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Adulting is Hard: A Hype Survival Guide
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started this thread 5 years ago. how is everyone faring?
been a homeowner for 5 years now. been almost 2 years since i broke my back. 40 is creeping up on me lol
sold dad's house last February. had to kick my brother out. he wasn't helping, stopped paying bills etc and while i was recovering from my back surgery, learning to walk normally again et al, i had to pay my bills, dad's bills and the house bills over there. needless to say, bye bye savings!
about a month and a half ago, i received a letter from the VA (Veteran's Affairs), that they re-reviewed my father's case and determined they made a "fatal flaw" in his diagnosis. Included was about a 20-30 page document with all his diagnosis and updates. long-story short, they are going to pay for his nursing home from now on, his rating is permanent and he'll never have to be re-tested for it. in the letter they also mentioned that we may be re-imbursed all the money we paid out of pocket for the nursing home care for the time-frame they are back-dating his rating to, which is a very shocking pleasant surprise.
had he been properly rated, we may not have needed to sell the house, which only bothers me as our family owned it over 50 years, but who knows what i'd be dealing with, with my brother. so i've gotten over it lol
side note: happy 78th bday to Dad today
if/when we are reimbursed, i'd like to take my money that's being returned and put part back into savings, and use the rest for some renovations. i'd like a fence around the yard, something taller and not see-through like my short chain-link is right now. a new dishwasher and see where we go from there.
been a homeowner for 5 years now. been almost 2 years since i broke my back. 40 is creeping up on me lol
sold dad's house last February. had to kick my brother out. he wasn't helping, stopped paying bills etc and while i was recovering from my back surgery, learning to walk normally again et al, i had to pay my bills, dad's bills and the house bills over there. needless to say, bye bye savings!
about a month and a half ago, i received a letter from the VA (Veteran's Affairs), that they re-reviewed my father's case and determined they made a "fatal flaw" in his diagnosis. Included was about a 20-30 page document with all his diagnosis and updates. long-story short, they are going to pay for his nursing home from now on, his rating is permanent and he'll never have to be re-tested for it. in the letter they also mentioned that we may be re-imbursed all the money we paid out of pocket for the nursing home care for the time-frame they are back-dating his rating to, which is a very shocking pleasant surprise.
had he been properly rated, we may not have needed to sell the house, which only bothers me as our family owned it over 50 years, but who knows what i'd be dealing with, with my brother. so i've gotten over it lol
side note: happy 78th bday to Dad today
if/when we are reimbursed, i'd like to take my money that's being returned and put part back into savings, and use the rest for some renovations. i'd like a fence around the yard, something taller and not see-through like my short chain-link is right now. a new dishwasher and see where we go from there.
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started this thread about 6 years ago and so much has changed.
I turned 40 this year. i never thought i'd lose both parents before my 40s but thats where i find myself; having lost mom in 2021 and daddy passed at the end of June.
my mental health has suffered. i've had a ton of grief this year. i've lost over 12 people in my life this year, including my dad and his uncle in less than 2 days, another great-uncle, other relatives, coworkers, friends etc.
i'm working on my mental health with my doctor, so we will see how it goes.
i've lost 40-45 pounds this year. i'm 2 years out from my back surgery and finally getting some strength back and doing more. granted, i'm sure some of the weight loss is the grief, but i've been actively making better choices in diet and activity etc.
i'm building back my savings and starting to take care of things around my house ive been neglecting in case Dad needed the funds. i got a fence in October, and i'm having a new washer/dryer installed tomorrow. surprised what i had lasted as long as it has.
had to get a new hot water heater last year and got some repairs and modifications done last month.
i also splurged on a tempur-pedic bed that's been a life saver. i can finally get out of bed without feeling like i'm stiff and hurting all the time.
needless to say; this year has been very costly to me. in so many ways. i've spent more than half my life here with the boards. some of yall have literally seen me grow up and been through the journey with me. so thanks for being here, for what its worth lol.
I turned 40 this year. i never thought i'd lose both parents before my 40s but thats where i find myself; having lost mom in 2021 and daddy passed at the end of June.
my mental health has suffered. i've had a ton of grief this year. i've lost over 12 people in my life this year, including my dad and his uncle in less than 2 days, another great-uncle, other relatives, coworkers, friends etc.
i'm working on my mental health with my doctor, so we will see how it goes.
i've lost 40-45 pounds this year. i'm 2 years out from my back surgery and finally getting some strength back and doing more. granted, i'm sure some of the weight loss is the grief, but i've been actively making better choices in diet and activity etc.
i'm building back my savings and starting to take care of things around my house ive been neglecting in case Dad needed the funds. i got a fence in October, and i'm having a new washer/dryer installed tomorrow. surprised what i had lasted as long as it has.
had to get a new hot water heater last year and got some repairs and modifications done last month.
i also splurged on a tempur-pedic bed that's been a life saver. i can finally get out of bed without feeling like i'm stiff and hurting all the time.
needless to say; this year has been very costly to me. in so many ways. i've spent more than half my life here with the boards. some of yall have literally seen me grow up and been through the journey with me. so thanks for being here, for what its worth lol.
