How young is too young?

[PyroChamber]

At the age you're at now, how young do you think is too young to be attracted to the opposite sex?

I'm 28, and it's gotten to the point for me where 22 or 23 has become too young for me. It's not even about looks but more so maturity for me personally.

 

[The Original Bamfer]

Well, that's the thing, it all depends on different things for different people. Emotional maturity is a big thing for me; I would love to be in a relationship with "the one." I want to settle down and I'm only 23. It's hard for me to judge based upon someone's age because there may be someone near my age with the same things in mind, though it's rare. It's unfortunate that the stereotype that young adults only care about sex is very often true. But I've found exceptions. So I, personally, will not go under 20. Preferably 21 and above, really, so they can realize drinking's not nearly as cool when it's actually legal, haha. But, again, if I get on well with someone who has the same relationship aspirations as I do, I'd be willing to make an exception as long as they're not a minor, of course!

 

[The Question]

As long as they're legal, then it should really just come down to the emotional maturity of both parties and how much mutual respect for each other and how much self respect they have for themselves.

 

[I SEE SPIDEY]

I'm 27 years old and I find most people under the age of 24 to be extremely immature and stupid. I want to get married some day so too young for me would be a dude 5 years younger than myself.

Eh, I don't plan on getting married until I'm in my early 30's anyways so that 24 age doesn't really apply to me anyhow.

 

[mrvlknight21]

The formula is half your age plus 7
So, if you are 30, half of that is 15 plus 7 is 22. That is as young as you should go.

But yes, you take a risk of getting someone who hasnt matured or still wants to/hasnt yet lived their little single "party" stage yet.

 

[Dark Raven]

At the age you're at now, how young do you think is too young to be attracted to the opposite sex?

I'm 28, and it's gotten to the point for me where 22 or 23 has become too young for me. It's not even about looks but more so maturity for me personally.

Eh, that's not a huge age difference at all. 5 or 6 years is pretty normal in fact. The older you get, the less age matters. Lots of people are mature for 22 or 23 and equally lots are immature over 30.

The main problem is when you are say 24 and the girl is only 16 or even 18. That's more of an age gap than your age and someone of 22 or 23.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Depends on what you find attractive.

I'm 24, and I've never found anyone my age or younger attractive. They've always been a year or more older than me. Biggest age gap for me finding a guy attractive was 28 years, though when I found out how old he was my attraction did start to fade

I usually go for guys between 26-39.

But the thing is, a 22 year old girl might act like an 18 year old or she might act like a 30 year old. Different people have different levels of maturity, so I'd never set an age limit (within reason and legality) TBH.

 

[Lencho01]

Eh, that's not a huge age difference at all. 5 or 6 years is pretty normal in fact. The older you get, the less age matters. Lots of people are mature for 22 or 23 and equally lots are immature over 30.

The main problem is when you are say 24 and the girl is only 16 or even 18. That's more of an age gap than your age and someone of 22 or 23.

I wouldn't see much of a problem with a 24 year old and an 18 year old as long as both are mature people. And as you said, as both people get older, there wouldn't appear to be that much of difference. Just may seem more odd when you're younger.

 

[Dark Raven]

I wouldn't see much of a problem with a 24 year old and an 18 year old as long as both are mature people. And as you said, as both people get older, there wouldn't appear to be that much of difference. Just may seem more odd when you're younger.

It's not so much of a problem, but just that a 24 year old and an 18 year old might be at different stages of their life (eg one has only just come out of school whereas the other may have gone to college). But then, if both are at a similar stage of life, it may not be an issue.

Of course, if they did married and stayed together for the rest of their life, then there isn't any problem with the age gap by the time say, one is 30 and the other is 24.

It really depends on the individuals in each case.

 

[Schlosser85]

I'm 26 and I wouldn't date under 20 or probably over 30.

But emotional maturity has a lot to do with it too. My youngest roommate is 21 and while he's a sweet kid, he's very immature and doesn't think things through at all half the time. My other roommate is 24 and I would say he's more mature than me.

 

[8wid]

No more than ten years and that's it. It's probably healthier to do no more than five though.

 

[Midnyte_Sun]

If you're a celebrity, at least 40 yr difference would be considered too young.

 

[Bim]

Hmm i've never really had a fixed number, but now that i think about it the guys i've dated have usually been no more than 2 years older than me or one year younger. It depends greatly on the level of maturity and what stage of life both people are in imo. As long as it's legal, i'd say age is just a number if both parties are happy.

 

[Steyin]

The formula is half your age plus 7

Plus High School girls....I keep getting older, they stay the saaaaame age.

 

[Victarion]

When is alt species too weird?

 

[The Original Bamfer]

When is alt species too weird?

Your recent talk of bestiality is really disturbing and, while I know you're seeking attention, that's not something to joke about. So stop.

 

[Anubis]

We talking about getting married or just sex? Cuz just sex would be whatever age is legal. I mean, who cares? If we're talking about a relationship, then, it's that whole maturity thing or whatever.

 

[Ajendo]

I just turned 27 and my current gf will be turning 21 in June. She's ordinarily ok but sometimes she can be a major pain in the ass. As in, its like she has this switch which she can activate that engages this mega-immature behavior. However, I've dated women in their 30s 40s and the youngest girl i've dated whilst still in my 20s was 18, granted I was 23 at the time.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I used to say anything under 25 is still too young and immature. I may have to up that age a little.

 

[The Original Bamfer]

See, I admit to biting into stereotypes, but I also can admit that there are exceptions. Judging a whole group based on a few might prevent you from having some great experiences.

 

[KevanG]

I usually have a 5 year +/- limit. Tried dating younger but never worked out.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

I turn 31 on the 30th or March, my fiance is 24. No problems with the age difference.

 

[Lencho01]

It's not so much of a problem, but just that a 24 year old and an 18 year old might be at different stages of their life (eg one has only just come out of school whereas the other may have gone to college). But then, if both are at a similar stage of life, it may not be an issue.

Of course, if they did married and stayed together for the rest of their life, then there isn't any problem with the age gap by the time say, one is 30 and the other is 24.

It really depends on the individuals in each case.

Yeah, I hear you. The younger you are, the more significant that age difference may be in terms of maturity or what's going on in their lives. Then as you get other, it's not really a big deal deal.

How do you all feel about 10, 20, 30, etc. age gaps?

 

[SpideyInATree]

It depends on what you're looking for and your maturity level, and also of the person that you are going to date.

I'm 31 and have found that it DOES seem weird to date a girl who is 20 or even 21. However, if we clicked as people and it felt right I probably would just because you never know.

However, lately I have seemed to be attracting ladies older than me, in their mid to late 30's which doesn't bother me one bit. I'd also date a woman older than me if we clicked.

It just all depends on how you click.

Now I have met girls who are like 22 or 23 and they've annoyed me so much with the constant texting, Facebook-ing, and Twittering that you just want to smack the phone out of their hands and stop their ADD.

 

[Handsome Rob]

I had my biggest age gap last year. I'm 35, and I dated a 22 year old. Things didn't work out, because we were basically just at two different places in life. Before that, I think 6-7 years younger was my biggest age gap.

I don't have a bad thing to say about that girl and still think the world of her--we're still friends. But, I would consider her to be an exception to the rule . . . I have a hard time seeing myself dating any other woman that young. And, looking several years younger than I am (the last 22-year-old I met at a Christmas party this past year thought I was 27), I unfortunately seem to show up on their radar a bit more than I'd expect.