Official Relationship Thread: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

[Hawkingbird]

I shall

 

[SpideyVille]

That doesn't mean you have to wait until next year. Keep your options open.

Yeah, you never know what's going to happen or who you're going to meet. That happened to me a few years ago, I went into a semester looking at every girl in my classes and felt like there was nothing there. But by the end of the semester, I started talking to some girl and eventually had a crush on her.

 

[Erzengel]

There's more than just school to meet people?

Also, SpideyVille you have no excuse, you live in NYC.

 

[The Squirrel]

How long has it been? And what day/time did you suggest to meet up?

I sent the info out early Monday morning. This Friday was the planned day. Even with browsing my matches I can see that she's been online. I'm not even worried about it at this point, I guess she was just super flaky. I'm sick anyways at the moment.

 

[SpideyVille]

There's more than just school to meet people?

Also, SpideyVille you have no excuse, you live in NYC.

Who's making an excuse? I'm simply saying that a few years ago I was in a similar situation where I did not expect to meet anyone and when I least expected to, I met someone.

I sent the info out early Monday morning. This Friday was the planned day. Even with browsing my matches I can see that she's been online. I'm not even worried about it at this point, I guess she was just super flaky. I'm sick anyways at the moment.

Hmmm, I'm kinda tempted to say ask again since there's the chance of her not seeing the message or something, but at the same time, I've dealt with enough flaky girls in the past to know that she probably didn't want to say no, so she figured she's just wait it out. But then again, I don't know the girl so I can't speak for her. There was this girl I was trying to meet up with during the summer, and after three months of us going back and forth trying to make plans, I just decided to give up because it wasn't worth it.

 

[Erzengel]

No I understood, just the irony struck me.

 

[Lobo]

I'm curious girls, how would you feel with the circus as a first date?

 

[Erzengel]

Depends on the girl.

If she's a tree hugging, PETA supporting, vegetarian, she may not enjoy it.

However, circuses, it's been a while since I've been to one, I don't remember if there's a lot of "lulls" in the action? I'm thinking of Barnum and Bailey.

So if you are on a first date, doing a get to know you might not be possible if there's constant action in front of you. Unless, it's a smaller circus and not as loud?
I'm kinda comparing it to movies as a first date, which I never think is a good idea.

 

[Anubis]

Does a Donkey show count as a circus?

 

[obin_gam]

Today I feel really lonely, got a seminar around 10am and then nothing planned for the entire weekend.
Am a member of many date sites but naturally women on there never respond back, I guess I could go out to bars and clubs, but I never fell comfortable picking someone up at those places.
Why do I have to do all the picking up? Why cant I just sit at a place and some random women can come up to me and start talking?

 

[Anita18]

Today I feel really lonely, got a seminar around 10am and then nothing planned for the entire weekend.
Am a member of many date sites but naturally women on there never respond back, I guess I could go out to bars and clubs, but I never fell comfortable picking someone up at those places.
Why do I have to do all the picking up? Why cant I just sit at a place and some random women can come up to me and start talking?

I'm a not-bad-looking chick and I wonder why guys don't do that for me. When I was single, I mean.

I think that only works if 1) you're a chick and you dress in a REALLY short skirt or 2) if you're a guy, you're shirtless Ryan Gosling.

Just gotta start talking to people, is all. If you sit by yourself in a corner looking shy, of course no one's gonna come up to you and start talking randomly.

 

[obin_gam]

I'm a not-bad-looking chick and I wonder why guys don't do that for me. When I was single, I mean.

I think that only works if 1) you're a chick and you dress in a REALLY short skirt or 2) if you're a guy, you're shirtless Ryan Gosling.

Just gotta start talking to people, is all. If you sit by yourself in a corner looking shy, of course no one's gonna come up to you and start talking randomly.

I have actually moved away from the corner now haha, a couple of years ago I was even more shy, even when drunk. Now I have moved to standing at the bar. Thing is though, I'm terribly bad at starting up conversations, just dont know what to say at first. The only thing I've learned about "first contact" is to let the chick buy you a drink at first (sort of turning the cliché pick-up-line on its head). Havent tried it yet though so I have no idea if it actually works.

 

[steintym]

Why cant I just sit at a place and some random women can come up to me and start talking?

Strip club? Probably won't lead to a relationship, but ...

 

[knowsbleed]

I have actually moved away from the corner now haha, a couple of years ago I was even more shy, even when drunk. Now I have moved to standing at the bar. Thing is though, I'm terribly bad at starting up conversations, just dont know what to say at first. The only thing I've learned about "first contact" is to let the chick buy you a drink at first (sort of turning the cliché pick-up-line on its head). Havent tried it yet though so I have no idea if it actually works.

I've never seen this. Good luck with that.

