I need help from more experienced people than me (older)

[Secret_Riddle]

And by older i just mean someone who has had some dealings with relationships.

Last year, me and this girl were going out but she thought i like another girl that i was just friends with. Thus we broke up but she liked me all year until about october when we began to get close again.

Talking on the phone for 2 hours at a time yada yada, you know the drill. 2 weeks ago it all went wrong though.

She started being very short with me saying that she was uncomfortable doing stuff with me when we werent going out, i totally understood so i planned to ask her out but she started to be sort of distant with me, and finally i got it out of her that she was afraid i would hurt her again. when i promised i wouldnt (and i wouldnt dream of it) she said that i couldnt promise that and i couldnt make a guarantee. i told her that she was focusing on the wrong things and she said it would be un realistic not to worry. She also has a fear of appearing vulnerable (shes one of those confident, outgoing types so its understandable). I tried to find out why she was so afraid but she said she didnt feel like crying so she didnt wana talk about it. (i later found out it was because her friend died when she was younger and shes afraid to get close to people). We didnt talk for a few days, and then suddenly she didnt want a relationship and just wanted to be friends, because she wants to focus more on her part time job as well as some other stuff..her friends say shes been distant with them too (a.k.a shes shutting everyone out). She says she still likes me though, and her friends say she does and shes upset.

What should I do? Because i have no idea, shes been acting strange at school and stuff, and i want to help her and i dont want to lose her.

Any help would be appreciated.

 

[jimmy]

*Than.

 

[Secret_Riddle]

Thanks ill correct that, but im serious about this.

 

[The Amazing Lee]

Oh jesus. Can't we have a change in thread subject.

I'd rather see...

My girlfriend was impaled by a spike whilst having sex with my ex-girlfriend who was riding a motorcycle backwards at the time whilst her half goat, half brother was eating chocolate cake on her back.

JeeZUZ!.

 

[jimmy]

Read, TW's thread about telling a girl that he was bi.

That thread contains everything you DON'T want to do.

 

[Secret_Riddle]

CMON man, I know all the threads are similar but i need help here. HELP YOUR FELLOW HYPSTER>

 

[jimmy]

Wait for TW to chime in. He's got mad game, yo!

 

[mightiest_mortal]

Women
Theyre not meant to make sense or act at all rationally.

No offense dude, but if you want REAL advice from someone who has experience with these things, I'd say that considering she ACTUALLY broke up with you and STILL moans about how much you hurt her... because you once happened to just know another girl that wasn't her.... you REALLY don't want to be going out with this girl.
The whole situation has "Posessive Jealous Psycho" written all over it.
my advice to you is.. "Run awaaaaaaay!!! Run Awaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay"

 

[winky]

Sounds like typical woman playing typical women's games. I don't really see what your problem is.

 

[Secret_Riddle]

Edit

 

[Hotwire]

And by older i just mean someone who has had some dealings with relationships.

Last year, me and this girl were going out but she thought i like another girl that i was just friends with. Thus we broke up but she liked me all year until about october when we began to get close again.

Talking on the phone for 2 hours at a time yada yada, you know the drill. 2 weeks ago it all went wrong though.

She started being very short with me saying that she was uncomfortable doing stuff with me when we werent going out, i totally understood so i planned to ask her out but she started to be sort of distant with me, and finally i got it out of her that she was afraid i would hurt her again. when i promised i wouldnt (and i wouldnt dream of it) she said that i couldnt promise that and i couldnt make a guarantee. i told her that she was focusing on the wrong things and she said it would be un realistic not to worry. She also has a fear of appearing vulnerable (shes one of those confident, outgoing types so its understandable). I tried to find out why she was so afraid but she said she didnt feel like crying so she didnt wana talk about it. (i later found out it was because her friend died when she was younger and shes afraid to get close to people). We didnt talk for a few days, and then suddenly she didnt want a relationship and just wanted to be friends, because she wants to focus more on her part time job as well as some other stuff..her friends say shes been distant with them too (a.k.a shes shutting everyone out). She says she still likes me though, and her friends say she does and shes upset.

What should I do? Because i have no idea, shes been acting strange at school and stuff, and i want to help her and i dont want to lose her.

Any help would be appreciated.

I've never understood why women play games like this. Cut your losses and find one that is upfront and honest and doesn't play the stupid childish games.

By the way, how old are the two of you??

 

[winky]

All women play the same games (most of them anyway). You won't do any better looking for another girl. What you got to do is just get them to stop the nonsense, and be straight with you.

 

[mightiest_mortal]

Cut your losses and find one that is upfront and honest and doesn't play the stupid childish games.

ROFLMAO
Whilst your at it you can find Bigfoot too

 

[Hotwire]

17, and i really like her, thats why i havent cut loose already.

This explains a LOT.

List 10 things about her that make her worth keeping.

 

[Sarge 2.0]

Oh jesus. Can't we have a change in thread subject.

I'd rather see...

