*Official* Relationship Advice Thread Strikes Back

[terry78]

If she's trying the bra on while you're there and asking how it looks, it just means she wants to be friends. Ignore it.

 

[Erzengel]

If she asks how something looks on you, and you reply that you'd need to see it on you and there's some sort of flirtatious response, I think you may be in.

 

[AndThePickles]

I have a quick question/confirmation. If you are out with a woman & she starts bra shopping with you there. Is that a clue to something?

There is no universal answer to this.

it just means she needs bras.....bras to women are like socks or tools to us

But I would tend to go with this answer rather than make assumptions that it's some "clue."

If she starts flirting, that will mean a lot more.

 

[Ghostvirus]

Cool, then that means I didn't miss out on an opportunity.

 

[uchiha_itachi]

I got a Girls number yesterday. Yay me lol

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

Why give her the time of day?

Ignore her and talk to another girl all night.

I think it's safe to say if she's giving you the run around, it's best to meet someone else. If she gets jealous , oh well.

Well, I saw her in work over the weekend, she works in a bar were I drink sometimes and we got chatting again and now the texts have started again, crazy situation!

 

[Frodo]

Looks hot and cold written all over it.Lol. Seriously though, I think you should get an indication as to whether you two are gonna try another date, or if you'll both stick to being friends.

 

[Anubis]

Send her a pic of your junk.

 

[BlackLantern]

totally...chicks dig that

 

[Aesop Rocks]

I've been talking to a girl from Brooklyn for about 3 years now, we're pretty good friends and for a while back she tried to "start something" - randomly telling me one day she realized that she was deeply in love with me. I won't lie, I was in love with her too. Or something close to it.

Eventually another girl came along, she lived here in town, and Brooklyn girl found out. I promised her it wasn't anything serious between that new girl and I, but I caught myself feeling something for the new girl too. Things happen and Brookyln girl and I have a falling through, and the new girl quiet talking to me. Brookyln girl and I didn't talk for few months, but we were still friends on Facebook and I noticed her having a falling out.

I'd see pictures of her partying hard and she'd bounce to a new guy every few weeks or months. I wouldn't say she was sleeping around, I'd just say couldn't settle down. Anyways, we began talking again a few months ago, and all the feelings are brought up that I have for her. She still goes out and parties, but not as much as she used to.

She was there for me, as much as she could be given the amount of distance between us, when my dad passed away, and it triggered something in my head, and I needed to be with her. I've been meaning to tell her how I felt, but I just don't know where to start. Can you all help me?

 

[BlackLantern]

don't....your dads death is accelerating your emotions...if you didn't want to be with her when you're clear headed, that's the right play

 

[ComicChick]

or wait to see if you still want to be with her once this pain eases

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

Looks hot and cold written all over it.Lol. Seriously though, I think you should get an indication as to whether you two are gonna try another date, or if you'll both stick to being friends.

I was going to try and call her tonight but she is working, might have to try another time.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I feel like it's been awhile since I've come in this thread *****ing about ****. My interweb existence feels incomplete.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I have a quick question/confirmation. If you are out with a woman & she starts bra shopping with you there. Is that a clue to something?

Yeah, it sure is a clue, it's a clue that she sees you as a girlfriend and/or thinks you're gay. You'll get to see her naked, but never get to touch her.

 

[Aesop Rocks]

Unless you pull a Kick-Ass

 

[JP]

Yeah, it sure is a clue, it's a clue that she sees you as a girlfriend and/or thinks you're gay. You'll get to see her naked, but never get to touch her.

Pretty much.

 

[terry78]

When a girl is somewhat uneasy about stripping down in front of you, that's probably one of the better signs. It shows she thinks of you as more than just a friend and has some concern about what you'll think of her body.

 

[Erzengel]

Yeah I remember quite a few times when they would cross their arms over their chest, and I'm like sweetheart, now's not the time to be modest and reassured her, she could have her clothes back on in like 5 minutes tops.

