Best position to fall asleep with your partner in?

[terry78]

Sweetheart's Cradle is what we end up doing a lot, next to plain old spooning

Loosely Tethered looks sweet!

These names suck lol.

The irony of you doing this with a female is that the names sound so fruity.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

The lug hug looks like it'd annoy me. Dunno why, just does.

 

[November Rain]

i'll put the next two together as they flow as part of the story the author is trying to make and are a continuation of the spooning

the persuit (or simply reverse spoon)

Sleep positions can reflect passing tensions and discord in a marriage. For example, after a disagreement, your husband may suddenly turn his back and retreat to the far side of the bed in what Dr. Dunkell calls a freeze maneuver. If you then pursue and push up against him in your sleep, that's called Illegal Spooning.

Sometimes, though, the message intended by the person pulling away isn't clear. As Dr. Glass explains: "The partner who distances may actually want to be pursued. His or her distancing becomes an invitation: Will you take the initiative to come closer? Or maybe the partner feels tired of always being the one who initiates the hugs and is thinking, If I snuggle up next to you and you accept it, it's not the same as you coming after me. In this situation, rather than Illegal Spooning, it's a test, a dance of the spoons."

Resist the temptation to treat your sleep styles like a pass-fail exam. Learn how to read your mate's body language as well as your own, but don't jump to conclusions. Sleep positions are a conversation starter, not an instant horoscope.



and then there's the cliff hanger (or the 'jesus christ, finally i can get some sleep' as i like to call it)

When your husband suddenly retreats to the far side of the bed without waiting to see if you give chase, it's tempting to diagnose rejection in that stony back. Should you? Experts stress there is no "good" or "right" sleep position in marriage. "Although any deviation from the usual could indicate a problem, most of marriage is about partners working with each other's vulnerabilities," says Campbell. In other words, rather words, rather than worry or steam, try to see what’s behind the sudden withdrawal. Angel? Grief? Anxiety? If you know he's going through a trying time, give the man the space -- you'd want the same if we're sad, or stressed, and simply needed to regroup. In time he'll roll back toward you.

And consider this: Maybe he's finally comfortable enough to admit he'd rather get a good night's sleep away from you than cuddle up together, listening to you snore or grind your teeth. If the distance leaves you lonely, maybe you can suggest that you at least start the night together. If you still sense distance, it may be time to have a heart-to-heart to find out what's really going on

 

[Colossal Spoons]

I approve of those last 2 wholeheartedly!

 

[redmarvel]

Sweetheart's Cradle is what we end up doing a lot, next to plain old spooning

Loosely Tethered looks sweet!

These names suck lol.

t: Well... loosely tethered in my household involves rope or silk ties...

 

[ShadowBoxing]

see, this is good but usually for kinda semi morning, snoozing rather than hardcore deep sleeping, at least for me...

i generally cant really sleep well on my back which is unfortunate because this is generally the most comfortable, especially if her top leg is stretched out over mine.

Yeah (Wilhelm's description was better than mine), I cannot sleep really UNLESS I am on my back. I know some people prefer the side. I sometimes wake up on my side...but usually fall asleep easiest on my back.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

This...

Or this...

Is definitely my preference...sans the pink sheets of course.

 

[November Rain]

final two ones are coming up

the bottock hug

As time passes in a marriage, the tendency to restore privacy to sleep increases. "As the couple's closeness becomes fully established and less exploratory, a renewed sense of each partner's individuality is likely to arise," says Dr. Dunkell. For some couples, that means buying increasingly larger beds to accommodate one or both partners' need for space. Other couples find a compromise in the Zen position: Touching buttocks allows for large-surface contact and private connection, but without clinging. "Like two circles, separate but overlapping, this position is a perfect definition of interdependence," says Dr. Glass. It's good for when the kids have got the best of you with their constant clinging and you need a sense of your own space.

 

[Calvin]

I think my favorite is "The Sweatheart's Cradle." Nice to know the official name now.

