocking and unexpected to me.

For the record, I am about some combination of the two.

I have already dealt with the situation as I best saw fit. I don't post asking for advice, rather to just talk about a particular experience. Conversation, ya know? Isn't that the point of message boards?

[Lunar_Wolf]

I got a letter from an ex recently-some weird ass letter, but I get one every year from her, asking me to reply, which I never do. This time though, I will(by mail, **** her letter) and I'll keep it very cool. I'm not going to ask her how she is or keep a conversation up, I'm just saying, I'm doing good, hope you are too, I'm busy with this that and the other, talk to you soon, blah, blah and so on. Short and uninteresting.

[Go Web Go!]

I know a good majority of you probably have a Facebook account. Most of you probably also have that annoying friend that constantly changes their status or plays those annoying games like Mafia Wars, or in this case FARMVILLE, that show up in your news feed and takes up a good chunk of your home page.

"Yay! I can buy a barn now!"

*****, I don't care. You're in your 40's. Don't you have grown-up **** to do?

I had another friend who sent out updates a few times a day, begging for someone to give her a goat. Whatever that means. Point is...*****! You're a single parent with 2 kids under the age of 3! There shouldn't be enough time in the day for a damn goat!

It took me long enough, but I blocked any notifications of these games. No more clutter on my homepage and no more pent up rage...until today.

I get a text message from a girl who I used to be pretty close to. Rarely ever talk at this point, but still friends.

"Hey, can you get on Facebook from work?"

I explain that I can. I'm expecting a "Sign on so we can chat" kinda message, but no, not quite. This is what I get:

"Ah, ok. Just asking. I need someone to check my farm on Farmville. I think my strawberries may have died."

:dry:

This is coming from a 25 year old female. Really? I mean REALLY?! It's that serious?

My response: **** you and your damn farm! :cmad:

Fin.

[SuperFerret]

I agree that it's silly for a 25 year old to be wasting time growing virtual strawberries.

Artichokes are where the money's at.

[chaseter]

Wut???

[Drizzle]

Amen to that. Farmville, Mafia Wars, and all those stupid werewolf and vampire apps on Facebook are pointless.

[Go Web Go!]

Wut???

Go away. I don't want to be your friend.

[chaseter]

I don't even get on mah facebook or myspace. Any time I get on, because it sends me update emails, I just decline everything.

[Nirvana]

My mom is constantly updating her Farmville. :facepalm

[Immortalfire]

My mom is all about Farmville

[Majic Walrus]

I delete any friend on any network that tries to get me to play games. :hehe:

I also have no friends. :(

[Go Web Go!]

My mom is constantly updating her Farmville. :facepalm

My mom is all about Farmville

:funny:

Not much worse than a parent who's on Facebook and then goes and does THAT. I mean, ****, my mom and all my aunts that are roughly in the same age group have Facebook pages but none of them are involved in any of those nonsensical games.

[Mr.Webs]

For the record....the beloved super-mod Dew K. Mosi plays those games.:o

So watch your ass.:cmad:

[Go Web Go!]

Hopefully she won't...have a cow.

YYYYEEEEAH!

[Ion Kenshin]

Yea people send me all that **** and I ignore it. Between Farmville, Mafia Wars, Vampire Clans, and that damn Little Green Patch ****. NO THANKS.

[chaseter]

Can you have dolphins or monkeys in this game?

[Immortalfire]

Hopefully she won't...have a cow.

YYYYEEEEAH!

:hehe:

[Go Web Go!]

Can you have dolphins or monkeys in this game?

Dolphins and monkeys on a farm? Oh you.

I'd play if that were the case though.

[SuperFerret]

There's brown cows in the game. You get chocolate milk from them.

[chaseter]

Dolphins and monkeys on a farm? Oh you.

I'd play if that were the case though.
It would be an Awesome Farm of Excitement and Intrigue:o

[Sawyer]

Nothing annoys the everloving crap out of me as much as the whole Farmville thing.

