I've only watched two minutes of it so far but I'm glad that you decided to do one comparison with the comics and one without, props to you for that.
Can I ask why all these people approached you though? Also, her death actually WAS ambiguous as Goblin did the whole "romantic fool, she was dead before you catched her" thing. It was only clarified later on what happened. I think it would have gone down pretty badly if the death was quick and spidey was gloating about how great he was as he pulled her up, it would have been pretty odd.
"The death for Peter in the movie is just a death, not a lesson for Peter to learn going forward". There's the whole mortality thing, and the not giving up hope thing, and the "Didn't listen to a dead man's wish and got her killed"
I'm not really getting what you were trying to say to be honest mate, but hey, if it didn't work for you that's fine