 

[Erzengel]

Today I feel really lonely, got a seminar around 10am and then nothing planned for the entire weekend.
Am a member of many date sites but naturally women on there never respond back, I guess I could go out to bars and clubs, but I never fell comfortable picking someone up at those places.
Why do I have to do all the picking up? Why cant I just sit at a place and some random women can come up to me and start talking?

Are you interesting?

I mean, when you strike up conversations with women in public or behind the computer, I hope you are putting your best foot forward.

 

[knowsbleed]

So, I wanted to see what the big deal was and registered on an online dating site.

Something that is funny to me is how many profiles I read that state something along the lines of "If you send me a picture of your ****, I will not respond. I do not want to see that". Have any of you guys who use online dating regularly sent pictures of your frank and beans to strangers online? Why? I didn't realize it was such a normal thing to do.

 

[Erzengel]

That's my move.

 

[Anita18]

So, I wanted to see what the big deal was and registered on an online dating site.

Something that is funny to me is how many profiles I read that state something along the lines of "If you send me a picture of your ****, I will not respond. I do not want to see that". Have any of you guys who use online dating regularly sent pictures of your frank and beans to strangers online? Why? I didn't realize it was such a normal thing to do.

I had less than 5 guys on Craigslist send a picture of their penises to me. Out of 1000 total emails. So that's not a bad percentage, IMO. Then again I wrote about how nerdy I was, and didn't have any boob or ass or cleavage showing in the pic I posted.

I guess some women are such delicate flowers, they can't handle opening a link and seeing a **** first and foremost. It just gave me a good laugh.

 

[Godzilla2000]

This is not so much a call for advice but more of an observation I've been making to myself that I thought I'd share so you can get a good chuckle about it. You know, I have to stop being so psychically bonded with a close male friend of mine. It's really starting to get me in trouble with women that are interested in him. Now I confess I have an attraction for him but seriously I am not trying to look like I'm acting possessive of him when I get that knowing look in my eye after meeting a girl I believe he's shacked up with. (It's a case of me knowing I'm just not his type. I wish I biologically could be as tall and skinny as that girl tonight really.) I wish he'd tell them the truth that he's not looking for a serious relationship from the get go because I'm starting to get girls shooting daggers of ice my way because of the close bond I and my male friend seem to have. The veiled hatred I can feel as their mouths willfully crease in a forced smile is unnerving when I've been quite polite and cordial with them. I'd be floored if he told me he was telling them that he really does have feelings for me and that he told these girls this before breaking up with them, but I never get my hopes up that high. I suppose I'm a realist in that respect. Hanging out with him is starting to get quite awkward lately. Well, time to go crank the Metallica in my headphones to wash away the most current of awkward situations I've had tonight.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

So I think I officially lost my "good guy" card...

That girl from like 2 months ago that has a boyfriend?

Yea, we finally fooled around. I can say that sex didn't happen, but everything up until that point did.

I'm a jackass for fooling around with a girl who was taken.

 

[enterthemadness]

So I think I officially lost my "good guy" card...

That girl from like 2 months ago that has a boyfriend?

Yea, we finally fooled around. I can say that sex didn't happen, but everything up until that point did.

I'm a jackass for fooling around with a girl who was taken.

It happened. Don't beat yourself up over it. Just forget about it and move on. Case closed.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

OMG this work crush has me so spun! I've never been this physically attracted to someone. Usually it's something in their personality that makes me swoon, but this guy is nothing like my usual type as far as i can tell, but i can't stop lusting after him!

He smiles at me, my heart flutters. He leans in to help me with something and i hold my breath. The other day, he leaned over and his shirt lifted a bit... Just enough to see a bit of skin... And i swear i nearly had an orgasm right there in the office!

This has never happened to me before. And the thing is, i assumed he was way out of my league cause i think he's so good looking... But after talking to a few female workmates today, they were kind of like 'meh' and said he's been single for ages like me.

Trouble is, he commutes and doesn't actually live here so i can't bump into him on a night out or anything.

But we are both working christmas eve and boxing day alone together. So i just have to try and get to know him a bit better

 

[hopefuldreamer]

So I think I officially lost my "good guy" card...

That girl from like 2 months ago that has a boyfriend?

Yea, we finally fooled around. I can say that sex didn't happen, but everything up until that point did.

I'm a jackass for fooling around with a girl who was taken.

Meh. If you knew the guy i'd be more inclined to tut tut you, but it's not too bad.

Just try and contain how messy this gets

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Meh. If you knew the guy i'd be more inclined to tut tut you, but it's not too bad.

Just try and contain how messy this gets

I guess it just depends on who you talk to. Some people have blasted me for so much as ever even just talking to her, others have been like "you're a virgin and she wants to cheat, so its on her not you" She even took all the blame last night saying she "pressured" me... As if im not a 29 year old man who knew exactly what he was doing

Eh, I probably am a jackass for it. I dont foresee it getting "messy". Its done with now can't do anything about it anymore.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Well by any messier i mean don't keep doing it, don't brag about it, try to avoid it spreading especially to her b/f etc.