I'm in a world of hurt right now.

[Knightsaber Priss]

I have to be scathingly honest here about my private life. I consciously hate dragging strangers into things but I really need to vent. Seriously, one of my siblings is angering me at the moment. Basically, she is an alcoholic who is in complete and utter denial. This would not faze me at all if she was still single because her stupidity would be her fault alone. But what really makes me incensed is the fact shge has a 12 year old daughter. In a nutshell, my sister likes to pawn this poor girl off to people whenever she doesn't have to work to spend time with one of her drinking buddies instead of her own child. This has been going on for years I tell you, but if you say something she doesn't want to hear, you are the villain in her eyes. Take for instance yesterday...my nephew (Whom I am watching for my parents who are away on a formal trip and needed him to be watched overnight. A totally understandable predicament since where they were going would not allow for the amusements of young children. Had nothing to do with bar hopping and getting trashed.) answered the phone and it was....her. I guess because she had plans with the enabler she thought I would babysit. Well, she thought wrong and snapped at my 9 going on 10 year old nephew yelling at him over the phone that she had plans with the enabler. He gave me the phone and I told her that I would it be babysitting my niece because her situation was not one of life and death. She then accuses me of neglecting my niece, blah, blah, blah, blah, in an effort to make me feel like trash. What she's really succeeded in doing is making me even more enraged at her because instead of wasting her money slowly poisoning herself, she should be going out and doing things with her child. I didn't tell her this but I will via her MySoace page. Isn't it awful that this is how I have to communicate with her? My young nephew shows more maturity than my own 33 year old sister. What infuriates me alot more is the fact my niece seems like just a prop to her. She claimed her daughter's always telling her she's bored, and this is another thing I should be telling her and most likely will, but my sister should be taking my niece for walks or outdoor activities before the bad weather starts to hit hard here. I honestly can't stand what my sister puts my niece through, but on the other hand I will not contribute to the ease of her going out to get totally smashed when she has a needy daughter to take care of. Overall this familt turmoil has been unbalancing all the harmony inside of me because it seems like my words fall on deaf ears. Doesn't my sister realize all of the things she's missing out on by drinking away her life!? Well, I'm off to send that message to my sister's MySpace page inbox now.

 

[black_dust]

I have to be scathingly honest here about my private life. I consciously hate dragging strangers into things but I really need to vent. Seriously, one of my siblings is angering me at the moment. Basically, she is an alcoholic who is in complete and utter denial. This would not faze me at all if she was still single because her stupidity would be her fault alone. But what really makes me incensed is the fact shge has a 12 year old daughter. In a nutshell, my sister likes to pawn this poor girl off to people whenever she doesn't have to work to spend time with one of her drinking buddies instead of her own child. This has been going on for years I tell you, but if you say something she doesn't want to hear, you are the villain in her eyes. Take for instance yesterday...my nephew (Whom I am watching for my parents who are away on a formal trip and needed him to be watched overnight. A totally understandable predicament since where they were going would not allow for the amusements of young children. Had nothing to do with bar hopping and getting trashed.) answered the phone and it was....her. I guess because she had plans with the enabler she thought I would babysit. Well, she thought wrong and snapped at my 9 going on 10 year old nephew yelling at him over the phone that she had plans with the enabler. He gave me the phone and I told her that I would it be babysitting my niece because her situation was not one of life and death. She then accuses me of neglecting my niece, blah, blah, blah, blah, in an effort to make me feel like trash. What she's really succeeded in doing is making me even more enraged at her because instead of wasting her money slowly poisoning herself, she should be going out and doing things with her child. I didn't tell her this but I will via her MySoace page. Isn't it awful that this is how I have to communicate with her? My young nephew shows more maturity than my own 33 year old sister. What infuriates me alot more is the fact my niece seems like just a prop to her. She claimed her daughter's always telling her she's bored, and this is another thing I should be telling her and most likely will, but my sister should be taking my niece for walks or outdoor activities before the bad weather starts to hit hard here. I honestly can't stand what my sister puts my niece through, but on the other hand I will not contribute to the ease of her going out to get totally smashed when she has a needy daughter to take care of. Overall this familt turmoil has been unbalancing all the harmony inside of me because it seems like my words fall on deaf ears. Doesn't my sister realize all of the things she's missing out on by drinking away her life!? Well, I'm off to send that message to my sister's MySpace page inbox now.

Thats pretty sad, and kinda awful that you can only get a point across to her via myspace

Thing is all this her mother is doing will have an effect on her daughter and sometimes not for the better

 

[Knightsaber Priss]

Thats pretty sad, and kinda awful that you can only get a point across to her via myspace

Thing is all this her mother is doing will have an effect on her daughter and sometimes not for the better

Thanks alot for the support. It really means alot to me. But My Space is the only way I can get my point across without her having a temper fit and walking away in a huff. It just kills me she hasn't learned from my dad's past mistakes. I'd give anything to be able to go back and as a child have been able to spend more quality time with him, but alcoholism basically destroyed our lives and my sister can't see that.

 

[tzarinna]

Maybe try inviting your sister and your niece to go to the park with you, something a little round about not so direct. Offer up stories that reflect her situation without being all indignant. No one likes to her they're a **** up. She clearly had a child way too young. Nagging will not help, she's going to get even more defensive and possibly shut you and others out all together.

 

[Majic Walrus]

You lost me at scathingly honest...

But seriously. It's obvious you've got a problem going on and I wish you the best of luck. I'm the last person to give advice so I won't, but best of luck.

 

[Zephyr Alexian]

Can you think of another individual who is close to your sister? Someone who she will open up to? Sometimes, immediate family members do not like opening up to other immediate family members.

 

[StrainedEyes]

I don't understand how that puts you in a "world of hurt"?

 

[Alex The Great]

I feel your pain, i've met people like this,hell, a 16 year old in my school is pregnant. And i've seen her lugging a can of beer around. I want to put my foot up her ass. But that would harm the baby .


My advice is get a therapist for her and maybe the police. Get that 12 year old the **** away from her. But it's a shame really. this will scar the child. if she was a baby it would be ok vause she won't remember a thing. But at 12 years old it is tough. I wish you luck and everything.

 

[Tyrinus]

Call Social Services, maybe a visit from them will knock the point across.