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A Girl's Guide to Keeping Nice Guys
Relationships aren't hard to start, but once you're in one it may take some tricks to keep it together. This guide is meant to show girls how to keep nice guys after you're in a relationship with them. The tricks found in this guide may also be used to test whether or not your guy is nice or not.
The first thing to realize about nice guys is that they care about people and spend a lot of their time thinking about the ways others feel. They are nice because they have some sort of drive to try to be good to the people they're around. This drive is the key thing that you can use to make sure your nice guy stays with you and no one else.
To keep a nice guy, you want to make sure that he doesn't have the opportunity to be nice to anyone else. In order to keep a nice guy, it is necessary to abuse him.
You may be saying to yourself that abuse would just make your guy angry at you. In a lot of cases, this is exactly what would happen. If your guy is nice, he may get angry, but will not have the heart to express it openly to you. This means that it is possible to simply ignore that it even might be happening.
It is important to remember that it is possible for a guy to appear nice at first but actually wind up being a jerk. How nice a guy is becomes evident during conflicts and trouble. In order to see whether your guy is nice, it is necessary to create these conditions.
Nice guys will not tend to cheat on you. Despite this, abuse is necessary because nice guys will try to be nice to everyone around them, not just you. If this is allowed to happen around other women, they may try to seduce your guy away from you. This is not necessarily your guy's fault, but you should be sad and broken up if it does happen.
Here are a few key things to remember:
Never get angry at your guy. If you feel angry at him and feel the need to express it, do so, but express anger with someone other than him. Most nice guys will not express bad feelings unless someone else takes the initiative and expresses them first. If you never get angry at your guy, he will never feel like he can be angry with you. Again, it is important to note that you can tell a nice guy by how he reacts to abuse and anger. A jerk will reciprocate in kind, but a nice guy will try to do everything in his power to keep from hurting you as long as you don't hurt him first.
Get your feelings hurt. It is important to periodically have your feelings hurt by things. If done correctly, it will keep your guy's mind on you and not on other girls, and it will make him less likely to get angry with you if he knows that your feelings are easily hurt. Nice guys hate it when girls cry. Here are a few things you should consider getting sad over:
Something important to your guy. Pick one or two things about your guy to be hurt over. It helps a lot if these are beliefs that he holds very strongly. Remember to never get angry at him or claim that your unhappiness is due to his beliefs, but to those beliefs in general. Your guy will invariably want to talk with you about the way you feel. When this happens, you need to obfuscate the reasons you feel so broke up about it in the first place. If your guy pries too deeply, get angry, cry and run out of the room. It is okay to be angry in this case since your guy will know that it was because he overstepped his boundaries. When crying, it is always important to make sure he can hear you.
If you get angry with your guy in such a way, don't stay out of the room for too long. Walk in meekly a few moments later and say something like "Don't hate me." or "Don't be angry with me." This will solidify your victim status in his eyes for that specific encounter. From that point on, he will not be able to be angry with you. In the case where he does get angry, or tries to pry too deeply, repeat what you did, only more intensely. Sometimes it takes a few tries before they get it.
Feel bad about his friends. If your guy has friends who he goes to for comfort and solace, find something that each of them does to be angry or sad about. Nice guys usually have principles. Make sure you know what his are and find things about his friends that contradict his own principles. After you have found such things, get sad and broken up that his friends don't follow those principles, as if those principles were your own. This will work to alienate your guy from his friends and make it less likely that he will listen to them seriously when he goes to talk about relationships with them. This is important because his friends may tell him that he needs to break up with you or that he is in an abusive relationship. Although your guy will probably be angry that his friends are insulting you without you being there to defend yourself, it will help if you have already established yourself as victimized by them as well.
After some time, get pets. Pets are a great way to solidify your relationship with your guy. There are a few reasons for this. The first is that pets will provide a support option for your guy (so that he does not have to see his friends so often). The second reason is that it gives him something to care and be concerned about besides other girls. Nice guys naturally want to be good to everyone around them. If you give him a pet or pets to be nice to and care for, he has less need of other human beings. The third reason is that pets fulfill the same function as a baby might. Your guy will be less likely to leave you if he is also attached to or feels an obligation to your pets.
Make cheating a big deal. Get uncomfortable in social situations involving other girls and cry if your guy suggests that another girl is cute or interesting. Self-esteem issues are a great way to make your guy feel pity for you. Tell him that he is a nice guy for not cheating on you and that so many of your past boyfriends have broken your heart by being unfaithful. Make sure to never enter into a rational discussion about cheating with your guy. It is necessary that he concludes that cheating is a taboo no-no and that this be understood unconditionally.
I hope these tips have been helpful. Remember, sometimes it is necessary to abuse nice guys in order to keep them in a relationship with you. Don't be afraid to cry, mope and get angry as long as you think it will grow your guy's sympathy for you. Remember, all's fair in love and war.
