Stuck at a job you hate and having a hard time finding a new job?

[spiderman2]

So what do you guys do if you are stuck at a job you really hate and are having a hard time finding a new job? I have been working at a job for about 10 years and for about the last 5 I have not been able to stand it and have been trying to find a new job for like those 5 years. As a result of having a hard time finding a job and how much I hate my job I have extreme depression. Even things I enjoy I don't enjoy like I used to because all I can think about is how much I hate work and how can I ever get out of there and find a new job and how I just fell trapped all the time. I cant stand my boss, to many stupid rule changes over the years, way understaffed, lots of lazy coworkers. I am not a pathient person either so has a result of the lack of not finding a new job after 5 years I have a hard time staying motivated. Also because I am not a patchent person like ever thing annoyings me now. If not for the fact I am good at holding in what i want say I would have gotten fired like 20 times by now. I want a new job but I also don't want to put the time in as I fell like it is just time I am going to spend with no result that I could have spent doing something else. I fell like all life is right now is work, look for work and work. Also because I have looked for work for so long I don't even now like were to look any more and were to applie at any more and as a result of that I started school in jan of 2016 has I felt like I had no choice and would hope having some sort of collage would help me to stand out even though I don't really have any idea what to do in the first place.

I hate work so much that while people say money cant buy happeness I have to basicly disagree has like 90% of my strees and depression comes from hating my job. What also scarys me is I am only 28 so I know I have a long time to work. If I was older and only need to work another year or something it wouldn't fell that bad but knowing I have to work like another 30+ years its just like I fell like the last 5 years or so my life has been just a waste of time and like nothing will ever change. I have tried putting my resume up on indeed, going to a place that is suppose to help with finding jobs as while as just looking at different jobs and putting in applications and going in and talking to different managers with out any luck. Its also hard to not get jealous as I will see people put in like 1/20th of the work I put in to find a new job and get something while I cant.

 

[Immortalfire]

So what do you guys do if you are stuck at a job you really hate and are having a hard time finding a new job?

That happened to me in 2001. I joined the Hype and never looked back.

 

[Lighthouse]

Yes.......join the Hype.

 

[spiderman2]

Yes.......join the Hype.

Lol.

That happened to me in 2001. I joined the Hype and never looked back.

Wait what?

 

[Donner]

Get out of your job. Too many people have it ingrained in their minds that you need to work until you retire at a job that you may not like because that's the way society works. You don't have to do that. Especially since you're spending hours a day during something you hate. You're wasting your life and if you stay at your job, your life will be shortened (it's proven that people that hate their jobs have serious health problems later in life).

I am currently working at a job that I seriously dislike, but I'm saving up to move to the mountains in the winter. There will be a definite pay cut, but it'll be cheaper living and I won't have to spend money driving to the mountains every weekend to get away. Do what makes you happy.

My personal advice would be to save up to move somewhere where you could find work more easily and start over. Maybe even to a different country.

 

[NotNickFury]

Current situation. Advantage is that I've learned I'm getting the axe, but not until September, but always intended to look for something back in my field. Best advice I'd say, that you've probably heard before, is network. Because it really is about connections and who knows who, the 'what' of what you know almost feels supplementary because all the degrees in the world won't amount to much if you can't even get a foot in the door.

 

[KevanG]

I left once I got the chance. I did call centers for almost a decade and the last one was outbound trying to do surveys.

I quit when the 'busy' season was over and went to retail. I like it far better since it's not dictated by numbers all the time and I don't have to deal with people constantly. Hell, on Sunday I work alone all day and listen to podcasts/audiobooks. I've also used the time to work on my book series and that's been coming along immensely since I left the call centers.

Basically, less stress = more freedom. Don't get tied down at one place that you hate. Unlike the 50's, no place is going to keep you until you retire anymore.

Also, try to make sure you have another job lined up first.

 

[thalidomide]

What's your hobby? I know a guy who I used to work with that hated our work (We used to work in a Call Center). That guy is passionate about photography which is his hobby but now he works as a photographer at any events which he enjoys a lot. Maybe you need to use whatever skills or turn your hobbies to make a living.

 

[Hotwire]

What do you do? What type of work is it?

 

[Mandon Knight]

All depends on how risk averse you are or what your background needs are to the type of responsbilities you have in your life, but I wish you all the luck with dealing with the depression, that must be the priority and it sounds like changing the job is essential in dealing with that first.

