A New "Official" Relationship Advice Thread

[SpideyVille]

When did he say this? Was it a very recent date or a while ago. If it was a recent date, you're in trouble.

Yeah, if I had the Stewie gif of him tilting his head, I'd totally post it in response to that part. It really almost sounds like he's the one without experience in the relationship.

Iused to be a "nice guy". Then I realized what is wrong with that, and now I'm just a nice guy, if you get my meaning.


Most "nice guys" are legitimately nice, and its not that they're lying. The only thing they're trying to hide is their fear and lack of self esteem. They tend to be overly nice because its the only thing they're comfertable doing.

I used to be like that. It took me a while to realize that being outspoken, flirting, acting as if you have the self esteem you may lack and "going for it" doesn't mean you're not a nice guy. It just means you're not a "nice guy". It's having your cake and eating it too.

Yeah, I think someone broke it down recently how the "good" guy who actually gets the girl lies somewhere in between the stereotypical nice guy and the jerk.

I've noticed that I can become the nice guy around girls I have feelings for while because like you said, its a way of hiding certain things. But when I'm myself around a girl that I'm not interested, I am that good guy because its who I am without the pressure of trying to hook up. But I think I reached a point where trying to be nice isn't important anymore I know I'm a good enough catch that who I really am is better than who I try to be. All I would need to do is not be afraid of putting myself or my feelings out there and things should work out on their own.

great, now i'm paranoid that my kissing game is terrible since it's been a long time since i've kissed any guys

If you're paranoid, then I'm super paranoid because I haven't kissed any girl ever so I don't even think I qualify to have any kind of kissing game.

 

[The Squirrel]

Question for those who have traversed the online dating world. How quickly do you (or have you been) ask the other person out?

 

[Anita18]

Question for those who have traversed the online dating world. How quickly do you (or have you been) ask the other person out?

Depends on comfortable you feel. I usually weed out the creeps at the chat level so I haven't had one bad date from an online dating site. (Well, there was that guy who turned out to have some anger management issues that didn't emerge until I saw him in person... )

That obviously takes a little time. I think it'd be like, messaging back and forth a few times, take it off the site to chatting on AIM, do that a few times, and then meet them in person. That's the way I did it. One of the guys I was interested in I never got to meet in person and he stopped messaging me, so I presumed he was progressing faster with another woman. Them's the breaks, but I just don't go out with guys until I'm comfortable.

 

[Angel_Faerie]

We're at karaoke again. Would it br crude if I picked "Kiss Me" by Sixpence None The Richer when my turn comes?

 

[Anita18]

We're at karaoke again. Would it br crude if I picked "Kiss Me" by Sixpence None The Richer when my turn comes?

Could be too cheeky, but that's hilarious. Go go him, girl!

 

[twylight]

Kissing is not supposed to be this much of a worry. It's not supposed to cause this much stress. It's something that just happens naturally, unless there is a REASON why the guy is being weird about it. And if it's been a while now and it's not happened... it's just going to continue getting harder until it happens.

Dis.

she STILL hasn't kissed this dude?? wtf?

It's like watching a WB/CW teen drama.

To be fair I have some hang-ups and issues I'm not fully disclosing to him either.

I want to take that chance, but my nerves keep getting in the way.

And I don't want to kill a bird! I'm named after a bird!

Doesn't matter if you do. It matters if he does. The point is, you're investing a LOT of worry, and stress into something that may never solidify into anything meaningful. The longer you string this out, the more time and emotion you're wasting on this guy. Are you okay with that? Since he said he's not looking for anything serious, why even bother?

We're at karaoke again. Would it br crude if I picked "Kiss Me" by Sixpence None The Richer when my turn comes?

Just try kissing him.

 

[SpideyVille]

Less talking or hinting, and more just doing!

 

[Spider-Fan]

I agree with the above people. Just kiss him. Not traditional, yes, but you badly want it and for whatever reason, he has yet to do it and it is driving you crazy. So, take it out of the equation and just do it. Either, he'll kiss back or he won't. But, it's better than thinking about it 24/7.

 

[Lasirius]

Question for those who have traversed the online dating world. How quickly do you (or have you been) ask the other person out?

I met my current partner online, and if I remember correctly he was the one who asked me out first on our very first chat. We did talk for a while first so we had time to feel comfortable with each other.

So as long as the conversation is coming out naturally and you feel comfortable asking the person, it'll just come out.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

...were they hot? I would have gone in for a threesome!

Nah, one of them was a gay friend of mine, and the other two were friends of his who I totally wasn't into...

Besides, I like my threesomes Girl/Guy/Girl

We're at karaoke again. Would it br crude if I picked "Kiss Me" by Sixpence None The Richer when my turn comes?

That sounds like something I'd do... but i'm sad

Hey I have an idea... MISTLETOE!!!!

 

[twylight]

Hey I have an idea... MISTLETOE!!!!

The story:

Spoiler

Ok, so before I went to his house a few weeks ago, I bought some mistletoe and TicTacs (I had eaten something with garlic on it). Everyone looked at me like I was buying condoms.

Anyway, my plan was to ask him for a glass of water at some point during the evening and while he was gone, hang up the mistletoe and when he returned be all "Mistletoe? How did that get here? " But he's observant. He could tell something was up and kept asking me what was up. I kept saying nothing, but I cracked eventually and spilled the beans. Somehow the conversation turned to "blowing against the breeze" and that's when he told that story. But he did say it would have been cute had I done that. And that was the same night he admitted he has feelings for me. So it was an odd night.

 

[Lily Adler]

Nah, one of them was a gay friend of mine, and the other two were friends of his who I totally wasn't into...

Besides, I like my threesomes Girl/Guy/Girl

I knew I liked you for a reason hopeful.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I knew I liked you for a reason hopeful.

Well that's the girl/girl part sorted - any male volunteers in the audience!

Ah... Yeah maybe I should go back and read through

 

[DV8]

It's like watching a WB/CW teen drama.



Just try kissing him.

I second that and this message

 

[DV8]

I can't wait until she kisses him . . . but then we will have to endure another 8 months of build up until a booby gets felt up

 

[Hound55]

By then the continental plates our two countries rest on will have shifted together and I'll be able to smack him upside the head...

 

[DV8]

^maybe once we colonize another planet they will have sex together

 

[Erzengel]

I wonder if the fact that Angel went out last night and we haven't heard anything yet, means something really good happened OR if nothing happened again.

 

[steintym]

I was thinking the same as I was reading through the posts. I don't have a great feeling about it, though.

 

[DV8]

I wonder if the fact that Angel went out last night and we haven't heard anything yet, means something really good happened OR if nothing happened again.

the anticipation is killing . . . SYKE!

I bet she struck out again

 

[SpideyVille]

Anyone want to place bets?

 

[Spider-Who?]

I've got 5 on she's preggars.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Question for those who have traversed the online dating world. How quickly do you (or have you been) ask the other person out?

By the second or third email I suggested talking on the phone to plan a date. You're on the site to find a date, not a pen pal.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I can't wait until she kisses him . . . but then we will have to endure another 8 months of build up until a booby gets felt up

Yeah, this is more drawn out than a DBZ fight.

I wonder if the fact that Angel went out last night and we haven't heard anything yet, means something really good happened OR if nothing happened again.

At this point her attempts at kissing him remind of the strategies Cobra Commander used to hatch against G.I.Joe

Cobra Commander: "By the time he sees the mistletoe it'll be too late, Mwahahahahahahahaha!"

 

[steintym]

I've got 5 on she's preggars.

Ha! You made me snort out loud at work.