What do you look for in a potential partner?

[Hannah Panana]

Potential partner, BAE, love of your life, your better half... which qualities do you wish to find in your partner?

Being all from different countries, ages and religions, one would think that we all have way too different opinions. So, here I am, asking you just out of curiosity -yes, I have a very curious mind, used to "perform" surgeries on my dolls just to see how they worked. Sorry mum and dad-

I would like to blame all those Danielle Steel books for making me believe that we all can fall in love passionately for the rest of our lives, but that would be just an excuse... Because I do believe in that.

A creative mind, a savage, a partner, a partner in crime, a passionate lover, a kind man, a generours person, a joker, a nerd, a protector, humble, SMART, positive mind, charismatic... only a few things that I can mention right now but there's a long list ha!

Have you find your better half?

 

[Mandon Knight]

I am an absolute believer in 'soul mates' and finding that one person who you ABSOLUTELY connect with. When being with that person feels 'easy' and by that I mean you feel at complete ease & peace, that's when you know. They make you the best version of the person you were ever meant to be and that you feel and most importantly, they feel, they are the safest, warmest, happiest, most complete being of entity they could ever feel, that is when you know that you have found that person.

That you couldn't imagine life without them or remember life before them, that every day you wake they are the first person you want to talk too and say good night too. They mean everything to you and they every part of you but that you exist and live and breathe together and want to share yourself with them.

That love with them is what makes your heart beat every moment and you enjoy those moments all the more because of them and how they make you feel.

That is when you know you have met him or her.

 

[Mandon Knight]

...and most importantly, when you find that person, it won't happen, because you have processed that commitment to them, but never let them go.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Am definitely sorting this aspect of my life out next year.

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

A pulse...?

 

[tzarinna]

Nope, I have not found my better half. I don't think that person exists for me, and I'm okay with that.

I have more to add but I'll save it for the relationship thread.

 

[Iceman]

A pulse...?

You shouldn't limit yourself like that.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Nope, I have not found my better half. I don't think that person exists for me, and I'm okay with that.

I have more to add but I'll save it for the relationship thread.

I hope you find that person, I believe there is someone for everyone, even if one has to wait until their dying day to make it happen.

 

[moviedoors]

I don't have a like huge checklist. If I had to boil it down to a single aspect though, it's being on the same humor wavelength. That encompasses a lot. I have a dark, bizarre sense of humor that's informed by my worldview, my politics, my tastes in art and media, my struggles with depression. I've found in the past that if the humor lines up, a lot of those other things are likely to fall into place.

And a great ass is nice.

 

[psylockolussus]

Someone who is my type that I'm extremely attractive to (looks and personality).

 

[Mandon Knight]

 

[Mandon Knight]

For me, for 2019.....

 

[AResistor]

I'd like her or him to obviously be nice, sweet, kind, etc. So not being a Trump supporter would be a #1 must, lol. Outside of that - share similar interests and have a nerdy side. Someone I can be myself around and not need to feel closeted with. Also, someone who makes me want to be better.

 

[Mandon Knight]

I personally also don't believe in 'types', that people have a pre-deposed object view that they will go for a certain look or person. Everybody is different and a possible romantic development comes from the 'soul', the person inside and their interest in one another, how much of themselves they give to each other and are willing to share, that experience with anyone, is going to differ with different people's participation, it can't be based on 'well he has brown eyes or I like that 'look' as such.

Heart & soul and just what the person 'means to you' and how you well you communicate and spark off each other is a way bigger indicator as to whether someone meets a pre-built aesthetic denominator, beauty and attraction is the person within the body not the body of the person.

 

[Hannah Panana]

I don't have a like huge checklist. If I had to boil it down to a single aspect though, it's being on the same humor wavelength. That encompasses a lot. I have a dark, bizarre sense of humor that's informed by my worldview, my politics, my tastes in art and media, my struggles with depression. I've found in the past that if the humor lines up, a lot of those other things are likely to fall into place.

And a great ass is nice.

Oh, yes... it's always nice!

 

[Hannah Panana]

I personally also don't believe in 'types', that people have a pre-deposed object view that they will go for a certain look or person. Everybody is different and a possible romantic development comes from the 'soul', the person inside and their interest in one another, how much of themselves they give to each other and are willing to share, that experience with anyone, is going to differ with different people's participation, it can't be based on 'well he has brown eyes or I like that 'look' as such.

Heart & soul and just what the person 'means to you' and how you well you communicate and spark off each other is a way bigger indicator as to whether someone meets a pre-built aesthetic denominator, beauty and attraction is the person within the body not the body of the person.

I agree with you, but... I do believe that most people have the tendency to get hooked by the looks first, and then they go for the soul.

 

[Flash525]

Similarly to what @Mandon Knight has said, I don't have a type, and I don't really think anyone actually does. What we do have though, are preferences. In some argument, it could be said that they're the same thing, but I'd argue that a type is what you look for, whereas a preference is what stands out.

I could easily say that I don't find many Asian women attractive, or I don't find many Indian, or African-American women attractive, but I live in the Western world, occupied (mostly) by people from Europe (specifically, I live in England, and there aren't many foreigners around my neighbourhood and I can certainly say there are a lot of unattractive people of the ethnicity that I'd otherwise say I'd prefer). Swings and roundabouts, cause I have seen some very attractive Asian, Indian and African-American women, they're just not the norm for me.

