How important is a good engagement ring?

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A question for both genders. Guys, do you feel the need to go all out and spend thousands on an engagement ring to please the girl? Ladies, does the ring or amount spend actually increase how much love you feel for your man? do you care about size of the ring?
I don't think size is an issue, as long as it fits your finger, right? But my gf doesn't think so. The other day, I bought THE SPAM LINK HAS BEEN REMOVED for her.
Who knows, she said it not big enough. And she even implied the size is sort of matters.. If I don't get a good ring- then what does that say for the rest of the relationship or marriage... It predicts bad things! I'm so confused now. So, what's your opinion?


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[bullets]

I think that's way to cheap man. That's in the price range of a gift , not an engagement ring. Unless you don't have much money , then she should be more understanding.

 

[Lighthouse]

It really depends on the girl, but the more invested the girl is in the engagement ring, the more red flags that raises for me. Sure, you should put effort into choosing the right ring for her, because it's the effort that shows how much you love her. If she is disappointed because the ring isn't expensive enough, or because it's not the right size....I don't know, that raises some red flags for me.

 

[Rocketman]

I've made myself clear with my girlfriend. We've been together for over 4 and-a-half years now, and she understands the following things:

1. I do not want to get married anytime soon.

2. I do not believe that a ring will make my love for her "more official".

3. I do not believe that marriage symbolizes my feelings "more strongly" for her other than for financial reasons.

4. There's no way I could love her more than I already do. It's insane how much I adore her.

5. She is not getting an engagement ring anytime soon.

6. I am not getting married until everyone in America is allowed to get married. If same-sex couples who want to get married more than me do not have the right to do so, why is it fair for me to do it? That's not right, and it seems unfair and cruel. Until we can all do it, I won't do it.

7. This is a free country, and my girlfriend can wait patiently until the word FREE actually applies to everyone.

If any of these things is not consistently understood, she knows where the door is. She is not obligated to stay with me, and I'm not changing. I have trained myself to be a machine, where I will love her unconditionally and forever . . . as long as those 7 points remain understood.

Until then, we are the happiest, healthiest couple in the world.
I buy her flowers constantly, take her to dinner, buy her jewelry, take her to movies, and treat her like the amazing woman she is. She has absolutely nothing to complain about, and everything I do sincerely comes from the heart.

 

[Anubis]

Yeah, I considered getting a real doll too.

 

[Rocketman]

Nope, it's for real. I'm a lucky man.

 

[Tanin]

My wife's engagement/wedding ring is a plain thick silver ring with a dragon etched into it.
Cost was about $150

We are just geeks like that.

 

[bullets]

Nope, it's for real. I'm a lucky man.

She's an unlucky woman I guess.

 

[I'm Old Greg]

i know i want to be with a girl who doesn't care about shallow materialistic things like a diamond ring.
love comes with trust not price range.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

Aye, I am uncomfortable with such material importance being placed on nick nacks. Not everyone can enjoy an expensive engagement ring, but that does not mean the love is any lesser.
Take for instance the example of that woman in the news a few years ago, who lost all of her fingers in that factory accident, she's not gonna be able to wear an engagement ring is she? and I don't think society should pressure her into feeling she should have to wear one to validate her marriage, I mean, God forbid she feels so pressured that she ends up wearing one in her nose right? she is gonna have enough problems blowing it as it is.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

It totally depends on how much money you have.

If your rich, and you buy a cheap ring, then your being tight.

If your poor and you buy an expensive ring then your wasting money we could be using for the actual wedding.

Personally, I'd be happy with a ring in the £150 price range. But that's because 150 it feels like a lot of money to me for a piece of jewellrey at the moment. Who knows what I'd think if I had a well payed job!

Then again you could get one off the market, lie and tell me it's a real diamond and cost a bomb - and I'd only find out you were lying if someone else pointed it out. I know nothing about diamonds!

 

[Casius--J]

It totally depends on how much money you have.

If your rich, and you buy a cheap ring, then your being tight.

If your poor and you buy an expensive ring then your wasting money we could be using for the actual wedding.

Personally, I'd be happy with a ring in the £150 price range. But that's because 150 it feels like a lot of money to me for a piece of jewellrey at the moment. Who knows what I'd think if I had a well payed job!

Then again you could get one off the market, lie and tell me it's a real diamond and cost a bomb - and I'd only find out you were lying if someone else pointed it out. I know nothing about diamonds!

This is more or less what I was going to say. In my eyes its not the cost or the size of the ring that matters but the thought behind it.

I agree with Lighthouse if a woman is very invested in the cost or size of the ring this would raise some red flags to me. In the end the ring is just a symbol for the bigger picture.

 

[Pink Ranger]

My wife's engagement/wedding ring is a plain thick silver ring with a dragon etched into it.
Cost was about $150

We are just geeks like that.

Yeah, but it can cast Magic Missilex8, so it makes up for it.

 

[Erzengel]

I find it funny that most of you are responding to someone spamming.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

aye, i noticed links in the op, but y'know, that's happened before, a spammer started a thread about valentines day cards, and people just talked about it anyway because they wanted to. i guess there are rare occasions when spammers start more intersting threads than the actual posters.