Marriage question

[Dick's Head]

Yo Hype, long time no see. How've you been?

So, I've been married now for over a year, and have been with her for over 2. My longest (and obviously best) relationship (I'm 28). I've absolutely never strayed from her since we've been together. Period. Never made physical contact with any another girl and I've rarely even been flirty.

I love my wife, I have no doubts about that. The way I look at it, I traded having several meaningless girls who I don't care if I see again for having one great girl who I truly enjoy having around.

My question is: does it get any easier to not want to still have those several meaningless girls?

 

[redmarvel]

As long as your libido is active, the desire is always there. Often I will look at a handsome man and wonder what it would be like. When this happens I think of all the things I would lose were I to let temptation sway me. (You may say to yourself, "my partner would never know" but you yourself would know and it would colour your entire relationship from that point forward. Eventually your partner would feel the difference and you would probably lose them and everything you have built together)

As you get older, your libido will become less active. However, I believe that it never disappears entirely (otherwise how would you explain those 70/80 year old men that marry 20 year old women).

 

[War Lord]

Yo Hype, long time no see. How've you been?

So, I've been married now for over a year, and have been with her for over 2. My longest (and obviously best) relationship (I'm 28). I've absolutely never strayed from her since we've been together. Period. Never made physical contact with any another girl and I've rarely even been flirty.

I love my wife, I have no doubts about that. The way I look at it, I traded having several meaningless girls who I don't care if I see again for having one great girl who I truly enjoy having around.

My question is: does it get any easier to not want to still have those several meaningless girls?

The more you resist your impulses, the easier it is to control your desire and behaviour.

 

[War Lord]

As long as your libido is active, the desire is always there. Often I will look at a handsome man and wonder what it would be like. When this happens I think of all the things I would lose were I to let temptation sway me. (You may say to yourself, "my partner would never know" but you yourself would know and it would colour your entire relationship from that point forward. Eventually your partner would feel the difference and you would probably lose them and everything you have built together)

As you get older, your libido will become less active. However, I believe that it never disappears entirely (otherwise how would you explain those 70/80 year old men that marry 20 year old women).

The 20 year olds can do the work.

 

[Erzengel]

I don't think there's anything wrong about wondering about the grass being greener on the other side. But it's always what you are willing to risk, is one worth more than the other?

 

[Ronny Shade]

Why would you get married when you can skeez and philander through your late 40s?

 

[War Lord]

Why would you get married when you can skeez and philander through your late 40s?

Yeah, you don't need to be married to pay child support.

 

[Peter_Porker]

Yo Hype, long time no see. How've you been?

So, I've been married now for over a year, and have been with her for over 2. My longest (and obviously best) relationship (I'm 28). I've absolutely never strayed from her since we've been together. Period. Never made physical contact with any another girl and I've rarely even been flirty.

I love my wife, I have no doubts about that. The way I look at it, I traded having several meaningless girls who I don't care if I see again for having one great girl who I truly enjoy having around.

My question is: does it get any easier to not want to still have those several meaningless girls?

I have been married for about 4 years now, and that hunger never seems to go away for me, but I focus it on her, and make her feel wanted more, and perhaps bring costumes or something new into the bedroom with you, spice it up.

You'll be fine!!!!

 

[Erzengel]

I have been married for about 4 years now, and that hunger never seems to go away for me, but I focus it on her, and make her feel wanted more, and perhaps bring costumes or something new into the bedroom with you, spice it up.

You'll be fine!!!!

Exactly.

 

[Zaed]

It doesnt get any easier but if you "Walk the Line" as Cash put it you will be fine.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

My question is: does it get any easier to not want to still have those several meaningless girls?

Yes, right around the time your life is almost over anyway,...79, 80...

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Exactly.

W00, that is a little spicy.

 

[fatboy31]

I've been with the same woman for 12 years now. Sometimes the urge to explorer is there, sometimes it is not. It's hard to explain really. I think the main thing is how much will power do you have...

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I am the only one that thought of the scene in Old School where Will Ferrell's in the marriage counsoler's office reading this thread?

 

[Erzengel]

W00, that is a little spicy.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Th^t is the key to a long, successful marriage alright.

 

[Alpha and Omega]

My question is: does it get any easier to not want to still have those several meaningless girls?

When you get those little urges (and you do since you obviously made a thread about them, and what to do if they never go away), sing 'My Cherie Amour' to yourself 3x:

La la la la la la
La la la la la la

My Cherie Amour, lovely as a summer's day
My Cherie Amour, distant as the Milky Way
My Cherie Amour, pretty little one that I adore
You're the only girl my heart beats for
How I wish that you were mine

In a cafe or sometimes on a crowded street
I've been near you, but you never notice me
My Cherie Amour, won't you tell me how could you ignore
That behind that little smile I wore
How I wish that you were mine

Maybe someday you'll see my face among the crowd
Maybe someday I'll share your little distant cloud
Oh, Cherie Amour, pretty little one that I adore
You're the only girl my heart beats for
How I wish that you were mine

La la la la la la
La la la la la la

Once you've done that, will they go away?

Hell if I know, but I just want you to make a thread about what happened when you did it, and how (she / they) responded.

Best of luck to you anyways.

 

[Rambo, John J]

I am the only one that thought of the scene in Old School where Will Ferrell's in the marriage counsoler's office reading this thread?

First thing I thought of.

'Maybe they're something that i've never even heard of... wha...? are... are we not in the trust tree anymore...?'

 

[November Rain]

why am i like the only male that grows more attractive to someone the older they get...



not that i find there's anything wrong with cheating but i couldn't see myself doing it because the drive to have a relationship with a partner just gets bigger and bigger and bigger....

 

[britrogue]

There was this guy that I had fancied for years. Ever since I was a kid! I had dreams of us growing up and getting married. But he was never interested in me. Then I married someone that I love with all of my heart, saw this guy in town, and he tried it on. It actually wasn't that hard to refuse, even though I was flattered and singing about it for weeks!
If you truly love someone, the temptation just isn't there. Hurting someone you love is just as bad as hurting yourself.

 

[PLAS]

when you love somebody it's really not that difficult to let those lusty moments sway away

and how come once you're in a stable relationship all the women who hadn't given me the time of day before seem to find me more attractive?

I find that really funny

 

[Deathlok2001]

Yo Hype, long time no see. How've you been?

So, I've been married now for over a year, and have been with her for over 2. My longest (and obviously best) relationship (I'm 28). I've absolutely never strayed from her since we've been together. Period. Never made physical contact with any another girl and I've rarely even been flirty.

I love my wife, I have no doubts about that. The way I look at it, I traded having several meaningless girls who I don't care if I see again for having one great girl who I truly enjoy having around.

My question is: does it get any easier to not want to still have those several meaningless girls?

Those meaningless girls are always a potential source of menaingless, carefree, sex!

 

[jaguarr]

I liken it to hamburgers versus prime rib. Sure, hamburgers are tempting but they're ultimately unsatisfying and lacking in the kind of nutrition I'm really needing. Particularly when I've got unlimited access to prime rib at home that I can prepare in a multitude of new and exciting ways to the point that I not only never get tired of it but I crave and savor it. And, yes, I just compared women to pieces of meat. I feel dirty.

jag

 

[Carter]

Well, dick head I can imagine that it will get more difficult over time.
As your wife grows older, there will always be attractive 20 year olds

 

[Deathlok2001]

attractive 20 year olds . sagging old bag of a wife!