How Would You Feel If...

[Machx72]

You found you wanted to date a girl in a wheelchair?

For some reason, this spurs Jeff Foxworthy's joke about guys not being able to go into Victoria's Secret without feeling like a child molestor.

I have zero problem dating a wheelchair-bound girl other than the fact that it would just feel like rape to me.

 

[Erzengel]

Is it the fact that I'm not from the South or is it that Foxworthy isn't funny that I don't get that joke?

 

[Machx72]

Is it the fact that I'm not from the South or is it that Foxworthy isn't funny that I don't get that joke?

I don't mean it as a joke.

There's a girl at my college that I've been thinking about asking out who's wheelchair bound... I was just making a comparison of the way that makes me feel to the statement Foxworthy made about men going into Victoria's Secret.

 

[jaguarr]

Is it the fact that I'm not from the South or is it that Foxworthy isn't funny that I don't get that joke?

Might be both of those things because I don't get it, either.

jag

 

[jaguarr]

If you like a girl, ask her out. Pretty well simple as that. You'll have to have some open dialogue at some point about her situation and how it could/might impact your relationship if things progress and it could mean some different challenges than what most couples face, but it's certainly not a bad thing. One of my best friends in college married a girl in a wheelchair and they have two beautiful kids and a wonderful life together.

jag

 

[Erzengel]

I don't mean it as a joke.

There's a girl at my college that I've been thinking about asking out who's wheelchair bound... I was just making a comparison of the way that makes me feel to the statement Foxworthy made about men going into Victoria's Secret.

A) If you like a girl just ask her out. Unless you have some sort of stigma against it.

B) So Foxworthy feels like a child molestor when he goes into Vickys? Because children shop there? I don't get it still.

 

[DV8]

don't let society tell you who to date dude . . . (or Jeff Foxworthy) simple as that

 

[Noir]

Ask her already.

 

[Sun_Down]

How the hell do you "find out you want to date someone"? Are you under some kind of mind control?

 

[Fran]

Are you going to let the host of "Are You Smarter Than A 5th Grader?" push you around?

 

[Noir]

I think he is worried about how he is going to get some Pussah!

 

[Machx72]

Lmao, guys, I'm not saying Jeff Foxworthy has control over my thoughts, I'm simply making a comparison.

I'm just saying I feel like I'd be taking advantage of the girl, because she's physically handicapped. I know I wouldn't actually be doing it, but I just wondered if anyone else would feel that way should they have decided to date a physically handicapped person. It's not that I'm bothered by what others would think of me... Hell, that was the last thing on my mind.

It was what I would think of me.

 

[Duende Verde]

Don't do it, Machx72!
Think about you're going to have to do all the work and she'll just be laying there...

If you know what I mean.

 

[Noir]

I only date Mentally Handicapped people.

 

[jaguarr]

I bet she'd really HATE to hear that attitude, too, man. Most people in wheelchairs just want to be treated like anyone else and be given a chance to show that they're capable of doing pretty much anything that anyone else can. Handicapped people do like to f**k too, same as anyone else, you know.

jag

 

[Erzengel]

Lmao, guys, I'm not saying Jeff Foxworthy has control over my thoughts, I'm simply making a comparison.

I'm just saying I feel like I'd be taking advantage of the girl, because she's physically handicapped. I know I wouldn't actually be doing it, but I just wondered if anyone else would feel that way should they have decided to date a physically handicapped person. It's not that I'm bothered by what others would think of me... Hell, that was the last thing on my mind.

It was what I would think of me.

Physically handicapped doesn't mean she's an idiot.

She's just in a wheelchair.

There is no difference than that.

 

[DV8]

^I think that in a lot of ways, we're predisposed to opinions of things such as this based on the status quo . . . . even though physically handicapped people are just as able in most ways as regular folk, there is this mental barrier which makes us feel that they are more vulnerable in some way . . . . just do what makes you happy dude . . . once you've come to terms with this yourself, that is . . .

 

[Fran]

Physically handicapped people need love too, Machx72.

 

[Cmill216]

I honestly don't know what the Foxworthy joke has to do with your dilemma, but if you have feelings for this girl and you want to pursue them, then I don't see why you would even hesitate. You obviously like the girl despite the wheelchair, so what's the point now?

And if I found myself truly desiring a woman in a wheelchair, then why would I stop and think "But, wait, she's in a wheelchair." I obviously like her anyway, so what's wrong with dating her?

So how would I feel about dating a girl I liked? I'd feel...great.

 

[Fran]

It's not like physically handicapped people are mentally challenged, Machx.

 

[Noir]

When i doubt, qoute Rednecks.

 

[Machx72]

Don't do it, Machx72!
Think about you're going to have to do all the work and she'll just be laying there...

If you know what I mean.

Lmao... Verde's got the point .

Not really. But yeah, it's not like I'm thinking this way purposefully. I'd treat her as if she weren't wheelchair bound, obviously [except for offering to push her around ], and the fact that she's disabled wouldn't have any hinderance on my feelings...

It's just like I said, an odd nagging feeling that kinda sits there in the back of my mind, against my will. DV8 kinda nailed what I meant... That "nagging feeling" is just like someone telling me I'm a bigger, stronger person taking advantage of the weaker- although I know she's not weak for simply being wheelchair bound.

 

[Erzengel]

I think that nagging feeling is just you trying to rationalize your prejudice.

 

[Machx72]

Lmao... I'm not prejudice.

It's not like I'm saying, "I can never date her! She's crippled! That's gross!"

I'm just saying that I'd have this nagging feeling as if I'd be taking advantage of her, like I was saying. Not that I seriously feel this way, but the notion of that thought sticking in the back of my mind is what draws question for me.

 

[Fran]

She won't feel that way if she's into it as well, Machx.

Unless you have duct tape over her mouth or something.