The Crying Issue

[Sofa]

So, ive been hearing lately and seeing for myself that men are starting to cry a lot more in public. I stress that because men have always cried, they're just really good at hiding it. The question is, why is it becoming more acceptable for men to cry in the eyes of other men. It is just society that's accepting this development or are men actually opening up to the idea that "feeling" isnt a bad thing?

Just curious to know what the men think, and whether any of you will openly admit to crying every once in a while.

More importantly, does it bother you that other men seem to be more emotional, are they tainting the masculine image?

Women, feel free to give your views. :meow:

[Wilhelm-Scream]

I only cry if I'm wasted and watching Spider-Man, The Empire Strikes Back or King Kong.
Also during and after sex, if I'm on acid.

[JLBats]

Frankly, I'm not particularly interested in broad gender trends.

And I ****ing hate the concept of gender roles.

Ultimately, doesn't it seem like such a crushing blow to individuality? "Be who you want to be, just as long as it fits into this square box, thanks."

Whenever I see someone defending gender roles, I just think it's so utterly backwards, and to me it just feels like they're telling us that fitting into the stereotype is somehow "the norm" or "the ideal". I doubt you'd see the same people defending racial "roles". After all, would you say that all Asians should be extra good at math? Or that all black people must be good at basketball?

As per the crying issue, I'm not sure where you're seeing this trend. I've seen no visible increase in men crying in public, and as far as I can remember, I'm not sure I've seen ANY men crying in public.

[Daisy]

I don't cry in public... how am I supposed to respect a man that does?

[Sofa]

Originally Posted by Daisy

I don't cry in public... how am I supposed to respect a man that does?

And if someone you do entirely respect does cry in public for wtv reason, does that change how much you respect them?

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Originally Posted by JLBats

And I ****ing hate the concept of gender roles.

I can just see you, asking your girlfriend to change the tire when you get a flat, and hearing a loud thump at nght and asking her to go check it out.

[JLBats]

Originally Posted by Wilhelm-Scream

I can just see you, asking your girlfriend to change the tire when you get a flat, and hearing a loud thump at nght and asking her to go check it out.

OMG, there's a spider on my desk

[Danalys]

i shed a manly tear in public once, but it was totally manly. hey stop judging me *runs of crying*

[Sofa]

Originally Posted by JLBats

Frankly, I'm not particularly interested in broad gender trends.

And I ****ing hate the concept of gender roles.

Ultimately, doesn't it seem like such a crushing blow to individuality? "Be who you want to be, just as long as it fits into this square box, thanks."

Whenever I see someone defending gender roles, I just think it's so utterly backwards, and to me it just feels like they're telling us that fitting into the stereotype is somehow "the norm" or "the ideal". I doubt you'd see the same people defending racial "roles". After all, would you say that all Asians should be extra good at math? Or that all black people must be good at basketball?

As per the crying issue, I'm not sure where you're seeing this trend. I've seen no visible increase in men crying in public, and as far as I can remember, I'm not sure I've seen ANY men crying in public.

Im not discussing gender roles per say, just a habit that men tend to keep hidden. And yes, men are statistically not as self-concious about crying and the admitting of that fact.

[JLBats]

Originally Posted by Danalys

i shed a manly tear in public once, but it was totally manly. hey stop judging me *runs of crying*

I can totally see you at a lame coffee shop, making grabbing motions at women who work there and crying into your coffee

[Sofa]

Originally Posted by Danalys

i shed a manly tear in public once, but it was totally manly. hey stop judging me *runs of crying*

How was is manly as opposed to not?

[jaguarr]

Originally Posted by Danalys

i shed a manly tear in public once, but it was totally manly. hey stop judging me *runs of crying*

"runs of crying"? Is that when you have diarrhea so bad it makes you cry?

jag

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Originally Posted by JLBats

OMG, there's a spider on my desk

GET IT!
GET IT!!!
EwwwWW!!!



Anyway, I hate sports, so, I can't remember what it was, when Seattle lost the Superbowl or something, I get to work and on the front page of the paper, a grown man at the game, weeping, like, swollen face and snot dripping down his face - weeping.
Hahaha, that cracked me up.
And I'm sure he beat up a few "wussy f*****s" in his school days.

[Danalys]

Originally Posted by Sofa

How was is manly as opposed to not?

well if i wasn't being facetious i could tell you.

[JLBats]

Iron Eyes Cody cries, and God knows he's a real man... even if he's not a real Indian

[Sofa]

Ah, thought so.

[Equint77]

i cry in anger

[Mayor_McCheese]

As a Male its only ok to cry at funerals of family members or when your dog dies.. Other than that it's just gay

[Sofa]

Originally Posted by Mayor_McCheese

As a Male its only ok to cry at funerals of family members or when your dog dies.. Other than that it's just gay

I think crying is crying. And if you thinks it's "gay", then it should be "gay" in any case.

[Danalys]

Originally Posted by JLBats

I can totally see you at a lame coffee shop, making grabbing motions at women who work there and crying into your coffee

that's funny because i can see you as a woman working in a coffee shop desperately disapointed that i don't drink coffeee as i walk by.

[Danalys]

Originally Posted by jaguarr

"runs of crying"? Is that when you have diarrhea so bad it makes you cry?

jag

better than crying diarrhea.

[Erzengel]

The last time I cried in public, but I held it in and I went off to some deserted area so no one could see/hear me, was when my dog past away. I loved that dog.

[7Hells]

Originally Posted by Mayor_McCheese

As a Male its only ok to cry at funerals of family members or when your dog dies.. Other than that it's just gay

Actually if youre gay why would you be crying?
Unless you were really gay and crying because you are so gay
Like at weddings when the bride cries because she is so gay or when a husband and wife have their first child they cry because they are so gay.

[JLBats]

Originally Posted by Danalys

that's funny because i can see you as a woman working in a coffee shop desperately disapointed that i don't drink coffeee as i walk by.

It was summer... you were a roadie for White Snake, I was a groupie for Boys 2 Men... memories:ker-sigh:

[Childlike Wild]

Originally Posted by Daisy

I don't cry in public... how am I supposed to respect a man that does?

Pretty much. I think I've cried in public all of once since my childhood ended, and even that one time... I tried really hard to restrain it.

Adults should be able to control their emotions in the vast majority of situations. (Something like a funeral, or at the hospital when a family member/good friend has died could be exceptions to the rule.)