"Let Your Soul-Glo": The Experience Returns

[Casius--J]

There's a difference between "liking who you like" and specifically avoiding people of your own "race", though.

I know but I dont think anyone has said that they avoid their own race rather that they tend to date outside of it. Nothing wrong with that really.

I'm doing it myself. I'm black living in spain so not too many of us around here
and right now I'm seeing two girls...thats right i said TWO

One cuban the other a half puerto rican half columbian. So yeah way outside of my english Jamaican race hahaha.

 

[T'Jai]

My only issue with interracial dating comes from a personal standpoint. I just feel as a somewhat successful Black man I run the risk of sending a message to my younger female cousins and nieces that they aren't good enough for a brutha that's doing well...

 

[RockSP]

True but that I don't do.

I know but I dont think anyone has said that they avoid their own race rather that they tend to date outside of it. Nothing wrong with that really.

I wasn't talking about anyone in particular...especially since I don't know any of you for real. It is something I've seen and heard before, though. On numerous occasions.

I knew a puerto rican girl in high school who only dated black guys. "Even if they are ugly I find something cute about them" were words that actually came out of her mouth.

 

[Darthphere]

I wasn't talking about anyone in particular...especially since I don't know any of you for real. It is something I've seen and heard before, though. On numerous occasions.

I knew a puerto rican girl in high school who only dated black guys. "Even if they are ugly I find something cute about them" were words that actually came out of her mouth.

Well there's a reason why Puerto Ricans are the butt of so many dumb puerto rican jokes.

 

[Casius--J]

I wasn't talking about anyone in particular...especially since I don't know any of you for real. It is something I've seen and heard before, though. On numerous occasions.

I knew a puerto rican girl in high school who only dated black guys. "Even if they are ugly I find something cute about them" were words that actually came out of her mouth.

WOW now that is just errr well the face you put expresses the right feelings.

And yeah even a cousin of mine says dumb things like I wont date a black man because statistically speaking black relationships dont last and blah blah blahhh.

I'm like errr my dad is still around, so are your uncles and your dad so what do you mean? But sometimes there's no getting through to some peoples thick heads.

and T'jai you do make a good point but still you just gotta do you sometimes.

 

[Manic]

My brother is about 6 years older than me, so he started dating way before I did. I witnessed my mom flipping the hell out every time he brought home a white or Hispanic girl. At that point, I decided never to bring home any non-black girl I ever dated. Incidentally, I've never dated a black girl. It's not because I'm not into the sisters, but I just happen to live in an area with huge Mexican and Asian populations.

 

[Ion Kenshin]

I will never understand that. We tell kids to accept all people and races but god forbid you date someone who is not one of you own. It's asinine.

 

[terry78]

Whenever someone starts dating a certain race exclusively, it's not just about them liking them....there is some stereotypical thing going on in their mind that they feel makes them better, aside from just looks. I've been out with mostly hispanic and black girls from junior high on up, but only went out with my first asian chick in like 2001. Never hit the white girls, though.

 

[T'Jai]

and T'jai you do make a good point but still you just gotta do you sometimes.

Doin' me right now
but then how many cute curvy chicks do you meet that are into everything you are... movies, comics, food, Martial Arts...

it's actually kind of scary...

 

[PyroChamber]

I've always heard some people say that their parents are okay with them dating someone of another race, as long as they weren't black; which I really don't get.

Me personally I've always been attracted to women were latin or white, mainly because they were the women I saw around me a lot; I always hear a black woman talk down on a black guy who dates outside their race.

I mean, why don't many black women do it?

 

[Casius--J]

Doin' me right now
but then how many cute curvy chicks do you meet that are into everything you are... movies, comics, food, Martial Arts...

it's actually kind of scary...

It is rare to find someone into all those things but then if thats too hard then you find somebody who's easy going and wont think you're stupid for liking these things. Urgh I've been with a girl like that, total nightmare!

And as for the curves, plenty of girls like that in the latin community

 

[Erzengel]

My only issue with interracial dating comes from a personal standpoint. I just feel as a somewhat successful Black man I run the risk of sending a message to my younger female cousins and nieces that they aren't good enough for a brutha that's doing well...

So teaching them that it's better to be true to themselves isn't as important as a superficial identity?

 

[T'Jai]

It is rare to find someone into all those things but then if thats too hard then you find somebody who's easy going and wont think you're stupid for liking these things. Urgh I've been with a girl like that, total nightmare!

And as for the curves, plenty of girls like that in the latin community

Why yes sir there are, the young lady in question however happens to be Caucasian

So teaching them that it's better to be true to themselves isn't as important as a superficial identity?

Not at all what I'm saying, You can tell someone anything you want to and attempt to teach them what you think is best, but if your actions contradict your words then that is what they will see.

I can tell them they are beautiful intelligent women and I can mean it.

But if they never see me with anyone like them how intelligent and beautiful can I really think they are?

It's a question of perception which is most important when trying to make a point...

 

[Erzengel]

Not at all what I'm saying, You can tell someone anything you want to and attempt to teach them what you think is best, but if your actions contradict your words then that is what they will see.

I can tell them they are beautiful intelligent women and I can mean it.

But if they never see me with anyone like them how intelligent and beautiful can I really think they are?

It's a question of perception which is most important when trying to make a point...

Oh I understand about practicing what you preach, however it sounds a little overdramatic to me personally.

I know where you are coming from this. A lot of black women get perturbed when they see black men with any other ethnicity other them their own. Like who one dates is a reflection on them as a person.

I don't see how who you date should have any impact on their self esteem or self worth.

