The girl i wanted to ask out. is throwing her life away.

[Ice-man]

remeber the first i need help topic, well this girl i love alot, yes love.

shes ****ing up her life sooo bad, drinking herself ******ed, smoking **** snorting ****, i spill my heart out and speak my mind to her and she still dosnt want to take my opinion to heart.

i care sooo much about her and wish she would stop this ****, shes got noware to live, her moms in jail, and i want to help her so bad, but i cant.

she wants to be emancipated but to do that she would have to listen to me and stop everything shes doing before it gets too far out of hand.


what can i do, i dont want to see her get hurt.

 

[pavlovs dogfood]

If she doesn't want to help herself, then there's nothing you can really do. It's a sad but true fact that if you don't love yourself, then you can't love anyone else, really.

 

[batnkevlar]

If she doesn't want to help herself, then there's nothing you can really do. It's a sad but true fact that if you don't love yourself, then you can't love anyone else, really.

She's right... there's not much you can do... and remember, sometimes girls find out the guy for them is under their noses the whole time... and other times, the guys delude themselves by thinking that way...

 

[dpm07]

I think you should stay out of the situation. Don't get involved. It sounds like she's pretty unstable, and that's not something you want to surround yourself with. Move along and find somebody else.

 

[Mr. Credible]

She's right... there's not much you can do... and remember, sometimes girls find out the guy for them is under their noses the whole time... and other times, the guys delude themselves by thinking that way...

i've been that guy more times than i care to admit.

but honestly, i don't see how you could love this girl, she sounds like a real screw-up. i say just let her make her mistakes, and hopefully she'll come to when she gets knocked up or arrested or something.

 

[Ice-man]

I think you should stay out of the situation. Don't get involved. It sounds like she's pretty unstable, and that's not something you want to surround yourself with. Move along and find somebody else.

I can't do that, im not giving up on her, I'm not going to sit here and let myself feel responisible if something bad happens to her. and if i know i could have helped the situation in some way.

all these guys shes chylling with, they dont care about her, they care about how she looks, shes nothing but an object to them and i pray to god that she dosnt get raped by any of them while shes ****ed up..


id give my life for her. i wish she would realize this already.

 

[Showtime]

I really think your setting yourself up to get hurt in this situation, she is going to end up resenting you for trying to help her because she doesn't want to be helped.

 

[Ice-man]

I really think your setting yourself up to get hurt in this situation, she is going to end up resenting you for trying to help her because she doesn't want to be helped.

so true, but weather shell hate me or not, il be there for her.

 

[pavlovs dogfood]

I can't do that, im not giving up on her, I'm not going to sit here and let myself feel responisible if something bad happens to her. and if i know i could have helped the situation in some way.

Sometimes there are just times we can't reach people. This seems like one of those times. It's definitely not something you should blame yourself for, especially considering her condition.

id give my life for her. i wish she would realize this already.

That kind of desperation is attractive on no one. You shouldn't feel obligated to give your life for anyone, and it wouldn't help in this case, anyways.

This seems like the situation where it calls for you to sit back and watch her make her own mistakes. You might wince, but it has to happen. Sorry.

so true, but weather shell hate me or not, il be there for her.

This is a sweet notion, albeit idealistic and probably not helpful in the least. You sound like you're inserting yourself where you're not needed or useful. You're really just unecessarily setting yourself up for a big fall. Love is a wily mofo, buddy. Don't let it get the best of you.

 

[Mr. Credible]

dude, seriously, just give it up. she's probably already sleeping with all these guys she's chilling with and doing drugs with, anyway.

i mean, are you guys dating? friends? do you just have a crush on her?

 

[Ice-man]

shes one of my best friends, and i do like her, but id rather just be the one to help her get back on her feet.

and i didnt mean the id give my life in a literal sense, i just meant id devote any time to help her out.

 

[Dark Carnage]

Ice-man, you do realise you're in the nice guy situation right?

You're sitting on the sidelines, waiting for her to come to her senses. (Which is sleeping with you.) While she goes out, has a load of fun, sleeps with all these guys who "treat her so badly" and then in a couple of years when she's tired from that she'll come back to you. You'll of course still be waiting there for her. You'll start of a relationship. Which will be perfect of course. (Aside from the fact she'll be cheating on you.) Then you'll have a baby. Which probably won't be yours.

Seriously, either change how she sees you so you can change how she takes your advice (pouring your heart out to her is doing less than nothing) or get her out of your life.

 

[pavlovs dogfood]

Ah love yew, Jenn-ay!