[DA Dent]

Lmao! your first post is hilarious.

I get these farm request everyday.

But I got to say I am impressed with how elaborate some of my friend’s farms are, mine died out a few months ago and I didn't feel like fixing it, but the request keep coming.

[VenomVsSpidey]

Yea people send me all that **** and I ignore it. Between Farmville, Mafia Wars, Vampire Clans, and that damn Little Green Patch ****. NO THANKS.


:up: SAME. drives me crazy..same damn person each time... :facepalm

[danoyse]

Everyone I work with is obsessed with Farmville. I have that and Mafia Wars hidden so I don't have to see the endless updates.

[bullets]

Not much worse than a parent who's on Facebook and then goes and does THAT. I mean, ****, my mom and all my aunts that are roughly in the same age group have Facebook pages but none of them are involved in any of those nonsensical games.


My mom somehow become obsessed with this b.s. and demanded I join it so she would have neighbors , big mistake . Now I have about 100 things saying ,so and so ,sent you a pine tree. Who give a ****!

[X-Chick]

My mom is constantly updating her Farmville. :facepalm

My mom is all about Farmville

My mom and grandmother both are all about Facebook. :csad:

And yeah, I got suckered into that farmville game by a friend. It's boring. :o

[Dark Helmet]

My sister has spent countless hours looking after her 2-D beets. It's a sad affair.:csad:

How is that any different then you spending most of your day on the Hype lol

[Mr.Webs]

I have you guys. She has fake corn stalks.:o

Are you comparing yourself to some cob?

[Metamorpho1977]

please help I'm addicted to all of those games.

[Lasirius]

I get those too and always wondered what the hell is Farmville about? Seriously.

[The Original Bamfer]

Man, Go Web Go!, your threads are always so angry. :csad:

[TinkTonks]

I must be the last person in the world to not have a MySpace or Facebook account...I've never found the need for it. It doesn't look like I'm missing out on much. :oldrazz: I know better than to get hooked to crap like those games.....know better but still end up doing it haha! I'm completely and totally ashamed to admit the Webkinz phase I went through! :o :o You could grow a garden! And harvest it! :hehe:

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Hey I play Farmville :(

[Tsunulia]

I must be the last person in the world to not have a MySpace or Facebook account...


No you're not :up:

[The Guard]

This makes me want to try Farmville. Is it like Tamagotchis, where you can neglect them and twist them into angry, abused killing machines?

[The Guard]

I don't want to grow eggplants. This is beyond lame.

[Go Web Go!]

I went to my girlfriend's cousin's house tonight.

"Guys, I've been obsessed with this thing on Facebook lately. Do you guys have this?"

"What?"

"Farmville"

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Man, Go Web Go!, your threads are always so angry. :csad:

Shut up! :cmad:

[Bunker]

I just signed up on the book of face a couple weeks ago. This Mafia War **** litters my screen each time I check it. Facebook, I am disappoint.

[knowsbleed]

Where's the game where I'm a pimp and I need to smack my b****es? I'd message you and ask if you want to trade your blonde crackhead for my brunette runaway.

[AndThePickles]

Gawd, I HATE all of those games, too. The amount of updates I see from people who play are utterly absurd. Many of the people I know who play the most have families. Go feed your freakin kids and give them some attention!

[knowsbleed]

I play all those games on my iPhone... I'm a bajillionaire.


ok... no farmville though. Who wants to raise a farm? How about we raise some asian kids and sell them on the human trafficking market. That sounds more fun.

[CelticPredator]

\"Ah, ok. Just asking. I need someone to check my farm on Farmville. I think my strawberries may have died."



It appears her strawberries....*puts on sunglasses*...just bought the farm...:word:

YYYYYEEEAAHHHHHHHHHHH

[Mr.Webs]

NO! The time has passed, buddy. Put the stick down, the horse is dead.

