Mandon Knight
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Man, this thread really hits home as I've been struggling with serious depression for some time now, going back to my teen years. Doing very small things can be extremely difficult, such as getting up to make a cup of coffee. I don't enjoy things the way I used to when I was younger.
What really upsets me is that a lot of people in my life see depression as an excuse. One of my friends (who I distanced myself from lately) kept telling me that I am choosing to let myself be depressed and that I am lazy.
How do you deal with someone like that? I haven't been hanging out with him lately because he makes me feel worse and I find him to be quite toxic.
How do you deal with reaction or response to that ? A) Firstly you consider how important that person is to you, given you've been brave enough to open yourself up to them and that is their response and then B) When you have made your choice, you either explain how painful the experience is and educate them on how depression works and if they don't want to know how that makes you feel, then you have your answer or C) If it were me, I'd walk away as far as possible from them and leave them out of my life if that is how they see you and how courageous you are in dealing with depression, if they believe you to be lazy or it's a choice (it is most certainly not) then they wouldn't be worth another second of my time. I speak from experience, I had a friend of a friend who had similar thoughts (he expressed them stronger than your example, but the 'story' behind the decision amounts to the same) and they very swiftly became an ex-friend.