Lord of the Advice: Return of the King of Relationships

[Erzengel]

Originally Posted by enterthemadness

Err, I feel like giving up. Let's be honest, I'm almost 25.....very limited when it comes to experience. I dislike dating. Going out with someone who doesn't share my religious beliefs probably ain't a good idea. Am I crying? No, I haven't slept yet and bored. So I feel like ranting. Just a crazy ranger. iPhone auto corrected that I meant to type ranted. Ranted. Stop it iPhone. Ranter. Yea. I'm having a conversatation with my iPhone. Think I misspelled a word. I bet everybody hates my rants. Don't be Haters. Xoxo.

Because everything in life should be easy and not worked for.

[enterthemadness]

I come off as creepy, weird, shy, boring...just your typical FOX comedy.

[Optimus_Prime_]

Originally Posted by Nell2ThaIzzay

Pretty much this.

A girl liking a guy is the difference between the guy's actions being "creepy" or "romantic" lol

No, it's just the difference between a "yes" and a "no". If she says "no", it's not because she found you or what you did creepy, it's because she's just not that into you.

[Dreadstar]

Originally Posted by Optimus_Prime_

Then I'm a bit perplexed as to why she vexes you so much? I mean is 'fling girl' a trainwreck or something? I mean if she's not that attractive then it seems to me like just being friends with her is the way to go. From your description it doesn't seem like you're head over heels ga-ga for comic girl either, in which case you can still hang out and it really doesn't have to be anything further. You'll have all the benefits of a relationship without any of the drawbacks.

The 20 something is not fling girl. Fling girl is fine. I am pursuing a whatever it is (relationship?) with her. BUT SHE was THE ONE that was reluctant to call it a relationship. I thought we were in one or at least moving towards one.

Comic chick is neither here nor there. Having said that, I DID NOTICE that COMIC chick sent me an invitation to all day event that another friend has planned that involved people pairing up! SEE WHAT I mean?

[Optimus_Prime_]

Originally Posted by enterthemadness

I come off as creepy, weird, shy, boring...just your typical FOX comedy.

You come off that way to yourself, hence others feel that way.

[enterthemadness]

Originally Posted by Erzengel

Because everything in life should be easy and not worked for.

Wait...is this some kind of trick? I think it's the other way around. Its like that "first kiss" rule. You gotta earn it by going out on 3 dates or something. Well, that's what the comic strip Dilbert said...

[Erzengel]

Sure......3 dates.........

[Optimus_Prime_]

Originally Posted by Dreadstar

The 20 something is not fling girl. Fling girl is fine. I am pursuing a whatever it is (relationship?) with her. BUT SHE was THE ONE that was reluctant to call it a relationship. I thought we were in one or at least moving towards one.

Comic chick is neither here nor there. Having said that, I DID NOTICE that COMIC chick sent me an invitation to all day event that another friend has planned that involved people pairing up! SEE WHAT I mean?

Not really. Girls being girls as far as I can tell. I think it was AM15 who made the observation, but it seems like you like getting this 20 year old's attention, and just are kind of on this power trip from having two women paying you attention. There's nothing really wrong with that, but, like I said, I wouldn't read into much past face value.

[enterthemadness]

Originally Posted by Erzengel

Sure......3 dates.........

Well, some people kiss on the first date, but...that's kinda taking it fast.

[Optimus_Prime_]

Originally Posted by enterthemadness

Wait...is this some kind of trick? I think it's the other way around. Its like that "first kiss" rule. You gotta earn it by going out on 3 dates or something. Well, that's what the comic strip Dilbert said...

There are no rules. I mean look....



...This happened, and we all stood by and let it happen.

[Optimus_Prime_]

Originally Posted by enterthemadness

Well, some people kiss on the first date, but...that's kinda taking it fast.

According to who?

[enterthemadness]

Yea...I keep flip flopping if I was happy or not for them. I probably catch his show on F/X since he mentions the Illimunitai or however it's spelled. They seemed akward together I guess.

[Anita18]

Originally Posted by enterthemadness

I come off as creepy, weird, shy, boring...just your typical FOX comedy.

I'm sure most people who merely laid eyes on my bf would say the exact same thing. -shrug-

Originally Posted by Dreadstar

The 20 something is not fling girl. Fling girl is fine. I am pursuing a whatever it is (relationship?) with her. BUT SHE was THE ONE that was reluctant to call it a relationship. I thought we were in one or at least moving towards one.

Comic chick is neither here nor there. Having said that, I DID NOTICE that COMIC chick sent me an invitation to all day event that another friend has planned that involved people pairing up! SEE WHAT I mean?

