Help me classify a social disorder.

[ShadowBoxing]

We have a "friend" (I use that term loosely because we all actively avoid him at this point).

He comes over and "hangs" with us (again loosely)

- He doesn't drink.
- He makes weird gestures of friendship, such as buying us a cheap bottle of Vodka
- He lacks any sense of humor, or if he doesn't; it is obtuse and aloof.
- He doesn't talk and when he does he makes these random, sketchy comments usually about odd topics or odd things not related to the conversation.
- He rarely jokes around about what we joke around about.
- He comes over unannounced.
- He will not knock before coming in the door, he just comes.
- He is actively stalking two of my roomates (who he feels he is friends with). He has been caught watching for them to return to the apartment.
- He has almost no non-verbal ways of emoting. Little body langauge, almost a pedantic tone to his voice. He almost never expresses himself by changing pitch or volume.

 

[CConn]

Sounds like JAL.

 

[muertevilla]

he is just trying to hard or has never had friends before. maybe he is just lonely. cheap or not you cant dis a friend for bringing over booze. you just need to tell him straight up. those type of friends you need to check everytime they do something weird. that way they learn. if he comes over unannounced tell him to call nextime. if he doesnt knock...let him know...and be honest. thats what those people need to snap them out of their shells.

 

[Kyalesyin]

Sounds almost exactly like my autistic cousins, and I mean exactly.

 

[The_Dark_Knight]

He needs to get laid.

 

[ang_hulk]

sounds like hes confused.dont bother with titles,there all the same and require all the same meds.he prlly never had a good freind tellum what he was doing could cost him and him buying the stuff may be for him realizing he does stupid things like coming in unannouced and mabey hes worried you wont invite him over so he waits till you get home or just comes in and hopes for the best.him not joking around or having the same sense of humor shouldent mean much if he contributes but if he doesnt mabey go off his comments(off the wall or not) and see where it goes.He may just need reminded your his friend and some pointers would help.

 

[Alex Summers]

It kinda sounds like Aspergers.

 

[Immortalfire]

Sounds like JAL.

*snort* t:


JAL-damo syndrome.

 

[Kyalesyin]

It kinda sounds like Aspergers.

Nah, I'm voting full blown autism on this one. He'd have mentioned the memory stuff and the obsessive habbits if it was Aspergers.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

It kinda sounds like Aspergers.

Yeah I am actually on a page about that right now...and you're right, that's what it sounds like.

I politely told him to leave ("You could come back later when Brian is here"...is what I said) and he totally did not get it.

 

[Kritish]

We have a "friend" (I use that term loosely because we all actively avoid him at this point).

He comes over and "hangs" with us (again loosely)

- He doesn't drink.
- He makes weird gestures of friendship, such as buying us a cheap bottle of Vodka
- He lacks any sense of humor, or if he doesn't; it is obtuse and aloof.
- He doesn't talk and when he does he makes these random, sketchy comments usually about odd topics or odd things not related to the conversation.
- He rarely jokes around about what we joke around about.
- He comes over unannounced.
- He will not knock before coming in the door, he just comes.
- He is actively stalking two of my roomates (who he feels he is friends with). He has been caught watching for them to return to the apartment.
- He has almost no non-verbal ways of emoting. Little body langauge, almost a pedantic tone to his voice. He almost never expresses himself by changing pitch or volume.

Restraining order.

 

[Kyalesyin]

Restraining order.

Is that a disorder these days?

 

[Kritish]

Is that a disorder these days?

It's the solution.

 

[Kyalesyin]

It's the solution.

Sounds like a plan

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Aperger's is mostly a lack of tact. SB, would you say he's tactless?

 

[Canadian Rider]

Sounds like aspergers ... but also a little bit of the sociopath thrown in ... just be careful.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Restraining order.

I should start working on that too.

Aperger's is mostly a lack of tact. SB, would you say he's tactless?

The website I just went on said "people often consider patients suffering the disorder to have Spock-like personalities"...I did not see anything about tact.

But in answer to your question: He seems to have tact in so much that he hasn't said anything offensive like "I hate (racial minority)" or "girls are inferior to males"...but he isn't very tactful in action I wouldn't say. For example coming over unnanounced and not knocking when you come in the door I'd say is showing a lack of tact.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Sounds like aspergers ... but also a little bit of the sociopath thrown in ... just be careful.

He is only 128lbs tops...I can take him

 

[Kritish]

He is only 128lbs tops...I can take him

How about some of that mace that sticks to people's faces?

 

[Kyalesyin]

How about some of that mace that sticks to people's faces?

Napalm?

 

[Colossal Spoons]

The website I just went on said "people often consider patients suffering the disorder to have Spock-like personalities"...I did not see anything about tact.

All the examples relating Asperger's to lack of tact I want to link to you are all convoluted but you seem to have gotten the point. His actions do seem tactless .

 

[Canadian Rider]

He is only 128lbs tops...I can take him

The worst serial killers are usually small and underestimated. Just saying be careful. People who don't get social conventions etc. is usually a red flag for those who are not quite wired correctly.

 

[Kritish]

Does he look anything like this?

 

[DarthRekal]

he is just trying to hard or has never had friends before. maybe he is just lonely. cheap or not you cant dis a friend for bringing over booze. you just need to tell him straight up. those type of friends you need to check everytime they do something weird. that way they learn. if he comes over unannounced tell him to call nextime. if he doesnt knock...let him know...and be honest. thats what those people need to snap them out of their shells.

this is what i was gonna say

 

[Colossal Spoons]

^Like the creepy guy from Billy Madison.