How would you handle this?

[Silverstein]

If someone made a joke about the death of someone you deeply cared for that passed away, how would you react?

Would your reaction be different if it was in front of people in a light hearted setting, and maybe the person was just a fool and it could be ignored?

Would physically harming them be inappropriate?

What would you do with your absurd amounts of anger if you chose not to harm them, because it was at a party?

 

[Hobgoblin]

A co-worker made a joke about my mother and I told him she was dead. (Yes, she's actually dead.) He fell all over apologizing.


It was awesome.

 

[Gilpesh]

Was the joke funny?

 

[VenomVsSpidey]

well, i dont / didnt deeply, like ZOMG! care for heath ledger, but it still pissed me off with those nicholson jokes about his death

 

[CBGB]

I think, if they make a joke about a dead family member without knowing, and then you say that they are in fact dead, THEN don't even have the decency to apologize, then I would be VERY pissed off. If they were deeply, deeply, sorry I wouldn't make a fuss about it.

If something like that happened at a party, I would just say a good "**** you". But make it a tad loud so when I storm off, some people stare at that person.

 

[Eggyman]

If someone made a joke about the death of someone you deeply cared for that passed away, how would you react?

The more insensitive the joke, the more fire I would spit: Depends on the joke.

Would your reaction be different if it was in front of people in a light hearted setting, and maybe the person was just a fool and it could be ignored?

No. What I say in front of one, I would say in front of a crowd.

Would physically harming them be inappropriate?

I don't believe physically harming someone is ever appropriate.

What would you do with your absurd amounts of anger if you chose not to harm them, because it was at a party?

N/A

 

[SuperFerret]

It depends on the joke. If you're going to make a joke about a sensitive subject, regardless of what it is, it'd better be a good joke.

 

[litlgreendude]

depends on the context i guess. And how close i was to the person.
Some people use jokes t ope with deth, others re jst *****

 

[X-Chick]

Depends on a lot of things. For one, who it was they were talking about. Second, what exactly they said and lastly, who it was that said it.

For example, if someone I already disliked said something insulting about my dead father, yeah I'd be pretty pissed. Maybe enough to punch them right in the face.

However, if someone I hardly knew made a joke, not knowing said person was dead, I'd let it go.

 

[Majic Walrus]

Does it offend you? Is this person a friend?

If it offends you tell them as much. If they're not a friend... what did you expect?

Physically harming someone for pissing you off is never appropriate. Just get over it.

 

[Hotwire]

I had a very close friend in high school who died of cancer during his senior year. I was in a pretty sad state for quite a while. If someone had made a joke about him, I would have went ballistic no matter where I was or who was around. Would probably be the same today.

 

[Scissors]

I hit someone in the face when they made a joke about my dad.

 

[Majic Walrus]

Why so angry? The dead don't care about jokes and someone who makes jokes about dead people probably don't care about your feelings. Does punching someone make you feel better?

 

[Silverstein]

Yes. I spoke to the person who did it, and they gave that half assed apology. You know the one; They basically explain themselves and what they were trying to do, but never actually say "I'm truly and deeply sorry for offending and being an ass"..

I'm still rather pissed about it.

 

[Scissors]

Why so angry? The dead don't care about jokes and someone who makes jokes about dead people probably don't care about your feelings. Does punching someone make you feel better?

Yes, as he was at his funeral.

 

[Majic Walrus]

Yes, as he was at his funeral.

So punching someone at a funeral made you feel better. How did everyone else at the funeral feel? Maybe that was simply the person's way of mourning.

 

[Metamorpho1977]

I think for me it would depend on who died. I lost a really good friend last week, had the funeral yesterday. He was mentally ******ed. I don't mean that in an insulting way. He was 40, but had the mental capacity of a 7 year old. I knew the guy my whole life and if there is a Heaven, and I believe there is, then there is no doubt in my mind at all that he's there. He was just a really good guy. If someone had said something insulting about him, I may have been pushed to violence.

 

[Scissors]

So punching someone at a funeral made you feel better. How did everyone else at the funeral feel? Maybe that was simply the person's way of mourning.

How would you react if he claims it's your fault your father died and after that he makes a joke about it?

 

[TheFuture]

If someone made a joke about the death of someone you deeply cared for that passed away, how would you react?

If they made a joke knowing that said family member was dead? I would be confrontational. If it was a mean joke then I would definitely lose it and let loose a verbal tirade. However if it was a joke that looked back on my family member fondly I would go along with it.

Would your reaction be different if it was in front of people in a light hearted setting, and maybe the person was just a fool and it could be ignored?

Being a "fool" is not an excuse, that's basically giving someone a licence to say whatever they wanted without repercussions just because they were a "fool to be ignored."

And no, I wouldn't hold back even in a room full of people.

Would physically harming them be inappropriate?

I would not harm them, I think by resorting to physical violence you are basically coming out of the spat looking like the bad guy.

What would you do with your absurd amounts of anger if you chose not to harm them, because it was at a party?

I think by getting it off my chest and letting them have it verbally I will have released most of my rage.

 

[Majic Walrus]

How would you react if he claims it's your fault your father died and after that he makes a joke about it?

It'd hurt my feelings. I'd call him out for it. I wouldn't do anything to make the funeral worse or to hurt someone.

 

[Scissors]

It'd hurt my feelings. I'd call him out for it. I wouldn't do anything to make the funeral worse or to hurt someone.

It wasn't really at the funeral itself, just outside the church.

My dad had cancer for over a year and I've been taking this crap from this guy for a few months but that he came to the funeral to make jokes was over it for me.

I wasn't planning on punching him, but I couldn't hold myself anymore.

 

[Majic Walrus]

It wasn't really at the funeral itself, just outside the church.

My dad had cancer for over a year and I've been taking this crap from this guy for a few months but that he came to the funeral to make jokes was over it for me.

I wasn't planning on punching him, but I couldn't hold myself anymore.

I dig. Usually in those situations no one makes a big analysis on what is the best action to do. We just act. In hindsight I might have done the same thing given your situation.

 

[Scissors]

I dig. Usually in those situations no one makes a big analysis on what is the best action to do. We just act. In hindsight I might have done the same thing given your situation.

I realize that what I did was wrong, though. But at the moment it felt damn good.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Was the joke funny?

I dont remember the joke but it probably wasnt funny. He wasnt a funny guy.

 

[katie_girl09]

If someone made a joke about the death of someone you deeply cared for that passed away, how would you react?

Would your reaction be different if it was in front of people in a light hearted setting, and maybe the person was just a fool and it could be ignored?

Would physically harming them be inappropriate?

What would you do with your absurd amounts of anger if you chose not to harm them, because it was at a party?

If it was malicious, just tell them that they are an idiot and move on. Adults use words, not fists.