IIRC, you've been dating fling girl for a few weeks, right? That may be too soon for someone to call a relationship, even if you were actually moving pretty fast.

Doesn't mean she's merely looking to sleep with you and giving you leeway to sleep around, just that she doesn't want to label what you have as a relationship right now.

I assure you, if you slept with comic girl and didn't tell fling girl, fling girl would get really upset and would seriously consider dumping you. That's what my sister almost did - a guy she was dating was talking about how he wanted to go long-term with her, but ended up dating someone else when she was away on a trip. She seriously considered dumping him, and he basically had to go groveling on his hands and knees crying for her to take him back. They set some ground rules about exclusivity and they're doing fine now three years later.

So...yeah, if you don't want to be that guy, you should think carefully about your next move.

Originally Posted by Optimus_Prime_

Not really. Girls being girls as far as I can tell. I think it was AM15 who made the observation, but it seems like you like getting this 20 year old's attention, and just are kind of on this power trip from having two women paying you attention. There's nothing really wrong with that, but, like I said, I wouldn't read into much past face value.

Yup. There are like, five people telling you this, and at this point I think you like bragging about how two women find you attractive rather than looking for actual advice.

I'm 28 and I associate with many folks younger than me thanks to school. What you're describe re: comic girl is absolutely normal. In fact, you're showing the same signs of getting high off attention. You have no plan really, just talking about how popular you are. She'd doing the same thing, except being more direct to the source about it.

But yeah, being attractive to two people at once is pretty cool. But don't squander it is what I'm saying, especially in the light of all this advice you're getting here.

[Erzengel]

Originally Posted by enterthemadness

Well, some people kiss on the first date, but...that's kinda taking it fast.

Well...maybe in the 1950s.

If the date went pretty well, it's pretty expected.

[enterthemadness]

Originally Posted by Optimus_Prime_

According to who?

The men in black who asked me questions...

Me, that's what I think. At times I think kissing must be hot, at others it is gross. Spit...mucus...

[Dreadstar]

All I wanted to do is see if this comic chick was into me. I really DO MOT want to embarrass (if she rejects me) myself by telling her I have feelings for her. Then there will this awkwardness among our group. So I asked and posted her actions to see if others see what I see.

[enterthemadness]

Originally Posted by Erzengel

Well...maybe in the 1950s.

If the date went pretty well, it's pretty expected.

Huh...

[Optimus_Prime_]

Originally Posted by Erzengel

Well...maybe in the 1950s.

If the date went pretty well, it's pretty expected.

Yeah, usually I try for a kiss after the first (assuming it wasn't a disaster) at least.

[Erzengel]

Originally Posted by enterthemadness

Me, that's what I think. At times I think kissing must be hot, at others it is gross. Spit...mucus...

First of all, I'm not sure who you've been with, but I usually try and not involve that much mucus in kissing. (Yes, I'm sure there are trace amounts.)

Don't take this the wrong way BUT, I know you've had sex with a woman and there's your wrestling fetish, yet, some of the stuff you're writing, I just have to ask.

Are you even attracted to anyone? Because yes sex can be awkward, messy, yet awesome and it's usually fun.

But that eww....gross kissing. Just wondering if you even interested in being physical with anyone.

[Eggyman]

I think the key is not to go thinking of the word 'mucus' when intruding on someone's person. Christ, give yourself a chance.

[Optimus_Prime_]

Originally Posted by enterthemadness

The men in black who asked me questions...

Me, that's what I think. At times I think kissing must be hot, at others it is gross. Spit...mucus...

That's fine if that's what you think, but at the same time having an uptight attitude like I'm sensing here is a great deterant for women. They want a guy who is relaxed and casual and easy to get to know. Even if you're not going to kiss, f*** or even hold hands right away there has to be that sense that if it went there you could handle it right then and there. That's part of the desire that couples have for one another.

[enterthemadness]

Yes, I'm attracted to people, it's probably nerves and fact I'm so...little experienced. So I overthink stuff.

[Lord Valumart]

Originally Posted by enterthemadness

Yes, I'm attracted to people, it's probably nerves and fact I'm so...little experienced. So I overthink stuff.

Yeh, thats what got me to the point of pretending to be a landshark. Listen to the guys in this thread, they know what they're talking about... I hope...

[Erzengel]

Well one time, I did brush my arm past a woman chest. So I consider myself quite the expert.

[Optimus_Prime_]

Originally Posted by enterthemadness

Yes, I'm attracted to people, it's probably nerves and fact I'm so...little experienced. So I overthink stuff.

...Clearly...