Is Going to a Strip Club Cheating?

[The Original Bamfer]

You sound a tad bitter.

 

[Immortalfire]

Matthew 5:28 (The Message)

27-28"You know the next commandment pretty well, too: 'Don't go to bed with another's spouse.' But don't think you've preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices—they also corrupt.

I thought of this very same verse.

So yes, it is cheating.

 

[Addendum]

You sound a tad bitter.

Me? This is my normal tone.

 

[Nivek]

I've known too many strippers to know that private dances always leads to trouble. Unless your bi girlfriend payed for the lap dance.

 

[kane9321]

Not if your girlfriend is working, then you are just visiting her.

nicet:

 

[Ahura Mazda]

It depends upon the state of mind but it is difficult to construe going to a strip club as cheating because it would then have to be said that if you see an image of someone undressing in a movie then it is similarly cheating.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

I've known too many strippers to know that private dances always leads to trouble. Unless your bi girlfriend payed for the lap dance.

What kind of trouble?

 

[ShadowBoxing]

I picked "No, but he shouldn't be doing it". No, it's definitely not cheating, but there are probably better uses of your time and money when you're in a relationship. Although really there should have been an option "No, but if you do go you should take her with you, because strippers get a huge kick out of couples at the clubs".

 

[November Rain]

I've been to a strip club with my girlfriend, it's no big deal.

but it all depends on teh couple, if you feel ashamed about telling someone you've participated in something, then it's probably best that you shouldn;'t be doing it, or you shouldnt be with that person.

any further discussion on it isn't reall relevant if this is about a specific relationship. If you live your relationship by society's rules, it's bound to fail.

 

[Zephyr Alexian]

Some people go to strip clubs with their girlfriends among other friends. It's not only a male past time. Private burlesque shows are better than strip clubs.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

It's up to you in your relationship. Cheating has to be defined by the couple for themselves- should be done early and clearly if you want the easiest ride. If my husband or I went to a strip club, got a lap dance, etc, wouldn't be cheating in our terms. If you think she'd be mad and so you feel like you couldn't tell her you were going, you shouldn't be doing it until you've discussed it clearly.

This sounds like the correct answer to me. I don't consider going to a strip club as cheating for me, mainly because it doesn't really arrouse me since I know the strippers don't care about me only my money. I never get lap dances since it's a waste of money, like I actually want to pay $20-30 to be teased. If a group of friends wants to go, I'll go and sit at the stage, tipped the girls every once in a while, but there's no emotional attachment to the situation. I've never even considered the possiblity that "This stripper really likes me"

 

[Erzengel]

This old friend of mine forced her soon to be husband to go to a strip club for his bachelor party because she felt it was tradition.

 

[The Guard]

Maybe she thought he'd hate her forever if she prevented him from doing so.

My girlfriend actually wants to go to one. We have a friend in college who stripped, and she wanted her to be at my bachelor party. I don't see the point in going to strip clubs, really. To me, it's a waste of money and time.

 

[Erzengel]

In hindsight, he always seemed to take direction from her, so he never seemed to want to voice what he wanted.

He was just happy to have someone. *shrug*

 

[Marx]

I voted for 'yes, it's cheating if it's not a bachelor party', but I think I should have read the poll better. (I didn't see the 'No, but he shouldn't be doing it' option.)

I wouldn't necessarily call it 'cheating', but you should have more common sense than to go to a strip club if you're involved with someone and you're going there just to be going there.

 

[AndThePickles]

I don't think it's cheating. I have never been to one, so it's hard for me to fully judge. As for lap dances, the idea of a stranger's T&A all up in my boyfriend's face doesn't make me THRILLED or anything, but I'd rather he just tell me when he's gotten a dance than lie about it. I'm not his mother, and I'd never dictate where he can or can't go like I've seen some of my friends try to do. Trying to tell people what to do is the quickest way to have them do it behind your back. It's up to him to know himself and if he's crossed a boundary.

That being said, I know those girls are just being paid to grind up on people, and that it isn't often sexual for them at all. He's coming home to me. I'd actually really like to go to a strip club with the boyfriend...I think it'd help me understand what they're like, and I also think it could be a lot of fun.

 

[Raiden]

I don't really think it's cheating, but your significant other may disagree, and if she thinks it's cheating, then it is. I just wish that I had gone to more strip clubs before I got married, because I sure won't go there now.

 

[BlueLightning]

Do you feel like your doing something really wrong to your girl? Would you bring it up in conversation? Would you hesitate to tell her? Would you feel bad? Would she get mad?....then count it as cheating

This sums it up I think.

 

[The Spawn]

I hate multi-choice polls.

 

[BlackLantern]

...but my mom forgot her lunch

 

[Why Are You Crouching Spock?]

No.

 

[knowsbleed]

Do you feel like your doing something really wrong to your girl? Would you bring it up in conversation? Would you hesitate to tell her? Would you feel bad? Would she get mad?....then count it as cheating

Concerning this topic, I really don't feel that going to a strip club is cheating. Any legit strip club has a no touching rule for the customers, even though they are allowed to touch you... but where is the actual cheating going on? It's entertainment. If you feel there is more to it than that, as in you are actually trying to get a stripper to go home with you then yes, you are well on your way to cheating on your partner.

Now the quoted statement applied to any other facet of life... is utterly ridiculous.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

Very true. I have had friends whose wives/girlfriends would go together all the time. It's a case by case situation. In my case, my wife expressed she didn't like me going so I don't. Not that big of deal to me.

Exactly, if your loved one doesn't want you to go, then don't. Even if you do, it's not cheating, it's just being unwilling to compromise.

Watching porn, isn't cheating. Neither is whacking it while watching porn. As long as there's no sexual interaction, which stripping in front of someone is not, then I really don't care.

My girlfriend states she doesn't care if I go to a strip club, watch porn, etc., just so long as I don't touch (sexually) other women (or men, but that could be a whole new nightmare). Same goes for her... I really don't care if she eyes other guys, or if she went to a strip club- just so long as she doesn't "get with" any of the guys. It's entertainment, just one that pertains to our sexual stimulation, much like movies can. No different, really.

 

[TNC9852002]

No matter what a stripper tells you, there is NO SEX in the champagne room. None. Oh, there's CHAMPAGNE in the champagne room. But you don't want champagne. You want sex.




I can't believe I can actually quote the beginning of that bit.

 

[Anubis]

Hell no. One could even consider it a form of Foreplay actually.