Best position to fall asleep with your partner in?

[AndThePickles]

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Ok, now we're just spamming.

Got somethin to add to the convo?

 

[November Rain]

exactly. less domestic drama, more nocturnal input please

 

[AndThePickles]

WELL, I know that I for one sleep better with my boyfriend in the bed with me cmad. Have you tried having her spoon you?

 

[Colossal Spoons]

I dunno how some people can fall asleep on their stomachs. I can't even breathe properly like that. Also, it probbly takes up a lot of space on the bed so you partner can't enjoy it.

 

[Calvin]

I dunno how some people can fall asleep on their stomachs. I can't even breathe properly like that. Also, it probbly takes up a lot of space on the bed so you partner can't enjoy it.

I'm pretty prone to sleep like that if I'm by myself. Especially if I'm drunk.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Heh, well I was excluding drunken pass-outs. I'll sleep sitting indian style if I'm drunk enough.

 

[kane9321]

oh oh..or her back facing me while my arm is around her waist...she says i make her feel safe that way

 

[November Rain]

WELL, I know that I for one sleep better with my boyfriend in the bed with me cmad. Have you tried having her spoon you?

ya, it's nice but i'm very aware that the position of her head isn't the most confortable as i have quite a wide broad shoulder so i feel like when i curl up in a ball on my sides, i'm pushing my blades agains her head while she's trying to rest them on my blades and head is being pushed upwards. she normally doesnt stay in this position for long but for some reason she doesn't mind her hand being trapped

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Best position is: Me on my back, her next to me laying on my chest as a pillow sort of on her side...then, she is so deeply asleep that she doesn't wake up as I slowly, gently move her off of me so I can go watch TV.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

oh oh..or her back facing me while my arm is around her waist...she says i make her feel safe that way

...untill your arm falls asleep

 

[Calvin]

Best position is: Me on my back, her next to me laying on my chest as a pillow sort of on her side...then, she is so deeply asleep that she doesn't wake up as I slowly, gently move her off of me so I can go watch TV.

Slick.

 

[kane9321]

it did lastnite bro..lol

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Haha, so may of the "sweet" sleeping positions are awesome for the woman, but put most men's limbs to sleep.

 

[November Rain]

Best position is: Me on my back, her next to me laying on my chest as a pillow sort of on her side...then, she is so deeply asleep that she doesn't wake up as I slowly, gently move her off of me so I can go watch TV.

there's no way back into bed then because by the time you get back, she's sprawled her tiny body impossibly covering a double bed



it then becomes another romantic night with the sofa

anywho, i've just found this picture if anybody is interested

and this statistical one

 

[Colossal Spoons]

there's no way back into bed then because by the time you get back, she's sprawled her tiny body impossibly covering a double bed

Haha

 

[November Rain]

I found this useful article, i will break it up into the relevant sleeping positions and their insights

I'll start with the spoon (non-collosal)

So close, so safe, this is the most common sleep position for the first three to five years of marriage. "Usually, the man is the embracer," says Dr. Dunkell. "When a woman assumes the posterior position, it may indicate she is the more giving partner or that he needs special nurturing." Semi fetal, genitals against buttocks, the Spoon provides both of you with maximum physical closeness, though it's not necessarily erotic.

"Many couples simply find the Spoon a comforting, safe cocoon," explains Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D., a psychologist and marital therapist in Baltimore. During early marriage, couples tend to maintain the spoon position for much of the night, mirroring each other. "When one person turns, the other follows suit, so that the spoon position is resumed on the opposite side," says Dr. Dunkell. But just because you've been married a while doesn't mean you have to give up this closeness. "When my husband hits the snooze alarm in the morning, it's our cue to spoon until the day can't be postponed any longer," says one woman who just celebrated her seventh wedding anniversary.

