Question for the guys

[Moviefan2k4]

If your wife/longterm girlfriend had breast cancer and had to have a breast removed, would you stay with her?

If I were married, and my wife needed one of them removed, it'd be very difficult for me to watch her go through that...but yes, I would remain by her side. Ideally, I'd prefer she undergo a double removal, followed by surgical reconstruction (but both choices would definitely be hers).

 

[Bubonic]

I said I was young, not 16!

 

[Bubonic]

If I were married, and my wife needed one of them removed, it'd be very difficult for me to watch her go through that...but yes, I would remain by her side. Ideally, I'd prefer she undergo a double removal, followed by surgical reconstruction (but both choices would definitely be hers).

Why a double removal?

If you lost your arm in an accident would you like it if the doctor took off both?

 

[Hunter Rider]

If I were married, and my wife needed one of them removed, it'd be very difficult for me to watch her go through that...but yes, I would remain by her side. Ideally, I'd prefer she undergo a double removal, followed by surgical reconstruction (but both choices would definitely be hers).

what if she was not your wife but a longterm girlfriend that you hadn't married yet ?

 

[Moviefan2k4]

Why a double removal?

From my point of view, or hers?

The fact of my wife having only one breast removed would seem kinda weird to me, as I suspect it would for any husband, no matter how much he loves his wife. He'd still stand a decent chance of at least being rather "put off" by it. I know there's padding and such, but I guess I ain't quite mature enough for the ramifications of this scenario yet. I certainly hope that whoever I do wind up marrying would never go through this, for her sake more than mine.

Secondly, I've heard that women generally view their breasts as a very important factor in their identity. Some women feel like only "half of themselves" in situations like that. So, for that reason, I'd perefer she have both removed, if she felt that way about them.

 

[UA-Archangel]

Have you ever felt a fake boob?
Awful.

Yeah, but anything better than nothing.

 

[Moviefan2k4]

what if she was not your wife but a longterm girlfriend that you hadn't married yet?

In either situation, I know I'd intially be very tempted to leave...but I'd hope that my love for her would help me to stay. Thre reason why I limited my first response was because, as another user posted, dating relationships are generally much easier to walk away from than marriages...as the situations should be. If I was maried to her, I'd have an iron-clad commitment that would emotionally help me to make the right decision. I'd want to either way, but I think it'd be easier for me if she was my wife.

 

[Bubonic]

From my point of view, or hers?

The fact of my wife having only one breast removed would seem kinda weird to me, as I suspect it would for any husband, no matter how much he loves his wife. He'd still stand a decent chance of at least being rather "put off" by it. I know there's padding and such, but I guess I ain't quite mature enough for the ramifications of this scenario yet. I certainly hope that whoever I do wind up marrying would never go through this, for her sake more than mine.

Secondly, I've heard that women generally view their breasts as a very important factor in their identity. Some women feel like only "half of themselves" in situations like that. So, for that reason, I'd perefer she have both removed, if she felt that way about them.

Is it a trend for women who get a mastectomy to have both done? Don't know anything about the psychology of it, but I know that if losing one of my nuts made me feel like half of a man, I wouldn't get rid of both of them to finish the job.

 

[Moviefan2k4]

I'm sure you'll do your best not to marry the kind of sinner this would happen to anyways.

That's a cruel thing to say, and you know what I meant in the other thread. This ain't the place for that discussion though, so let's drop it.

Is it a trend for women who get a mastectomy to have both done? Don't know anything about the psychology of it...

Your guess is as good as mine, I suppose.

 

[Hunter Rider]

Bubonic, Moviefan has not brought his religion into this thread, don't you do it either.

In either situation, I know I'd intially be very tempted to leave...but I'd hope that my love for her would help me to stay. Thre reason why I limited my first response was because, as another user posted, dating relationships are generally much easier to walk away from than marriages...as the situations should be. If I was maried to her, I'd have an iron-clad commitment that would emotionally help me to make the right decision. I'd want to either way, but I think it'd be easier for me if she was my wife.

So you feel the marriage certificate would make the call easier to make ? I guess I can see that as it's something tangible to hold on to.

 

[AgentGraves!]

I'd be a bit frightened because over the last few years I've been reading or rather I have just finished and when I say Just I mean when the book wrapped Y:the last man...and boy i'll tell ya...those Amazons....KRYPES!


all in all though...if it's for her life then I would support my self as a scientist and discover the cure for cancer...which may involve giving the immune system steroids so that they can kick the cancer's ass...seeing how most cancer is a destroying machine I can't imagine cancer being able to stand up to some 'Roid In-Raged Immune System.

 

[Bubonic]

I was just trying to demonstrate that I'm an avid listener and all.

 

[Prison Mike]

marriage or no marriage, if you truly love this woman, you should stay. Some certificate shouldn't determine whether you should stay or not.

 

[Moviefan2k4]

So you feel the marriage certificate would make the call easier to make ? I guess I can see that as it's something tangible to hold on to.

Not the certificate itself, no; more like the memory of standing there in front of God, my family and friends, plus my wife...swearing with all that's in me "till death do us part". I take the institution of marriage very seriously, and that huge of a commitment is what I'd hold on to the most.

 

[Venom75]

If I loved her then I wouldn't leave at all. I would never abandon someone who meant that much to me.

 

[UA-Archangel]

marriage or no marriage, if you truly love this woman, you should stay. Some certificate shouldn't determine whether you should stay or not.

That's nice to say, but the only reason not to marry somebody is because there is doubt as to whether or not they're the one for you.

 

[BizarroAids]

If your wife/longterm girlfriend had breast cancer and had to have a breast removed, would you stay with her ?

That's when you question your love for that person. With technology these days, I'm sure one day down the road she could get it back somehow.

My girl has ovarian cancer, and if it gets worse, we have a chance of not having children. But I love her, so there's always other options for us.

 

[Hunter Rider]

That's nice to say, but the only reason not to marry somebody is because there is doubt as to whether or not they're the one for you.

I don't want to turn this into a thread about marriage but IMO it is a personal thing, marriage is not for everyone.

 

[Hunter Rider]

That's when you question your love for that person. With technology these days, I'm sure one day down the road she could get it back somehow.

My girl has ovarian cancer, and if it gets worse, we have a chance of not having children. But I love her, so there's always other options for us.

Sorry to hear that man but I am glad you two have a strong foundation that your relationship has come first.

 

[Cmill216]

She would still be the same woman regardless of having a breast removed or not.

Well, technically, she'd only be half a woman.

 

[SuperFerret]

Leaving her alone is not an option. Not for anyone who calls themselves a man.

 

[Moviefan2k4]

My girl has ovarian cancer, and if it gets worse, we have a chance of not having children. But I love her, so there's always other options for us.

My sister survived ovarian cancer at the age of 21, and subsequently had the damaged one removed. She still plans to marry and have kids someday, so I'm happy for her.

 

[UA-Archangel]

Well, technically, she'd only be half a woman.

Her breasts do not weigh 60 lbs a piece.

 

[Steve Rogers]

My fiance (sp?) had part of her uterus removed and we were told we'd never have children (joke was on us--story for another time) and I stayed by her.

 

[Cmill216]

My fiance (sp?) had part of her uterus removed and we were told we'd never have children (joke was on us--story for another time) and I stayed by her.

But one's more of a physical thing than the other. Having a breast removed drastically changes the woman's anatomy.

I'm not saying I'd up and leave a chick if that were to happen, but I don't think comparing it to a uterus is playing in the same ballpark.