Did I over-react?

[SapphirePrima]

So I'm doing a play again. Anyway in the play there's this guys who's been accused of raping a girl;he got off and says he didn't do it. Anyway now there's a 8th grader also in the production and in the 11th. During rehersal backstage I've seen them giving each other massages and in postions that are kind uncomfortable to see her in for someone her age. Her sister is also in the play. I told the student director and she told her sister and she said she'd deal with it. The guy seems like a nice guy but he is kinda touchy feelly and he's gotten in trouble for giving girls hugs at school. I wouldn't want someone like him doing that do my little sister so that's why I told. Yet if he wasn't accused of rape I wouldn't have proably told. Should of I told a teacher or just left it alone?

 

[War Lord]

So I'm doing a play again. Anyway in the play there's this guys who's been accused of raping a girl;he got off and says he didn't do it. Anyway now there's a 8th grader also in the production and in the 11th. During rehersal backstage I've seen them giving each other massages and in postions that are kind uncomfortable to see her in for someone her age. Her sister is also in the play. I told the student director and she told her sister and she said she'd deal with it. The guy seems like a nice guy but he is kinda touchy feelly and he's gotten in trouble for giving girls hugs at school. I wouldn't want someone like him doing that do my little sister so that's why I told. Yet if he wasn't accused of rape I wouldn't have proably told. Should of I told a teacher or just left it alone?

I think that you were right to have reported him, but you did it for the wrong reasons.

If he's too old for her, then he shouln't be tounching at any rate, not because he was accused of something.

 

[Iceman]

To me it doesn't matter if you make a couple of unwise decisions that put other people out, if you're safeguarding your own family.

 

[SapphirePrima]

I know, I told on him half and half. The girl is kind of air-headed too.

 

[Arkady Rossovich]

In today`s world,things like this should never be just left alone.You should always tell someone,i voted for telling the sister and the teacher.i can imagine you felt uncomfortable because you worried about her,which is a good thing.

 

[Ultimate_Superman]

I think you were mad he wasn't massaging you.

 

[Sloth7d]

I would have confronted the situation right there myself. I hate feeling like a stoll pidgeon.

 

[Kmack]

If I was that little 8th grader I'd totally b!tch slap you.

But yeah, I would have told her sister and left it alone

 

[Erzengel]

Was the guy in the 11th grade, Tangled Web?

 

[November Rain]

So I'm doing a play again. Anyway in the play there's this guys who's been accused of raping a girl;he got off and says he didn't do it. Anyway now there's a 8th grader also in the production and in the 11th. During rehersal backstage I've seen them giving each other massages and in postions that are kind uncomfortable to see her in for someone her age. Her sister is also in the play. I told the student director and she told her sister and she said she'd deal with it. The guy seems like a nice guy but he is kinda touchy feelly and he's gotten in trouble for giving girls hugs at school. I wouldn't want someone like him doing that do my little sister so that's why I told. Yet if he wasn't accused of rape I wouldn't have proably told. Should of I told a teacher or just left it alone?

you overreacted big time.

Unfortunately, this dude is going to be confronted with this sort of thing as long as he is around peoplew ho carry around this stigma.

if i was in his position and genuinely innocent, and i found out what you had said, you'd seriously be in for one helluva ride.

then again, i am playing devil's advocate here.

instead of going to the authorities in your position, i would have handled things on a moer personal level, either by communicating with the girls involved or personally placing myself as a barrier to anything bad going on, the whole 'running off to teacher' method of solving problems isn't one i've been fond of, especially if you remain anonymous, if you have a problem, bring it to the table.

 

[Savage]

I think telling the sister is the right thing to do. Let her deal with it. Let her decide wether to tell a teacher or not, etc.

 

[terry78]

Nobody likes a tattletale. I never got to third base in high school because of it.


Seriously though, letting a relative of hers know in a subtle manner is probably the best recourse.

 

[Erundur]

Was the guy in the 11th grade, Tangled Web?

heh. t:

But you are right to have told.