 

[jmc]

Try and work for yourself. If you have a passion that you're good at try and turn it into a business, or try and and have several different sources of income. Or maybe just try freelancing from home, there's plenty of websites that specialise in offering freelance work. A friend of mine quit her well paying job at a bank and set up her own Etsy store 5 years ago and has never looked back.

 

[PyroChamber]

I'm actually in the same position. I've been at my retail job for ten years now, and I've been looking for something else for the last four years with no luck; and whenever I'd ask for advice all I'd get is "go with the flow and keep working until you find something new". Almost makes me wonder if there is nothing else, because I want something outside retail yet the only jobs that seem to be hiring are retail jobs.

 

[ComicChick]

i really like my job, really don't like the people i work for. they're probably okay as people, seem to be, but horrible as managers

we've gone from the second best store in the country to the bottom 2 of our zone in less than 6 years. i dont understand it

 

[Lighthouse]

I need to find some kind of job to do at home. Anemia from kidney failure and dialysis doesn't leave me with much energy to work.

 

[Hotwire]

Well, whatever you find, always follow these two rules when changing jobs.

1. Do NOT quit your current job until you have secured your new job!
2. The new job must pay the same as or better than the current job!

I know these sound like common sense but, I've seen a lot of people put themselves in a very bad financial situation by not following them.

 

[Consona]

I need to find some kind of job to do at home. Anemia from kidney failure and dialysis doesn't leave me with much energy to work.

Oh, this is brutal. Can your condition get any better or something?

I have been working at a job for about 10 years and for about the last 5 I have not been able to stand it

You've been able to work 5 years in a job you totally hate? Wow. I was able to manage that for two months. Then I just lost it, literally got up and went home in a middle of a day. Ended up in a similar job since I had to make some money, leaving again... t: Now I have a second worst payed job in the country, but I don't hate it. t: Still finding some better one. But at least we have a great team of people there so I don't mind having not much money in exchange for having fun in the work, etc.

Like, I have a university degree in philosophy, which is worth next to nothing in practical life, when you cannot work at university. Tough luck. So I have to attend some really s****y jobs...

 

[Erzengel]

I know you've been happy at your job for a while and I thought you were going back to school?

However, what do your parents, family do? Is there a way they can get you into their line of work? Some entry level?

 

[PacificBoy]

Freelance, work from home jobs, like copywriting, copyediting and design, can pay decently well. I more than supplemented my pocket money doing freelance editing for a big publisher during my uni days, and I know of a few doing it as a full-time gig today, but those are established freelancers and have built up a body of resume and references.

 

[spiderman2]

Get out of your job. Too many people have it ingrained in their minds that you need to work until you retire at a job that you may not like because that's the way society works. You don't have to do that. Especially since you're spending hours a day during something you hate. You're wasting your life and if you stay at your job, your life will be shortened (it's proven that people that hate their jobs have serious health problems later in life).

I am currently working at a job that I seriously dislike, but I'm saving up to move to the mountains in the winter. There will be a definite pay cut, but it'll be cheaper living and I won't have to spend money driving to the mountains every weekend to get away. Do what makes you happy.

My personal advice would be to save up to move somewhere where you could find work more easily and start over. Maybe even to a different country.

While that is what I worry about with how much I stress out I don't know if I will even make it to 50 or want to if things don't change. While its not so much the retire thing its just the fact that I don't have another job lined up and the fact that with all the time and effort I have tried to put into finding a job with out luck its like if I leve but cant find a job then what do I do? I mean got to have money. I know money is not the only important thing in life but if I could retire right now I would be so much happier and like 90% less stress free has most of my stress and depression is this with a little being that I am single and want to meet someone being the other 10%.

Current situation. Advantage is that I've learned I'm getting the axe, but not until September, but always intended to look for something back in my field. Best advice I'd say, that you've probably heard before, is network. Because it really is about connections and who knows who, the 'what' of what you know almost feels supplementary because all the degrees in the world won't amount to much if you can't even get a foot in the door.

Yeah I don't know a lot of people who like know people. One of my friends heard from someone who used to work like were we work about a job that is mostly driving and dropping of medican that is 8:30-5:30 Monday threw Friday and that pays about 1.4 more a hour to start then what I make now and I went in and talked to the guy a few days ago and he said there was a few other people he had talked to and he would call me back in a few days. I then called yesterday to check back in and they said they decided to go with someone else. So its like of course another job they past me up for and went with some one else instead.

I left once I got the chance. I did call centers for almost a decade and the last one was outbound trying to do surveys.