 

[November Rain]

then honeymoon hug (who names this ****)

Face-to-face, the Hug is the Rolls Royce of intimacy. Less common than the Spoon (and uncomfortable to maintain throughout the night), the Hug tends to occur at love's blazing beginning, when you're so deeply enamored you wish you could fuse, or just after lovemaking. Some couples return to it over the years during periods of special joy. And a few refuse to give it up, though, as Elizabeth Flynn Campbell, a New York psychotherapist who specializes in relationship issues, says, "They could be overly enmeshed, too dependent on each other to sleep apart."

What if your husband likes the Hug and you find it stifling? Like other marital issues, sleep positions are negotiable, says Campbell. Try the Hug until he falls asleep, then sneak off to a more comfortable position

 

[Colossal Spoons]

That honeymoon hug looks horrible :

 

[redmarvel]

I'm a spooner, hubby isn't... so once he falls asleep I snuggle up against him. If he wakes up I move back to my side of the bed, then sneak over again when he's back asleep. I put my left arm under my pillow stretched towards the headboard (I'm the right side of the bed, hubby is the left).

If he's facing toward me, I'm out of luck and have to wait until he either rolls onto his back or onto the other side.

 

[November Rain]

like shingles (on a roof)!!!!!

One Partner (typically the man) lies face up in what Dr. Dunkell calls the "royal" position (bespeaking a strong ego and a sense of entitlement). Although the woman also lies on her back, her head is on his shoulder, suggesting, says Dr. Dunkell, she is the more dependent and compliant partner. "By looking at the world from the same perspective as his, she achieves a strengthening sense of comradeship and protection."

Couples favor this position, which speaks of a strong commitment, early in marriage. "There's a high level of trust here," says Dr. Glass. "You're like a turtle on its back, exposing yourself, open to all kinds of touching." If you're not comfortable sleeping face up, but want the coziness of such proximity, try the Reverse Shingle: Lie facedown, with your body overlapping your husband's. Not only might you sleep better, but you'll be delivering a sweet message: "Psychologically, this represents an attempt to focus total attention on your partner, even in sleep," says Dr. Dunkell.




i'll put this one here since it's practically the same thing

the sweetheart's cradle...*yuck*

This is a more fused version of Shingles, because you're actually being held rather than just supported by an available shoulder. Consequently, this position makes you feel like the recipient of a generous and loving gift, especially if you're going through a time crisis or special need. "You're literally being brought in under the wing," says Dr. Glass. "It's a very nurturing position."

"When I was going through treatments for breast cancer, my husband held me in his arms as we drifted off to sleep, a 35-year-old woman remembers. "Even though we shifted into other positions during the night, we would return to cradling in the early morning hours. I'll always remember how protected and safe I felt."

But there's no reason you must wait for a crisis to try this position. Nor must your husband always do the cradling. Wrapping him in your arms while you talk in bed at night is an intimate way to reconnect after a stressful day. It's also a great position to fall asleep in while watching TV -- no matter who has the clicker.

 

[November Rain]

the loosely tethered

When love is new, partners will often sacrifice the pleasure of their preferred sleep positions to the rewarding intimacy of couple sleep. Five or so years into marriage, many couples feel secure enough to allow a bit more space -- and comfort -- into their bed. Often, they'll sleep tethered, like spoons but with distance between them. The emotional current is sustained by a touching hand, knee, or foot. "This can be a way of balancing the need for space and the need for closeness," says Dr. Glass. "It also diminishes the pressure for sex. It's an affectionate, not sexual, position." Of course, you can get closer whenever you like.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Sweetheart's Cradle is what we end up doing a lot, next to plain old spooning

Loosely Tethered looks sweet!

These names suck lol.

 

[terry78]

Face down, ass up.

 

[November Rain]

there's more of where that came from...

Some couples aren't comfortable establishing physical contact directly, and need to go about it as if it were almost by chance -- your toes or feet "accidentally" touch, or your leg is casually thrown over his. Although such casual contact could imply that you or your husband are ambivalent about expressing affection, or intentionally withholding it -- maybe after a fight -- it may also speak of healthy camaraderie. To Dr. Glass, hooked legs suggest familiarity, comfort, and a daring quality as well, almost like a dress code. After all, you have to have a pretty strong foundation to assume such physical proprietorship even when you're fighting.