You killed it.:csad:

[ComicChick]

Ha I knew this was about facebook before I clicked it lol

I hate this game a ignore any farmville/mafia/yoville/etc games requests.

True story: was at a friends house and her mom got a call from one of our friends lil sisters at (who's like 13). She called to tell my friends mom to get on facebook to harvest her crops she just planted :dry:

I've been around more than one occassion where one or the other has called/text to get the other to log on to play farmville :dies:

[Lasirius]

So this Farmville thing is about growing crops and taking care of your cows? :lmao:

And what is this Yoville thing? Just by the name of it I already hate it.

[SuperFerret]

It's like an urban Farmville, so I guess you grow pot on your roof and keep the homeless away from your property.

[Lasirius]

Hmm..sounds like some fun.

[spideyboy_1111]

hey ... i like those games. there fun time killers. If you don't like em.. hide the updates from that person. Simple as that.

people shouldn't have to change just cuz you don't like something

[SuperFerret]

People should always change to make me more comfortable. Now get a haircut you hippy!

[Spider-Fan]

I know a few people that are into these. Thankfully, I don't have a facebook to be annyoed by it and rarely check my myspace :up:

I deny all requests I get for them, but don't really care if people do it. It's stupid to me, but I'm sure many things I enjoy are stupid to someone else.

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I know a few people that are into these. Thankfully, I don't have a facebook to be annyoed by it and rarely check my myspace :up:

I deny all requests I get for them, but don't really care if people do it. It's stupid to me, but I'm sure many things I enjoy are stupid to someone else.

This.

Who cares, really? You all get so worked up over what other people do, maybe you need to not worry so much about others, and worry more about yourself.

And:

Many of the people I know who play the most have families. Go feed your freakin kids and give them some attention!

You know that

A.) Kids don't stay up 24/7, kids do sleep
B.) Kids do go to school and are often not at home
C.) It takes like 3 minutes to play FarmVille / Vampire Wars / Mafia Wars etc...

There's plenty of opportunity to play these games and not neglect your family.

Damn, my brother plays hours upon hours of video games a week, and he doesn't neglect his family. Because he does it "after hours", when the children and the wife are all in bed asleep.

[Majik1387]

My farm is amazing, screw the haters.:o

[Dew k. Mosi]

For the record....the beloved super-mod Dew K. Mosi plays those games.:o

So watch your ass.:cmad:

Damn straight! that reminds me, I think my blueberries are due to be harvested. I am trying to get enough coins to buy a farmhouse.

[knowsbleed]

That just sounds all kinds of dirty.

[Mr.Webs]

That's because blueberries grow in soil.:o

Hehe...agriculture humor.

[VampElvis]

Wow, you'd figure someone that could noodle through how to sign up and post on a message board could figure out the little Hide drop down on their Facebook wall. But I guess if you ain't squeakin' you ain't gettin' grease so go on with your bad self.

Personally I try to be courteous and always cancel the publications that those apps try to send out. I don't personally care for Farmville but my daughter loves it and has become quite adept at managing it to maximize profit and layout her farm to coordinate activities. Certainly some lagniappe I was not expecting from Facebook.

[Erzengel]

Hoe Wars are better. You prowl the bus terminals looking for susceptible girls to hook out. You beat up Johns who harass your girls and try and steal girls from other pimps. :up:

[Go Web Go!]

My farm is amazing, screw the haters.:o

I hope your crops die.

[LouFerignoDemon]

I actually enjoy Mafia Wars. Cause I like to pretend I can go around and bust people's knee caps for cash, and it's perfectly acceptable, and even encouraged.

[Majik1387]

I hope your crops die.
Been there, done that. :o

Though I will have the say, the most pervy thing Farmville has just introduced is the Seeder. :csad:

[Lunar_Wolf]

Isn't it like the sims, but with animals or something?

[Majik1387]

Isn't it like the sims, but with animals or something?
I compare it more to the Harvest Moon games.