I quit when the 'busy' season was over and went to retail. I like it far better since it's not dictated by numbers all the time and I don't have to deal with people constantly. Hell, on Sunday I work alone all day and listen to podcasts/audiobooks. I've also used the time to work on my book series and that's been coming along immensely since I left the call centers.

Basically, less stress = more freedom. Don't get tied down at one place that you hate. Unlike the 50's, no place is going to keep you until you retire anymore.

Also, try to make sure you have another job lined up first.

Yeah that is the thing I fell stuck, trapped and tied down and people I work with say this place is not like has good of a job has it used to be with how they have lowerd pay and changed some other stuff to and that there is not a good future in it any more kind of thing.

What's your hobby? I know a guy who I used to work with that hated our work (We used to work in a Call Center). That guy is passionate about photography which is his hobby but now he works as a photographer at any events which he enjoys a lot. Maybe you need to use whatever skills or turn your hobbies to make a living.

I love sports and also video games and don't know a lot about much out side of that and don't really now how or what to do with that.

What do you do? What type of work is it?

Work at a groucer story and bag grouceris and I am stuck at that like postion has they play way to much favoritetism and have a crap boss. If I could at least movie up it would pay a little bit more and look a little better on a resume but even thing I am sick of the place so darn much for a lot of reason. Also just a lot of stupid rule changes or things they have changed about the store that are really stupid and just piss me off and I am also tried of having to deal with people are the time at a place I cant stand to be around has it makes me have very little patchents an so many of the people custumores are just lazy or so darn clueless about things.

All depends on how risk averse you are or what your background needs are to the type of responsbilities you have in your life, but I wish you all the luck with dealing with the depression, that must be the priority and it sounds like changing the job is essential in dealing with that first.

Yeah the depression is bad I am also just the kind of person that over thinks ever thing and cant shut my mind off and I am not a confident person to start and all the energy and effort to get out of there with out results is just sucking the life and energy out of me and making me fell even less confident. It is bad I have times were I wish I was just died just don't enjoy life and am tried of thinking about how much I wish I was still in like highschool or mide school or what ever and didn't have to deal with trying to be a grown up. A lot of times I just day dream about how much better things would be if I was out of there. Really about the only thing keeping me going is god has I am a Christian.

Try and work for yourself. If you have a passion that you're good at try and turn it into a business, or try and and have several different sources of income. Or maybe just try freelancing from home, there's plenty of websites that specialise in offering freelance work. A friend of mine quit her well paying job at a bank and set up her own Etsy store 5 years ago and has never looked back.

Not really sure how I would do that with video games or sports. Don't really now what I could do with it or how to even get started.

I'm actually in the same position. I've been at my retail job for ten years now, and I've been looking for something else for the last four years with no luck; and whenever I'd ask for advice all I'd get is "go with the flow and keep working until you find something new". Almost makes me wonder if there is nothing else, because I want something outside retail yet the only jobs that seem to be hiring are retail jobs.

Yeah I would rather be like any place besides were I am but I would even more like to not be in retail because I don't like having to miss church when I work on sundays and having to always record football and such because of having to work weekends and not having a set schedule. The thing to is that also a lot of places don't pay enough are like right around minimum rage or just slightly higher and outside of retail a lot of jobs either I don't have the education for the job or I don't have enough experience but its hard to have a lot when you are still in your 20's. How do you get experience if you need experience to get more experience? So yeah not paying enough or education or experience with a lot of jobs one of those 3 or 2 or all 3 of those things are a issue. Even with that said I have looked so many places and don't even now were to look any more.

Well, whatever you find, always follow these two rules when changing jobs.

1. Do NOT quit your current job until you have secured your new job!
2. The new job must pay the same as or better than the current job!

I know these sound like common sense but, I've seen a lot of people put themselves in a very bad financial situation by not following them.

1. Is like the only reason I am still there. 2. Is not really the issue don't make much more then midimum rage any way.

Oh, this is brutal. Can your condition get any better or something?


You've been able to work 5 years in a job you totally hate? Wow. I was able to manage that for two months. Then I just lost it, literally got up and went home in a middle of a day. Ended up in a similar job since I had to make some money, leaving again... t: Now I have a second worst payed job in the country, but I don't hate it. t: Still finding some better one. But at least we have a great team of people there so I don't mind having not much money in exchange for having fun in the work, etc.

Like, I have a university degree in philosophy, which is worth next to nothing in practical life, when you cannot work at university. Tough luck. So I have to attend some really s****y jobs...

