Do you miss people who miss you?

[SpideyVille]

Lately, a lot of people have told me they miss me, which is understandable since I've been busy with school and haven't seen a lot of my friends in a while. But one thing that has always hard for me is to respond to people saying "I miss you." For some reason, I never know what I should say because sometimes I feel like I'd be lying if I said "I miss you too". Some people I truly don't miss, but instead of telling them that, I try to be funny and say something like "Yeah, I'd miss me too if I knew someone as awesome as me", and then change the subject.

So how do you react to being missed? Do you tell people you miss them too, even if you generally don't miss them at all? Or do you immediately set up a date to hang out and let them un-miss you? Or do you just completely avoid answering them back?

 

[Schlosser85]

If I really just plain don't want to hang out with someone, I usually just avoid answering them if I can get away with it.

 

[Darthphere]

Lately, a lot of people have told me they miss me, which is understandable since I've been busy with school and haven't seen a lot of my friends in a while. But one thing that has always hard for me is to respond to people saying "I miss you." For some reason, I never know what I should say because sometimes I feel like I'd be lying if I said "I miss you too". Some people I truly don't miss, but instead of telling them that, I try to be funny and say something like "Yeah, I'd miss me too if I knew someone as awesome as me", and then change the subject.

So how do you react to being missed? Do you tell people you miss them too, even if you generally don't miss them at all? Or do you immediately set up a date to hang out and let them un-miss you? Or do you just completely avoid answering them back?

Well most of the time when someone tells me they miss me I just get annoyed because that's not what they're really saying. If they missed me, we live in a world full of technology like phones, phones that are wireless, phones that can send text based messages and these magnificent creations called autombiles. Like I said in my thread, which this is sort of similar to, people know where I am, if they miss me, I'm not hard to find. When certain people say they miss me it usually means "You don't go out drinking til 6 in the morning with us."

 

[Speedball]

I've been going through a similar type of apathy toward friends lately as well. People tell me they miss me, but I just don't miss them. It's not that I don't like this person, I just have trouble missing people or having this need to see people. I think it's because I've had so many friends who have just left me or abandoned me that I just assume it's going to happen again and again. I lived in a military town as kid, but my family wasn't in the military. My family and I would stay where we were, while my friends and their family would move away. Then I finally got this one friend, but then he changed and started hanging out with the wrong crowd.

I finally thought I had made good friends in college, but they eventually left and stopped talking to me altogether.

Now I'm graduating again, and leaving the town where my college is at this time for a city 200 miles east, and I just feel like I should just break all ties. I know that's a bad thing, because I do love my friends, but I just don't feel like it's going to last.

Lately, though, people have stopped talking to me altogether, and last night, while my roommates went out or had plans to go out, I just sat at home watching TV and playing video games. Not because I wanted to, but because I had nothing else to do.
I've wanted to tell people "I'll be leaving soon, so you better hang out with me as much as possible", but I don't feel like they care enough anymore.

 

[SpideyVille]

Well most of the time when someone tells me they miss me I just get annoyed because that's not what they're really saying. If they missed me, we live in a world full of technology like phones, phones that are wireless, phones that can send text based messages and these magnificent creations called autombiles. Like I said in my thread, which this is sort of similar to, people know where I am, if they miss me, I'm not hard to find. When certain people say they miss me it usually means "You don't go out drinking til 6 in the morning with us."

Well I don't necessarily mean that in this case. For example, I have this friend who went to China to study abroad a few months ago. When she got back, she texted me something and then said she misses me. And honestly, I didn't really miss her all that much, so I wouldn't know how to respond . I mean, I'm sure her missing me is genuine, and possibly because she has such a busy schedule that doesn't allow her to go hanging out so much either. But this is just one in many cases in which people sound like they genuinely miss me but can't see me, and for reason, I don't feel the urge to say "I miss you too, let's meet up."

 

[Schlosser85]

If you don't want to hang out with someone, you don't have a responsibility to.

