Question for my fellow comic geeks who are in relationships...

[Chris Wallace]

Does your other half/gf/bf/partner/wife/husband/whatever you choose to call them...
A) embrace your "kid" side and fully appreciate your devotion to comics, superheroes, etc.?
B) indulge it, or
C) simply tolerate it?

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

My wife tolerates it! She always complains she has 4 kids. Get it! Because we have 3. And I'm like # 4! HA HA....ahem!

 

[JP]

In my last relationship is was simply tolerance. Which, BTW it's not a good idea to fork over cash to pay for their ticket to Comic Con because you think it would be neat to take them. They don't want to be there.

 

[TimBisley]

I've been with my current girlfriend for 4 years. I didn't let on about my love for comics until 2 years in probably, and she surprised the hell out of me. She went to this convention with me, and even read through the Batman Archives vol. 1 when we got home. Shes not into them, but she's cool about it.

 

[Hotwire]

My biggest vice is Transformers. My wife gets a kick out of my obsession. My birthday, Father's Day, and Christmas gifts get wrapped in Transformers paper. She even got me a Transformers birthday pin.

 

[C. Lee]

My wife likes a lot of comics stuff too, so she embraces it.

 

[Chris Wallace]

My current relationship brings tolerance with occasional indulgence. I know there are a million things she'd rather do than watch a Spider-Man or Batman movie with me. Sometimes we'll walk in the door and before I even grab the remote, she'll say something like "Can we watch something that doesn't involve superheroes?" It's not like I subject her to it every day.

 

[Wylie Times]

My Girlfriend embraces it and will actually read things I recommend. When her and I first started dating I mentioned that I was into comics and she said she liked them...and I immediately thought she was lying lol. I was so used to women just tolerating me being into comics that I just thought she was giving lip service because she thought I was cute. She's more of a casual reader but she does in fact read comics and she actually has a bit of a collection of older stuff.

She's actually dragged ME to see comic book movies before that I wasn't too hyped to see (Kick-Ass).

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

My girl embraces it. She wants to take me to comic con. Goes to superhero movies with me even though she hates going to the theater. and she tries to read graphic novels I buy her for Christmas.

but she does get elitist sometimes and look down on geeks. She'll refer to her days as one of the cool kids and passionately defend her non-geek status in high school as if being a geek was some kind of social disease. Thankfully she's not much of a social climber these days.

 

[The Warden]

My wife is cool with it for the most part, she likes comics and games like me but I tend to be on a one-track mind if it's a really good game and that's when there is a problem. She's afraid when my kid is old enough for action figures I'll be playing with him lol.

 

[TheShah]

So I have a subscription with my local comic store, I select monthlies I wanna follow, they take out those issues for me every Wednesday and put 'em aside and I pick up and pay whenever I have time to head there.
I accumulated a back log of around 3 months worth due to just extreme busy-ness at work, personal committements, etc.

My GF was out one day grocery shopping, I get a call from her, and this is how it went:

Her: *in glassy cold dead pan voice* "I'm at your comic book store, what do you want?"
Me: 'Umm... why?'
Her: "It's been 3 months, I'm not waiting another 3 months to clear this account. So what do you want?"
Me: 'Uhh... just give 'em my name.'
Her: "OK. Bye."

My heart melted. lol.

 

[TheShah]

My wife tolerates it! She always complains she has 4 kids. Get it! Because we have 3. And I'm like # 4! HA HA....ahem!

I got you beat.

Mine complains about 3.
the Kid, me and the dog.

Don't even get me started on when our friends come over with their dogs.
She's like a circus ring leader. :|

 

[Erzengel]

Erzette has been good over the years going to almost every comic book movie with me. It has to be the Hulk, Batman, Superman, etc. type movies though. Over the past few years she's said no to 300, V for Vendetta and Watchmen.

 

[TheShah]

In my last relationship is was simply tolerance. Which, BTW it's not a good idea to fork over cash to pay for their ticket to Comic Con because you think it would be neat to take them. They don't want to be there.

Oh we'll see about that.
Mine is all about the FRINGE, BONES, SUPERNATURAL, LOST, V and other shows.

So I was piquing her interest mentioning all the previews, panels, interviews they had at the SDCC this year.
"Yea, Ackles was there, with Padalecki, Boreanaz... and OMG you won't believe what the producer for FRINGE said for the new season!! Crazy-ness. Not just about comics these days these comic cons."

My elaborate plan is to tenderize her by next year's and go in for the kill around January.

