Borderline Personality Disorder

BPD is extremely, extremely difficult to deal with, for the sufferer and those around him/her.

Leaving her now would reinforce some of the paranoia/abandonment fears that come with BPD and probably seem to make her worse. However, if you think that you won't be able to handle being with her and pretty much sacrificing yourself, leaving her now would be less traumatic than staying with her for long enough to break down some of her barriers and then deciding that you can't take it and leaving.

You could ask to come to one of her therapy sessions and have a heart-to-heart with her therapist about what to expect and a more personal evaluation of what you're getting into.

It all sounds really un-romantic, and a lot of people would say 'love will conquer all and make everything ok' but with BPD, it really won't. Its constant, constant work.

In short, it depends on how much you like this girl so far. Leaving now may seem harder, but its better for everyone in the situation now than later, if it has to happen. I'm not trying to scare you away from the situation, or speculate that you're not strong enough to handle it. She doesn't deserve to be with someone who can't support her the way she needs, and you don't deserve to unwittingly commit yourself to a situation that could break you as a person. Its a very difficult situation- as is any when dealing with mental illness.

 

What is that type of science where the shape of your skull is connected to the job you'll get?

 

Oh and stay with her, don't be a dick.

 

Excellent advice.

jag

 

That's phrenology.

And its really, really, not that simple.

 

If he honestly knows that he can't handle it. Than that's not being a dick. Being a dick is staying with her even though he is overwhelmed by this part of her and then finally breaking her heart later on.

 

Exactly. Its much more traumatic for a person with abandonment issues to finally start to put some trust in a person and have them leave than to have it happen when they still expect him/her to leave. Its not just that it would 'break her heart'- depending on how far the relationship gets, it could put her in the hospital or worse. 'Abandonment' and 'being alone' are two of the most horrible concepts in the world to a person with BPD.

 

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That is a tough deal if she isn't going to get better . however i think after a while she will improve. I 'd stick it out if you really want to be with her.

 

Seriously, if you leave her she might try to kill you.

 

sweet your dating a girl from the BPRD

 

Been there, done that. He was a diagnosed schizophrenic. Good times.

 

Did he single handedly reenact the musical cats by himself?

 

LOFL! Oh, man, that's the funniest thing I have read here in awhile.

jag

 

Wow, Logan's Runt is like a diamond in a sea of crap advice in this thread. Ignore everyone else and follow Runt's advice.

 

I wish. :meow:

 

May I ask, what is BPD?

 

Are you serious? It says it in the thread title.

jag

 

http://www.yahoo.com/

Your link to all human knowledge is just a click away.

 

Let me rephrase.

What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

 

Thanks for the clarification. It appeared you were asking what the abbreviation was for. At any rate, Geo's got the right approach by suggesting you search on it to get a more complete explanation than you'd get here.

jag

 

Imagine "that time of the month" lasting 365 days a year.

 

Wiki has a good article:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder

And the Mayo clinic is always a good source:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/borderline-personality-disorder/DS00442

Here's a good site dedicated to the Disorder and living with it:
http://www.borderlinepersonalitytoday.com/main/