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Thanks. I wish I could say I hope to see him again, but I don't think it's likely. But hopefully there's another around the corner.
I would like to add: always just go for it, except if it is someone you already know / are already friends with. Cue the story of a friend of mine having lunch with me (and him apparently considering that a date). Once I realized I kinda went: what the bad place, I should at least give it a chance. My mistake. He's a nice guy, but we really arent't compatible. Let's just say that there was no third date after the second date. Not sure if I could ever go back to 'just being friends' though. But at least now we know.^^^
Always go for it, at least that way you don't have to spend time wasted on "What ifs...?"
I'm fairly sure my husband is on the low end of the spectrum as well, but he's still aware he shouldn't take advantage of people, and that his first reaction with someone shouldn't be "How can I get what I want from them?" That's just selfish.Yeah I can't say I don't agree with you.
Honestly, I wondered if it might be a low form of autism or something.
been months, if not years since i stepped into one of these threads, but i'm fairly certain i'm going to die single and alone lol...
You're both still pretty young. There are a-holes everywhere, but you really are better off without them.I think it's got to the point where I'm giving up expectations I'm 34 and haven't been with anyone in over 2 years. It's just meh
"No I don't I arrived tonight seen you and thought no. You're better in your photos sorry to be so blunt but it's true."
been months, if not years since i stepped into one of these threads, but i'm fairly certain i'm going to die single and alone lol...
I've managed to get 10 or 11 first dates this year, mostly by casting a wider net. For me, this is a record, I don't think I've ever had more than 4 or 5 first dates in a year. It is unfortunately a lot of effort to use more dating sites: tinder, bumble, pof, okcupid, and jswipe.
Still no success though.
I'm trying to lose weight, and will be starting invisalign soon, as well as seeing a dermatologist, to improve my looks.
i have never even heard of some of those sites.
Is it creepy to ask someone out over the phone of their workplace? I made some pretty heavy eye contact with this cashier at a store nearby and they have a public number, but I didn't get the chance to ask them out as they were busy with customers.
Is it creepy to ask someone out over the phone of their workplace? I made some pretty heavy eye contact with this cashier at a store nearby and they have a public number, but I didn't get the chance to ask them out as they were busy with customers.
That's what I figured.Yes.
I go in that store every now and then, but every single time I'm in there and he's working, we make eye contact and he smiles and averts his gaze to me. Last time he checked me out at the register and couldn't stop smiling and had a minor giggle fit. I was really tempted to ask him then, but life got in the way at the time. And lo and behold same thing happened last night. I try to learn his name, but the employees don't wear their nametags. :/The answer to whether something is creepy or not is best answered by the Dobler-Dahmer theory from HIMYM:
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While it is just meant for humour in a sitcom, there is a lot of truth in it and definitely explains human behaviour. It just has never had a label put on it in quite this way before, but HIMYM summarises it quite succinctly.
So if the person is into you, then they will not consider it creepy with you calling their work number but a sweet gesture. But if they are not into you and weren't even thinking about you during all that eye contact, then the exact same gesture coming from someone else would definitely come across as creepy.
So you have to assess and guess how much you thought the cashier was into you. If the store is nearby, then why don't you go there and interact several times again to get a better read? Then you can establish a rapport and even ask them out there and then. But if not, at least if you've already built up that rapport and they know your name, then they won't think it's creepy because it won't be completely out of the blue, and they might already be thinking about you.
There is not always a hard and fast rule as to whether something would be considered creepy or romantic, as seen in the video above, because it all depends on how the person thinks about you in the first place. Of course, certain things definitely are, but something like calling up a workplace isn't necessarily, and that is how some people have even gotten together before and the other person was impressed that they went the extra mile to find out that information and make the effort. But that's because that person at least had some affinity toward the other in the first place.
That's what I figured.
I go in that store every now and then, but every single time I'm in there and he's working, we make eye contact and he smiles and averts his gaze to me. Last time he checked me out at the register and couldn't stop smiling and had a minor giggle fit. I was really tempted to ask him then, but life got in the way at the time. And lo and behold same thing happened last night. I try to learn his name, but the employees don't wear their nametags. :/
Finding someone certainly gets harder as you get older, it also depends on if you are looking for 'the one' (life affirming, move in together, settled down life) or younger and on the 'dating scene' as such.
I had anticipated to do just that today, but he wasn't working. Now I feel like a stalker.It's easy to ask someone's name. If he's helping you out, just ask him. Even if you weren't into him, you can ask him. That's what people do. I always ask someone's name if I'm dealing with an employee in the store, because if I need their name for reference if I have to come back to them (or make a complaint) then I know who I've spoken to. Just don't make a big thing out of it in your mind. You're just wanting his name for reference.
You can ask him for help or advice about something. It doesn't have to be something you really need to know. It's just a way of making conversation (or finding out information if you really were asking that question).