MissMarvelous
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And now what? What do we talk about now?
How about expectations? What people, each of us, desire from a first date, how far we'd allow that first date to progress, what our limitations may be, and how many subsequent dates one would go on if the first didn't shine (in the sense that would anyone make do for the sake of dating someone, or would they call it off and move along).And now what? What do we talk about now?
42 is all you need to know.Life, the universe, everything?
How about expectations? What people, each of us, desire from a first date, how far we'd allow that first date to progress, what our limitations may be, and how many subsequent dates one would go on if the first didn't shine (in the sense that would anyone make do for the sake of dating someone, or would they call it off and move along).
42 is all you need to know.
If the date does not go well, then there won't be a second one, for sure! I've been there, it only took us 40 minutes to find out that we weren't interested in pursuing any kind of relation. And I paid for his orange juice and my coffee...
I wouldn't call it a desire but it would be awesome to experience that "BAM" feeling that some people say they have when they see their date/ the firsomeone for the 1st time. They see the other person and get the "I'm gonna marry you" memo, and it actually happens.
We’ve had discussions on here already about preferences, appearances and personalities, but I’d like to ask; do any of you, or have any of you thought someone was out of your league and just not bothered for fear of rejection, or prematurely worry about being judged in person after successful instant messaging?
I know I have preferences when on dating apps, we all do (have preferences) but it’s rare that I even ‘swipe right’ on someone that simply seems too good to be true. There’s a lot of very attractive women about, shall we say with the model look, but then as discussed previously, they’re usually as plain and as dull as a dry white wall.
Does the feeling of ... inadequacy ever put any of you off? I guess that’s what I’m asking.
all the time
Why do you care if it could be awkward for her. You can keep going to the diner...just pretend nothing happened.
I agree with GunBlade!
Just pretend nothing happened and keep your routine going.
I don't know about the I'm going to marry this person memo, but I've had that BAM feeling on at least two occasions, and yet neither person went beyond a second date. It can be misleading.I wouldn't call it a desire but it would be awesome to experience that "BAM" feeling that some people say they have when they see their date/ the firsomeone for the 1st time. They see the other person and get the "I'm gonna marry you" memo, and it actually happens.
Another quite likely scenario is that she's simply met someone else and feels a bit awkward suddenly telling you that? She gave you her number, maybe she feels bad and thinks it's easier to ghost you than be honest? We don't always think fair or logically in these circumstances.I showed the text string to one of my sisters and a few female friends to get their opinion if it was something I did or said. They all agreed that it wasn't me. That made me feel a bit better because I usually beat myself up over things like that. I at least know I'm not a creep or obsessive so I of course let it go since the ball was basically in her court. My only guess is since my FB profile is relatively new I don't have many personal photos. Only thing you would see is a few funny memes I had posted over time. I figured maybe I was too nerdy for her. Kind of weird considering we would chat it up and laugh all the times I was at her place of work having breakfast
People really need to learn not to get too hung up on Facebook Friends. You've even said yourself you don't use Facebook that much, so what does it matter?If anything that's a good thing because it saved me time if we weren't right for each other. I found it funny (as well as my sister) she didn't remove me from her FB profile. After a number of days I unfriended her since I felt it was pointless to keep her on there.
See, I would. Not to make it akward for her, but you're changing your routine, or your places of visitation because of her? Why? I'd persuade you to carry on as if she hadn't given you her number. If you can go back, and if you're served by her, just play it cool. Don't mention the texts, just act as you always have before. If you can...Lesson learned to once again not get my hopes up. I'm sure as hell not going back to that diner anymore because I don't want things to possibly be awkward for her.
One thing that was cracking me up was what my younger sister said. If I meet a girl in the future and we start hanging out I should bring her to that place for breakfast some time. That's quite the troll move.
Not that you've said you'd do this, but I'd caution against it. Seems petty.Haha I would lie if I say that I wouldn't like to troll the other person, thought.
Not that you've said you'd do this, but I'd caution against it. Seems petty.
People really need to learn not to get too hung up on Facebook Friends. You've even said yourself you don't use Facebook that much, so what does it matter?
See, I would. Not to make it awkward for her, but you're changing your routine, or your places of visitation because of her? Why? I'd persuade you to carry on as if she hadn't given you her number. If you can go back, and if you're served by her, just play it cool. Don't mention the texts, just act as you always have before. If you can...
Yeah I am with Erzengel on this. If she has mentioned it after a conversation about Trust and honesty, I think she just wanted to be honest with you.