 

[TheShah]

My current relationship brings tolerance with occasional indulgence. I know there are a million things she'd rather do than watch a Spider-Man or Batman movie with me. Sometimes we'll walk in the door and before I even grab the remote, she'll say something like "Can we watch something that doesn't involve superheroes?" It's not like I subject her to it every day.

She's being unfair.

Put her in her place.

 

[scifiwolf]

Mine's very understanding, and she's got a bit of inner geek as well. I'm just a fun-loving, goofy guy, and she' the same way, so the superhero stuff blends pretty well with our dynamic. She's very good about taking in interest in my passions, particularly football and cars, so we've got no problems. She does make a small effort to keep me grounded, though, which is necessary, I think, for any one of us. Although she says when we can afford to go to San Diego for Comic Con, we are definitely dressing up!

Chris, as long as she tries to keep you from losing yourself in your interests without judging you for them, I'd say her check-and-balance is appropriate. As long as she's not trying to fully change you into someone else, try to appreciate that perspective she brings.

 

[Ahura Mazda]

She at best tolerates it. I see all the movies with someone else and she puts up with my interest in comic books. If she could do away with it she would but given my contributions to the family income she has no say in it.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

I want to throw out there that I am single and would show the special chick the door if she had a problem with my comic book fan side. These women who themselves obsess over things that are perceived as not too appealing have no room to complain about some dude's obsession over comic books if it's not causing serious problems,actually,if they hate it they should show themselves the door instead.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

My girlfriend is somewhere between A&B. She'll laugh at me when I get into full geek mode talking about something, but she also preordered tickets to Iron Man 2 for us. We're pretty good at making sure it's an equal playing field, she was interested in seeing Iron Man so we saw that, but not so much for seeing A-Team, so I went to see the new Twilight, when she couldn't get a group of friends together. It was kind of funny we had the same reactions to the movies, just reversed. When we're just hanging out during the weekend, she'll happily knit, while I play videogames. We've just got a good balance going.

 

[Erzengel]

I think most women at least tolerate any man's interests whether it be sports, comics, etc. And in most cases, at first it's cute and endearing. It only starts becoming an issue for a few reasons:

There are underlying problems in the relationship and this is the fall excuse.
She's a total psycho.
You let your hobby interfere with the relationship.

 

[Mrh7448]

My wife has fully embraced my geekdom. I got her into Scott Pilgrim as well as Hellboy and she loves the Super hero movies. Not too mention some of the cartoons I've gotten her into.

She's actually more excited to go to Fan Expo this year than I am.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

I think most women at least tolerate any man's interests whether it be sports, comics, etc. And in most cases, at first it's cute and endearing. It only starts becoming an issue for a few reasons:

There are underlying problems in the relationship and this is the fall excuse.
She's a total psycho.
You let your hobby interfere with the relationship.

Or a personal favorite,she's an elitist who thinks too highly of herself.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Or a personal favorite,she's an elitist who thinks too highly of herself.

What you bolded is the real problem, the underlying problem is you two are too different.

 

[terry78]

She at best tolerates it. I see all the movies with someone else and she puts up with my interest in comic books. If she could do away with it she would but given my contributions to the family income she has no say in it.

The pimp hand is strong in this one.

 

[Figs]

My gf is both A and B.

She has some comics but isn't a hardcore reader but her favorite character is Batman/Joker so that's great since he's my favorite comic character. Lets put it this way. She loves the color purple and purple and green look great together(not because the Joker either, i've seen plenty of tattoos and pieces of art that mixed those colors and it always looks great)so we painted our room those colors not just because they look good together but also because of the Joker. We have our main room and then you go up one little step and that's where my area is with my movies and comics. My area is Joker green and the main bedroom is purple.

She loves comic movies as well and doesn't mind seeing them more than once in the theatre. She likes most of the superhero films as well as stuff like Sin City, 300, V for Vendetta and Watchmen. I feel really geeky when I see something like TDK, Avatar or Inception more than once or twice in the theatre but she likes to go just as much if she also loves the movie. We both loved Scott Pilgrim if that says more about her.

I got lucky as hell with her and we barely argue since we have a lot in common. We're both homebodies, introverted and easy going. It's also great that I don't have to constantly talk/entertain her. We can both be in our room doing seperate things, like me being on the hype like a dork while she is working on some crafts or recently watching reruns of X-files, and not say a word to each other for quite sometime. It's great being with someone that also doesn't feel the need to always be talking which tends to lead to "conversations about nothing" or what you can call boring BS.