Spanking Children can lead to problems later in life!

[Eggyman]

Spanking Children can lead to problems later in life:

Arthritis
Tennis Elbow

 

[Prefix]

Research shows children don't like being punished, so we should stop that because it makes them unhappy!

 

[DV8]

NEW YORK (Reuters Life!) - Parents who teach "tough love" by disciplining their children with spankings could be making them more likely to have sexual problems as teenagers and adults, a leading researcher said.
Professor Murray Straus, of the University of New Hampshire, found that children who are spanked or experience other corporal punishment have a raised risk as teenagers and adults to verbally or physically coerce a partner into having sex.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080229/lf_nm_life/children_spanking_dc


I dont buy it!

this is total b.s. I was spanked all the time and I turned out great!! *throws Vibeke T on bed, forcing sex*

 

[terry78]

this is total b.s. I was spanked all the time and I turned out great!! *throws Vibeke T on bed, forcing sex*

^If you name isn't Caleb, don't hold your breath.

On-topic, I know some females that prefer not to spank, but every guy I've talked to has said if his kids act up, they will get a smack for doing it. Honestly, that's just how most of us were raised. Now if your dad literally punched you in the face when you screwed up I can see how you might take a different stance, but let's not get it twisted.

 

[DV8]

^exactly . . . . there's a clear difference between '@$$ whoopin' and abuse . . .

admittedly, I'm more for alternative forms of punishment as I'm growing a bit older but EVERY kid is gonna do something to warrant one good, hardcore @$$-whoopin in their life . . . it's almost like a test of wills . . . once that kid gets one really thorough whoopin, they should be too scared to try to pull some b.s. like that again . . .

 

[terry78]

It's a rite of passage. A grown man that has never been spanked by a parent will have some issue later in life, I think.

 

[DV8]

^somethin like that

 

[Lighthouse]

Can I get an amen? Just walk through Wal-mart at anytime of the day.

I work at a Wal-Mart, so you can imagine my feeling on kids. I don't know necessarily that they need to be spanked. My problem is THE PARENTS DON'T DO ONE DAMN THING TO SHUT THE KID UP!!!! They just walk around shopping as if everything is fine and dandy.

 

[Prefix]

Today I was in a store and there were two mothers with a kid. One was incredibly soft-spoken towards her kid and it wouldn't listen to her. She'd be like "put that back please.. please, put it back, no sorry you can't have that...". The other mother, however, was incredibly aggressive to her kids, snapping at them for everything they did and was about to smack one of them at one point and they didn't listen to her either.

So it just goes to show that you really can't say one method is better than the other. I was never spanked myself, but I'm not going to say every child should be disciplined like I was.

 

[vibeke_T]

It really is a form of psychological warfare. You are maneuvering the child, sometimes subliminally, to get them to do what you want. We found that taking something away that the child likes that we have built up as something special does the trick most times at this stage. (she's 2) She likes to watch Snoopy movies. If she's bad, she knows that she can't watch Snoopy, which she does every day that she's good. She has been very good at daycare for weeks , even when others around her have hit, bit (she got bit by another 2 year old, but didn't reciprocate) and acted up. It's amazing what you can do if you think your way through the problem and use what she likes to do as a means for disciplining her.

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I dunno about this subliminal thing...most parents, including my own, made it very clear lol

 

[DV8]

seriously . . . this study blows . . . they asked a few people if they got spanked then asked them if they've forced themselves upon somebody sexually if those are the only 2 questions you ask, there's bound to be some kind of skewed conclusion

 

[Memphis Slim]

NEW YORK (Reuters Life!) - Parents who teach "tough love" by disciplining their children with spankings could be making them more likely to have sexual problems as teenagers and adults, a leading researcher said.
Professor Murray Straus, of the University of New Hampshire, found that children who are spanked or experience other corporal punishment have a raised risk as teenagers and adults to verbally or physically coerce a partner into having sex.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080229/lf_nm_life/children_spanking_dc


I dont buy it!

They keep coming with stuff to push an agenda. Stay outta how I raise my kids. Period. Nobody with a sane mind is for abusing kids. But corporeal punishment is still a method that works for many.

 

[DV8]

^exactly . . .

not ALL kids need to be spanked, either . . . some kids will get in line if you simply make them feel bad, or as someone else mentioned, take away an enjoyable privlege

 

[Asteroid-Man]

Bull. I got a beating once and I was locked in my room a few times for hitting my sister when I was little and I've never been abusive to a girl since.

 

[Krypton Girl]

I just don't understand the connection the mind would make between being punished for misbehaving setting the brain up to think abusing people in relationships is okay.

 

[Bill]

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I dunno about this subliminal thing...most parents, including my own, made it very clear lol

For a 2 year old, it's sometimes easier to distract or even lead them indirectly to a different result when direct methods don't work. They don't reason the same way older kids do.