My girlfriend was impaled by a spike whilst having sex with my ex-girlfriend who was riding a motorcycle backwards at the time whilst her half goat, half brother was eating chocolate cake on her back.

JeeZUZ!.

That sounds like a Wilhelm story.

 

[Secret_Riddle]

kk ill try, give me a few minutes

 

[PhotoJones]

And by older i just mean someone who has had some dealings with relationships.

Last year, me and this girl were going out but she thought i like another girl that i was just friends with. Thus we broke up but she liked me all year until about october when we began to get close again.

Talking on the phone for 2 hours at a time yada yada, you know the drill. 2 weeks ago it all went wrong though.

She started being very short with me saying that she was uncomfortable doing stuff with me when we werent going out, i totally understood so i planned to ask her out but she started to be sort of distant with me, and finally i got it out of her that she was afraid i would hurt her again. when i promised i wouldnt (and i wouldnt dream of it) she said that i couldnt promise that and i couldnt make a guarantee. i told her that she was focusing on the wrong things and she said it would be un realistic not to worry. She also has a fear of appearing vulnerable (shes one of those confident, outgoing types so its understandable). I tried to find out why she was so afraid but she said she didnt feel like crying so she didnt wana talk about it. (i later found out it was because her friend died when she was younger and shes afraid to get close to people). We didnt talk for a few days, and then suddenly she didnt want a relationship and just wanted to be friends, because she wants to focus more on her part time job as well as some other stuff..her friends say shes been distant with them too (a.k.a shes shutting everyone out). She says she still likes me though, and her friends say she does and shes upset.

What should I do? Because i have no idea, shes been acting strange at school and stuff, and i want to help her and i dont want to lose her.

Any help would be appreciated.

what you should do is just be her friend. if she's shutting out the people around her, it sounds like she's going through something.

if you really like this girl, you should worry less about a potential relationship, and more on what's bothering her.

if she sees that you're truely, genuinely interested in her well being, she'll come around sooner than you think.

good luck.

 

[mightiest_mortal]

what you should do is just be her friend. if she's shutting out the people around her, it sounds like she's going through something.

if you really like this girl, you should worry less about a potential relationship, and more on what's bothering her.

if she sees that you're truely, genuinely interested in her well being, she'll come around sooner than you think.

good luck.

I don't know... in my experience Girls don't really go for guys that are genuine or who actually look out for them. You're liable to slip into the friend zone ppretty quick. You'd do much better just getting a girlfriend, then she'l be a lot more intrested in you.

Though Im still not sure I should be offering any advice, as shes clearly the mad possesive type that will only drive you mad. remember...


"Its better to have loved and lost than to live with the psycho for the rest of your life"

 

[PhotoJones]

I don't know... in my experience Girls don't really go for guys that are genuine or who actually look out for them. You're liable to slip into the friend zone ppretty quick. You'd do much better just getting a girlfriend, then she'l be a lot more intrested in you.

Though Im still not sure I should be offering any advice, as shes clearly the mad possesive type that will only drive you mad. remember...

"Its better to have loved and lost than to live with the psycho for the rest of your life"

that would be true if the chick didn't already know he was interested in her, and vice versa. she's just going through something and could probably use an open ear.

 

[Machx72]

Read, TW's thread about telling a girl that he was bi.

That thread contains everything you DON'T want to do.

Lmao, I love how his thread has become part of the SHH Lore all of a sudden.

Damned bisexuals... *Shakes head in shame*...

 

[Lord Valumart]

Oh jesus. Can't we have a change in thread subject.

I'd rather see...

My girlfriend was impaled by a spike whilst having sex with my ex-girlfriend who was riding a motorcycle backwards at the time whilst her half goat, half brother was eating chocolate cake on her back.

JeeZUZ!.

i'd pay to see that.....

 

[SentinelMind]

what you should do is just be her friend. if she's shutting out the people around her, it sounds like she's going through something.

if you really like this girl, you should worry less about a potential relationship, and more on what's bothering her.

if she sees that you're truely, genuinely interested in her well being, she'll come around sooner than you think.

good luck.

Pretty good advice. To the OP, you have to be willing to be her friend and not try to "get with her". That involves not having high, unrealistic expectations about a great future relationship.

I want to also add, there are million fish in the sea and you shouldn't really get wrapped up over one girl. I have had experiences around your age and even a little older of girls playing this stupid game, being overly melodramatic, not communicating, etc..etc....I would recommend being her friend but still keeping your door open to others. It's not really worth it to waste your time and energy scratching your head over other girl's melodrama. Some girls are just selfish and want attention and like creating a rift for self-gratification....and just frankly they are not worth the frustration. Five years from now you're going to look at all this and laugh.

So I say, be a friend, but if she locks you out, don't intrude or "Be her savior"...let her figure things out for herself.

 

[Secret_Riddle]

Thanks guys, really do appreciate it.

 

[mightiest_mortal]

I want to also add, there are million fish in the sea

Did NOONE pay attention to Happy Feet?

 

[Lord Valumart]

Did NOONE pay attention to Happy Feet?

did bruce willis die in that one