Anyone else not like kids?

[zanos]

See thats tht thing. I'm nothing like my parents. Just because you are family with someone, doesnt mean that you are related, if that makes sense.


That's the thing. Part of me wants to have kids, I just dont want to raise them. Being a sperm donar actually sounds pretty good.

Agreed, just because someone is related to you by blood doesn't mean they're more likely to like the same things you do. However, what you can do is mold them into being more like you from an early age. Say for instance you're the type of person who's afraid of the world; well, you can drill those same thoughts into your own child with constant horror stories that they'll grow into the same person you are or some variation of it.

I was adopted into a family with a very abusive mother, that regretted adopting me, and she blamed me for being part of the family. When I had no choice in the matter.

I'm over 20 now...that was a my childhood....I am against adoption

That's irrational. If you're against adoption, then what is the solution for unwanted children? What you should be against is unwanted pregnancy or mentally unstable people adopting children.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Agreed, just because someone is related to you by blood doesn't mean they're more likely to like the same things you do. However, what you can do is mold them into being more like you from an early age. Say for instance you're the type of person who's afraid of the world; well, you can drill those same thoughts into your own child with constant horror stories that they'll grow into the same person you are or some variation of it.

I'm against that. My parents always wanted me to be the outgoing type, and my mother, to her dying day, never understood why I preferred to stay home instead of going out. All their insisting that I be as out going as they were when they were young only made me resent the social scene.

 

[Ponyboy]

I like kids... That aren't mine! I don't have kids of my own yet and have no plans to have any. Too much grief.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I like kids... That aren't mine! I don't have kids of my own yet and have no plans to have any. Too much grief.

Same here. I like my friends kids and try to stay in touch with them, even though my buddy is now divorced and rarely answers e-mails or phone calls, so I end up contacting his ex-wife, which is awkward. That said, they have twin 4 year old boys and the last time I saw them, they had a combined screaming fit that was nearly more than I could handle.

 

[Ponyboy]

yeah... What also bothers me is how kids can act like maniacs in public, and their parents seem to do nothing... or they're so desensitized to it... and they seemingly forget what it was like to be bothered by that sort of thing.

 

[Hobgoblin]

yeah... What also bothers me is how kids can act like maniacs in public, and their parents seem to do nothing... or they're so desensitized to it... and they seemingly forget what it was like to be bothered by that sort of thing.

I suppose the parent may well be desensitized by the screaming or is just too exhausted to deal with it. Its really hard for people in retail to have to hear a screaming kid and still tell the parents what adorable kids they have. That sort of thing is required by our management...or at least offer them a bit of food from the case.

Thank God for the older ladies that I work with. They will happily deal with parents and young kids. Sometimes I'm grateful for that, other times they all go out to see the babies and get so wound up in it all that I'm suddenly the only person working.

 

[danoyse]

Same here. I like my friends kids and try to stay in touch with them, even though my buddy is now divorced and rarely answers e-mails or phone calls, so I end up contacting his ex-wife, which is awkward. That said, they have twin 4 year old boys and the last time I saw them, they had a combined screaming fit that was nearly more than I could handle.

Try taking a trip to Disney World with them. I was there with some friends a few years ago, and their 6-year-old twin boys broke into a fistfight right in front of Snow White.

Their mom handled it so well...she broke up the fight, managed to get the kids to get their picture and said to Snow White, "I'm so sorry about that. But you live with seven men, so you understand, right?"

 

[Hobgoblin]

Try taking a trip to Disney World with them. I was there with some friends a few years ago, and their 6-year-old twin boys broke into a fistfight right in front of Snow White.

Their mom handled it so well...she broke up the fight, managed to get the kids to get their picture and said to Snow White, "I'm so sorry about that. But you live with seven men, so you understand, right?"

No thanks. My parents still remember "The Trip From Hell" with my brother and I as little kids. My baby brother screamed the whole time on the flight back from Florida and I was accused of tripping a flight attendant. I was three.

 

[zanos]

Try taking a trip to Disney World with them. I was there with some friends a few years ago, and their 6-year-old twin boys broke into a fistfight right in front of Snow White.

Their mom handled it so well...she broke up the fight, managed to get the kids to get their picture and said to Snow White, "I'm so sorry about that. But you live with seven men, so you understand, right?"

 

[terry78]

But on the flip side, whenever I see a little kid that is TOO well behaved it can come off a little creepy. Kids running around causing havoc is the default.

 

[ObakeTora]

yeah... What also bothers me is how kids can act like maniacs in public, and their parents seem to do nothing... or they're so desensitized to it... and they seemingly forget what it was like to be bothered by that sort of thing.

I saw a woman take a belt to her child in the store once, and some concerned citizen asked me if I was going to help..

so I asked the lady beating her kid if she wanted to use my belt because it was thicker.

 

[Lantern Venom]

Having kids is the ultimate commitment. There aren't any breaks and being a parent doesn't magically end at 18. You and your spouse/partner must be "all-in", all the time ,for the rest of your lives.

If this isn't where you are in life, the responsible thing is to not have kids. Just because society says it is the normal thing, doesn't mean you should ever feel coerced into it.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I saw a woman take a belt to her child in the store once, and some concerned citizen asked me if I was going to help..

so I asked the lady beating her kid if she wanted to use my belt because it was thicker.

I have to say, while I dont have a huge desire for kids, I cant stand kids being hurt.

Having kids is the ultimate commitment. There aren't any breaks and being a parent doesn't magically end at 18. You and your spouse/partner must be "all-in", all the time ,for the rest of your lives.

If this isn't where you are in life, the responsible thing is to not have kids. Just because society says it is the normal thing, doesn't mean you should ever feel coerced into it.

Yup. And a half hearted attempt sounds like something I would do.

 

[The Squirrel]

I saw a woman take a belt to her child in the store once, and some concerned citizen asked me if I was going to help..

so I asked the lady beating her kid if she wanted to use my belt because it was thicker.

Haha.