I have to admit that we haven't had big problems because we started her at an early age with attention to any tendencies which might have been problematic in the future. To me, spanking is the result of a tendency a parent didn't catch onto until it was too late to get them out of it earlier and you act out of desperation and frustration to get them to behave the way you wish.

I have observed parents with children who ignore a child's tendencies and relegate them to "age appropriate" behavior that they'll eventually grow out of on their own. When this inevitably doesn't happen, they get frustrated. Some will give in and let the child get away with bad behavior still hoping they will eventually grow out of it, others take out the frustration in a physical manner and spank.

Most of the bad behavior I have seen in the kids of parents we know came about from the child simply not getting the attention they needed and the parents turning a blind eye to behavior that should have been nipped in the bud when it first manifested itself in the child.

The best example I noticed with one set of parents is that, as a toddler, the child would cry when put to bed. The parents didn't want to hear her cry so they would let her stay up until she fell asleep on her own. This developed a pattern of behavior where the child quickly learned that by crying or throwing a fit, she would get her way. She turned out to be a nightmare, and still, at 7, is a discipline problem. She also exhibited tendencies of ADD, which the parents ignored.

I can trace back just about every single discipline problem I have seen with the kids of our friends and family with problems that arose when they were younger and ignored or parenting techniques that were substandard.

But, if you can catch it in time or the parents are willing to recognize a problem(I think this is a major issue. parents unwilling to see any wrong in their kids)then something can be done. My niece, from 3 to 6, was a spoiled little brat. It got to the point where we couldn't be around her. For a long time, her parents (and grandparents) would simply buy her what she wanted, but ignored the growing problem though they knew it existed. Eventually, they recognized it and stopped buying her so much while enforcing a system of punishment/reward for bad/good behavior. She is now, at 11, far and away better than she was at 6. If they hadn't of stepped in when they did, it would have gotten bad because a lot of us were fed up with her behavior for gift giving and holidays.

Incidentally, they didn't need to spank her.

It takes hard work and dedication to raise a child properly. I think a lot of parents aren't ready for it and use shortcuts when their lazy parenting catches up with them.

 

[pyromaniac]

Good post... Bill of Amendment.

 

[vibeke_T]

bill of amendment?

 

[Metamorpho1977]

Things mama taught me

1. My mama taught me to APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE -- If you are going to kill each other, do it outside! I just finished cleaning this house.

2. My mama taught me RELIGION -- You better pray that will come out of the carpet!

3. My mama taught me TIME TRAVEL -- If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of next week!

4. My mama taught me LOGIC (1) -- Because I said so, that's why!

5. My mama taught me LOGIC (2) -- If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not going to the store with me!

6. My mama taught me FORESIGHT -- Be sure you have on clean underwear, in case you're in an accident!

7. My mama taught me IRONY -- Keep on crying and I'll give you something to cry about!

8. My mama taught me the science of OSMOSIS -- Shut your mouth and eat your supper!

9. My mama taught me how to be a CONTORTIONIST -- Will you look at the dirt on the back of your neck!

10. My mama taught me about STAMINA -- You'll sit there until all of those turnip greens are gone!

11. My mama taught me about WEATHER -- It looks like a tornado swept through your room!

12. My mama taught me to solve PROBLEMS IN PHYSICS -- If I yelled because you were going to be hit by a car, would you listen to me then?

13. My mama taught me about HYPOCRISY -- If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times, don't exaggerate!

14. My mama taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE -- I brought you into this world and I can take you out!

15. My mama taught me BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION -- Stop acting like your father!

16. My mama taught me about ENVY -- There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't have wonderful parents like you have!

17. My mama taught me about ANTICIPATION -- Just wait until we get home!

18. My mama taught me about RECEIVING -- You're going to get it when we get home!

19. My mama taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE -- If you don't stop crossing your eyes, they're going to get stuck that way!

20. My mama taught me to THINK AHEAD -- If you don't pass your spelling test, you'll never get a good job!

21. My mama taught me ESP -- Put your sweater on; don't you think I know when you're cold?!

22. My mama taught me HUMOR -- When you cut off your toe with the lawnmower, don't come running to me!

23. My mama taught me how to BECOME AN ADULT -- If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up!

24. My mama taught me about GENETICS -- You're just like your father!

25. My mama taught me about my ROOTS -- Do you think you were born in a barn?!

26. My mama taught me about the WISDOM OF AGE -- When you get to be my age, you'll understand!

27. And the all time favorite lesson my mother taught me was JUSTICE -- One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you!

 

[vibeke_T]

hahaha

 

[vibeke_T]

my fave

14. My mama taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE -- I brought you into this world and I can take you out

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

I got spanked as a kid and so now I beat my parents with fists of rage