Bittersweet Day; Need Some Quick Motivation!

[Prognosticator]

Hey guys,

I just wanted to let you all know that I have to tell my boss that I am quitting to take another job this morning. I'm waiting for the other associate to leave for her class so there will be fewer distractions.

This was a hard decision to make and it will definitely mean FAR fewer time on the hype since I will be moving on to a FULL time job with REAL work to do.

I've got the same pit in my stomach as if I were about to break up with a girlfriend. It's not going to be an easy thing to do, and I know he doesn't see it coming.

He's lible to get angry or upset with me. Any last minute advice before I go talk to him???

 

[jaguarr]

Work to please yourself, not please others. Tell him you appreciate the opportunities he's given you and that you'll miss working for him, but after some hard thinking and tough decisions, you've decided to pursue this other opportunity because it's a better fit for where you want to go in life and affords you new opportunities that will help you move forward with your aspirations and the experiences you'll need to get there. Plus, it is full time and has a salary to compliment that, so there are also financial reasons to make the move. If he resents you after that then he's an a-hole and doesn't deserve your respect any longer.

Good luck and congratulations,
jag

 

[Prognosticator]

Thanks Jag, Great advice!

I've been working here for a year, but before that I volunteered with this Collegiate Organization for three years!! I've been around this guy since I started college, and now he's been my boss for a year. He knows me pretty well so this should be pretty GUT-WRENCHING...

He's BIG into guilt trips

 

[jaguarr]

Thanks Jag, Great advice!

I've been working here for a year, but before that I volunteered with this Collegiate Organization for three years!! I've been around this guy since I started college, and now he's been my boss for a year. He knows me pretty well so this should be pretty GUT-WRENCHING...

He's BIG into guilt trips

If he guilts you at all, guilt him right back by saying "I'm surprised that you're acting this way. I really expected you of all people to understand and be supportive of me." and then act a little bit offended. He'll change his tune pretty quickly.

jag

 

[Prognosticator]

I'll be sure to remember that

 

[Mee]

Don't worry, be happy. All you need is love.

 

[Prognosticator]

Oh crap, the associate just left. I'm totally nervous now...

I already think I've got a batch of diarrhea!

 

[jaguarr]

I'll be sure to remember that

Managers are people too, and therefore can be mindf**ked just like anyone else. Anyone who's not happy for you for your new opportunity isn't your friend and doesn't deserve your respect any longer. The goal for you, here, is to exit cleanly and on good terms so you can use your soon to be former manager as a reference in the future.

jag

 

[Prognosticator]

Hey, I just spent some QT with the boss, and it was hard getting the words out of my mouth to begin with!

But, once I finally started sharing, and got as much out as I could, as fast as I could. You wouldn't believe it if you know him, but he was very kind in his response. It didn't even appear as if he was holding back anger or vigilence of any kind.

He said that if it feels like the right move then I should take. He knew sooner or later I would be moving on, but he had just assumed it would be next May...

Wow! What a relief to get that off my chest. Now I just have a few close friends too contact b/c it will surprise them to know I'm moving away.