 

[Excel]

I really think your setting yourself up to get hurt in this situation, she is going to end up resenting you for trying to help her because she doesn't want to be helped.

yup

 

[SWAT]

Call the cops on her... Not only may it help her (it probably won't) it will be hilarious (That's the truth)

 

[The Apatow Crew]

If she doesn't want to help herself, then there's nothing you can really do. It's a sad but true fact that if you don't love yourself, then you can't love anyone else, really.

Looks like i can never love then.

 

[unstoppable]

remeber the first i need help topic, well this girl i love alot, yes love.

shes ****ing up her life sooo bad, drinking herself ******ed, smoking **** snorting ****, i spill my heart out and speak my mind to her and she still dosnt want to take my opinion to heart.

i care sooo much about her and wish she would stop this ****, shes got noware to live, her moms in jail, and i want to help her so bad, but i cant.

she wants to be emancipated but to do that she would have to listen to me and stop everything shes doing before it gets too far out of hand.


what can i do, i dont want to see her get hurt.

stage an intervention

 

[PhotoJones]

id give my life for her. i wish she would realize this already.

You should do that. You should really, really do that.

 

[Erzengel]

She sounds like the typical girl, with a crappy or non existant family life, looking to do things whether to be self destructive or attention or both.

There's nothing YOU can do as 16 year old friend that'll make her turn her life around, that's something she's going to have to do herself and she may only do that when she reaches rock bottom.

The only thing you could do is tell her father, someone at school, but that could have harsh consequences for your relationship and she may even become worse.

 

[Ice-man]

Ice-man, you do realise you're in the nice guy situation right?

You're sitting on the sidelines, waiting for her to come to her senses. (Which is sleeping with you.) While she goes out, has a load of fun, sleeps with all these guys who "treat her so badly" and then in a couple of years when she's tired from that she'll come back to you. You'll of course still be waiting there for her. You'll start of a relationship. Which will be perfect of course. (Aside from the fact she'll be cheating on you.) Then you'll have a baby. Which probably won't be yours.

Seriously, either change how she sees you so you can change how she takes your advice (pouring your heart out to her is doing less than nothing) or get her out of your life.

na she just stubbourn and does what other people do, she dosnt have a mind of her own, as it seems.

im not "crazy" for her, i just know when someone needs help regardless of if she wants it or not, im not gonna let her turn out like her mom, all my friends see it already her friends too, i just want to be the one to get threw to her, cuz everyone else failed.

i dont give up that easy.


forrest gump imo best movie ever.

 

[Ice-man]

She sounds like the typical girl, with a crappy or non existant family life, looking to do things whether to be self destructive or attention or both.

There's nothing YOU can do as 16 year old friend that'll make her turn her life around, that's something she's going to have to do herself and she may only do that when she reaches rock bottom.

The only thing you could do is tell her father, someone at school, but that could have harsh consequences for your relationship and she may even become worse.

i told her to go live with her dad, shes procrastiniating it, shed rather get ****ed up and live her life the way she wants, as she says.

shes only doing this to rid herself of problems, but litte does she know, those problems will always be there, drugs dont resolve them, talking does.

she should give me the chance to get threw to her.

 

[Erzengel]

You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.

And you gotta drop this whole "white knight in shining armor" to rescue her because honestly, being there isn't going to help her and you can't fix the problems she made herself. She needs professional help more than a well meaning friend.

 

[ihateusernames]

Just let her know your always there for her, and you'll be there when she realises she needs help.

 

[Ice-man]

sugjested that to, she was like i aint crazy.

and i said you dont need to be crazy to open up and resolve your problems. than she was all pffft.


for the most part she does listen to me, its only a fase right now, but i dont want it to stick and get worse.


future crack****e of america.



NOOOOO!!!!

 

[Ice-man]

Just let her know your always there for her, and you'll be there when she realises she needs help.

tryed to tell her that b4 at 6 am, but she was already drunk off of her ass, and asking me if i can get her bud, i said sorry tiff but people sleep at this time of morning.

i was actually surprised she was talking to me at all, i told her i dont like her hanging out with 25 year olds, and she looked coked out too.

and she told me she should have never came threw if i was going to nag her about that, i didnt nag her about anything she was just out of it.

ask any one of the 10 people i was with.

they know how it is, they see what i try to do and the are very proud of me for not giving up, they all tryed to help her at one point so i turn to them for some help and advice too.

some said give up, but i cant.


i worry too much and care a great deal


im lookin out for her.