 

[Anubis]

That sounds.....wrong to me. This situation has never come up, so I guess I don't have the proper perspective. I never seen a woman get naked or even show off their bra to dudes they aren't or not planning on banging. Where are these woman that show off their lady parts to random dudes? Besides Mardi Gras of course.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Damn, where are you all meeting these girls?

I wish the girls that saw me as "one of the girls" would strip down around me.

The closest I got was one time one of my female friends told me she'd let me see and touch her boobs, since at the time I hadn't touched any boobs, and she said that I needed to touch some boobs, so she was volunteering her's.

But, in all the times that her and I hung out together and stuff, she never let me touch her boobs.

 

[Anubis]

That's what I'm sayin'. That s**t never happened to me.

 

[LastSunrise1981]

I've been talking to this girl for quite sometime now, but yesterday I think may've been the last straw in terms of talking to her. We're both 29 and as of late I've been talking to young women who are around my age range instead of 22, 23, or 24, you know? So we've been talking, I know her parents pretty well, and just recently we went to sing Karaoke.

All in all things seemed to be going pretty well, or so I thought, until yesterday when we were texting each other. Somehow we got on the topic of anger and I said "Well, I have my dads temper when I get angry, but it takes a while to get me to that point." Her response was "That's scary", and then she told me her anger level. But that when she gets angry she never swears or hits people. I said I never hit anyone I just swear a lot whenever I got angry.

So she goes into this story about how now she can't trust me or whatever because she's been abused, choked, and slapped because some guy(s) couldn't control their anger. Now one thing I don't condone and one thing I will never, ever do is hit a woman. I think anyone who hits a woman are cowardly and should be taken into the streets to be beaten by baseball bats.

But I felt hurt that she thought so low of me that she would compare me to someone who hit her. I didn't even know what to say and I'm really considering just ending the friendship and talking for good. Am I wrong for reacting this way?

 

[Erzengel]

You were being honest and for someone who's been on the receiving end of abuse, some are a little gun shy so to speak. I mean this is something that can be worked through but if she never received therapy or come to terms that not all men are like this, there could be issues in dating her.

This is something should be discussing over texts. Talk to her, and be clear, just because you have your dad's temper which you didn't go into detail with, does that mean you just get angry and leave the house?, doesn't mean that's how you react.

However, if you are just doing this as an excuse to explore these younger women you've been meeting, at least realize that.

 

[LastSunrise1981]

You were being honest and for someone who's been on the receiving end of abuse, some are a little gun shy so to speak. I mean this is something that can be worked through but if she never received therapy or come to terms that not all men are like this, there could be issues in dating her.

This is something should be discussing over texts. Talk to her, and be clear, just because you have your dad's temper which you didn't go into detail with, does that mean you just get angry and leave the house?, doesn't mean that's how you react.

However, if you are just doing this as an excuse to explore these younger women you've been meeting, at least realize that.

One thing I've always been is 100% honest with her. This is definitely not an excuse to meet younger women, as of right now? I prefer meeting women in my age range because they have an idea of what they want, more mature, and less and less interested in drama and childish games.

I explained to her "I have my dads temper, but I've never, ever hit anyone and the worse I do is swear." Everyone has a temper, doesn't mean they're going to turn into an abusive monster, you know? I just felt really, really low that she would think that of me personally. She's known me long enough, her parents have known me long enough, and considering the way she's seen OTHER people react around me she should know.

Don't get me wrong, she's a sweet young lady and I do like her. I think she's an absolutely wonderful person. But when push comes to shove I felt so low to the point that I didn't even really know what to say or how to explain anything. I did my best to assure her that she can always trust me and I gave her my word I would never, ever do anything to hurt her. That is the honest truth. I would never, ever, ever do anything to harm a woman or anyone.

I'm the guy who sees a stray cat in his driveway and will go out there to feed it. I don't like confrontation to begin with so why in the world would I hit a woman? Besides, her family is Puerto Rican and that's just asking to be erased from existence. lol.

But I'm going to give her a few days or give myself a few days and not text her.