"Friends with benefits"

[mrvlknight21]

Hijacked:

Wife her immediately.

 

[JStorm]

Wife her immediately.

Not sure if serious.

 

[Ultra Lantern]

Boom Boom Buddies

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Climax facilitators

Sexual conspiritors

 

[AndThePickles]

does anyone else find sex without kissing weird because it freaks the living piss outta me

I've done it plenty of times unintentionally...there are plenty of places to kiss aside from a person's lips

 

[November Rain]

*shudders*

it's like the best part...



it's like having a burger....without a burger

 

[November Rain]

What I was talking about wasn't finite love that burns brightly and fades.

I'd describe it more as finite love that burns, and burns hotter and then the flames start to consume you until you realise your actually on fire and then someone throws petrol on you and you explode, leaving behind a charred carcass.

One would argue unless you are fortunate enough to die alongside your partner, all loving relationships end this way, unless of course they fade, which is just the worst.

Which to me, makes monotony sound rather lovely.

But i'd also argue that friends with benefits isn't monotonous.

It's two people who care about each other and find each other attractive, providing a comfort and connection that is missing from both of their lives, without committing to a future or a social status of 'relationship'.

And it's fun! It's in some ways more fun than a new relationship because you can completely and utterly be yourself. The person knows you already. There is no holding back, no worrying about what might happen when they really get to know you.

I guess there are swings and roundabouts to it. Sorry if i sounded preachy before, it wasn't my intention. i was just trying to get some convo gonig.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

lol I know, I didn't think you sounded preachy, just wasn't sure if I was coming across like a relationship pessemist.

I'm not. Totally not. I'm a complete lovey dovey sap.

I'm just pessemistic about ME having a relationship RIGHT NOW, while i'm stuck in my little home town, with absolutely no decent men around.

That train wreck of a relationship happened because I didn't want to be single anymore. I didn't even like the guy at first, some friends talked me into giving a chance. And I just happen to get attached very quickly once the word 'love' starts flying around.

But I think you should always trust your initial feeling about a person, and never be afraid of being single. Cause there is nothing wrong with being single.

In fairness, i'm a lot more mature in my emotions now, so i'd probably handle the whole relationship game a lot better.

But i'm just waiting for my move to the nearest city (in a year). I think if it's going to happen, it's got a better chance in a bigger town. It's just a matter of statistic

 

[November Rain]

i find the more people, the more idiots though adn the greater chance of staying out of a relationship.

case in point, sex and the city.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

seriously take a walk in my town

we have a Butlins (cheap holiday resort) full of chavvy tourists, a significant majority of elderly residents, one of the only specialist schools in britain for mentally handicapped or disabled adults to learn kitchen and waitoring skills (their lovely, don't get me wrong, but not relationship material...

... any young people here are either: like myself and haven't quite left yet for financial reasons, people who haven't left because they are drunks/druggies or have developed mental illnesses, or people who won't ever leave because their parents have given them a business to run/their girlfriend got pregnant.

Honestly, even the occasional person that I like falls into one of those categories.

Case in point, been crushing on this guy who plays cricket, drinks in the social club that I work in a couple of nights a week, no drugs, loves comics and movies... but even he admitted to me the other day that the reason he's in minehead is because he tried to commit suicide and so he moved back to his parents so they could help him.

 

[November Rain]

bognor regis?

i'm a brit by the way

 

[November Rain]

oh minehead, christ, you're in backwards sommerset country, my mistake, it alllll makes sense now.

 

[steintym]

Yikes ... Time to relocate