 

[Metamorpho1977]

Lately, a lot of people have told me they miss me, which is understandable since I've been busy with school and haven't seen a lot of my friends in a while. But one thing that has always hard for me is to respond to people saying "I miss you." For some reason, I never know what I should say because sometimes I feel like I'd be lying if I said "I miss you too". Some people I truly don't miss, but instead of telling them that, I try to be funny and say something like "Yeah, I'd miss me too if I knew someone as awesome as me", and then change the subject.

So how do you react to being missed? Do you tell people you miss them too, even if you generally don't miss them at all? Or do you immediately set up a date to hang out and let them un-miss you? Or do you just completely avoid answering them back?

Nah just tell them you have more important things to worry about than what they miss or don't miss.

 

[Immortalfire]

Pretty much everyone I know is close by, but I have family in California and Texas..so yeah, I miss them.

 

[Darthphere]

Well I don't necessarily mean that in this case. For example, I have this friend who went to China to study abroad a few months ago. When she got back, she texted me something and then said she misses me. And honestly, I didn't really miss her all that much, so I wouldn't know how to respond . I mean, I'm sure her missing me is genuine, and possibly because she has such a busy schedule that doesn't allow her to go hanging out so much either. But this is just one in many cases in which people sound like they genuinely miss me but can't see me, and for reason, I don't feel the urge to say "I miss you too, let's meet up."

It really depends on the person. I honestly think I end up missing people more than people miss me. It all really depends how close I am to the person.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I usually dont miss people. People come in and out of our lives. Its the way it is.

 

[SpideyVille]

Pretty much everyone I know is close by, but I have family in California and Texas..so yeah, I miss them.

It's funny because me and my sister is 9 years older than me, and we never used to get along when I was young, but then she joined the Marines and eventually found her way to California where she lives now with her two kids, and she rarely visits, so I've started to miss her because I've realized she's probably the only one in my family that I can relate to.

It really depends on the person. I honestly think I end up missing people more than people miss me. It all really depends how close I am to the person.

Sometimes that's how I feel like it is with me, almost as though I care more about people and miss than than they do for me. I mean there's some people I like being around and hanging out with, but for the most part, the people that seem to miss me tend to be the people I don't want to be around.

I usually don't miss people. People come in and out of our lives. Its the way it is.

I know what you mean. Honestly, I've never really had any long kind of relationship with anyone. Usually I meet people in school and we're on;ly friends until the end of the year or until we finish, and after that we lose touch. I've learned to not expect much from a friendship for too long.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I know what you mean. Honestly, I've never really had any long kind of relationship with anyone. Usually I meet people in school and we're on;ly friends until the end of the year or until we finish, and after that we lose touch. I've learned to not expect much from a friendship for too long.

I've been at my job for 5 years and am on boss number 5. Every time one leaves, people get all weepy. I have nothing against them, but it not like they're my friends or anything.

 

[Darthphere]

Sometimes that's how I feel like it is with me, almost as though I care more about people and miss than than they do for me. I mean there's some people I like being around and hanging out with, but for the most part, the people that seem to miss me tend to be the people I don't want to be around.

Yeah I've gotten messages from people on facebook saying "Man, I miss hanging out with you, lets meet up." And I'm like I remember this guy being a huge *******.

 

[SpideyVille]

I've been at my job for 5 years and am on boss number 5. Every time one leaves, people get all weepy. I have nothing against them, but it not like they're my friends or anything.

Yeah, I've gotten to the point where I'll meet people and feel its only a matter of time before they leave or I leave or something happens that'll make us both go our separate ways. It's probably not a healthy way of living, but it's all I'm used to.

Yeah I've gotten messages from people on facebook saying "Man, I miss hanging out with you, lets meet up." And I'm like I remember this guy being a huge *******.

Yeah, I used to feel bad if I didn't reply and it would usually end up in me doing things with people or going places that I really didn't want to be. But in the past year, I've started to not care as much, if not as all. I'll straight up ignore people now, and even though I'll feel bad about it for a moment because I know how it feels to purposely be ignored, I feel like its better than pretending to be happy to someone and lying to their face.

