Wife wants hubby to know cross-dressing is OK

[Aesop Rocks]

I saw this little gem in the paper this morning:

DEAR ABBY,

I think my husband may be a cross-dresser. Last night while "Roland" and I were cuddling in bed, I felt his legs and they were smoother than mine. I asked him why he keeps shaving his legs and stomach, and then it dawned on me. "Roland" has sent me e-mails hinting about dressing up. One year, he purchased a pair of high heels. I examined them the other day day and there was evidence that they have been worn more than once. My lingerie drawer is sometimes a mess, and sometimes my clothes are a bit out of place. I'd kind of like to see him dressed up, but I'm afraid he might look sexier than me. How can I tell him I know what he's doing? -WISE TO HIM IN FORT WORTH

DEAR WISE TO HIM,

The next time the two of you cuddle up in bed, tell "Roland" you have been thinking about that e-mail he sent you regarding dressing up, that it's OK with you and you think you might enjoy seeing him that way. It's a non-threatening way to get the message across.

OK, so I just found this funny and I have no idea why. Probably because everytime I think of a cross-dresser, I think of Buffalo Bill and "put the lotion in the basket". I mean really, everytime I think of a cross dresser, only serial killers come to mind. How crazy is that?

Oh and,

 

[DarkReflections]

For me crappy directors come to mind.

 

[The Battousai]

Roland Emmerich?

 

[Aesop Rocks]

HA!

 

[Immortalfire]

 

[Majic Walrus]

Wow.

 

[Manic]

The truly funny part is that she thinks her husband will look sexier in her lingerie. Either she married a really effeminate dude, or she's a very manly woman.

 

[katie_girl09]

I would have thought that most women would be creeped out if their husbands wore their lingerie. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

 

[Mystirious]

I don't see anything creepy or amusing about this really. Cross dressing is no big deal. It doesn't harm anyone and lots of people enjoy it.

No one thinks it's strange when a woman wears trousers so I don't see why a man wishing to wear a dress is "Creepy"

 

[Maximum Carnage]

I will never be able to take a man dressed as a woman seriously. Is that so 19th century of me? :/

And I'm gay, btw. :P

 

[Mystirious]

I will never be able to take a man dressed as a woman seriously.

I don't see why. I wouldn't like it if people mocked my lifestyle or the way I dressed so I don't judge other people for stuff like that either

I've never seen a guy in womens clothes as anything strange or amusing. I've known them, been friends with them, I even dated a drag-queen for a while. Never once bothered me. Their not harming anyone and their having fun. As far as I'm concerned that's all that matters

 

[NotAHenchwench]

OK, so I just found this funny and I have no idea why. Probably because everytime I think of a cross-dresser, I think of Buffalo Bill and "put the lotion in the basket". I mean really, everytime I think of a cross dresser, only serial killers come to mind. How crazy is that?

First of all, Buffalo Bill was a fictional character, and he was sickly "in transition", meaning he wasn't just dressing up-- He wanted to actually BE a woman. There are differences, and I don't find you funny at all.

I don't see anything wrong with it. It's harmless, and so what if people enjoy it? Why do you have to make fun of something like that? Does it scare you?

 

[Mystirious]

First of all, Buffalo Bill was a fictional character, and he was sickly "in transition", meaning he wasn't just dressing up-- He wanted to actually BE a woman. There are differences, and I don't find you funny at all.

Plus, while it hopefully goes without saying, Buffalo Bill is not what people who are Trans are really like. He was a psychopath and, as you so correctly point out Henchie, a fictional psychopath. In real life people who are Trans are perfectly normal individuals who were born the wrong gender and wish to correct that, either through dressing like the opposite sex or having corrective surgery to change their gender.

 

[Majic Walrus]

I will never be able to take a man dressed as a woman seriously. Is that so 19th century of me? :/

And I'm gay, btw. :P

Ditto. Just like I can't take a man dressed like a Jedi seriously.

 

[Manic]

Ditto. Just like I can't take a man dressed like a Jedi seriously.