Yep and the only reason I have not left or lost it is because I know that it is hard to find a job find a job is like the hardest job and that if I were to leave or get fired I may have zero income for a while. Even though I am not a patchet person I am good when it comes to holding in what I want to say. I am not sure if that makes sinces or not. I get annoyed really easy but it takes a lot for me to like do something because of being annoyed and or mad. If I was not I would have been fired a long long time ago as it is taking me all my streath to not just like exploid and scream at ever one. There are so many times in a day were I just want to like yell at some one for doing or not doing something. I want out of the place so bad that if I could get a new job I would even do the job for free for like a year if that is what it took for me to get a new job.

I know you've been happy at your job for a while and I thought you were going back to school?

However, what do your parents, family do? Is there a way they can get you into their line of work? Some entry level?

I did start school a little while back have finished 3 semesters and even that it is hard to stay motivated because I wonder if it will even make a difference or not and still not 100% on what I am even going for just felt like I had to with out bad of luck i have had with trying to find a new job. Also by going to school it cost me money because I cant work has much but at the same time less I am at work the better I fell about not trying to think about ever thing. But I already worry about money so it does suck to make less money. Also part of why I am having a hard time trying to stay motivated at school to is that I have never been great at school have a learning disability and so its not easy and have to put in a lot of work to do even some what well. Like I have taken I think 8 classes so far and 4 of those 8 I got a C's in. My mom works for the county were I live and they normal don't like to higher people if someone in there family works there and my step dad is self employed.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm not sure what options there are for you at your current job that you haven't moved up from bagging groceries in the past 10 years. Has anyone at this job ever mentioned to you, hey there's a job at stacking the shelves, cashier, etc.?

Getting another job that has a chance for growth. Not sure how much of a go-getter you are or what your personality is like.

Going back to school is an option but it doesn't seem to be something you're thrilled with. I will say, you don't necessarily need to go to school for something you are passionate about, it could be just be something you're good at.

Finding a more manual job that pays more but is harder. (Construction, Fishing, etc.)

Join the military and let them pay for college after spending 6 years in.

 

[Hotwire]

Work at a groucer story and bag grouceris and I am stuck at that like postion has they play way to much favoritetism and have a crap boss. If I could at least movie up it would pay a little bit more and look a little better on a resume but even thing I am sick of the place so darn much for a lot of reason. Also just a lot of stupid rule changes or things they have changed about the store that are really stupid and just piss me off and I am also tried of having to deal with people are the time at a place I cant stand to be around has it makes me have very little patchents an so many of the people custumores are just lazy or so darn clueless about things.


1. Is like the only reason I am still there. 2. Is not really the issue don't make much more then midimum rage any way.

Okay, so you have a part-time job at a grocery store. These types of jobs are a dime a dozen. It just depends on how far you're willing to commute. Jobs on that end of the pay scale should be easy to find, you just have to decide what you're willing to do for the money. FYI, the job I'm in now is the 18th job I've had in my 40 years of life and I can tell you, they ALL have their issues. Every job has a boss that won't listen. Every job has stupid rules you disagree with.You just have to find the one that compensates you the best for what you have to put up with.

I'd recommend taking your next day off and just driving around to various other businesses and start putting in applications. Don't let the type of business deter you, just apply. The worst they could do is tell you, "No," and that changes nothing about your current situation. If you get an interview and the reject you, ask them this question: "I know that right now, I'm not the prospect you're looking for but, what are some things that I can do so that, in the future, when I apply again, I WILL be the prospect you're looking for?" This shows the employer that you really want to work with them and are willing to better yourself in order to do so. It can really impress them.

I hope that helps.

Also, do something about your spelling and grammar! I'm not being a nag, I'm serious! Prospective employers look at thing like this and it counts toward their impression of you.Showing you don't care about things like spelling and grammar is a red flag that you might not care about the things they are going to want you to do.

 

[Lighthouse]

Oh, this is brutal. Can your condition get any better or something?

Another kidney transplant. Getting a donor is going to take a little longer.

 

[spiderman2]

I'm not sure what options there are for you at your current job that you haven't moved up from bagging groceries in the past 10 years. Has anyone at this job ever mentioned to you, hey there's a job at stacking the shelves, cashier, etc.?

Getting another job that has a chance for growth. Not sure how much of a go-getter you are or what your personality is like.

Going back to school is an option but it doesn't seem to be something you're thrilled with. I will say, you don't necessarily need to go to school for something you are passionate about, it could be just be something you're good at.