Tattoos (at least, excessive ones) and multiple body piercings are a no-go for me. I wouldn't date a smoker either. Just no.

Appearance aside though, someone that's independent but at the same time not too independent. Someone that would rather be out (during the day) and in more into the evenings (don't get me wrong, I don't mind being out in the evening, especially if it's warm and the sun is out, but when it's dark, dull or cold, I'd rather be sat in the warm). Someone that's up for adventures, enjoys nature in the scenic sense, is open to new activities and adventures (weekend breaks and holidays abroad), and most importantly, a sense of humour (and quite possibly a dark one at that). A vague understanding of sarcasm is probably essential too, cause I can be quite sarcastic.

It's an endless list really, cause there's so much to go on.

 

[Mandon Knight]

I agree with you, but... I do believe that most people have the tendency to get hooked by the looks first, and then they go for the soul.

Oh I agree, most people would, I'm just coming from my own viewpoint in that I don't believe the 'concept' of types exists, in my own thinking or guidance.

The concept of 'good looking' in it's inherent 'naturally good looking' sphere of thought or notion to me does not come into the equation, good looking or attractive for me, is the person and their soul and the magic that exists in the communication, the 'getting to know you' element of the duration.

Everybody has something that makes them 'attractive', the right person for the right person will see that in them and they will make the best from that between them in making each other the best 'version' of each other in being together.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Tattoos (at least, excessive ones) and multiple body piercings are a no-go for me. I wouldn't date a smoker either. Just no.

Neither of those two things would bother me at all but as you say, they are preference rather than 'type' situations.

 

[Hannah Panana]

What would you call "excessive"? Kat Von D, for example?

 

[Flash525]

I personally also don't believe in 'types', that people have a pre-deposed object view that they will go for a certain look or person. Everybody is different and a possible romantic development comes from the 'soul', the person inside and their interest in one another, how much of themselves they give to each other and are willing to share, that experience with anyone, is going to differ with different people's participation, it can't be based on 'well he has brown eyes or I like that 'look' as such.

I agree with you, but... I do believe that most people have the tendency to get hooked by the looks first, and then they go for the soul.

The concept of 'good looking' in it's inherent 'naturally good looking' sphere of thought or notion to me does not come into the equation, good looking or attractive for me, is the person and their soul and the magic that exists in the communication, the 'getting to know you' element of the duration.

Everybody has something that makes them 'attractive', the right person for the right person will see that in them and they will make the best from that between them in making each other the best 'version' of each other in being together.

This is an inherent problem with the dating world today, at least in terms of the technology being used for it. Dating websites, dating apps on our phones and tablets, all they're doing is showing a photo, and (especially with the likes of swiping apps) there's only ever going to be a small portion of people that are going to be deemed as datable, and typically, it's those few who aren't looking for the long-term commitment. It's a strange world.

Gone (almost) are the days of getting to know someone and going from there. I wish those days were here; it would certainly be easier for myself, and I'm sure many more of us here if we were more reliant on getting to know someone, rather than judging someone from a photo which may not show someone in their best light.​

 

[Flash525]

What would you call "excessive"? Kat Von D, for example?

I assume you're asking me? But yeah (I did have to Google her). I don't personally see the appeal in tattoos, but if someone had something on their wrist, ankle, behind their ear or on their lower back or something, that wouldn't bother me. If on the other hand they had tattoos all over their arms, back, chest, legs and face, I'd run the other way.

Just a preference thing. I find it unattractive - the same applies to those people who faceplant a cosmetics counter each and every morning. There's something to be said for the natural look.

 

[Mandon Knight]

As you know @Flash525, we share a lots of views in the area of 'dating' and how the system works with swipes and the like and yes, I agree, the 'old fashioned' formation of relationships is virtually dead sadly and is 'aesthetic led' to a large degree and I would never use them because I just don't function in that way plus I'd get very little feedback based on a photo alone (for one, I don't photograph well) ironically given I'm told I possess a great smile and also I think with dating sites, it is very much built on 'material' goods and those being held as a structure of importance, and whilst yes, they are formative in a potential partner, i.e. independent and inner strength, it's about how the person looks after you, cares for you, keeps you safe and loves you are key factors, to me and I doubt much of that is assailable via a photograph of someone with 'dashing looks'.

 

[Hannah Panana]

This is an inherent problem with the dating world today, at least in terms of the technology being used for it. Dating websites, dating apps on our phones and tablets, all they're doing is showing a photo, and (especially with the likes of swiping apps) there's only ever going to be a small portion of people that are going to be deemed as datable, and typically, it's those few who aren't looking for the long-term commitment. It's a strange world.

Gone (almost) are the days of getting to know someone and going from there. I wish those days were here; it would certainly be easier for myself, and I'm sure many more of us here if we were more reliant on getting to know someone, rather than judging someone from a photo which may not show someone in their best light.​

Oh, how I hate those dating apps. They really suck! It's like through a menu. A people menu. Horrible!

If a man would try the "smooth talking" thing,out, in a bar, most women now would not know how to react. All the seduction deal got lost between these dating apps and social media, IMO.

 

[Sundancer]

They're single. Sounds stupid, but about 90% of woman I find attractive are already with someone.