 

[redhawk23]

I think that with all the social networking and such, some people don't lose contact with people the same way they would of in years passed. I don't know really what I'm getting at. But really theres some people I'm still in partial contact with, that I would have no idea how or where they are if it wasn't for the internet, we would have just faded out of eachothers lives.

 

[knowsbleed]

I miss me.

 

[Erzengel]

I have an ex whom I really should just call my "friend" because well...she is. Anywho, she's married with a kid and she tells me she misses me every once and a while. It's nice hearing it, I'd love to see her if given the opportunity. I guess in a way I miss her but she's not in my thoughts everyday.

 

[The Guard]

I always take "I miss you" to be "I regret that we don't hang out as often". I don't think they're the same thing.

 

[Suirou]

I am the same way with one of my friends. She dropped out of college, and we used to hang out almost everyday. There was only one or two times where I missed her but it fleets. My friend on the other hand keeps emailing and texting me that she misses me and how she hopes that we get to hang out one day. And I would be like this -->
I think it's because i get so busy with college and I only have time to text her one-sentence response consisting of 4 to 5 words and that was pretty much. Sometimes, I even forgot to text her at all.

 

[Ponyboy]

I miss my mother a lot. We are somewhat estranged. She moved to the US about 10 years ago and I've not seen her in over 2 years.

 

[SpideyVille]

I find it funny how I see my friends write on each other's walls on facebook where all they say is "I miiiisssssssssss uuuu!!!"

For some reason, it made me feel like that's a way of asking your friends out. Like if you say "I miss you too", its like you're saying "Hey I like you too, let's go on a friend date." But if you don't reply like that, it's like you're saying "I don't feel the same way, we should see other people."

 

[WalkingDeadMike]

Lately, a lot of people have told me they miss me, which is understandable since I've been busy with school and haven't seen a lot of my friends in a while. But one thing that has always hard for me is to respond to people saying "I miss you." For some reason, I never know what I should say because sometimes I feel like I'd be lying if I said "I miss you too". Some people I truly don't miss, but instead of telling them that, I try to be funny and say something like "Yeah, I'd miss me too if I knew someone as awesome as me", and then change the subject.

So how do you react to being missed? Do you tell people you miss them too, even if you generally don't miss them at all? Or do you immediately set up a date to hang out and let them un-miss you? Or do you just completely avoid answering them back?

Are they really your friends then if you generally don't want to hang out with them again?

 

[NHawk19]

I dont know if I miss them more or the times we had together. Seems at times my life is so much different than what it was when I knew them. Then at other times it hasnt progressed quite the way I had planned. Not that that's all bad.

 

[SpideyVille]

Are they really your friends then if you generally don't want to hang out with them again?

Well in my case, I knew a group of people for a few years and we were basically bonded by a common interest. I mean we were lose like family, but at least for me, I've never really gotten close to people, so I consider people that I know and see a lot as my friends. But I cut ties with them all after I lost the interest that bonded us, and I plan on seeing them all again, but just not anytime soon, and part of that reason is because I don't want them to try and bring me back to where I used to be because right now, it's not what I want and i'm trying to distance myself from it as much as I can.

 

[WalkingDeadMike]

Well in my case, I knew a group of people for a few years and we were basically bonded by a common interest. I mean we were lose like family, but at least for me, I've never really gotten close to people, so I consider people that I know and see a lot as my friends. But I cut ties with them all after I lost the interest that bonded us, and I plan on seeing them all again, but just not anytime soon, and part of that reason is because I don't want them to try and bring me back to where I used to be because right now, it's not what I want and i'm trying to distance myself from it as much as I can.

I'm going to assume you're talking about drugs, forgive me if you're not. That I can understand. I smoke pot, but don't do anything else, at least not anymore. A lot of the friends I've had have moved on to harder ****, and I just cut them out of my life. Every once in a while I'll get an "I miss you text" and I'll say it back because I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I won't chill with them. But if they ever ask why we don't hang out anymore I tell them the truth. Some get offended, but some take it to heart and change their lives.