Could you date someone of an opposing political persuasion?

[Babs Gordon]

This question never seems to go away for me. I myself am socially liberal and fiscally conservative yet I have dated more republicans than I have fellow democrats. The guy I dated for 4.5 years was a really traditional republican when it came to government spending, warfare etc but pretty socially liberal and after a year or two with me became pretty environmentally conscious. The next guy I dated was a closet neo-con, I'll call him. He played it down for three months and then finally let her rip on me. I was NOT amused. The last guy I dated was pretty moderate but had more socially conservative values but was a huge environmentalist and really really despised the way the mess o' potamia has been handled for the past few years.

So in other words... I've never dated a guy with the same political views as me. Maybe women just tend to be more liberal. I'm asking myself... can I date another guy like that? I think I can. I like having interesting discussions with people who aren't hell bent on proving they're "right". I am open to differences in opinion and the reasonings behind their beliefs. I feel that as long as they can respect my opinions and beliefs and why I have grown to feel this way, I can totally roll with it.

How do you feel about this? Got any funny stories or experiences in this arena? Thanks for sharing... in advance.

 

[Lord Valumart]

what if politics mean nothing to you due to the fact you can see the slow decay of the nations government and feel that any political struggle is pointless?

 

[Jason Blood]

Yeah, do you have any ****ing idea how easy it is to not talk about politics?

 

[Babs Gordon]

Not for some people. My opinions and beliefs are important to me and it's important to me that I'm with someone who respects them.

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

i can careless about thier political beliefs, just dont preach it to me.

 

[amazingdm]

I'm not stupid enough to put myself into one political party and say "whatever they think, I think"
I have so many different views on different issues I can't be placed in one party.. so of course my spouse is going to have different opinions.

I mean there are a lot of things I agree with democrats on but things like border patrol, gun control, social security, welfare.. things like that I disagree with
republicans, at their basis want less taxes which is good but they're overly religious and moral it's sickening

 

[Jason Blood]

Not for some people. My opinions and beliefs are important to me and it's important to me that I'm with someone who respects them.

You can be in a relationship with someone who disagrees with your opinion and respects them.

I'm startin' to feel sorry for you

 

[Ben Urich]

I've dated a few girls with opposing political views, and it just got grating after a while.

 

[Lord Valumart]

option 3....Definitely, I love heated debates that transition into white hot sex...

could that not be applied to anything? like organics vs shooters? or who fed the cat last?

 

[terry78]

It's the same with religion, or feminism, or anything. If you happen to fall for someone who has a certain religious belief, but you don't agree or are an athiest , do you deal with it, or move on to someone else? Sometimes the person's religious or political stance does seep into their social life, if certain aspects contradict it.

It could even be music, as I went out with a girl who basically said she hated rap music...all of it. That didn't last long. I prefer females that are a little more open...literally and figuratively..hot-cha-cha.

 

[Babs Gordon]

You can be in a relationship with someone who disagrees with your opinion and respects them.

I'm startin' to feel sorry for you

I'm starting to feel sorry that you're completely missing my point. I've dated three guys quite happily that had different opinions and two of the three were quite respectful of our differing opinions. Read the whole top post before you go assuming stuff. I'm asking other people because I'm curious. I'm also asking myself whether I want to get myself into the kind of mess that resulted from the jerk who nailed me to the wall for my liberal views after pretending to not care for three months.

 

[Arkady Rossovich]

Im suprised,i thought some people would say no.

 

[Jason Blood]

I'm starting to feel sorry that you're completely missing my point. I've dated three guys quite happily that had different opinions and two of the three were quite respectful of our differing opinions. Read the whole top post before you go assuming stuff. I'm asking other people because I'm curious. I'm also asking myself whether I want to get myself into the kind of mess that resulted from the jerk who nailed me to the wall for my liberal views after pretending to not care for three months.

I read the whole post (twice already).

I just feel sorry for you for letting politics get in the way of love.

Guess I'm just a romantic.

 

[Babs Gordon]

It's not politics... it's the things we believe in and feel strongly about. The experiences that make us who we are also shape our political opinions. It's a pretty romantic idea for two people to fall for one another in spite of their differences and to love one another for it. I'm not letting politics get in the way of love. Man you make it sound like C-SPAN is preventing relationships from happening. Clearly if I've been with a guy with different political leanings for four and half years I can cope. I'm inquiring about whether people can manage to fall in love with someone who has different beliefs and opinions in the first place knowing full well what the differences are. After all a person's beliefs and opinions make them who they are.

 

[Immortalfire]

option 3....Definitely, I love heated debates that transition into white hot sex...

could that not be applied to anything? like organics vs shooters? or who fed the cat last?

Don't ever date an EVIL organics suck person.

 

[Lord Valumart]

Don't ever date an EVIL organics suck person.

i did and it was hell..it destoryed our entire relationship...the sex was fantastic but the love was gone...

 

[terry78]

i did and it was hell..it destoryed our entire relationship...the sex was fantastic but the love was gone...

Let me guess, she wasn't a fan of Spidey's organic webshooter, nor yours. *rimshot*

 

[ScottyBBadd]

My fiancee is not political.

 

[Lord Valumart]

Let me guess, she wasn't a fan of Spidey's organic webshooter, nor yours. *rimshot*

it's all true...

 

[Jason Blood]

Man you make it sound like C-SPAN is preventing relationships from happening.

People obsessed over politics do that.

I'm inquiring about whether people can manage to fall in love with someone who has different beliefs and opinions in the first place knowing full well what the differences are. After all a person's beliefs and opinions make them who they are.

That's what I've been talking about

You're missing my point.


(I'm gonna go ahead and admit I misdirected part of my last post)

 

[Immortalfire]

Let me guess, she wasn't a fan of Spidey's organic webshooter, nor yours. *rimshot*

Ooooh, burn.

 

[Spider-Bite]

without looking to see how people voted, how do you think I voted? t:

 

[The Chairman]

If they respected my opinion, sure. I differ in my politcal opinion with pretty much my opinion family, and we get along just fine.

 

[SLVRSR4]

I voted for the white hot sex. It didn't lead to white hot sex but it was fun none the less.t: I feel sort of bad that if extreme arguments about the death penalty and foreign policy didn't lead to "white hot" sex what does?

 

[Kelly]

As long as he is intelligent, and actually has good, solid, reasoning for his political opinions, thats a turn on for me.