A question about video games

[Hobgoblin]

I should start by saying I am nearly 40 years old and my wife is nearly 30. She loves video games and plays them every day, for hours. I went to work one day and she was playing when I left and was still playing when I got home. The other day she woke up in the morning and immediately went to play.

I have no interest in video games. I played them as a kid but grew out of them. I don't mind her playing because I know they help her relax but it still seems like a kid's toy.

The other night she talked me into playing Animal Crossing and I could tell she really wanted me to play. I went along with it, but to be honest, I was bored. I think reality is more interesting than make believe. I'm willing to keep playing and maybe it will grow on me. It just kind of seems pointless.

She said a while ago that never having sex with me again would be ideal, but she knows how important it is to me. She just isn't interested. It's a big divide between us.

So, to people in the above age range, have you noticed the same trend? Are younger generations more interested in video games than most other things? Are "older" people too sex focused?

 

[Iceman]

I’m 41 and have loads of friends who game every day for hours and have senior jobs and kids. I also have other friends who aren’t interested at all. I’m also very much into sport and films and books and comics and not really sure how any of that is less a waste of time than games. The other thing about modern gaming is that it is a very good way of keeping in touch with people. I have remained much better friends with the friends who were into games just because we speak 100 times more than I can with other friends (through the gaming chats).

Younger generations are probably even more interested in it. The younger guys I play with say all their friends are into it rather than just some as in my generation. I don’t think “sex-focus” is much different though haha.

 

[psylockolussus]

My momwho is in her 50s plays mobile games. I'm 30 and I've been playing videogames since I was 8.

Love for videogames knows no age.

 

[Sundancer]

I'm 46 and have been playing since the Atari 2600. Games today are so much more immersive, cinematic, and arguable more addicting since you don't keep playing the same levels over again as in retro games. Younger people tend to have more time to commit.

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She said a while ago that never having sex with me again would be ideal, but she knows how important it is to me. She just isn't interested. It's a big divide between us.

Are "older" people too sex focused?

Older people are not too focused IMO. Is her lack of interest related to her playing games?

 

[OtherwiseKnownAs]

You might ask well ask the same question about television, or comics, or movies.

 

[Flash525]

With all due respect, I don’t think video games are the problem for her (lack of a) sex drive.

I suspect it’s something else, maybe she’s just genuinely not interested in sex any more? You ask, or comment whether some people grow out of video games; maybe some people grow out of sex?

Maybe after x number of years, there’s simply more enjoyment in other aspects of life than sex.

 

[Kahran Ramsus]

I'm almost 40 and like both video games and sex. I don't think it is so much an age thing as just personal interest.

 

[MissMarvelous]

I don't think those two are related. Sex and video games. Either / or.

Maybe the video games are her way to cope with whatever trauma she goes through when she has sex. She'd rather get lost on that virtual world than dealing with her real life and that is not healthy... It's a ticking bomb!

Sex is almost a basic need. We've talked about this on the sexpert thread.

Yes, you can go without it for a while but... Being told that "never having sex would be ideal", at least this should trigger some warning inside you. Or at least some self-defense mechanism.

I don't think that sex-drive varies from one generation to another.

 

[Immortalfire]

I’m 37, and while I haven’t considered myself a “gamer“ for about 10 years, but I still enjoy playing games every now and then. Though most of the ones I play are oldies on Genesis or Super NES.

I haven’t played anything new for quite a while. The last new console I bought was a Nintendo DS, and that was in 2008.

trivia: i’ve never played computer games.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Thanks for the replies and insight. I'm sure that her lack of a libido has many causes but I'm just annoyed by her (in my opinion) obsession with games. Then again, she has said I'm obsessed with sex.

I know she's been depressed and being quarantined hasn't helped. We will see a couples therapist but cant until everything calms down. I'm told couples therapy can also help with the issues of individuals.

 

[Flash525]

Sex is almost a basic need. We've talked about this on the sexpert thread.

Yes, you can go without it for a while but... Being told that "never having sex would be ideal", at least this should trigger some warning inside you. Or at least some self-defense mechanism.

I must disagree, and I’m using myself as evidence.

Thanks for the replies and insight. I'm sure that her lack of a libido has many causes but I'm just annoyed by her (in my opinion) obsession with games. Then again, she has said I'm obsessed with sex.

And are you?

 

[MissMarvelous]

I’m using myself as evidence.

You're a special case.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I must disagree, and I’m using myself as evidence.

And are you?

I dont know. I have a healthy appetite but I dont know if I'm obsessed. Maybe in some ways I am. I do have some J. Scott Campbell art hanging in my living room. I have three books of nude art. I do sometimes look at porn. Is that an obsession?

 

[Marvolo]

Do you shun family of friends or avoid social activities so you can indulge in porn? Has it cost you relationships or jobs? Have you neglected bills and responsibilities by spending money on pornography? If the answer to all those is no then I'd say your not addicted to porn. You might enjoy it but that's fine as long as it's not damaging your life.

Edit: You dont need to actually answer those questions in a post.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Do you shun family of friends or avoid social activities so you can indulge in porn? Has it cost you relationships or jobs? Have you neglected bills and responsibilities by spending money on pornography? If the answer to all those is no then I'd say your not addicted to porn. You might enjoy it but that's fine as long as it's not damaging your life.

Edit: You dont need to actually answer those questions in a post.

The answer to all is no.

This thread is going to be closed, soon.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

This thread is going to be closed, soon.

I feel the need to reply before that happens.

Does she only play child friendly games? A lot of modern games are sex motivators, mostly for male gamers, especially fighting games.

 

[Hobgoblin]

The most violent is Fortnight.