 

[November Rain]

last but not least it's the crab

personally i feel like this is some sort of 'other' category in this article but meh

Are you or your husband sleeping in a really peculiar position, maybe sliding halfway off the bed (as if to escape from each other) or ending up head-to-toe (as if you're traveling in different directions)? Pay attention: You or he may be acting out an unacknowledged need to pull away from each other, from the marriage. If you suspect that's the case, a marriage counselor may help you sort what's going on beneath the surface of your relationship.

But unless there are other signs of discontent, don't assume that a weird new position is a nuclear strike. "Unless there appears to be a power struggle being waged during the night and the day, don't over-interpret," says Dr. Glass. "when you sit in a chair or on the sofa, you don't always sit in the same way. Sometimes when we're hurting we want closeness and sometimes we want space." And sometimes we're just very creative in bed.






there is a book somewhere that lists 37 odd different sleeping positions, although its name currently escapes me...



never mind, i'll see which ones i end up in tonight, more than liikely about four over till the morning comes

 

[AndThePickles]

I approve of those last 2 wholeheartedly!

But the Cliff-Hanger symbolizes rejection and says it indicates there could be problems in the relationship!

We also do the Buttock Hug fairly frequently lol.

 

[November Rain]

buttock hug rules!!!!!

 

[Badger]

My wife and I usually start with this...

and end up with this.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

Spooning mos def.

 

[Erzengel]

Where's the Erzengel embrace pic?

It's spooning with your hands on the goods.

 

[Calvin]

I think the worst spooning experience I ever had was with my last girlfriend, the first time we were spooning. I had a pretty bad cold that I was trying to conceal (I don't think she'd have been too keen on the lovin' if she knew I was sick) and I had a really really awful cough. I'd managed to let it out in tiny little well-timed coughs the whole evening, but while we were spooning afterwards, I started getting the worst coughing fit I'd had yet. I knew hocking up all over the back of her neck would pretty much spoil a great first night, so I spent about 8 sleepless hours just holding that s**t in. It took just about every ounce of my willpower, and was utterly torture. But I made it. Also my arm fell asleep. Sadly she never knew the effort I put forth.

 

[Machx72]

I couldn't tell you, as I don't have a partner, nor have I ever fell asleep with one.

 

[November Rain]

Where's the Erzengel embrace pic?

It's spooning with your hands on the goods.

would that be the upstairs goods or the downstairs goods?

 

[Calvin]

would that be the upstairs goods or the downstairs goods?

One on each, duh.

 

[SuperMonkey]

Perhaps the key is the pillows. My wife is shorter and fits perfectly for spooning. Her pillow is very puffy,

*stifles laughter* t:

so my arm, while bIg, can slide in and out. and she is used to that so even sound asleep I can pull it out. My pillow is one of those shaped foam ones so I can sneak it up on hers and my head and neck are still perfectly aligned.

Try different pillows and see if that helps. If not, then you can always have her reverse spoon you?

Good luck!

*bursts into laughter*



-- FunBob

 

[November Rain]

these days i'm always getting my fair share of reverse spooning, it's the ****...

but i still don't have a definitive sleeping position with her, we still move around quite a lot during night time but it doesn't seem to affect how much quality sleep we get.

 

[millennium movies]

How do i explain this...
We both sleep on our sides, her back is facing me and i always lay my arm under my pillow and it extends a bit farther than my pillow, almost touching her head. I usually also hold her waist with my right arm. There, did this make sense?

 

[Sugarculted]

Sometimes, I just get comfy on the lady fun-bumps.
Many times have I just rested on them, to find myself awaking hours later.

They so comfy.

 

[November Rain]

How do i explain this...
We both sleep on our sides, her back is facing me and i always lay my arm under my pillow and it extends a bit farther than my pillow, almost touching her head. I usually also hold her waist with my right arm. There, did this make sense?

are you a spooner?

 

[November Rain]

here are some diagrams that go with some mumbo jumbo and are at least some pictoral references for people to go with

with all these style's they sound like martial arts stances/techniques...