Question for the guys

[StorminNorman]

I need to know what Lobo would do before I could answer this question.

 

[Abstract]

I'd stay with her of course. Thats a pretty shallow reason to even think about leaving your wife or girlfriend.

I actually know someone that went through treatment for breast cancer and had both her breasts removed. Her husband couldn't have been more supportive of her in her decision to have both removed instead of just the one with the cancer.

 

[terry78]

Granted, if we were in love and I knew she was my soul mate, then yes. But of course, there's only so much we as mere mortals can take. There are women that would leave a dude at the drop of a dime if he had some type of ailment that was a huge impact on him, as well as her. It's easy to say what we wouldn't do in a hypothetical, but there are many people who only do lip service regarding this type of thing, which is sad.

 

[BizarroAids]

Sorry to hear that man but I am glad you two have a strong foundation that your relationship has come first.

Thanks man. I'm willing to stay with her, even if it turns out that this gets worse and we aren't able to have kids. Or, it doesn't spread and she is cured.

So in a way, I see how your question applys, and I just think that your feelings for the woman should hold that answer. If you truly love someone, you'll stick through them, especially such a rough time. A guys shallowness of lossing his girls breast shouldn't end a relationship. He's not the one that losses it, he's not going through the Kemo. He should stick by her side through it all. If their love is that strong.

 

[Steve Rogers]

But one's more of a physical thing than the other. Having a breast removed drastically changes the woman's anatomy.

I'm not saying I'd up and leave a chick if that were to happen, but I don't think comparing it to a uterus is playing in the same ballpark.

That's a good point, but as I said--we were told we couldn't have children. It's hardwired into our DNA to want to reproduce so some men would jump ship with a sterile woman. I didn't do that, so I guess I figure I wouldn't leave because of something physical.

But then again, there's always reconstructive surgery. Loosing a breast doesn't mean it's gone forever.

 

[Darthphere]

Just pretend she's an Amazon.

 

[BizarroAids]

But one's more of a physical thing than the other. Having a breast removed drastically changes the woman's anatomy.

I'm not saying I'd up and leave a chick if that were to happen, but I don't think comparing it to a uterus is playing in the same ballpark.

I see your point Cmill. But you dont' think either has major reprocusions for her future? Both affect her life relationship wise. Guys are going to have trouble with her not having breasts, and also a guy will have trouble accepting not having kids. They'll both screw up a womans mentality in the same way. Self image, happiness.

 

[Cmill216]

That's a good point, but as I said--we were told we couldn't have children. It's hardwired into our DNA to want to reproduce so some men would jump ship with a sterile woman. I didn't do that, so I guess I figure I wouldn't leave because of something physical.

Well that I think would be an incredibly jerk ass thing to do. I mean, there's always adoption. You may not be able to have your own biological junior, but the woman you're with hasn't physically changed, you know?

I mean, honestly, how many dudes would even approach a girl if they only had one tata? Unless they're *truly* in love with that person, I think a lot of dudes would jump ship. It's sad, but it's true.

 

[Steve Rogers]

I mean, honestly, how many dudes would even approach a girl if they only had one tata? Unless they're *truly* in love with that person, I think a lot of dudes would jump ship. It's sad, but it's true.

I really don't know, but if any man would leave the woman he "loved" it would be sad.

 

[Cmill216]

Guys are going to have trouble with her not having breasts, and also a guy will have trouble accepting not having kids.

Well, then it comes down to what the guy would be more accepting of: his girl not being able to reproduce, or his girl only having one breast.

 

[UA-Archangel]

Well, then it comes down to what the guy would be more accepting of: his girl not being able to reproduce, or his girl only having one breast.

If his girl only has one breast and they have twins, one is going to starve.

I wouldn't want to have to be the one that makes that kind of choice.

 

[Cmill216]

If his girl only has one breast and they have twins, one is going to starve.

I wouldn't want to have to be the one that makes that kind of choice.

Three words: suck and pass.

 

[jaguarr]

Absolutely. Leaving my wife over something like that wouldn't even enter my mind.

jag

 

[jaguarr]

If his girl only has one breast and they have twins, one is going to starve.

I wouldn't want to have to be the one that makes that kind of choice.

It's called baby formula. Look it up, Jonty.

jag

 

[BizarroAids]

Absolutely. Leaving my wife over something like that wouldn't even enter my mind.

jag

I knew a guy like you wouldn't. Pre or Post baby.

And to UA. You can have a baby and not breast feed. Most women these days choose not to breast feed. Why? I don't know. I've just heard about it alot.

 

[Drakon]

Essentially, yes.

More to the point, if we were going to split, that wouldn't be a factor.

 

[jaguarr]

Essentially, yes.

More to the point, if we were going to split, that wouldn't be a factor.

It's not like girls who will tolerate a fez are easy to come by, anyway.

jag

 

[Drakon]

Touché, my friend.

It just goes with something that was said earlier--it shouldn't be a factor in a separation. That's as ridiculous as getting dumped for catching a cold.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

Yea I wouldn't let it effect anything. If i loved her enough to stay with her regardless of the cancer then i would stay with her. But saying that, I wouldn't just stay with her because of the cancer, I would obviously always be there for her though.

 

[Moviefan2k4]

...and also a guy will have trouble accepting not having kids.

Not this guy; I'd actually be relieved at not having children. I was raised around so many of others' kids (family and friends), and I guess I really burned out. My own father leaving before I was born may be a factor, too; I don't want to risk anything similar. Maybe my view will change after a few years of marriage, but I honestly don't know at this point. In the end, there's always adoption.

 

[The Original Bamfer]

If your wife/longterm girlfriend had breast cancer and had to have a breast removed, would you stay with her ?

Sure would, and, besides, she could probably get an implant if she wanted.

Right?

 

[Lighthouse]

If her having a breast removed makes anyone consider leaving their wife, then you have other marital problems besides the cancer. Hell the cancer by itself is already going to strain the relationship. Its nobodies fault, its just a fact. When I had my kidney transplant, it caused a lot of bad **** to go down besides the actual medical stuff.

 

[Hunter Rider]

I mean, honestly, how many dudes would even approach a girl if they only had one tata? Unless they're *truly* in love with that person, I think a lot of dudes would jump ship. It's sad, but it's true.

That brings up an interesting question, if you met a girl and had a few dates and were really into each to the point she decided to let you know she only had one breast, would it make you back off ?

(Question to everyone not just you)

Sure would, and, besides, she could probably get an implant if she wanted.

Right?

Yes but no one seems to be sure how it works when starting from scratch.

 

[Holiday]

If this was a woman I loved then absolutely.

 

[November Rain]

Anyone who would leave for that reason alone is quite clearly a shallow bastard. No two ways about it.

However, if the ordeal changed the way your partner felt about you and herself and it became a big deal, then I could see why some would leave and take the easy route.

Personally, I feel it's my responsibility to get her through such a situation and show I'm not with her for her **** and it's the woman inside.

A tougher one would be third degree burns all over.

My answer would still be yes.