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Relationships aren't hard to start, but once you're in one it may take some tricks to keep it together. This guide is meant to show girls how to keep nice guys after you're in a relationship with them. The tricks found in this guide may also be used to test whether or not your guy is nice or not.
The first thing to realize about nice guys is that they care about people and spend a lot of their time thinking about the ways others feel. They are nice because they have some sort of drive to try to be good to the people they're around. This drive is the key thing that you can use to make sure your nice guy stays with you and no one else.
To keep a nice guy, you want to make sure that he doesn't have the opportunity to be nice to anyone else. In order to keep a nice guy, it is necessary to abuse him.
You may be saying to yourself that abuse would just make your guy angry at you. In a lot of cases, this is exactly what would happen. If your guy is nice, he may get angry, but will not have the heart to express it openly to you. This means that it is possible to simply ignore that it even might be happening.
It is important to remember that it is possible for a guy to appear nice at first but actually wind up being a jerk. How nice a guy is becomes evident during conflicts and trouble. In order to see whether your guy is nice, it is necessary to create these conditions.
Nice guys will not tend to cheat on you. Despite this, abuse is necessary because nice guys will try to be nice to everyone around them, not just you. If this is allowed to happen around other women, they may try to seduce your guy away from you. This is not necessarily your guy's fault, but you should be sad and broken up if it does happen.
Here are a few key things to remember:
Never get angry at your guy. If you feel angry at him and feel the need to express it, do so, but express anger with someone other than him. Most nice guys will not express bad feelings unless someone else takes the initiative and expresses them first. If you never get angry at your guy, he will never feel like he can be angry with you. Again, it is important to note that you can tell a nice guy by how he reacts to abuse and anger. A jerk will reciprocate in kind, but a nice guy will try to do everything in his power to keep from hurting you as long as you don't hurt him first.
Get your feelings hurt. It is important to periodically have your feelings hurt by things. If done correctly, it will keep your guy's mind on you and not on other girls, and it will make him less likely to get angry with you if he knows that your feelings are easily hurt. Nice guys hate it when girls cry. Here are a few things you should consider getting sad over:
Something important to your guy. Pick one or two things about your guy to be hurt over. It helps a lot if these are beliefs that he holds very strongly. Remember to never get angry at him or claim that your unhappiness is due to his beliefs, but to those beliefs in general. Your guy will invariably want to talk with you about the way you feel. When this happens, you need to obfuscate the reasons you feel so broke up about it in the first place. If your guy pries too deeply, get angry, cry and run out of the room. It is okay to be angry in this case since your guy will know that it was because he overstepped his boundaries. When crying, it is always important to make sure he can hear you.
If you get angry with your guy in such a way, don't stay out of the room for too long. Walk in meekly a few moments later and say something like "Don't hate me." or "Don't be angry with me." This will solidify your victim status in his eyes for that specific encounter. From that point on, he will not be able to be angry with you. In the case where he does get angry, or tries to pry too deeply, repeat what you did, only more intensely. Sometimes it takes a few tries before they get it.
Feel bad about his friends. If your guy has friends who he goes to for comfort and solace, find something that each of them does to be angry or sad about. Nice guys usually have principles. Make sure you know what his are and find things about his friends that contradict his own principles. After you have found such things, get sad and broken up that his friends don't follow those principles, as if those principles were your own. This will work to alienate your guy from his friends and make it less likely that he will listen to them seriously when he goes to talk about relationships with them. This is important because his friends may tell him that he needs to break up with you or that he is in an abusive relationship. Although your guy will probably be angry that his friends are insulting you without you being there to defend yourself, it will help if you have already established yourself as victimized by them as well.
After some time, get pets. Pets are a great way to solidify your relationship with your guy. There are a few reasons for this. The first is that pets will provide a support option for your guy (so that he does not have to see his friends so often). The second reason is that it gives him something to care and be concerned about besides other girls. Nice guys naturally want to be good to everyone around them. If you give him a pet or pets to be nice to and care for, he has less need of other human beings. The third reason is that pets fulfill the same function as a baby might. Your guy will be less likely to leave you if he is also attached to or feels an obligation to your pets.
Make cheating a big deal. Get uncomfortable in social situations involving other girls and cry if your guy suggests that another girl is cute or interesting. Self-esteem issues are a great way to make your guy feel pity for you. Tell him that he is a nice guy for not cheating on you and that so many of your past boyfriends have broken your heart by being unfaithful. Make sure to never enter into a rational discussion about cheating with your guy. It is necessary that he concludes that cheating is a taboo no-no and that this be understood unconditionally.
I hope these tips have been helpful. Remember, sometimes it is necessary to abuse nice guys in order to keep them in a relationship with you. Don't be afraid to cry, mope and get angry as long as you think it will grow your guy's sympathy for you. Remember, all's fair in love and war.
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