I always find it strange how something so small and maningless can get associated with someone for life like a song or a smell or a film, piece of furniture, advert on the telly. All small things that the brain makes an association with someone with.
We even refer to it when someone dies 'what's the one thing you wish to be remembered for and all that jazz'
I can understand in the past when loved songs were played in clubs and they still all had that final dance part at the end of the night when people slow danced but it doesn't happen anymore so how someone can get an association with another via a love song is beyond me.
I mean do people still give each other love songs as presents for valentine's day or what not.
i've been in situations where i've been with people and they put certain tracks on and i associate those tracks (if i can remember them to the time and experience). One of them was that 'she will be loved one' which was a terrible song, i remembe my face when it came on, funny.
yet you still here all these stars who are well renouned for their love songs getting told by older fans that they first made love, or conceived their children to those tracks (how anyone can perform in 3.30 is beyond me
so this then leaves two gates open. either listening while in love or listening at the end when it all goes pair shaped. i guess it depends on the calibur of the love song because obciously some are accessible to both notions while some are purely reseved for the bitter break up or tragic fatality option that resides at the end of a relationship.
what usually happens for me personally is that nice songs that remind me of the person are listened to (not necessarily love ones and not all the time) during the time when it's all dandy and then the ol love songs come out when it's all gone cack. But for every cack up that i actually care about comes another track, one can't reuse old stuff since everyone is different, so ti's not like a generic song even though the processing of emotions may all go through similar stages.
unfortunately all it seems to do is add clutter to a record collection since i feel quite silly listening to some of those tracks again once recovery is done and to think i went through a bad patch could be somewhat embarassing, especially with the older or briefer encounters.
the funny thing is that i spend a loto of my time listening to break up music (the anti love song) when i'm quite happy being single and for no other reasons. perhaps it's my subconcious trying to reassure myself that i am indeed fine with that status and perhaps trying to warn me of what would occur if i moved from the status quo (at that given time).
interesting, perhaps not. but it's worth a post i suppose.
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