Seriously. Men who walk down the street in Obi-Wan Kenobi's robes aren't harming anyone and they're just expressing themselves through clothing, but that doesn't mean I'm not gonna laugh or find it weird.

A lot of cross-dressers are fully functional members of society, but it's still hilarious to hear that some dude somewhere has been stealing his wife's lingerie. And his wife fully accepts that, so that makes it extra-okay to laugh at.

 

[Majic Walrus]

Exactly!

 

[Danalys]

is it really that difficult to think of a good way to broach the topic. difficult enough that you'll write in to an agony aunt and then wait for the reply. altho these things seem to be what some people use message boards for.

another thing for clothing styles that are unisex like trousers and shirts they have different cuts for men and women, but with dresses, shoes and underwear you don't. so they're wearing clothes that don't take their shape into account, or go with their bodies flow, or accentuate it. and your meat and two veg is gonna get crushed or be slipping out. yet they find this more comfortable. such is life.

 

[Mystirious]

A lot of cross-dressers are fully functional members of society, but it's still hilarious to hear that some dude somewhere has been stealing his wife's lingerie.

I honestly do not see why it is.

I don't really see how it's weird, either.

 

[Majic Walrus]

Weird things are things that are unusual, uncommon, and that break social norms. These are all happening.

 

[Danalys]

rare behaviour is often found to be weird. doubly so when it has to do with gender roles.

 

[Mystirious]

I don't really have any interest in social norms for a start so nothing is really "Weird" to me. I don't believe the concept of normal has any true meaning

What we call normal would have been utterly bizzare and alien to people living two hundred years ago. Normal is just a word people use to label what they can and cannot understand and I think that's silly and kind of pointless. Why label things as "Weird" or "Normal"? I don't get it myself.

As for uncommon, there are millions of people who cross dress and even more who are Trans. I wouldn't really call it uncommon

 

[Danalys]

common is what the majority or commoners do. uncommon the opposite. also the only way to be extraordinary.

good points tho. altho i'd say it's weird but plenty of weird stuff is harmless and/or entertaining or nothing to even give a damn about.

 

[katie_girl09]

I don't see anything creepy or amusing about this really. Cross dressing is no big deal. It doesn't harm anyone and lots of people enjoy it.

No one thinks it's strange when a woman wears trousers so I don't see why a man wishing to wear a dress is "Creepy"

Uhm... wearing his WIFE'S lingerie?

I mean, damn dude. At least buy your own!

 

[Mystirious]

common is what the majority or commoners do. uncommon the opposite. also the only way to be extraordinary.

good points tho. altho i'd say it's weird but plenty of weird stuff is harmless and/or entertaining or nothing to even give a damn about.

Technically though, cross dressing is common. Billions of women, myself included, dress in clothes originally intended for men to wear. Back in the Victorian age the sight of a woman in trousers would probably have been grouns to have her commited. Today it's just one of those things.

I suppose it seems like a double standard to me. We fought for the right not to have to conform to stereotypical gender roles. We earned the right to be people in our own right, not pidgeon holed into gender-defined roles.

Yet while it's perfectly acceptable for me to walk down the street in trousers, when innocent, harmless men walk down the street in a dress their laughed at, insulted and sometimes physically assaulted. That to me is sad, not funny.

I'm sure that you, Manic and Majic mean no harm when you say you find it funny or weird but at the end of the day that's a human being with thoughts and feelings who's done nothing to you. I don't think it's right that he be laughed at just because he doesn't wear the clothing that traditionally men are expected to wear

That's how I feel about it, anyway.

 

[Manic]

I honestly do not see why it is.

Really? You're not finding the humor in stealing your spouse's clothes? Even stealing the clothes of a friend of the same gender has a tinge of humor to it.

"Dude, have you been taking my underwear out of the laundry?"
"Uh... yes?"
[cue: corny sitcom laugh track]
"Oh, Char-lie!"
[cue: audience applauding a catch-phrase]
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