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This is a continuation thread, the old thread is [split]504695[/split]
Does a small first kiss determine if you're only going to be friends? We had our second date which lasted about for hours. We were outdoors the entire time. Walking around. Not a lot of touchy feely. Lots of laughs though. Date ends we hug and have just a small peck on lips for kiss. SincE it wasn't a dramatic make out session and since we joke around a lot does that mean we're suited for friends or until she says that continue thinking we're dating?
http://pakhotline.top/video/x3gu8wp
Watch from the 06:54 mark until the 16:30 mark (A Valentine for Frasier) for your answer.
There wasn't a video version on YouTube.
I'll watch when I get home, but can you give me a short answer you may have?
Okay, so this is quite embarrassing that I'm asking this question. It is stupid and a bit pathetic. But I need to ask it because I hate feeling like this.
There is the girl that I REALLY like. I guess you could say I've caught the love bug bad. This girl I've known for a couple of months. She's smart, beautiful, passionate about political issues (like I am) and ticks all of my boxes when I am looking for a girl to be more than friends with.
Here's my problem though. I am not sure whether she feels the same way. We are both members of the same political party. She told me that her previous boyfriend did not want her to be a member of said political party. The boyfriend that I THINK she was referring too is now my co-worker (and close ally for political purposes) and they clearly DO NOT like each other.
I would like to ask her out, but as I said, I'm not sure she feels the same way but I'm not good at the "games" that go with chasing a girl. My real problem is that I have this nervous feeling that can only be described as love sickness. Not because she has said no, or rejected me, but because I do not know where I actually stand and my feelings are so strong. It is troubling me.
I don't want to ruin the friendship, but I had a previous experience with a girl where I bottled my feelings up for so long without actually resolving it one way or the other, that I got so nervous around her that I could not talk when I was around her, or if I was able to, it was broken sentences. I ended up ruining the friendship anyway. (If you watch Supergirl you'll get this reference), like Winn, I don't want to bottle my feelings up so much that I end up ruining the friendship anyway.
Do not get me wrong, I am not one of those guys that pushes the point when a girl says no. I just move on. It's not knowing that eats me up.
What should I do? If you guys think I should ask her out, how should I do it? If you guys think I shouldn't, how should I deal with these feelings of nervousness that I have when I just think about her, which is quite a lot?
Okay, so this is quite embarrassing that I'm asking this question. It is stupid and a bit pathetic. But I need to ask it because I hate feeling like this.
There is the girl that I REALLY like. I guess you could say I've caught the love bug bad. This girl I've known for a couple of months. She's smart, beautiful, passionate about political issues (like I am) and ticks all of my boxes when I am looking for a girl to be more than friends with.
Here's my problem though. I am not sure whether she feels the same way. We are both members of the same political party. She told me that her previous boyfriend did not want her to be a member of said political party. The boyfriend that I THINK she was referring too is now my co-worker (and close ally for political purposes) and they clearly DO NOT like each other.
I would like to ask her out, but as I said, I'm not sure she feels the same way but I'm not good at the "games" that go with chasing a girl. My real problem is that I have this nervous feeling that can only be described as love sickness. Not because she has said no, or rejected me, but because I do not know where I actually stand and my feelings are so strong. It is troubling me.
I don't want to ruin the friendship, but I had a previous experience with a girl where I bottled my feelings up for so long without actually resolving it one way or the other, that I got so nervous around her that I could not talk when I was around her, or if I was able to, it was broken sentences. I ended up ruining the friendship anyway. (If you watch Supergirl you'll get this reference), like Winn, I don't want to bottle my feelings up so much that I end up ruining the friendship anyway.
Do not get me wrong, I am not one of those guys that pushes the point when a girl says no. I just move on. It's not knowing that eats me up.
What should I do? If you guys think I should ask her out, how should I do it? If you guys think I shouldn't, how should I deal with these feelings of nervousness that I have when I just think about her, which is quite a lot?
Just ask her out. Not doing so means you're turning her into a fantasy and putting her on a pedestal the less you actually get to know her that she'll never meet your expectations. It's better to know where you stand. Just sitting back and thinking you might have a chance if, in reality, you never did is like the Democrat supporters getting their hopes up about Hillary Clinton and then finding out when the election results came in that she was so far of the mark and was never really in the frame.
Would you date someone with a stutter?
I am someone with a stutter, sometimes severe depending on my nervousness. I'm very glad my husband didn't/doesn't mind. It was one of the very first things I noticed about him. (Turns out, he doesn't really like mindless chatter anyway, hah.)Would you date someone with a stutter?
That's not the same thing as a chronic stutter, though. Tons of people talk fast with tight throats when they're publicly speaking.Sometimes when I'm nervous I talk fast, I have to consciously try and slow down with what I'm trying to say especially when I'm testifying in front of Municipal Planning/Zoning Boards.
I...I...I'm n..n..not... s...s...sure...