I'm mostly Asian, with an Asian niece and I'm with someone who's black and white. I don't think my niece will ever be confused by my dating choices.

 

[E-Man]

My only issue with interracial dating comes from a personal standpoint. I just feel as a somewhat successful Black man I run the risk of sending a message to my younger female cousins and nieces that they aren't good enough for a brutha that's doing well...

Personally I think it sends a better message that you should date who you want instead of limiting yourself. I can't see how someone can get the idea that they're not "good enough" for someone because of who they date. I've seen some really successful black chicks dating nothing but white guys, and I just give it a "meh." They don't represent the entire spectrum for me, so I don't take it too personal. Besides, black women are the biggest hypocrites when it comes to interracial dating. They'll raise hell if a black guy dates a white woman, yet if a black girl does it they pull that "she's just doing what's best for her" crap. I know this because I threaten dating a white woman all the time.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Well there's a reason why Puerto Ricans are the butt of so many dumb puerto rican jokes.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

My brother is about 6 years older than me, so he started dating way before I did. I witnessed my mom flipping the hell out every time he brought home a white or Hispanic girl. At that point, I decided never to bring home any non-black girl I ever dated. Incidentally, I've never dated a black girl. It's not because I'm not into the sisters, but I just happen to live in an area with huge Mexican and Asian populations.

My parents flipped a table when I told them. Old hispanic couples, can't change them for nothing.

That's crazy to me. Back when I was living in the Bronx, black and Spanish people dated each other like crazy and everybody was cool w/ it. All the old Hispanic parents were quite welcoming and nice

 

[Erzengel]

You should date a nice white girl Spoons.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

My parents would kill me

 

[AndThePickles]

My only issue with interracial dating comes from a personal standpoint. I just feel as a somewhat successful Black man I run the risk of sending a message to my younger female cousins and nieces that they aren't good enough for a brutha that's doing well...

Sorry, but that just seems absurd to me. By doing that, aren't you just enforcing the stereotype by tip-toeing around interracial dating? How will the younger generation learn that regardless of success level, a person should date whoever they want?

 

[T'Jai]

Oh I understand about practicing what you preach, however it sounds a little overdramatic to me personally.

I know where you are coming from this. A lot of black women get perturbed when they see black men with any other ethnicity other them their own. Like who one dates is a reflection on them as a person.

I don't see how who you date should have any impact on their self esteem or self worth.

I'm mostly Asian, with an Asian niece and I'm with someone who's black and white. I don't think my niece will ever be confused by my dating choices.

Well I grew up in the eighties, I'm in entertainment and my last name is Poitier. Back when I was growing up every successful Black Man was dating a white woman and so it was a topic around the house because I already had aspirations of entertainment. It's more of an issue because of the fact that I am rapidly approaching the public eye and though it is common place it still has an effect on those who look up to you.

Personally I think it sends a better message that you should date who you want instead of limiting yourself. I can't see how someone can get the idea that they're not "good enough" for someone because of who they date. I've seen some really successful black chicks dating nothing but white guys, and I just give it a "meh." They don't represent the entire spectrum for me, so I don't take it too personal. Besides, black women are the biggest hypocrites when it comes to interracial dating. They'll raise hell if a black guy dates a white woman, yet if a black girl does it they pull that "she's just doing what's best for her" crap. I know this because I threaten dating a white woman all the time.

minus the public persona situation I completely agree, just look at the effect Michelle is having on the population in general, when you are in the public eye it is something to consider

Sorry, but that just seems absurd to me. By doing that, aren't you just enforcing the stereotype by tip-toeing around interracial dating? How will the younger generation learn that regardless of success level, a person should date whoever they want?

didn't say it makes sense Racism never does regardless of it's origins or "subjective reasoning". Yes and no once again I am coming from the platform of being a public figure. They already know that, I'm concerned about young ladies in my close circle thinking they have limits based off of their experience with me...

once again I have just entered an interracial relationship with a white girl, this is the first time I haven't cared about how others look at who I'm with and I don't know if I'm growing out of the attitude or if she is just "that girl" should be interesting to see how it develops I have already communicated my silliness to her and she is working through it with me...

 

[Erzengel]

Well I grew up in the eighties, I'm in entertainment and my last name is Poitier. Back when I was growing up every successful Black Man was dating a white woman and so it was a topic around the house because I already had aspirations of entertainment. It's more of an issue because of the fact that I am rapidly approaching the public eye and though it is common place it still has an effect on those who look up to you.

So you feel that you have to set an example?

Because then you are teaching your nieces and cousins that they should only date black men?

 

[T'Jai]

So you feel that you have to set an example?

Because then you are teaching your nieces and cousins that they should only date black men?

Yes, that is one way of looking at it one could also say that then I am showing them that successful men are interested in girls that look like them...

I realize it's a tricky issue and the only win is to be yourself and do what you believe in I am just aware that this is a concern of the elder generation and has affected my outlook when it comes to potential relationships...

 

[Erzengel]

You're welcome to your opinion but it just seems like you are forcing a tired and honestly prejudiced viewpoint on the next generation.

 

[T'Jai]

Only if they know about it. If it's never discussed, if it's just what I do it doesn't matter what my motivation is...

Looking at race in america from the viewpoint of someone who completely disagrees with and doesn't like the aspects of his own culture that are highlighted, and on my way to becoming a public figure... I've got some quirks

I'm aware of them.

It is not my intention to talk about why I am the way I am to them,. but just to be who I am and offer an alternative look at a successful male that is where they are from...