Finding a more manual job that pays more but is harder. (Construction, Fishing, etc.)

Join the military and let them pay for college after spending 6 years in.

I could never do military I am not strong enough either physical or menterliy to handle that. Yeah a new job is a good chance for growth. While if my boss left I could most likely move up but even then I just want the heck out of there but moving up could maybe help me to get out of there but in less my boss leaves moving up is just about impossible. While its not so much that I am unthrilled with going back to school per say its just with how much work I have put into trying to find a job with zero success I fell like I have no option but to go to school has a way to change things up because just appling to different places over and over again was not working at all. Its just I fear that school will not even make a difference and that I will have just spent the money to go to school all for nothing and wasted money that I could use has I don't have make a lot of money in the first place. I hate thinking about the furture if I cant get out of there an am just forced to work there another like 30+ years I don't even want to like be alive then.

Okay, so you have a part-time job at a grocery store. These types of jobs are a dime a dozen. It just depends on how far you're willing to commute. Jobs on that end of the pay scale should be easy to find, you just have to decide what you're willing to do for the money. FYI, the job I'm in now is the 18th job I've had in my 40 years of life and I can tell you, they ALL have their issues. Every job has a boss that won't listen. Every job has stupid rules you disagree with.You just have to find the one that compensates you the best for what you have to put up with.

I'd recommend taking your next day off and just driving around to various other businesses and start putting in applications. Don't let the type of business deter you, just apply. The worst they could do is tell you, "No," and that changes nothing about your current situation. If you get an interview and the reject you, ask them this question: "I know that right now, I'm not the prospect you're looking for but, what are some things that I can do so that, in the future, when I apply again, I WILL be the prospect you're looking for?" This shows the employer that you really want to work with them and are willing to better yourself in order to do so. It can really impress them.

I hope that helps.

Also, do something about your spelling and grammar! I'm not being a nag, I'm serious! Prospective employers look at thing like this and it counts toward their impression of you.Showing you don't care about things like spelling and grammar is a red flag that you might not care about the things they are going to want you to do.

Its not really a part time job though I tend to get right around 40 hours a week if I am not doing school like before I started collage or like right now with not doing summer classes. I know that no job is perfect and may have some stupid rules that you don't like but there have just been way to many chances and they waste a lot of money on things we don't need instead of getting things we do need. Normally bosses at grocery stores don't stay long before they get pushed to a different one but unfortatly out of like the 5 different boss I have had the only one I have had a issue with is the one that has stayed the longest and dosnt look they are going to leave any time soon never had a single problem with the other ones. If they left I could most likely move up at least. Getting jobs even on that pay scale are not easy at all. I have applied at places like BB, Target, Kmart, home depo, B and C hardware, big 5, several different banks and like several other places I don't remember and nothing just the same crap of we are not highering come back later or we don't need any one or just higherd someone etc. I have went back to places over and over again to show that I really want the job to. Like one time I went to big 5 probly like 10 times and talk to the manager only before they higherd someone else and nothing really happened. Hardest job is finding a freaking job.

While when it comes to spelling and gramer I have always had that issue. A lot of gramer just makes zero sinces to me and I cant spell worth crap think I am dyslexic but with the job screeching I have done that shouldn't matter any way because the aplications are just like name, address, work experience so not stuff that I am really going to mess up spelling or gramer on.

 

[ComicChick]

have you considered Labor Ready or using sites like Monster.com LinkedIn, etc

 

[Hotwire]

While when it comes to spelling and gramer I have always had that issue. A lot of gramer just makes zero sinces to me and I cant spell worth crap think I am dyslexic but with the job screeching I have done that shouldn't matter any way because the aplications are just like name, address, work experience so not stuff that I am really going to mess up spelling or gramer on.

When it comes to spelling and grammar, I have always had that issue. A lot of grammar just makes zero sense to me and I can't spell worth a crap. I think I may be dyslexic. However, with the job searching I have done, that shouldn't matter anyway because the applications are usually only asking for things like name, address and work experience so, it's things I really wouldn't mess up the spelling or grammar on.

Look, this is a serious issue. Believe me! If I am looking at an application, or more importantly, a resume, and things are misspelled with a lot of grammatical errors, I'm not going to bother with it. It just shows that, while you may have a legitimate problem like dyslexia, you don't care enough to overcome it. That could translate to your work performance. Think of your spelling and grammar as the wardrobe for your words. Would you go into an interview in shorts, a tank top, and flip-flops?